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why do I get one for no reason? and why is it so strong and overwhelming? i ended up doing the m-sturbation compulsion to get rid of it and i kept thinking of different images to see if it made the feeling stronger and it did and it scared me so i just stopped thinking about it. but im scared im too far gone. im scared im genuinely a p. im scared im a fraud and genuinely fooling everyone. this compulsion i have just seems like an excuse to get off to this. im so sad. anxiety is low, shame is high. i use to have a lot of anxiety about this but it’s gone down a lot. I would rather not be on this earth than be a p. what do i do? why does this compulsion happen? does this compulsion mean i like this? even if the sensations feel like it does?

I did something wrong, and I admitted to it and apologize and afterwards was called these evil names after I apologized, and they even said stuff like people like you never learn and said I feel sorry for people around you. This has severely triggered my OCD because it’s like what if I’m a horrible person and what if they’re determining my fate?? I’m freaking out rn and I’m not ok. Btw this person doesn’t know me personally but I already felt bad now I feel worse and evil.

I can't seem to stop ruminating on my fiances past experiences and sexual encounters. We get married in 24 days and I'm sick to my stomach daily thinking about her past and the possibility of us not working out and me being abandoned again like I always am. I have done bad things in going through my spouses phone and deleting and blocking people from her past and I'm not even entirely sure she knows I've done that. I have brought up things in her phone that I have found that bother me and when I do she gets very angry. But my OCD won't allow me to not keep digging to find the reason why I am not enough for her like I haven't been for everyone else in my life. Seeing her talk about past sexual partners in private conversations has killed my soul because I can't compare or compete with those people on that plane. Feel like I'm drowning and losing the only important things in my life due to this sickness.

I struggle so, so much with maladaptive daydreaming, have since I was little, and it's taken over my life. I want it to stop, but it's so hard when my thoughts keep REPEATING. I've heard from others that I'll need to break my own heart, tell myself that nothing I'm thinking is real, and to face up to reality. I know daydreaming is a distracting and reality-voiding coping mechanism, and it's not healthy or helpful when overindulged. And I identify thoughts in which I imagine certain scenarios going perfectly. But it's really difficult because a lot of my daydreaming thoughts are about creative stuff. And not made up characters that I spend time with myself, but characters who I draw and write about just like any illustrator. I've talked to a therapist about the difference between nurturing my creativity and daydreaming in a harmful way, and her advice was useful: "It's wonderful to use your imagination and be creative. Stop when your thoughts start to involve real-life people." I'm still having difficulty understanding how harmful my fictional stories/daydreams are, since I still use them to distract myself. Does anyone else struggle with maladaptive daydreaming?

This hurts. So. Bad. I’ve been sobbing the entire day. I’m so done. I have an exam tomorrow that I need to study for but I can’t focus on anything else rn. Heartbreak + OCD is one of the worst feelings ever.

I've struggled with watching pornography for several years. It's been going on since I was a young teenager and I've exposed myself to a lot of things that I look back on with regret and shame. There have been instance where I looked at pornographic content featuring fictional characters that were around my age at the time and I didn't see a problem with that when I was younger. Now I feel really horrible about it. Absolutely disgusted. Nowadays when I relapse and look for porn, I only want to find pornography featuring fictional women that look like adults or whoever my go to characters are. Even then, sometimes I see disturbing things as I scroll through playlists or search results that have nothing to do with what I'm looking for. I hate it. I absolutely hate when I see a character being put in a scenario like that when I don't want to see it by any means but it shows up anyway. I feel like I'm a true p sometimes because of this. There's always been several occasions where I've doubted the person's age in a video whether real or fake. That drives me crazy. Especially when there's character's whose age aren't officially stated but can be hinted to be a young adult. I know I'm not attracted to children nor would I ever want to be but the thoughts about it don't go away. I also don't like how I've escalated to different videos when I was badly addicted. It always felt like I needed to go the extra mile to get the same dopamine as I did before. I don't feel like I need to escalate now but I do a lot of surfing with content to find the best one that truly fits. It was so much worse when I was a teenager. It was like I didn't seem to have limits when it came to what I watched at times. I'm glad I don't do that anymore but I'm still really upset that I've fallen this far into my addiction and to this day it's still hard not to watch pornography. I don't know what to think of myself. I just feel bad about myself because of this along with a lot of things in the past.

