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I feel really scared doing my erp exercises because I am afraid I am offending God, can I please have some advice and help.

Are intrusive thoughts hidden desires of our uncounscious mind? I think I know the answer to this. Learning abt Freud at school messed me up a little

I’m stressing hard over one of my reoccurring ”false memories” (I hate calling it that because I don’t know if it’s false. The memory is so disturbing it always comes back to haunt me. For context, I used to be interested in watching really extreme horror movies. Like the ones on the Disturbing Movie Iceberg (not the bottom tier for obvious reasons). I have a horrible “memory” of possibly touching myself to a horrific scene in one of these movies (I’m unsure of which exact movie, 2 different ones come to mind). If this is real, I’m literally a monster. Even though the things depicted in these movies aren’t real, they are some of the absolute worst things I could have done that to. I don’t know what’s wrong with me… I’m supposed to hang out with friends tonight, but I feel like I need to hide myself away from them just in case this is real. Because nobody would want to be around somebody like that. I know watching those things in the first place is bad, but I can handle that. I can’t handle the possibility of me doing worse. Any advice on coping with something like this?

So, I have this question to you guys… I never felt that way before hocd, it’s a trigger for me when someone talk about girls (ex: how they wanna go out with them, how to get more girls and all) and it triggers me, makes me feel uncomfortable, like my mind says I don’t like them but I love girls ever since ! I don’t have attraction to men only the false attraction that happens, does anyone feel the same way ? Let’s talk a little

Hi team here is my two cents on OCD. I never post on this kinda stuff and on sites but I think it’s right to here. I’m in my 20s and 6 months ago woke up and had OCD and didn’t know a thing about it before. I regard myself as lucky that I found out what was going on so quickly. I know what it is like to both have and not have OCD having not had it for pretty much all my life. I have very good days and weeks of managing OCD to the point where it doesn’t exist but I’m writing this at a point where it’s been a bad OCD day. And that is ok. There will be bad days of it and I can live with that. What I don’t do is tell myself that tomorrow will be better because it might not be. If you tell yourself tomorrow will be better, it will be worse because that is a reassurance compulsion and you’re trying to find certainty that you do not need. I see a lot on here about “anyone else going through this?” And people answer back saying “you’re a beautiful person and your thoughts aren’t true don’t worry I’ve been through this”. That’s AMAZING that there is a big community who support each other and I LOVE it, but that won’t help you in fact, that only makes things worse for you. I could sit here and type about how none of your thoughts are true and that might help for 5 minutes until you just start doubting again. The thing that has helped me the most is accepting the fact that, whatever your theme is, it COULD happen. Nobody knows what the future holds and you have to accept the fact that anything is possible. You COULD get sick from that bannister on the subway, you MIGHT be a bad person, it’s POSSIBLE that you did do or will do that horrible thing you’ve been thinking about. Anything is possible. What keeps you trapped is trying to keep thoughts out of your mind or telling yourself that things won’t happen because, at the end of the day, anything is possible. Here is a list of some responses I use to thoughts that by the way, would make someone who didn’t have OCD and understand think I was a complete nutter so it really doesn’t matter what the thought is I promise you: “Well that could happen I guess” “We shouldn’t rule that out” “Big whoop cheers for that thought” “Nice one” “Is that the best you can do? Pretty weak effort tbh” By committing to using these responses you train your brain that whatever you’re thinking about is not actually a threat. OCD will say anything to stick around. It will tell endless lies to try and keep you trapped. It will change theme. False thoughts, feelings, emotions there are no gloves when it comes to OCD. It will do anything to try and stay. Whatever comes into your head does not matter. Whatever subtype, OCD IS OCD and theme is irrelevant. I write this all in the context that what I’m thinking about, MIGHT be true and this could all be a cover up for the bad person within. But that is the only way to beat it. To accept that anything is possible. Funnily enough, the more you don’t react to thoughts and use the responses above, the more the brain doesn’t wanna bring it up as often, and eventually, at all. Thoughts do not matter it’s your reaction (compulsion) that is what is keeping you trapped and what is giving thoughts meaning. I know it can feel impossible sometimes (“but I can’t live with the fact that this might be true, I need to know it’s not!!!”). You absolutely can live with the fact that anything is possible. This treatment does work. You are not the exception, you are the rule. Again I’ve written this whole thing accepting the fact that my thoughts could come true and might happen. And I can absolutely live with that fact. Even on a bad OCD day and there will be those, always remember to use a “big whoop…” attitude to what comes into your head. The more you don’t care, the better you will feel.

