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It’s unfair that people say stuff like “ just don’t think about it” , “don’t worry “ , “ don’t be anxious”

Anyone else struggle with rapture/left behind fears, feeling the need to be saved over and over again and fears of being left alone/being alone? I had been doing well for a week or two and then this week has been so challenging. I’m trying to trust God and remember that He keeps His promises.

I’ve been getting a lot of anxiety and ruminating a lot about getting older and “wasting my youth”. I’m turning 21 in July and going into my final year of university in the fall. I’ve been doing a lot better with my ocd in the past few months and even got discharged from therapy with nocd! However I think this may be becoming obsessive and I don’t want to fall back into compulsive patterns so if anyone has any advice I’d really appreciate it. My biggest concern is that I’m wasting what are supposed to be the best years of my life and the time when I will be the prettiest. Due to my ocd and battling a chronic illness, my self confidence regarding my looks has been pretty low however it is a lot better now. I can’t help but obsess over the fact I’ve “wasted” the last few years with ocd (despite the fact that I never let ocd limit me from having fun). I’m scared of getting ugly and having wasted the time when I’m the prettiest hating the way I looked. I feel sad and anxious when I spend a day doing nothing, especially weekends, because I feel like I wasted it and should be out drinking or spending time with my friends. I keep checking people’s ages and seeing what they are doing to reassure myself that I won’t lose get old and boring. I think this anxiety is due to the fact that the “best years of my life” (aka university) are coming to an end soon and I feel like I didn’t enjoy them as much as I could’ve had I not been dealing with ocd. I know this sounds ridiculous given that getting older and graduating is inevitable but I really don’t want this to become a new obsession.

I don’t think I will for a while because I just started dating someone but how do you tell your partner about your ocd? And how did they react?

I was out with my friend and I was saying how much I think my boyfriend was attractive in related conversation. And than she gave me a look, and was like "agree to disagree" and started saying all this stuff about how I could do better in terms of looks, and when I asked her if she thought he was ugly she said "I decline to answer" Which is an answer in and of itself. I told her I wasn't asking if she was attracted to him, but instead objectively of whether he was a handsome individual. I could never fucking imagine seriously calling someone she loves ugly like that to her face. It is unnecessary and rude, and I wouldn't think like that of someone she sincerely cares for. My intrusive thoughts got the better of me and I fixated and felt anxious about it so I kept asking her. I communicated that she was making me feel uncomfortable and disrespected because she was insulting my boyfriend, and she was like "I'm just saying" but I don't think she realized the impact of her words on me until I told her that I loved him and this offending me deeply. She fell silent after, and started apologizing. Not only did I then feel anxious about what she said, but also that when I said "I love him" I felt so emotionless and empty when I said it and it's just making me overthink. I also feel like I didn't feel mad enough towards her insult against someone I care about. I love my boyfriend with all I have, and now I feel so awful and guilty for hyperfixating on his looks and questioning my love. I feel so ashamed. Idk what to do.

I’ve had some of my most difficult days lately and would like to know what helps you replenish when you’re at your lowest ?

I woke up in early morning, I tried to go back to sleep but can't and I look through the phone. Then, I still have intrusive thoughts and I'm eating peppermints, using crystals trying to deal with it. My grandma (we shared in one room) aks me why I'm making noise, because tli using crystals on my desk and I saying"shut" to those thoughts. And then I don't want to disturb to try to deal with intrusive thoughts and then I throw my soft plush toy at her and I scream and told her to stop and I trying to deal. My mom woke up and she got pissed why I'm like this bc I deal with intrusive thoughts. And she made me go sleep in her bedroom and I apologize to my grandma and I didn't meant it. And I cried that why I'm like this? I still dealing with those intrusive thoughts that made me like this? My mom tried me to calm down and told me wait for grandma to woke up as if I go back to my room and never go to sleep at my room with my grandma now. It's it my fault?

hi guys. im really struggling today. i keep feeling movements like fluttering, pulses, twitches, and kick like movements. i had an ultrasound, external and transvaginal, blood test i had a seizure from, and multiple negative urine tests. im freaking out that im pregnant. my bf and i broke up for a period of time and we both slept with other people and im afraid im pregnant and its someone elses baby. i got my ultrasound when i was on a period, if that even was my period, and i dont know if that affects anything. the movements are driving me crazy and i want to rip my skin off, im so scared and panicked. i want to live a happy life with my boyfriend but am so scared that ill have that taken away from me if i pop out with a random baby in july or august. im so terrified. do you all think im pregnant or just being ocd? im about to cry because i just cant do this. im so scared and triggered. i have no one to talk to.

