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Does anybody else have an extreme fear of engine oil or any other car chemicals? I have been suffering with contamination OCD for the last 8 or 9 years and feel alone with this kind of OCD towards chemicals.

Hi, I have been struggling in my relationship due to ROCD and would love for someone to weigh in and help. Here is my story: My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We got together young and are only in our early 20’s now. About two years ago I developed an extreme anxiety disorder. A few months into this disorder I also developed OCD in the form of sexual orientation ocd and relationship ocd. It immediately affected my relationship no matter how much I didn’t want it to. I immediately felt like maybe we shouldn’t be together because I don’t truly love him. Or I actually love girls so therefore can not be with him. This has been happening now for two year and it is still a daily struggle. I have people in my life that are major triggers because when I am around them all I can do is think sexual thoughts or obsessive thoughts about possibly wanting to be with them. It is so hard to know if I am actually gay or not and no matter how hard I try to figure it out I can’t. It also makes me deeply sad because I so so badly want the relationship back that my partner and I had. We had 3 amazing years before all of this and now that feels like a distant memory that I may never experience again. I feel like I am trying so hard yet it isn’t getting better and I’m afraid it never will. I want to feel the same love I used to for him and without all the fear and doubt. If anyone else has experienced this please share if there was anything helpful for you. Thank you.

I work in social work and today I went into a home that was infested with fleas. I immediately freaked out. Once getting back to the office I was freaking out, my boss didn’t understand and wanted me to go back. I ended up not listening literally stripping in the parking lot throwing my clothes away and going to a truck stop to shower. Anyway, I’m still stuck on feeling the need to shower every time I go near my car since I was in it before I could shower the first time. Obviously I need to go to work and use my car and I know it doesn’t have fleas but any tips on how to feel better about this? I’ve been too anxious to go near it and every time I do I feel the need to flea bomb the car, throw my clothes out, and shower.

It's been a couple of years going through my mental health journey. Long story short I had an identity crisis after smoking a lot of weed consistently. Psychosis runs in my family along with some other mental health issues. I started to question everything about myself I broke down in front of coworkers and they started tormenting me. Purposefully taking fallic shaped objects and dangling them around my face. Telling me I'm gay, purposefully triggering me by messaging me you don't know who you are multiple times a day. It was psychological warfare. Everytime I tried to stand up for myself my body would freeze and I would go into survival mode. I would black out and suppress these memories to make myself feel better. It became a habit. At home I was also getting bullied by people that I thought were friends. One of them grabbed my testicles and told me to repeat after me "you're gay". I remember repeating "you're gay" back to him as I was in survival mode and had no control of my body or mind in the moment. I couldn't even see clearly or hear my own voice. This happened 3 more times. I now think I say my trauma out loud after I'm triggered. I believe I go back into my trauma moments and repeat things people may have said to me while I was "spaced out" in the past. I have some memories but they are very foggy and I feel as though I can't trust my own mind right now. I'm scared to go into any social situations because I'm afraid I may say my trauma responses out loud. So do I have HOCD which is then triggering my trauma? Can trauma create OCD type symptoms? I am doing trauma threapy but should I be more focused on OCD therapy?

Any moms over here with little kids would like to be friends ?

How do you cope?

i think doing erp is making my obsessive thoughts worse. i feel like im ruminating more and triggering myself in my sessions. is this something other people have experienced?? does this mean erp isnt for me?? someone please help me )-:

How does scrupulosity or religious ocd affect you? And how do you cope with it?

so before this mess when i knew who i was i was very sensitive and emotional and compassionate. and i feel like somewhere in me i still am. i still cry when i feel bad for someone. i still try to be as best as i can to others. but these thoughts make me question everything and it feels so real. “what if emotions aren’t real?” “what if you don’t even need to be kind to others?” “you are being delusional and you don’t need compassion.” “good and bad aren’t even real” “that’s not bad everybody is brainwashed to think it is.” i’m so tired. i cannot feel, i cannot be in pain from my ocd because they just tell me that im stressing for no reason and that these thoughts are the truth. but i don’t want to believe them. so what do i do? i need to prove them wrong. i need to prove that i am still me and that i am human. idk im losing it, im losing everything that was important to me. i feel like there is no hope. i hate my life

Hi all! I’m new here. I’ve been struggling severely with my OCD for over a year. I’m here because I desperately want to overcome it. Any tips/tricks or advice is appreciated. I struggle with the thought of something being dirty. Even when I know something isn’t. But unfortunately I have to wash my hands/ sanitize or my mind doesn’t let it go and I can’t focus. Things that trigger it: Pet paws. Can’t touch my pets paws or anything they touch without cleaning the objects/ washing my hands. Can’t touch anything that has touched the floor or the floor itself without washing Car door handles Anything in public that others could have touched If someone accidentally spits on me have to wash Etc.

I feel like I have asked a variation of this question before but still don’t quite know how to deal effectively. What is the suggested pathway for someone dealing with a trauma (sexual) when OCD is latching on and making it worse? I feel like this is something I genuinely need to seek help or counseling for because it is affecting my relationship, but OCD is so loud and trying to make itself the center of attention. I feel like I am suppressing healing just so I don’t engage with my OCD.

