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The whole hip movement compulsion thing got worse. My dog was cuddling with me and I started to move my hips. I think I was checking to see if it felt wrong. I basically humped my dog, I feel so much guilt. But I keep doing it and I don’t understand why. Please help

I’m not sure if this falls into a sub type, maybe magical thinking/spirituality?? Does anyone else get really scared about seeing tarot readings online or on social media towards their sign? In december, i read that Aquarius are going to have to make a decision and another post said Aquarius are going to go through breakups. I also struggle with seeing certain angel numbers that take me back to a time where something didn’t work in my favor. Example: when i see 111 or 1111 i get scared that i need to listen to my “intuition” which i never know what it truly is and that im just making all the wrong choices and that something bad will happen. I have a close friend who is my personal tarot reader who only ever shares positives with me but is still honest. everytime i go into an OCD spiral i contact her and ask for a reading and she’ll end up saying that im protected and all things that i do want to hear and make me feel better but is that a compulsion?

I remember as a child playing mums and dads with my childhood friend. I remember we said we need to kiss because that’s what mums and dads do. So we used to peck eachother and I remember back then liking it and I guess feeling tingly if that’s even possible as a child??? I remember back then just thinking it was fine because we were just playing mums and dads. I didn’t have a ‘crush’ on her! She was always just my family friend ! I remember my mum coming in and seeing us and saying what are you doing blah blah and then I remember feeling guilty then! I’m just so stressed because I’ve never fancied or wanted to be with a girl romantically or physically and the only ‘proof’ is stuff I did as a child. I’m literally soo sooo anxious Everytime I think of it!!! I just want to be with my bf and be happy like I was before my so ocd relapse!? Does anyone else have childhood memories like this that just haunt you!!!.

just when I think i’m having a good weekend and I can forget about my struggles my brain tells me i’m not allowed to feel happy and that there’s always SOMETHING i need to be worrying about. so frustrating :(

Important: i am trying to not look for affirmation For a few years now i have been having ocd , i did not get the official diagnosis but my therapist did the official test and it came to like mild ocd ( only not official because i have not and dont want to go to the psychiatrist because i dont want médication and i want to be sure that it is not internalised homophobia also) I have also struggled with pocd for a few months but soocd and rocd are the ones that stay always I have been in a relationship for Almost a year and as in my previous relationships my doubts and personal problems create me to feel weird about my bf, being irritable, not able to enjoy or being unhappy I also do think i can be bi or am bi , i am still questioning I have so many intrusive thoughts and when i for exemple do not fzel like kissing my bf on the lipstick i image it with a girl and it feels like i would want it then or i would be happiee but i also dont want it I am scared that it is internalised homophobia and not ocd and that i dont like men I feel very confused and sad and blocked in my life I feel like if i break up i will be in a relationship with a woman but it makes me sad because that is not what i want ( but you can also be gay and not wanting it) I am so sorry ,i feel so confused and dont know what to do sometimes , i just want to do the right thing for me and my partner Can someone relate or have some support I feel lonely with these feelings

Things I did as a child really doesn’t help me with my socd. This is one of my main triggers because I actually did these things and I regret them to high heavens. Anyone else have this issue

Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please

Feeling very on edge lately due to the us government being very quickly dissolved and an oligarchy beginning. It’s making me feel like anything I type or journal about will be tracked back to me somehow and the fascist regime will find and capture me. I know I am just one person and there are many people who share my fears and disdain for the fascism happening but anytime I leave the house I think the cars behind me are tracking me or my phone searches are being watched. I’ve started to only use encrypted search sites like Duck Duck go instead of Go*gle because they are now under tru*ps’s control just like everything else. It’s hard to tune these fears out since every time I look at the tv there are more and more injustices and irreparable damage being caused to our people ::((

Having a groinal on the inside and outside of my leg how awesome 🙄🤨 no advice needed … it’s just annoying like a darn mosquito

