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Does anyone else get worsen symptoms when you’re tired?

Ok little weird question here but does anyone else wake up feeling pretty normal and then feel their ocd set in a bit later? I’ve had this for 6 months now and these past few days I’ve noticed that I wake up completely fine but by the time I’ve come downstairs and let my dog out or made breakfast I feel like the ocd has “set in.” I can’t describe it any other way except my head feels fuzzy particularly in the front part of my brain. It’s almost like the ocd wakes up. This might be really off from what you guys are experiencing but I just want to know. Thank you 💛

I am diagnosed with ROCD 5 years ago me and boyfriedn broke up from 2 month the whole 2 month i was devastated and wanted to talk to him so bad and i was always crying and missjng hik suddenly yesterday I felt numb as if i don’t even love him and i felt he isn’t even my type and this made me super sad and irritated that i felt i didn’t actually love him then i decided to calll him and he said he want to come back and return and we want to talk i was ahappy then after the call i feared that we will come back and i feel like i dont love him and i dont want him and we are better off not being together and it doesn’t bring me anxiety (i feel i am fine ) but smth is offf how come I loved him this much 4 days before and now i am feeling this way can someone help me ?

my ocd isn’t so bad anymore but after dealing w intensely disturbing intrusive thoughts 24/7 for like a year i didn’t come out of that unscathed. i really don’t like myself at all. and i think so much of how badly i see myself is from this stupid disease. i hate myself so much. and the worst part is everyone thinks i’m happy cos i’m “functioning” again which is somewhat true. ln i was really struggling and i felt like i couldn’t call a soul bcos they think i’m thriving. can u be happy and still just hate yourself tho? idk if that makes sense. i am superficially happy w all the good things externally but i just don’t feel like it’s worth anything or i deserve it. probs not the right place to post it but it’s BECAUSE of my ocd, i thoight i was a horrible person for so long, now it’s over i’m just like used to hating myself and i can’t stop. i want to stop, i just need to vent. i can’t even cry. ocd broke me. i used to cry A LOt. and i think that’s good but now i just lie there, i remember the day something inside me broke and just went into survival mode. i want to be happy, idk if it’s possible

I saw my new psychiatrist today and they said that my primary mental health issue was now Bipolar II, not OCD. I’m not sure how to handle this. Bipolar II seems scarier than OCD. I guess I am just crazy, like all my “friends” tell me I am. Like I swear, literally everyone calls me crazy. Now I know the truth… Anyone else dealing with Bipolar II? It’s a fucking emotional roller coaster that I just can’t get off of… sometimes getting too dangerously close to self-annihilation. I’m both a chill and down to earth guy, but the next second, I’m a psychopathic narcissist. FML…

Does anyone else get an insane surge to pee before bed even though you just peed? I got out the showered and peed and have been in bed maybe 20-30 mins and can’t seem to fall asleep because my brain keeps telling me I have to pee. But other parts of my brain say no because of my bathroom contamination fear.

Hello, I have recently been dealing with lots of handwashing and having trouble using the bathroom or showering due to feeling dirty or contaminated after touching things. It’s made me quit my job, isolate, not eat, and not wanting to use the bathroom. Has anyone gone through this? If so has anything helped? Hope everyone is doing well <3

Hi all, this is my first post on here, which is a really big step considering posting on here, even anonymously, was something I initially avoided due to the fear that my anonymous posts would somehow get tracked back to me and would prevent me from getting a job in the future. That’s another story for another day, though. Right now I wanted to know if anyone else has a problem with not internalizing someone else’s words, even if you know they’re not directed towards you. I’m really struggling right now to not feel bad about myself or feel like I’m a bad person or that I can no longer express interest in something after seeing a video that was critiquing some negative behaviors of people in a fandom that I’m apart of it. Even though these behaviors can sometimes be common in this fandom, I know deep down that I’m not like that, and that I’m not interested in this thing for malicious reasons. I also know that I don’t associate myself with fans who are, and am actively bothered by those behaviors as well. However, my OCD won’t let me forget about the video I initially saw, and of course it was like I almost just had to read the comments too and see what everyone else was saying, which fueled the narrative my intrusive thoughts were already trying to push: I AM one of these fans the original video was critiquing and now everybody online hates me and I should just basically stop being interested in that thing anymore. This becomes even more of an issue considering that interest was my main motivation for actually cleaning and organizing my room. I had just recently bought some new things related to this interest and was looking forward to opening them up and re-organizing the entire collection of things related to this interest I have but now it feels like that excitement is gone once again and I feel like now I’ll never get to the cleaning my room so desperately needs right now. There’s definitely a lot of catastrophizing going on in my brain right now but it just sucks how you can be feeling fine and then something just triggers you out of the blue and you feel like everything’s been thrown off balance.