This is my first post on here and not sure if this is a form of ocd but thought I’d see if anyone else feels similar and knows how to cope or ignore these thoughts. I have constant thoughts to do with eating and exercising and constantly fear what it’s going to do to me or how it will effect me if I may be eating the wrong thing or made the wrong choice of food or if I haven’t done a certain amount of steps or burned enough calories (checking the app to see) Feel like the little voice in my head is just constantly there watching everything I do making sure it doesn’t effect me Trying not to make this too long but I’ve tried to explain most things briefly

I fear that my ocd will cause psychosis or that it already has..

I don't know what is more difficult, when you have strong anxiety and fear or when you don't feel anxiety. I met a girl and I've been talking to her for a month, we've gone out a couple of times and we've already kissed, I feel like things could go really well between us, I like her and she likes me, I've imagined living together, but I have a lot of anxiety and fear about it happening in bed. I feel that this is going to come soon and every time the opportunity arises, I spend the whole day with thoughts of failure and that I am going to fail and it is going to ruin everything. I have thought about stopping talking to him, telling him about the anxiety I have or something like that as an avoidance, with strong anxiety it is very likely that it will not work as I want, and I can clearly see that the fear is due to the thought of failure, because I have failed sexually in the past and I feel that my libido is low , I think because of all this anxiety. But I really don't want to stop seeing her or stop talking to her, I don't want her to leave, I don't want to miss another opportunity, I don't want to give up on women, I don't want to have this f**k anxiety, I didn't have it before, right now it's uncontrollable, I don't deserve this, nothing makes sense, I'm sad.

I am in a bad flare up of harm OCD, Scrupulosity OCD and meta OCD. When I am in a flare up, I want to just leave my house, whether it's with friends or family or even going to visit my family up in Canada. Is this avoiding or just want to live life?

I really can’t deal with this anymore I question everything about myself every second of everyday. The I intrusive thoughts never stop and they make me feel like such a terrible person. I really don’t know what to do I’m scared to talk to a therapist or anyone because I feel like people will think I’m crazy. Is there any medicine I can take that may make me feel normal again that really all I want is to be happy and feel normal again

Not even for a minute. This Is exhausting. I'm trying to say ok maybe you are or you are not, Who knows, but I Just can't stop thinking and trying to solve this.

hi everyone, really need some advice if possible!! me and my boyfriend have been going through a rough patch. we’ve both realized that we really are complete opposites. he’s an extrovert, i’m an introvert, he has an avoidant attachment style and i have the anxious attachment style. scary, right!! anyways we’ve both been talking through how we’re going to work through it these past two weeks because we both genuinely feel we can make this work. i’ve been in therapy and he’s going to start therapy and we’ve honestly just made progress. and i was FINALLY feeling a relief of anxiety through this and he told me yesterday how he’s scared i won’t be able to adjust or enjoy his extroverted activities. i reassured him im willing to try but just him having anxiety and small doubts gives me the worst anxiety!! i feel confident we will make this work and find middle grounds to everything like we have before but i don’t really do too much of his interest and he’s scared i won’t like them or he’ll find difficulty being okay with my adjustments right away. he said he’s also confident in us but he also has anxiety about this whole thing. we’ve been dating for two years now and i really want this relationship to work but my rocd keeps telling me to leave now and not try out this new lifestyle. that this is too scary to even go through. that he’ll leave me because i’m not “perfect” or “enough” for him even though he’s reassured me. i keep wanting to budge and keep asking for reassurance even though i’ve asked a bjillion times. any advice on how to get through this scary times? we’re both scared of change and we both know we’re capable of it but i’m scared this won’t work out so my ocd is telling me to leave now so i can be stress free. to leave now because it’s never going to work ever and why try but i don’t want that. i don’t want my thoughts to control actions that i don’t even know are true since i haven’t even tried this new change in our relationship

So I went on a date today with a girl and it was my first time seeing her and I didn’t really find her attractive but I did before like a week ago when I was her but was under the influence. But now my ocd is telling me that I’m gay cuz I don’t find her attractive. Because this is the 2nd time this has happened where I reject girl based on her face but I’ve also been with girls that I find attractive and I get aroused with too. Am I picky because I’m Gay ?

I am having a really hard time with what I think is a form of memory hoarding that started about 3 years ago. I have seen multiple therapists and explained my symptoms, but they are not aware of what memory hoarding is and have a hard time understanding what I am experiencing prompting them to try to address a possible underlying issue. While it may be beneficial to address the underlying issue, it is still not helping me get through the episodes of panic and severe anxiety that has thrown me into a cycle of depression. I am now taking Wellbutrin and Fluxomine, but they are only slightly helping me. I am constantly trying to remember what I am thinking about, talking about, listening to or doing and often times things will "slip my mind" (almost like a feeling of amnesia) and I cannot move forward until I either remember or convince myself that I remember. Sometimes this will take days to get out of the cycle of trying to remember and I am so stuck I cannot think about or focus on anything else. These are not important things which is the hardest thing to explain. This is causing major issues in my life, family, work, personal to the point where I could not get out of bed, had suicidal thoughts and thought I would need to quit my job. I used to be able to forget things and be able to laugh it off and think, if it was important it will come back to me, otherwise who cares! Has anyone else experienced anything like this? I have seen a lot of posts on reddit, but never spoke to anyone that has the same or similar issue.