Hey everyone so I am having a really terrible bout of anxiety due to an exam I have tomorrow. It has sent me spiraling. And unfortunately my ROCD/anxiety has gotten ridiculously triggered. So I had a birthday party this past weekend. I got all dressed up and put on some cute makeup. It was a lot of fun. I then posted some pics from the party, some of them included him. They were cute! I had never posted him in anything in my feed. So I was a little nervy. I was hoping he would comment something on the post or repost or something, but he just dropped a like. I feel like he usually comments on posts that he is tagged in, so for some reason this really hurt me that he didn’t comment or interact more with it. Like he doesn’t like I posted it? Or is he ashamed of me? I don’t want to be shallow, but some validation on social media would be nice? Or maybe him just posting me would feel nice. I want to talk to him about this, but I am so terrified that this will make me seem so shallow and a fein for public validation. I’m worried he thinks this of me, as I have posted on social media. I’m worried this makes him like me less. Someone please provide some expertise on how it would be best to handle these circumstances, as silly and minescule as they may seem. I’ve read a lot online (I know it’s not good) about how to handle relationships online. I know it’s more important obviously how the relationship appears offline. But I’ve been pretty obsessive about this and have a hard time letting it go. Part of me wished I never posted anything. All of this anxiety could have been avoided.

I have HOCD, as female who identified as straight until before hocd hit me. Now if I state my orientation it would be a compulsion. I keep watching wlw, lesbians scenes, bisexual women dating reels, and stuff, and it scares me. I do that for erp and whenever I see it I become very sad. Like some problem to be solved, like something that won't let me be happy at all. I focus on the anxiety, but it's so hard to not get involved in the compulsions, most of the times I have absolute control, other times I fall weak . I have periods where I don't have those thoughts about women and it feels so liberating, so safe to be in my own skin. OCD makes me doubt everything and I wish to depart from this body and mind and inhabit another, with a clearer mindset, a clear non ocd brain. I hate this. I have read so much about my disease, did my research by reading books by well known coaches in the ocd community, and there are times I still wonder if it is ocd. The therapist I went to was actually horrible and she told me it was not ocd, and I should try to be straight and that women kissing was just something born out of curiosity and lack of options. How primitive. She also said that I didn't think like a lesbian/ gay because she "knew what the lesbians and gays were going through when they came to her". I was better off not going to her. I wonder at times if I act on groinals with no consequent shame, It would mean that I enjoy it. However from the first day of research I had concluded that groinals mean nothing. Loved watching wlw as much as bls, but had never associated myself with it. My next fear is being around someone who is experimenting and I keep having thoughts like maybe I would love to experiment and what if I ended up liking it? It's so tiring. What words, and things did you try as erp ? Also how advisable is it to interact with the thoughts beyond "maybe yes maybe no"? Please do share if you have some advice on this part :)

It sucks because wanting to have a lover is a natural human desire and I'm afraid that my OCD about being alone forever will make it true. I'm a weird person, I'm autistic and I have odd kinks, so the idea that no one will ever love me just keeps coming back I'm trying to tell myself that I deserve a relationship and my kinks make my uniquely fun and loveable to the right people so I'm just going to keep repeating that and hope it comes true. I also made myself a Valentine... So there's that. I'm doing my best Hope you have a great day

NON-RELIGIOUS/AGNOSTIC PEOPLE ONLY i’ve been dealing with this same ocd theme for years and it gotta do with accidentally summoning something just by thinking about it and then something horrible happening to people in my life and celebrities i enjoy. and sometimes my ocd will throw this compulsion/intrusive thought at me which is maybe if i was christian or catholic or believed in jesus maybe this thought will go away. and obviously the way my ocd makes me feel like that’s the “right” answer to solve this issue makes me feel petrified. does anyone have any advice on how to relax my mind when it comes to this theme specifically???