I really hope this doesn't invalidate anyone with depression as I have no idea what it is like. I have not obtained an official diagnosis for OCD, I am pretty confident that I am somewhere on the spectrum though, especially with contamination OCD. When my thoughts about contaminations and hand washing got more severe, my relationship with my brother had worsened. I can't engage in physical interactions with him like hugging or even sitting next to him without feeling contaminated to the point i have to change my clothes. It sucks because I think it affects him aswell, like I am invalidating his experience with depression.

I love my partner and I can tell she's not a hateful human being. It seems clear to me though that she has mainly interacted with white people in her life and I think she's got white fragility. The other day she was telling me something that her friend was saying about me and prefaced it with, "Please don't think this is racist", but I was offended by what her friend said. I take a lot of issue with the phrase "please don't think this is racist" from a white person, even if it is my partner. As a person of color I feel like I have the right to decide if smthing said about me in the lack of my presence is racist or not. I get fired up and angry thinking about it, but I wish I could let it go. Ive just felt so invisible as an Asian American for much of my life. I've never been good at spending time with people I don't agree with. I just can't stop thinking about it over and over. I'm not sure what to do.

I struggle in many ways. My best friend is a licensed counselor and they have been diagnosed with OCD themselves. Life circumstances found me living with my bff and their fiancee, and it was pointed out that I may want to take the Y-BOCS. I scored 12 in obsessions, 12 in compulsions, for a total of 24 which puts me in the severe symptoms class. I honestly don't know where to go from here but I'm putting myself out there.

TW - This post is directed to the men. Also, this is going to be TMI I'm a guy and I've been having a rough time talking to people now. A lot of times I get groinal responses even during talking to people -- really anyone, including family members and other dudes. I'm not really sure what the reason is. But it is difficult having that happen because as a guy, it is of course more obvious to the outside world when it happens, and I have to hide it. Anyway, I was at college just a few hours ago and ran into someone I knew from one of my clubs and they talked to me and I got a groinal response and I had to cut the conversation short because I obviously wanted to get out of that situation and I didn't want anyone to notice and think I was some kind of pervert. Of course, I wasn't even thinking that way. And what makes it worse is that it also just so happened to be a lady. But it's just really hard to get a grasp on those thoughts because of OCD. Man, it stinks... Anyway, sorry for the TMI

My older sister (in her mid twenties) has a habit of “clearing her throat.” She will do it as loud as possible so it echoes in the entire house and everyone can hear it no matter where you are, and she will slowly increase the intensity to make the noise as nasty as possible. She’s been doing it for months now, and there’s an odd pattern to it. Well, if there’s a guest or if she’s in public, she doesn’t do it. If she’s alone in the house, she doesn’t do it. HOWEVER, if someone is within earshot at home, she will do it. She also only started doing this a few months ago. Yet, when questioned, she insists she’s clearing her throat and cannot help it if her throat gets clogged. Yet she will often do it at the end of sentences, after talking a ton. It does read as obnoxious at times. I am wondering at this point that she does it deliberately because she enjoys making a gross noise. Even if she is clearing her throat, the magnitude in which she does it is so intense and loud it harasses the ears…Yes. It is that loud. As if she wants to be heard? If you cannot tell, my OCD (or some form of misophobia) fixates on it and I cannot get the noise out of my mind. 😅 It makes me feel a little ill. If anyone is curious, to my knowledge, my older sister is not neurodivergent (although she used to love to talk about her “OCD” which makes her “super neat”🤦‍♀️). She could have anxiety, though. And technically I have no way of knowing, not my place to say. Ultimately, I have no idea why she does this and I begin to wonder if it’s to deliberately annoy us. I asked my bf about it, and he told me his sister does a similar thing where she makes gross noises for fun. Is this a common occurrence? 😅 Does anyone know what’s going on here? Is there a way I can approach this kindly? Although I am clearly very frustrated, I don’t want to be accusatory or mean about it…She is my sister, and I care about her deeply. But my brain cannot understand what’s going on here. 😅

