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How to handle with a thought that says it’s so easy to do compulsion. Cause I have a compulsion that it very easy to do but I really am fighting with the urge not to. There are ways I can respond to this thought?

I have strong urge to do some particular compulsion for couple of days and to prevent this compulsion I’m doing other compulsion. My mind tells me that the only way to get rid of the thought and check is if I do this compulsion and I really don’t want to. My brain also says it’s easy to do this like it take less then 1 second . I’m terrified. I have the urge to do it and right now if on vacation and can’t enjoy. This thought is stuck in my brain and I feel like I have to do this compulsion to get rid of her and check. The problem is that compulsion is shameful and that is the reason I don’t want to because I will cry after and get anxious if I do it and I don’t want to. I feel like the urge will never go away. And worse the thought to do it stuck in my brain 24/7. If someone experienced this? Does the urge go down at the end? It’s feels like hell. I just want to have the thought and not care. I do I do it? I read about it and Google say to distract myself. I can’t distract myself 24/7 of course and even if I distract myself I still think about it it’s just horrible. These urges are terrible.

Was sitting on the bed and worried about groinals and had this intrusive thought did i scoot my butt twice. I remember saying no and shaking my head. Ocd is wild man

Had to dress my daughter and we were talking about animals. I worry because i had dressed her i felt i was leaning closer to her than id lean back than felt lean forward. Ocd said i was lesning to do something inappropriate but i know its ocd. And leaning back and forth or getting close or not i know ocd will make me feel like i did something wrong and can cause involuntary actions. I was just tryna help my child put their shirt on

My intrusive thoughts flood in generally every morning around 4-5 am, and I find myself ruminating until I’ve made it to work. It’s like clockwork. I realize it could be cortisol related, but for the last 8 months, it has set the tone for my day. I deal with a variety of themes, and they ultimately leave me feeling nauseous and trapped forever. Curious if anyone else experiences this in the mornings and if something has worked to derail those thoughts first thing in the AM. Sleeping in isn’t an option… 😞

Hi everyone. I have been struggling with OCD for over 10 years and I am a college athlete. My OCD is majorly interfering with my ability to perform my best in my sport and it’s breaking my heart. I really need help. I am not medicated and I do go to therapy. I have horrible mental blocks that have been very difficult to get through. Every day feels like I’m managing my kind all day long. Any tips?

I’m worried that my OCD is going to plague me for the rest of my life. I have these awful flair ups that sometimes last months at a time. It makes me filled with anxiety and guilt. It’s nearly impossible to be myself during these times even for only a little bit. With that said I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 7 years. I’m about to graduate college in the spring and I was considering proposing after that but I just don’t want to put her through the pain that comes along with being with me for the rest of her life. I feel that I should’ve broken up with her long ago so that she wouldn’t have to suffer from my depression and anxiety that comes with OCD. I truly care about her happiness more than anything else and I would be 100x happier seeing her with another guy that treats her right and doesn’t suffer from OCD. I don’t want her to suffer because of me suffering. I just want her to live the best life she can live and I don’t want her to live a lesser life being with me. It would hurt us both in the long run being together and knowing that she could be living a lesser life with me because of my OCD. I just want her to live the best life that she can and I don’t feel it’s with me because I know she is brought down and feels bad when I feel bad. She’s truly the best person I’ve ever met. She’s kind, caring, and outright genuine. I don’t think she deserves to be with me and I know I don’t deserve her. I just want her to live her best life and I don’t feel that it’s with me. Any advice you can give is appreciated.

does anyone else doubt everything in moments when people who aren’t educated on ocd say they’re “so ocd” because they like to be clean? not too long ago i was at my sisters and i told her abt my ocd (just that im diagnosed) and she said she gets it she’s so ocd too like her picture has to be a certain way or it’ll annoy her otherwise and then when she asked me what i struggle with ocd wise, i told her it was intrusive thoughts like i’ll get a thought if i don’t do this someone will die type of stuff and she looked at me confused. when she said she was so ocd at first i was irritated but now i feel like what if she’s actually got it? like who am i to judge? i just feel so terrible that i could judge so quickly. it makes me question if what im struggling with is actually ocd because there’s some p’s out there who genuinely feel bad and bc mines not what is typically shown, it makes me worry it’s not sorry im rambling