These have been the recent intrusive thoughts I’ve had. They scare me so much because it’s like why am I thinking about this so much if I was truly so so in love with him I wouldn’t doubt it at all right? My OCD was relatively calm/non existent for a period of time but then I entered my relationship with my beloved and I feel like I’m worrying way too much every week about random things.

I was 26. Seemingly normal (albeit) anxious man. Was with a newish gf. Seemingly at the same time I had some performance issues, I had the thought come in “you don’t feel anything for her” Instant loss of libido, instant loss of every emotion except pure dread/anxiety. It consumed me - the why? It was like I was being forced to feel something I didn’t want? And I couldn’t stop it. In my obsessive search for ‘why’ the thought changed to ‘am I gay?’ And exactly the same dread/anxiety overcome me. For months. My life became just solely focussed on ‘where is my attraction to women gone?’ ‘Searching my past for proof’ ‘checking my emotions’ ‘googling’ ‘figuring out how?’ ‘Was this true?’ I’m now 36. I’m married and have a young son. But my life has again been consumed by this. It’s like my mind seeks evidence to prove something I don’t want to be. And it’s so all consuming and all questioning that it feels like I actually want it? It gets so bad that I’ll even doubt I find it distressing and that I’m just making it up so I don’t have to tell my wife :/ It’s so distressing. Up until this thought came in, I never had to question what I wanted. I just knew I liked thinking about girls. I wanted to be close to them. There was never a thought about a guy? Doesn’t that mean I’m straight? Surely by 26, there would have been some incling of physical or romantic attraction to a man? But I’ve never felt the same since that day 10 years ago. It’s like I’ve lost the ability to feel happiness and to feel libido and attraction. Almost like I’m unable to until I figure it out? I’ve been diagnosed twice by psychologists. But it ‘feels’ like I don’t agree with them or I doubt it. My psych has been pushing me to practice response prevention. Sit with the anxiety of how real it feels. Accept it may be true and sit with the anxiety that causes. Ground myself in moments. The anxiety is so consuming. And I’ll go 3-4 days without looking for reassurance, ruminating, checking, but then it’s like a ‘feeling’ of ‘this is true, you know it’ and it destroys me. I panic, give in, and seem to compulse. Does this resonate with anyone? Is it still not getting any better after years because I keep doing the compulsions? Or am I just a gay person who didn’t realise till later in life and found out through losing feelings for my gf? Please help

Its good for exposures I guess, but everything on their is so black and white and opinionated. A lot of relationship themed tiktoks and other social media content makes me feel like if we don't do things a certain way we're not good together or we should break up. It can be really triggering at times.

For my hand washers, the only thing that really helped my hands heal was to switch to a plant based soap. It took a lot for me to do that because I felt like using a “natural” soap wouldn’t be as effective in washing germs away. But I use RAW Sugar hand soap. They have a bunch of them but I get the sensitive one. There is a moisturizing one with watermelon and mint also that’s really great but I stuck with the one that said “sensitive” on it for a few months and it helped my hands so much because there aren’t any sulfates or harsh chemicals. I know it’s hard for ocd hand washers to switch to natural soaps because most of the natural or plant based soaps don’t suds up or get soapy as much as we would like, but this brand really does get soapy and suds up. That’s why I love it ( I have to see the soapy suds to feel like I’m really washing my hands and never got that from many natural soaps except this one) It’s also the act of scrubbing that removes the germs. Not whether it is antibacterial or natural or whatever. The scrubbing is what removes our “contamination” so it took my hands getting so bad to realize that too, but they have almost fully healed! Also, washing longer isn’t gonna do anything or remove more contamination in our brains a with ocd even though we think it will…we only need our 20 seconds but sometimes I’m doing a minute now but that’s ok because I used to do it for 3-4 hours on end! Once you realize plant based soaps help and that you only need the 20 seconds hand wash (or longer if you need but just not three hours like I have in the past) then your hands will get so much better.