i just remembered that when i was i think in middle school (or maybe early high school?) being surprised by noticing a woman showering from my window and staring her for a few long seconds, i think i was aroused by the sight... but she didnt give consent to be looked at in a private moment. i feel gross was i attracted? or did i just stare because of curiosity? there is no way of sugar coating this, i stared. why didnt it cross my mind that it was morally wrong?? was it because I was very young? still that doesnt justify anything. regardless of the fact that i stared or not i shouldnt have felt aroused, and that time i think it was arousal-concordance. i've grown up and i wouldnt do that again, i remember seeing a reel abt Gintama (a manga character) staring at a girl changing and i didnt find it funny but weird. now im discovering that i did the same. how can i possible be forgiven from that, i cant forgive myself... im trying to find ways to reassure myself and to remember better, to know that there was something different but i dont think so. i feel bad. im not a good person. now im afraid that i would be still aroused, i think probably, and that i dont like but i know i wouldnt stare. i think im feeling arousal from writing this, from the memory, I feel bad, i think it's arousal concordant because i guess i was attracted by the sight but i dislike that i stared. i think im both bothered and aroused, 2 things can be both true... i dont know what to do. i am a bad person.

It's one of those days where I can't get out of my head, the anxiety feels so debilitating, all I can do is cry, the intrusive thoughts won't stop and I can't keep myself from my compulsions, I feel so alone, my fear of hallucinating sounds went to fear of hallucinating people or things, to the worst of all fear of becoming delusional, my mind is plagued with "delusions" that I've read online through all the compulsive research I've done, earlier I saw a shadow next to a light pole and my mind immediately went "what if little people are watching you" my grandmother had delusions like that growing up so that's where it comes from I think, no I don't actually believe that little people are watching me but what if I do believe it, what if I am psychotic, what if I start believing people are out to get me, im so terrified I can't shake the fear of this I can't accept it I don't know how, im terrified that my ocd will forever plague my mind and I will never feel better I'll always be fighting this monster and I will never feel peace again, I don't want to be alone in a mental hospital, I don't want to go to the doctor and them tell me I'm crazy or psychotic, I don't want to become a burden to my family, i dont want to scare my family please I just want to feel better 😭😓 I don't want reassurance about the intrusive thoughts I just want someone to tell me it'll get better and I won't feel stuck forever

I just remembered thoughts of my childhood where I was shut down by my peers when I tried to do something but did it incorrectly. I remember it bothering me a lot, and I remember voicing my frustration for not liking how the majority of my peers harshly rejected my answer. I remember saying out loud "Well, I'm trying" to them. This was super early in elementary school. Other times where I remember being shut down badly was with people that didn't really care about what I had to say about certain things or just not fitting in with people because my interests were so different from theirs. To this day, I still find that this happens as an adult now. This mostly happens with music. I primarily listen to music from video games and while that was never something that bothered me, what did bother me is what others may think of it. I'm always focusing on what others think about the things that I do. I'm always trying to prepare myself for that negative criticism, but even when it does hypothetically show itself, I still find myself unable to take it well. I'm starting to think this is where my lack of confidence comes from. It's mainly showing itself to the idea of dating, which I have no experience with. I'm always worried that I'm going to mess something up, which would also mean hurting someone if I do mess up a relationship, but I also don't think I'm ever fully ready or capable of a relationship because of the fear of getting things wrong, even though in life, we make mistakes in order to learn. I guess this is where my idea of perfectionism also comes from. Well, now I know where my social anxiety and my performance anxiety comes from. I've been working on improving my self esteem as much as I can, but sometimes I feel stuck on it. Any other adults that somehow relate to this?

Got in a huge argument with my family and it had to do with my ocd (contamination ocd) and they told me they’d wish I was normal. How long do I have to fight this.

tw might be distressing I just need advice saw something on TikTok I was on TikTok, and there’s drama going about two famous TikTokers. One expressing that they were scared to be around someone’s kid due to having sxul intrusive thoughts abt kids. Which is pocd and she said she had pocd but I haven’t read into the whole story. Basically people are saying, POCD, is “maps” I guess someone who has these thoughts but knows it’s wrong and doesn’t act on it but is still a pdf… This has given me anxiety, as a lot of people are agreeing and saying similar things. A lot of people are saying that the thoughts are not focused on being scared of harming a kid present moment.???? And also saying sensations don’t happen? Like groinal response A lot of ppl are saying this im just scared

She's been dealing with this for years but I've never seen her like this. She has her first visit with a nocd therapist tomorrow. How can I help her?