My ocd started as postpartum ocd and now it flares any time my hormones are wack. Like right now, it’s the worst it’s every been but there’s a pattern with my cycle. It’s worse around End of period until ovulation and lets up completely when I start. Anyone else have this?? When my hormones are normal my ocd is almost nonexistent

Today was the first day in 4 months I blasted my radio and sang from my lungs and felt happiness … a pure happiness again. My healing journey hasn’t been linear, but I can say things DO get better and only will continue to. OCD doesn’t define you . You can live a beautiful life once you learn that you are not your thoughts , let go of the reigns, and trust your inner wisdom to guide you. I promise you it gets better. ☀️ People with ocd are the strongest people out there. You have the courage to get through this. The hardest thing I did was switch to sarcasm when the thoughts came my way “oh I’d love that!” “Oh yes that’s true” BUT once I started trusting my inner wisdom, it got easier. I KNEW at my core they would never happen and this was the only way to fight back at the bully. Even at my darkest moments (I didn’t even know what ocd was at one point during my struggles) my inner wisdom is what guided me through me safe. I also knew learned that physical sensations were a love letter from my body saying “ hey this isn’t right , switch your thinking!” Your body loves you. It wants to keep you safe. Your little pea brain though, just doesn’t know the difference. Keep that in mind as you work on healing. I love you all . You ALL deserve a beautiful life of happiness, and peace. And from someone who’s suffered— You will get there. Xo

I was wondering if you guys agree. I have PTSD, GAD, depression, an eating disorder and OCD. I feel like every time, OCD is taken the least serious, while to me its the worse... Also, my OCD makes it hard for me to search for help cause my OCD tells me Im a bad person, I dont deserve help, Im not allowed to show my emotions Because of that I cant show how bad it is, especially cause its pure ocd, so people dont mention my struggle or take me serious. But i feel like, in general, of all my disorders, OCD is taken the least serious, while to me its the worst of all. I hate it... i hate OCD so much, its debilitating and nobody can see it.

I ruminate/google compulsively about the possibility that I have Bipolar 2 disorder. Both my psychiatrist and therapist have told me repeatedly over many years that I don't and that I suffer from severe anxiety/OCD but no reassurance is enough and I can't let go of the thought and spend hours going over times in my life when I think I may have been hypomanic. I'm 50 and have suffered from periods of crippling anxiety from early adulthood. I've also had long periods when the anxiety/OCD has been in remission and I've been high functioning. I have seen a number of psychiatrists over the years and none of them have diagnosed me as bipolar but I'm convinced I am.

Does anyone else experience mind blankness? It’s like I’m a robot. I’m talking but I don’t feel in control. Fuzzy brain/feel disconnected from reality and myself.

Anyone else feel like they hit someone with their car this morning on their way to work and have to go back and check 8 times before they made it to work? Or is it just me? Asking for a friend 😐

I am tired Every passing fucking moment I am getting bombard with thoughts doubt, CONSTANTLY, I can’t walk talk do boxing without a fucking “you are gay” thought popping, or checking or arguing in my own head with myself, or the numbness or the going over my pass discrediting all my previous experiences with girls I am just done this isn’t a fight one can win I wake up every fucking morning with the same thoughts of you enjoy the thoughts, you would like it The moment I admit it to myself it all freaking disappear and “wow it’s obvious you don’t like men” and you’re hit with clarity, it’s fucking unbearable and driving me over the edge I have admitted to myself I am pan, gay, bi, at least 6000 times and it does fucking nothing because I’ll be hit with the same thoughts over and over and the same analyzing and the same mental compulsions I am straight up losing hope, I can’t enjoy a good conversation I would love with my crush. Because of a fucking “what if you loved it! You would like it”

Dear Pennyroyal. I haven't seen a post from you in a while. I wonder how you're doing? I hope you're great. I have not knowingly while multi-tasking blocked a member here at NOCD. Now I can't unblock them. I hope I haven't done the same to you and that is the reason why I don't get or just don't see anything from you on NOCD. I don't know where to see if you've blocked someone. I've been told unblocking is not an option. Penny, if you have been posting anything in the last 10 days and I still haven't been able to find anything from you, would you possibly be so kind and just change your profile name a bit, maybe put a number, a letter, a star or a heart after the name. Maybe then your posts will go through my block filter. If Nica is reading, would you do the same, pls. I will be way more careful from now on. The ironic part is, that when I blocked Nica, I didn't even know there was an option to block someone. My best to you both, to Levi,... Make my day with one of your cute gifs pls. 🤗❤️