Hey everyone, my mum gifted me a birth chart reading as a birthday present. I don’t necessarily believe in astrology but its fun to hear, yk? So today I went and got my birth chart analyzed and and she said something that really triggered me. Most of the things she said were true, some things even were realllyyy specific and true. So in the last 10 Minutes she wanted to explain what Lilith meant in my chart. She listet a few things and one of them was „accept your homosexuality/transsexualitiy“ and now I am very scared. I’ve been dealing with soocd and Rocd for the last 3 1/2 years and lately Ive been doing quite good. But that phrase shook something in me :,) Does anyone have an idea on how I can deal with this feeling. I know astrology does not necessarily need to be true or 100% true and she also said things that didn’t apply to me but I am so scared. How can I deal rn..?

OCD can turn even the smallest choices into towering dilemmas, leaving you trapped in a cycle of second-guessing. Everything feels much bigger than it is which can lead to indecision and confusuon! How has this shown up for you?

Struggling with ROCD lately and it’s really getting to me. I know I love my partner deeply, but these intrusive thoughts just won’t let up. It’s like this constant battle between my heart and my mind, and it’s exhausting. Does anyone else experience this? Feeling like you need to do something to ease the uneasiness, even though you know deep down you’re with the right person? It’s like walking on a tightrope of happiness and doubt.

Hey everyone, yesterday i went to my counseling appointment,what was supposed to be my last session. But as me and my counselors spoke they gave me two options. We can continue counseling with the idea that i have OCD but not be diagnosed. Or, that i can have my diagnoses and we can begin therapy with goals in mind, exercises and many other things that sound appealing to help me with my issues because as my counselor said, that it seems that im struggling to get through the day and i agree. I want to go through with the official diagnosis because i feel like it can help me so much! But im afraid, mostly of what my parents would think. I hate lying and keeping secrets when it comes to me i feel dirty and sad when i dont tell them everything now a days. I still live with them and my family, im 18 years old so i really don’t have to tell them anything about this dissuasion i might make but-i keep going to what if they some how find out? what if i get in trouble? my counselor told me that even if they came marching to my door they don’t have to tell them anything which is nice but-how long can i keep this a “secret”. Ik im illegally an adult but im still just a teenager what do i know? Im making the right choice by doing this? If i were to tell them how do i bring this up? How i tell them? I just need advice thank you for reading:(

My false memory is of me assaulting another human and to make it worse it has a real detail being a towel radiator. I tried to guess what I would’ve been leaning on if I was standing in a specific place in a room I went in yearsss ago and I kinda just guessed a towel radiator and to my shock looking back at the old pictures I got it right…I don’t remember assaulting anyone though? It’s scaring me as yes the towel radiator was there but I do not recall harming another human it’s sooo against my nature even drunk. So now my ocd is using that towel radiator against me saying my whole false memory must be real as it has a real detail? I know it’s probably laughable to some people but my whole life is being ruined right now by a radiator. I’ve spoken to a therapist who kept saying she didn’t really understand what it’s got to do with the false memory. My family and partner keep assuring me I would never do that and to just move on. So why can’t I move on?! Anyone dealt with anything remotely similar?

I know everyone’s case is different, but I feel worse at the fact that most people on here Know they’re not lesbian or gay, but are struggling with SOOCD. I truly don’t know if I am or not at this point, so I don’t even know what my values are anymore :(

So I’m a woman and I’m with my boyfriend for 1,5 years. I realise that every time I see a woman (whoever she is) I imagine subconsciously her kissing. This happens a lot and I a knowledge it then but then I ignore it totally. Now I realised this is happening. How to know if it’s an obsession? Now I ruminate in order “not to be a lesbian”. Also when I see a man and a woman I will firstly check woman’s characteristics. I know that I would like one day to experience something with a woman but not something deep and only as a fantasy. Help…

I get pretty intense feelings of hopelessness because I crave peace. But obv it feels unattainable with OCD when the theme’s always change. I started ERP, and to think about doing this forever has me mentally tired. How do I combat this negative feeling? All I want is to feel peace, and not like I’ll never feel ok