Just needed to tell someone about this because I have no one tell it to. I've been keeping this to myself for so much time now. Everyday when I wake up and my mind gets fully concisous I start thinking and keeping tracks of whatever stuff I thought was important. I don't intentional think about an important thought but somehow random thoughts like having conversation with someone, watching TV, etc. leads to chain of thought which turns out to be something important. Something that would have impact on my life. No matter what I do somehow random thoughts in my mind will lead to a very important thought. So considering the importance of such thoughts I start making list as the day passes because I fear that I might forget such important thoughs. The list usually goes from 10 to 30 thoughts per day. Before going to bed, I try remembering all these thoughts. Everyday there's a new list of thoughts and I start saving such lists of thoughts in my mind for every passing day including those days which have passed. You can imagine how many thoughts they become with each passing day. When brain gets so full that it can not save such list of thoughts I get them jotted down in my phone. My mind feel relaxed but then from the next day the lists starts again then my mind reaches its limit again. I jot them down and the cycle keeps going on. Because of this I've stopped thinking in a normal way. I fear doing anything like even watching TV or gaming because I fear it will eventually lead to a new important thought being added to the list. I try doing nothing. I even fear using phone because of this. I try isolating myself. I sometimes feel that because this cycle of saving list of thoughts I'm not actually taking action on any of those very thoughts. I stay lost most of the time. My parents think I have my own some sort of a world in which I live. I know this is not normal but I have no choice but to do it again n' again. Other than this, I suffer from severe somatic ocd and moderate cleaning ocd. Cleaning ocd was severe but ever since thinking ocd got hyped up it became moderate.

My OCD wants to keep switching “themes” on me, but once again it always concerns my mom or family. This time it’s sexual-related. The one I experience the most is the harm-related thoughts towards her, thinking I want to hurt her or thinking she abused me in the past (she did not) so that’s why I have these thoughts. My mind is always trying to see if there are deeper meanings to these thoughts and how I really feel. Yesterday my thoughts started going towards - “what if I’m attracted to my mom?” I was reading a book and it was a romantic scene and an image of my mom popped into my head. I tried to just dismiss it since I know we can’t control what comes into our heads, but I of course ruminated about it more and it has become a full-blown obsession. I have started wondering if I really am attracted to her or not, do I want to be in a relationship with her, am I just denying my feelings, etc. It sounds so disgusting and disturbing to share these things, but it’s difficult to disengage with this kind of thinking. Like it’s too disturbing to just let it go. Which leads to other worries like what if I can never be in a real relationship because I will just keep having these thoughts, what if this is true and how will I live with myself, what if my mom sexually abused me as a kid and that’s why I’m having these thoughts, etc. I know I’m going down the rabbit hole, but I just keep coming up with more and more “reasons.” Trying to go about my day and not pay them any attention, but it has been difficult to focus on anything else. Which then makes me wonder if I’m actually just fantasizing now and not actually obsessing.

Can someone help me with this? I’m trying to deal with something in my life and my OCD is freaking out. I’ve been dealing with anger a lot. I don’t know what it’s from, most likely trauma, but the older I get, the more angry I become. I’ve lashed out at people before and I hate that because I don’t want to make other people suffer because I am. So I’m trying to find ways to channel my anger and deal with it instead of lashing out while also not suppressing my emotions. I’m trying to find a healthy balance to deal with the emotion. Creativity (art, writing, music, etc.) can help with some emotions, but anger isn’t one of them. For some reason when I try these things with anger, I just get more angry. The best way I can describe it is that I feel small. I feel like I’m not being heard and I can’t accurate get out the emotion. One thing I’ve found that does work is physical activity. I’ve been recommended it before and I saw it listed as a way to deal with anger. It makes me feel a lot better. But my OCDs gotten a hold it it, and it’s basically saying if I need a physical release in order to deal with anger, then I must be a physical abuser and I’m at risk for hitting people. Basically, if I have to exercise to deal with anger, then I operate the same and have the same mind as someone who physically abuses people. The thought terrifies me and I genuinely can’t tell if that’s true. I’m so scared of what I’m feeling, I have no idea what to do.

Since we may never know if a memory is false and just our ocd or if it is real, how do we cope knowing it could be real? I just could never live with that😪 How do people just move on and be okay knowing that possibility? I have a false memory that’s based on a real event. Every time my ocd brings up the false memory it adds more evidence and more reasons to make it seem more real. It’s so painful and I don’t know what’s real and what’s my ocd wanting me to believe it’s real.

Ocd is clever. It’s clever at making you feel like if you worked this one thing out everything will be fine and great and as it was… what a lie. Just when you think you’ve solved one thing it’s straight onto the next , just when you think you’ve reached certainty it suddenly doesn’t matter anymore as something more urgent and important has come up… Ill always be a terrible person in my ocd mind. I thought I was over this issue but no…my mind has created another one, a more urgent and serious one. When will this end.

