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I'm not sure if this is part of my ocd or not. In some ways it feels like it is and in other ways it feels like it isn't. So I go through these cycles of throwing all of my possesions away like clothes and books etc everytime a relationship ends or whenever someone has hurt me. I even sold my car once as I was so hurt by my ex that I wanted a different car that she had never been in or seen. I remember the first time I felt and did this was when I was about 12 and my father had let me down so much in life that i decided i no longer wanted to support the same football team as him and I ripped up every piece of memorabilia and pictures i had taken with the players etc I am now 36 and I still doing the same thing. I am currently putting my backpacking photos from 8 years ago into an album as it is something I have wanted to do for a while. A lot of the pictures I am very drunk in and not proud of as I believe that was the time i started struggling mentally. Also a lot of the pictures have a guy in that i became good friends with at that time but in the years since then where I have become sober he did nothing but try to derail that so i dont particularly count him as a friend anymore let alone a good friend and a lot of the pictures just make me feel angry now when I look at them. My question is does anyone else have this and is it ocd or is it normal?

Today as soon as I opened my eyes this morning, my mind was being hammered with uncontrollable images and scenes of same-sex friends and relatives performing sexual acts on me and me doing it on them. Like, I couldn't even sleep afterwards because these thoughts kept me awake. My body started reacting to them, making me feel viscerally that I would enjoy those experiences. I felt like I wanted to have sex with every same-sex person I laid my eyes upon the entire day. On the streets, on TV, you name it... Jesus freaking Christ, why??????? This is so irritating! My OCD has gone meta and it feels incredibly hard to see through all this BS. It's gotten to a point where I feel extremely jealous of people who don't have to put up with this nonsense that I've been dealing with for 12 freaking years since I was 14. I see couples on the street, all my siblings are married and have kids. In fact, my brother got married last week and my sister is expecting another baby. I guess I should be happy for them and deep down I am, but when will I get to experience these things without OCD interfering? Most of the people around the world are straight, it's all natural to them and they don't have to to put up with this mental tonture to make a case for their heterosexuality, but I do? 12 years with HOCD and these thoughts, images and urges are starting to feel ego-syntonic to me now. I'm so done.

i want to just pour my heart out and leave it here and i hope for some reassuring advice ❤️ me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half and he is everything to me. he is the type of boy who would drop anything for you if you even slightly need him, without even asking. who always goes out of his way to make you feel special- you get the jist. but my ocd is triggered over various different things throughout my life, espcially when it comes to my partner. i become overhwlemed and doubt my relationship- i cant even look at him/touch him at times without fwelung like something bad will happen to him. this results in many arguments as i take my anger out at him when i know i shouldnt, as he can not help triggering me. i try and work very hard to change these actions wverday- but as much research, journaling, exersize and communication i do it always ends up the same. its putting a massive strain on our relationship and i have developed rocd and am having intense doubtful thoughts- what would you do in this situation?

My new obsession is any little pain I feel around my heart or arm is a heart issue even if I know deep inside is no my thoughts will try to convince me that it is and that I should be hyper super alert of any sensation for “safety” well today I stopped the hyper focus on it and just letting the pain be there I felt so risky like I was risking my life but pain when away and I felt so much better after taking the “risk”

I’ve had the same themes of ocd on and off for years. I have a new theme i’ve never had before now. Has that happened to anyone else?

How’s everyone doing? I’ve had 2 really great days followed by today where the intrusive thoughts and anxiety have come back a little. Sigh. It’s such a non-linear journey. Curious how everyone else has been?

Do y’all fake being happy? There’s days I’m happy but others not do much. Sometimes I feel I’m not really happy.

Hey, So I was supposed to finish school in 2020 but Covid kinda messed that up so I graduated in 2021. I always had the plan to study nursing but with my OCD and the pandemic I opted to wait and take a sort of gap year. Fast forward to the present day with exception to a job or two here and there I have no career. I’m 21 unemployed and feel completely lost and isolated. I have no direction in life. OCD caused me to ghost all my friends in 2022, I have nobody except my dogs. Leaving the house to go to the shop gets more intense and scary each time I do it, my ocd is only getting worse

Is it normal to have a lot more intrusive thoughts when you’re stressed and irritated? I noticed that I have a lot more harm thoughts against people when I am annoyed and they feel so real in these moments and I scare myself

I am not educated that well with the different types of OCD. But being here opened me up to it all. I am struggling with intrusive thoughts and i can’t stop thinking of those thoughts until i physically feel ill or nauseous. I struggle with getting over things that has hurt me especially when I see the people who have hurt me the flashbacks always come. I am not sure if this is a form of OCD. I just can’t stop thinking of the certain thing and I feel as if I am self sabotaging myself when I have good things in-front of me because my intrusive overthinking thoughts will not stop.