I need advice. ASAP. I am a person who doesn't know how to say NO, when someone is taking advantage of me. I have a neighbor. She has 2 kids. She only calls me when her kids need me to help them with school work. I've known her for 8 months. She promised to pay for my help, but she paid me only for 3 out of 15 lessons. And she knows very well, I am alone here, I am looking for a job and that there were months when my husband wasn't able to come to me for the weekend because we had no money. It was super hard. She didn't give a damn. Well. to be fair, she did offer to lend me money, which I never would, but didn't pay me for the work I had already done. I don't get it. She is not interested in me, when we talk and I talk about sth in my life, she looses attention after a minute or two. As some of you might remember, my birthday was at the end of April. We communicated on the same day by sms/ text messages. She wanted us to get together for an ice cream or coffee. I told her, I was short of time, because it was my birthday and my cat's birthday, and my husband was coming home from the other side of the country and I wanted to get things nice and ready. But, I still promised to find half an hour to see her. I knew she was only interested in what had happened with me and a certain woman she knows ( I was looking for a job, but refused to take it, because a woman who works there started bullying me even before I had my second interview with her boss. And the bully is my neighbour's older son's private instructor). Now she was curious to get all the juicy details. I found the time, but she cancelled or postponed it for another day. Sth came up for her, I guess. But what hurts is, that she didn't say happy birthday to me. Not on the day,not after,... Not by a text message, not by a phone call, not in person,... It's been 2 weeks. Nothing. She had birthday only 2 months after we met. I was struggling to get by. After paying the rent and expenses, I hardly had money for food for my 3 cats and me. There were days I was hungry more or less. But I went and sold sth of mine and bought her a birthday present and expressed my best wishes to her. Half a year later, I didn't even get a text message for my birthday. NOCD members wished me well, she didn't. Today, just now, she called. She sent me a message she needed me. Her younger son needs help for school and her older son broke or twisted his leg and she needs someone to talk to. OK friends. I've been told, that part of the reason I have developed my ocd is my low self esteem, lack of confidence. That's why people walk all over me. I am there for everyone, noone for me. That's why, people who hurt me, become the focus of my ocd obsessions. One at the time. What do I do now? Do I run to her? Do I offer my shoulder to cry on? This is what my soul, my heart, my empathy tells me to do. But then there is the other side ( call it my ego or just the need for self-respect) which tells me, don't be the idiot she thinks you are. I know she's manipulating me, but since I have never had any support in my life from Noone, I don't have the heart to refuse support to anyone. Please, what would you do? She's waiting for me to call her. I would appreciate your input. I hope someone answers. Peace of mind and soul. Have a beautiful day.

Does anyone with this subtype feel like all your memories with the sex you like it was an other person like it was not you bc your brain keep telling you that you want the other sex 😩?

I'm getting so annoyed now. I heard somewhere, that there is a difference between good butterflies and bad butterflies and you can somehow mix them up. Does it ever end??? I know what anxiety feels like, I used to feel it all the damn time. About everything. I would feel it with boys too, nervous, anxious, but also excited, wanting to be near them, and fantasizing about them. I'll admit butterflies used to make me feel good, but it also made me feel like I had a bad stomach ache. Now my head is wrapped around the idea of whether I had good butterflies or bad butterflies. I'm so sick of hearing things like this.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and the past year had been really hard for me mentally and just in general - had no friends in my city, living in a different country, moved into my boyfriends house with 3 other filthy boys, no time to myself, intense depression and anxiety yadayadayada the list could go on. I feel like I’ve always had relationship anxiety but this last year has been extreme and has totally made me doubt my relationship and my ability to be in a relationship. We are currently in my home country for the summer but plan on moving back to his home country (which we have been living prior) and I am not super stoked about moving back and to the city. He’s not in love with the city either but it would hold opportunities for us to grow our relationship and careers. I just find myself going through a constant rotation of either feeling annoyed, un-attracted, doubt of my love, and doubt of my future love for my partner. What makes it so confusing is that he treats me better than anyone ever has, we laugh together, and he’s a total babe - so why do I have this unshakable feeling that we’re not right for each other? I’m just so scared that since I’m feeling so icky about our relationship, that I’m making a mistake by doing something that doesn’t make my heart sing. I feel like I’m constantly looking for reassuring moments that make me feel good about us, but every time there is a positive, I sabotage it with my thoughts and view it as maybe I’m being phony. What if the thoughts are true? It wouldn’t make much sense but I just have such a negative feeling about it and feel like maybe I have to accept this feeling and move on from the relationship - I have no idea. I plan on seeking therapy soon, and I haven’t been diagnosed with rocd but I resonate and seem to be suffering a lot with the symptoms. Does this sound like rocd? And does anyone have any advice or clarity on what I’m experiencing?