I'm trying to find motivation, inspiration, a reason to start and get better. But everything I think of just gets shot down instantly in my head. Also, I've had so many bad experiences with professionals inside the healthcare system, not just for mental health but also physical health, that it has made me very critical of it, and as a consequence, I feel like OCD therapy is just rubbish. I feel my belief in healthcare has been stripped away, and therefore I don't feel anything can help me anymore. I'm bound to be walking with this forever. Throw in a lot of existential, meta, and nihilistic OCD views, and you have got my current situation. I have been thinking of maybe joining a church and becoming religious, maybe that will give me meaning? I hate that I don't find the meaning anymore from my 2 kids and wife, what is wrong with me? Been battling this disorder for 10 years now, but I feel it has come to the point where it has given me the ultimate insight, one that has shown me that I can never get out of it again because getting out of my current state is just something we as a society seem to think is normal. Who knows what is really normal? What if being anxious and passive and nihilistic is actually what we should be like? Another problem I'm facing is that I feel I've reached a point where I've tried everything and exhausted all knowledge, making it impossible to return to my unknowing self. I also have the idea or feeling that I've reached a state where I can no longer get enough motivation to make something of myself. I don't even know why I'm posting this message or doing anything at all. I think somewhere I hope that it can still go away or that things will get better. Even as I'm writing this right now, those doubtful thoughts are immediately surfacing again. Then I immediately feel feelings but also thoughts, and also just a kind of presence that says it doesn't matter and that everything is meaningless anyway, and that I know the truth of the universe and where the universe is just that nothing matters and that everything is flat, tasteless, and has no added value. All these thoughts keep going through my head.

As an OCD are we able to enjoy and when. I never did.

I have constantly been feeling like if I hit one arm, I have to hit the other and if I set something down and it just didn’t look right or feel right I had to do it again or I had to move it to a different spot in my room I’ve had never been a clean freak, which is mainly what I get told is OCD And I don’t know if I should even have this app. I don’t know if I actually have it. I’m constantly worried that I did something in my past that harmed others and that’s why people don’t like me or I’m constantly worried People are constantly watching me and I don’t know if that’s OCD or if I have it so please tell me I will delete this app and never think of it again if I don’t I just really wanna know

sometimes when i’m doing something like going to the bathroom, taking a shower, changing clothes, i get a thought that is like “what if im not actually in my bathroom and im in school right now in front of anyone but i just can’t see them” i hope that makes sense. i just keep having these thoughts and recently ive been afraid while taking showers and going to the bathroom. writing this out it sounds so stupid but i just don’t know how to stop thinking these things. and when i do think these things i just tell myself multiple times that i am real and i am actually in my bathroom, not in public. but does anyone know a way to make this stop? also i dont know if there is a word for this, and if anyone can relate that also might have these thoughts please let me know im not alone!

I am a 59 yr old and for years I have been struggling to get the correct diagnosis and treatment. So I have always known my mother was OCD. Everything had a place and she would flip out if things were not always a certain way. However I don't think I fully understand the complexity of this disorder. I now am beginning to realize I have these thoughts running inside my mind on repeat and the ones that are negative are the ones my brain continues to feed me. I hope that made sense but I need help understanding every aspect my life that is effected by this disorder. This site has been extremely helpful. Thank you everyone

I need to know if anyone has experienced this because I feel like this is so different and WAY to real. I have a coworker that I got along with quite well and she became my false crush I was always obsessing over if I liked her it was so bad, when I was doing worse, there was times where we would have a conversation and that conversation no matter what it was I would repeat this over and over in my head, or when something funny or interesting happens my brain would immediately go, omg I have to go tell this coworker what happened, and it was so energetic too, I’m so scared this means that I actually like her and it’s not a false crush please anyone has experienced this before?

I deleted the app since I couldn’t delete my account (posting my problems on here can be exhausting) but I’m back now cause all I want is advice/someone to tell me what’s really going on. Is that so wrong? It’s not like I’m gonna get anymore worse than I am now if someone just talks to me. So here’s the TMI/18+ stuff: do I have an addiction to porn or am I compulsively masturbating? For the last year and a half of this happening to me the biggest aspect that affects me the most is when these “thoughts” invade my mind when I try to masturbate and watch porn. And unfortunately, there’s times when it feels like I’m *enjoying* it. What’s 10x worse is when it appears when I’m finishing, so then it feels like I intentionally climaxed to something unspeakably terrible. When it first started it was just names, then it became faces, and then just straight up images. Now it’s something indescribably horrific. It’s like the more worse I perceive these things, the more they’re stuck in my mind. And to be clear, I watch mostly normal gay porn, but there have been moments when I’ve watched things I started to question in the past. I’ve read and heard about people with porn addictions needing more extreme things to get off to, so what if this is just it? Am I somehow subconsciously thinking these things so that I can fully enjoy masturbating? If so, how do I go back to before when I could enjoy what I used to? But it also feels like it’s not a porn addiction, it feels more like compulsive masturbating or something cause I don’t personally believe I view porn THAT often yk? But it gets even more confusing cause if it is compulsory, why are the thoughts so present during it? Make it make sense? There’s been this image I have engraved into my mind from something I saw on twitter months ago and the fact it’s based on something REAL fucks me up more. I haven’t really touched myself in days, but I know eventually I’m gonna end up doing it again, I just want to enjoy myself without it being there. I’m already having moments when I feel “pent up” but the image is still there so why would I feel that way? Why can’t the things I’m supposed to like show up? Is it something I actually want? Do I really like this and just not allowing myself to? How am I supposed to work through this when it feels impossible to?