Hey guys, my obsessions revolves around taboo themes which include sexual intrusive thoughts about family members. One of my biggest triggers is caused by photos of family I have around my home. I feel that as soon as I see a family photo my mind tends to sexualize it. I still keep the photos up since I know hiding them will only make the ocd worse. I also try to sit with the anxiety/discomfort/uncertainty caused by the photos and not ruminate on it, not try to “figure it out”. How can I overcome this trigger? I feel like my mind is so conditioned to think of sexual content as soon as I see a family photo which can be a bit discouraging. I’m hoping that with time, and not responding to my trigger, my mind will slowly start to not sexualize these photos. Can someone please provide any advice?

I feel so horrible...My pocd keeps saying I "unknowingly erotically role played with a minor" when idek if this actually happened or not... this was nearly three years ago... (september of 2021) for context we were erotically role playing and then she suddenly stopped responding, before leaving the server shortly after an unknown time... im so freaking anxious and scared... her grammar was fine at first, but then as we were going on, she kept making errors like "boxer" or "then" instead of "than"... my pocd keeps saying that I "UNKNOWINGLY EROTICALLY ROLEPLAYED WITH A MINOR" when idek if this happened or not... someone told me she sounded like a young adult... chatGPT tells me she sounded like a teenager... I genuinely dont know what to believe anymore... (these two photos are from her account, and the beginning of our conversation... I hope she wasnt a teenager... I really hope she wasnt...)

When I talk with mother she always says things make me angry ans I get anger attacks and I’ve told her many times to not do that but she doesn’t stop, so I limited my contact with her even though we are at the same house because I can’t handle her anymore it’s maki my mental health and OCD worse. Today she told “why don’t you sit with me and talk with anymore? If you kept behaving that way I won’t pay attention to what I eat and I’ll get diabetes, screw it” Because the Doctor told her she’s so close to get diabetes and she knows I’m so scared about her health and safety so she suddenly used this against me

I feel like nobody will understand but here goes anyway. I wish I could talk to someone going through something similar but I don't know if that will happen. You might have seen what's going on in Palestine. It's awful. And I've listened to what people say about not being silent about it, and I haven't been. I've posted about it non stop on my social media, begging people to speak up too because we need to spread awareness. I've signed petitions and donated and spread awareness but I'm worried that deep down I don't want to. I feel like when posting on social media I only do it to get it out of the way so I'm able to do things I enjoy again. How sick am I? I do genuinely care, I do genuinely want to help because just talking about it makes people more aware. But I feel like a monster like I'm only posting about it to get it out of the way for the day. I do genuinely want people to see my social media and realise what's going on and help, but I'm worried that I'm not doing this for good reasons and that I'm a monster. I don't know what I'm looking for here, I'm sorry if it's reassurance or something but I feel like a complete monster and I don't know what I'm meant to do. I don't even think this is OCD related. I'm just so sorry because I do genuinely care. I wish I could click my fingers and it all be over.

This ocd break down really messed up this time I’m just full of guilt and shame I want to keep going but I never will have 100 percent of the scenarios I imagined never happened

I have some scenarios that where full of anxiety and intrusive thoughts that scared me felt like I did something wrong but that I asked around my family members they said I didn’t anything wrong but I just feel so guilty and horrible.

I don't even really know if this was ever OCD. Or maybe my obsession is real. I feel like this was all deeeep denial. Anyone else?

I pick at my thumbs until they bleed and then keep picking. I’ll have to use bandaids again, but I wondered if anyone has other suggestions? Thank you 🙏

Hey everyone I hope you’re doing great :). I wanted to ask you something, it happened yesterday me and my boyfriend were on facetime (we’re a long distance couple) and suddenly he kissed the screen w it made me so happy and I felt an excitement that I’ve never felt since the start of our long distance because of ocd (the last time that I felt like this was in december, when we saw each other). Anyway, I felt that it was weird, not bad weird just weird and I started crying because I’ve missed being this happy however it felt weird, is it normal that I felt like this because it’s new? This is stressing me out, is it a sign?