Does anyone feel like they “like” their intrusive thoughts? Like after a while the fear and the disgust you used to feel about the thoughts becomes numb and you wonder if you just like it? And that the thoughts are happening bc you just like and want that thing? I’m beyond confused. I (23F) still feel like on some level I know I want to be with men and end up with a man. But I’m growing unsure there’s a man that has what I need in a partner and am not happy in my current relationship which certainly isn’t helping my case lol. I’ve been dealing with this for almost 7 months and I’m so tired of the incessant thoughts and physical responses I feel like I should just give up and give in.

Y'all what's your exposure or any helpful advice for not using Google as a reassurance? I'm horrible with it! I'm hypervengilant. If I get a ache or pain especially chest area, it's automatic heart attack and I'm googling. I know it makes it worse. Especially since anything typed into Google with the word pain and chest automatically comes up heart related. Yet I keep doing it 🤦‍♀️ my husband offered to take my phone when I try to do it, but I don't feel like that will work because it'll be on my mind and I won't be able to function.

I’m really fucking worried that I don’t love my girlfriend and my compulsion is to love her or say that I do. It puts a pit in my stomach to think about and I’ve been falling back into old compulsions. I’m scared that I’m falling out of love with her even though she’s done nothing wrong and she’s so funny and smart and treats me with so much respect. We’ve been through so many rough patches (mostly with my mental health and OCD) and we’re moving in together at the end of the year. I’m so scared to lose her but I’m also scared that I want to lose her. Sometimes I feel calm when these thoughts happen and then I get scared about the calmness of it and then I freak out because I’m thinking I’m not in love with her. Sometimes when I say I love her I get a pit and the constant thought of “no you don’t no you don’t no you don’t”. I always make sure to take care of her and to cuddle and kiss her when I have the urge when I’m around her, and she sexually satisfies me, even if I’ve also been having a lot of fears of in my transition (MTF) that I’m going to become only attracted to men but also that doesn’t make much sense in that I used to get butterflies with her, and now I still sometimes do but I know that at least with the longer a relationship goes the less butterflies happen. I don’t know how I can just be content. I get scared that if I’m not obsessing over her then I don’t care. She’s most of what I think of but I don’t know if that’s a compulsion. I’m scared if I don’t think of her I’m going to forget her. Maybe it’s because we haven’t had a lot of time to be intimate/go on dates? I just need help because it’s gotten really really bad the past few days/week. I can’t stand the idea of not being with her, but also can’t stand the idea of being with her. These are the thoughts that had me in a mental hospital and I can’t put her through this again. I cried a few times recently about how much I love and care about her and when she talks to me about how she appreciates me I tear up and I think it’s because I care but what if it’s because I don’t and I feel guilty that I don’t? Please help. (P.S. idk why it’s not showing up but I’d like the LGBTQ+ with OCD tag, I think a queer perspective would help too as I am bi and trans (or at least thinking about being trans and scared that I’m only gay sometimes.)

Hey , I feel like I’m alone with getting intrusive and unwanted thoughts during sex / mast3rbation and when I’m finishing and it makes me feel disgusted and that I’m a disgusting person and that I agree with the thoughts I get and I get really upset after and guilty and regret doing it Please can someone tell me if they experience things like this and if it’s not just me It’s something I’ve been really struggling with but I try not to let it get in the way of me having a sex life I have posted a previous post but no one has said anything

my boyfriend went to hooters without telling me. his cousin wanted to go so he wanted to take him. i have told my bf before it makes me uncomfortable and that it steps my boundaries. i’m so tired of him doing stuff and hiding it from me because he knows it’s gonna hurt my feelings then don’t do it? then he tells me it’s not a big deal yet goes out of his way to hide it? he invalidates my feelings yet validates his. idk what to do i’ve been so mad and ocd and anxious

Worrying because I have never orgasmed with a partner despite having had several (13) partners. I went on r/latebloomerlesbians and apparently this is the case with basically every lesbian when they had sex with men. I have also had issues staying wet or being wet enough for penetrative sex, which is also a hallmark of being a lesbian. I know that other things can cause this, but I’ve had this obsession since I was 12. The signs are pointing to lesbian. Please help.

I just see my boyfriend's flaws and I feel we have to break up because we are not compatible and I dont think it s rocd

Hey , I feel like I’m alone with getting intrusive and unwanted thoughts during sex / mast3rbation and when I’m finishing and it makes me feel disgusted and that I’m a disgusting person and that I agree with the thoughts I get and I get really upset after and guilty and regret doing it Please can someone tell me if they experience things like this and if it’s not just me It’s something I’ve been really struggling with but I try not to let it get in the way of me having a sex life