Why it does? Like i understand anxiety and ocd, it wants us to keep us safe. But what about intentionally gives sou thoughts that makes you feel guilt or discust, or just crying, and it knows its bad for us but it keeps giving the story. Like if something shameful happened to you and it keep making you thinking about it and makes you crying... how to stop that?

I am going a weekend away for trainings for my sports with the team that I coach. We might barbeque and I am really nervous for that, as I have been avoiding meat. I am not sure the guys will wash their hands properly, really nervous that I will feel contaminated or accidentally get bacteria on me or contaminated contact lenses :(

My depression is really hitting me hard lately due to an episode i had in November im on antidepressants to help treat my obsessive thoughts which is working but it’s doing nothing for my depression if not making it worse??? (not sure if that’s possible) Im still in school which is making things complicated for me, i just want to rest but i have to finish school. I was supposed to start ERP on Tuesday but i cancelled so i can “prioritize graduating” which probably wont even happen for me because im drained and have very low motivation. I speak with my psychiatrist next month about upping my dosage of antidepressants but until then i just have to manage with what i have. I keep getting rude remarks from people even when they know im suffering saying things like “you’re giving up” im not if it was really up to me i would isolate and sleep but im fighting and sometimes its not easy and all i end up doing all day is sleeping but sometimes i cant help it. Its exhausting and the episode i had in November was traumatic, i don’t need pity from these people but some surface level understanding of what im dealing with would be nice. It feels like my mom is the only one who sees how much im fighting everyday to not let my brain consume me, it’s a constant battle that i don’t always win. Sorry for this rant im just so tired.

Anyone else scared to stop compulsions incase the thoughts come true? This is why I’m reluctant to do ERP 🙈!

Can pocd latch on to one gender. Because it seems like mine has. It’s very uncomfortable and I just can’t get through the day with it just lingering in my head. I also work in a school so I’m constantly being triggered.

2 years ago when I saw the news about Russia and Ukraine i almost became psychotic. I never leaved my room. And I never stopped crying with the fear that I was going to die. I live in the UK and there’s loads of stuff on the news (I’m not allowed to watch anymore because of my anxiety) and on tik tok saying ‘UK going to war’. I have this debilitating sense of doom. I’m hysterical right now. Please can anyone help me? Some information or anything?

I miss getting midnight snacks but now I refuse to do it because of the germs in the kitchen and don’t want to bring it into my room after I’ve showered. Or I miss being able to go outside and come back home and not worry about germs in my home or my room. I miss being able to hangout in my room calmly. Now, whenever I leave my room I can’t come back inside until I’ve showered because I don’t want it to become contaminated. This is mostly just me missing hanging out in my room like before. I remember having friends over a lot and never worrying about where they’ve been cus I didn’t care. I miss how pretty my room used to be. Now it’s empty because I’m scared to add posters due to germs being on my posters and spreading all over my walls. I miss having fairy lights all over my room.

Does anyone else have those nights where you come home from a long day at work, or being around people all day with a social battery and energy that is depleted? You are exhausted but when you try and sleep just cant seem to do so? Like your brain filled with thoughts, worries, OCD negativity etc. just keeps playing over and over in your head like a broken record on repeat? You toss and turn or sometimes just cry yourself to sleep in exhaustion and sadness and frustration? Anyone have any advice to help with this or calm the brain to help for a better sleep? Could use some sleep and rest.. Thanks 🫶

Today I feel Stressed, un-worthy, ignored , and forgotten. What’s worse when your feelings are invalidated.

I am having surgery on Friday and I am worried while I am loopy from anaesthetic that I will expose myself or start saying my intrusive thoughts out loud. I am so scared of this and scared I’ll say stuff and not remember then everyone will know. Help