So at this stage in my OCD it actually feels like all of the physical compulsions I do drive the intrusive thought rather than the other way around. Does anyone have any advice other than erp on how I can start stopping these compulsions? I have to admit that I'm beginning to become really afraid now that this is how the rest of my life is going to be because I just can't seem to stop them and its been over 4 years

Does anyone deal with having a very messy living space? I know for myself, a combination of OCD, ADHD, and Depression make it very difficult to keep my space clean, and the mess is having a negative effect on my mental health, but it feels overwhelming and impossible to conquer. Has anyone else dealt with this? Do you have any strategies for managing this?

Has anyone felt very anxious from OCD and still successfully gotten through school? If so do you have any tips? (I’m an engineering major in college)

Does anybody else’s intrusive thoughts come in the form of “delusional thoughts”? I’ve been in a terrible episode of hypochondria or ocd for the past 6 months where I have FULLY convinced myself I am developing schizophrenia, it started with becoming really easily overstimulated and not being able to concentrate and now it has spiraled out of control to where I am constantly getting intrusive thoughts center around demonic stuff, which i have never ever believed before, I have always been a skeptic. But now i get these thoughts all the time like “what if this song has hidden demonic meanings?” “What if your wife is a demon” “what if nobody is real and your just in hell” “what if this political figure is being controlled by the devil”, the typical kind of delusional thoughts you would expect from a schizophrenic. Keep in mind I am a literal atheist and all about facts, science and evidence, I am a skeptic. Not only does the fact that I’m even having these thoughts in the first place scare the life out of me, but I have to constantly battle with these thoughts in my head if I believe them or not. I feel like I have to constantly hold myself back from fully going off the deep end, I feel like I have to constantly disprove these thoughts and stop myself from believing them, but they feel so real and it’s scaring me so much. One part of me is like “why can’t we just stop worrying about this, this is delusional” and another part of me is like “what if I actually do need to worry about if these things are true or not, they FEEL true” and I’m just like “wtffff I shouldn’t have to worry about if things like this are true at all in the first Place!” I feel like I have fully lost my mind, and in no time I’m going to lose this little bit of insight I have. I hate these thoughts so much, I don’t want to think about them, but now that they are here, I feel like I can’t forget them. My dpdr is already making everything feel so off and weird and unreal and I feel like it’s only giving these thoughts more credibility and realness. I feel like this could also be partly a terrible form of existential ocd that’s being thrown into the mix with all these “what if thoughts”. Ugh I just want to be normal again ): but I don’t even know what normal feels like anymore because I’m constantly on the lookout for symptoms that I can’t even be normal anymore. Btw: yes I am seeing 2 therapists and a psychiatrist and all of them do not believe I am developing schizophrenia.

Please read the whole thing I’ve been dealing with ROCD in my relationship It started with feeling like I want to break up Feeling like I don’t know if I love her Feeling like I don’t know if I think she’s attractive And I tried to learn a lot about ROCD and the things I learned have been helping me Now more recently I’ve started to feel like I don’t know what I want to do anymore When I was feeling the thoughts above. In my brain I still knew I wanted to work through this But as the anxiety began to lower it feels more like I don’t know what it is I want and that uncertainty has been bringing back the anxious feelings I have a drive that wants me to figure out what it is that I want but when I do that I get that anxious spiral. I’ll get feelings where I wanna break up without an anxiety spike like I used to get with these feelings and in turn that makes me anxious because I don’t want these feelings I want to love her I would rather be 100% sure that I want to stay and fight for her with the previous feelings of anxiety I was getting then to have an uncertain feeling of what it is I want to do with no anxiety. I hope that makes sense and doesn’t sound weird I know OCD is the doubting disease. And that part of the definition of doubt is uncertainty But I’ve never been uncertain on what it is I want to do even when I had those feelings I’ve always said “ I don’t want these feelings im getting”. And now it feels like I’m beginning to be okay with these feelings and that scares me because they seek to grow and get stronger when that’s not what I want to happen at all it’s the opposite. I want the feelings of love and want to grow I understand that by over thinking and trying to figure the issues out is what fuels OCD and anxiety. But I fear that by letting the anxiety go away on its on with these thoughts it’s training my brain that I this is what I want to do. I also understand that the more over analyzing I do the more confused I will get leading me to not know what I am feeling or to feel nothing at all and just be confused. So if I have been over analyzing too much could that confusion turn into the feeling of not knowing what I want to do?

Has anyone had success with meds and ocd? I suffer from overthinking. I Can’t get out of my head . I know results can vary just looking for some hope or light at the end of the tunnel. It’s really hard to live like this.