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does weed help with ocd at all? i need to know.

My wife and I have been married for 5 years. We have 2 beautiful kids. She has autism and adhd but we are thinking she might have OCD as well. She has a history of abuse and is seeing a neurodivergent affirming therapist who has been doing parts therapy with her. I have ROCD. But thankfully through NOCD, I have been doing ERP and it’s really helped my ROCD. One of my fears that I’ve been working on is my wife being in love with her ex and leaving me. Well… guess what came up in her parts therapy… she learned some more abuse that had happened in her childhood and she realized she is still in love with her ex. To the point that she believed he and her were communicating through Spotify without sending each other music. Like she believes that he is adding specific songs to his playlists and thinking she will listen to it. She says it doesn’t make sense which she says is her autism. There are other delusions she’s believing too. She also was thinking of suicide so she is currently at an inpatient hospital. But we are wondering if that’s OCD. Like maybe that’s her ROCD and it’s to the point of her believing delusions. Or is that a trauma response? I’ve heard of trauma bonding relationships and I know they did bond over there trauma when they were together. I’m wondering if that’s coming up now since she is working on her trauma. As you can imagine, this is super hard for me. I love her so much. It’s so hard to be helping support her and her be unsure of being married to me. Any advice you have, please send it my way.

I have severe ocd around toilets, I just went downstairs expecting a clean toilet only to find one of my family members left poo in it. I had to clean it because I needed to use it, I used a lot of antibacterial cleaner and used tissue to wipe the seat. I feel HEAVILY contaminated but there’s nothing I can do, I already washed my hands with soap and very hot water repeatedly. I’m so upset. Stuff like this absolutely ruins my day. I like to feel clean. I can never feel clean when things like this happen. How can I deal with this. It’s the middle of the night otherwise I would have made who ever made a mess to go clean it, but bc it’s late I had to do it myself. Help me I feel like I won’t be able to sleep.

I'm seeing this girl and when I have sex with her or have foreplay with I get this little voice in my head saying this is disgusting or eww. And i don't know if I'm enjoying it. Please help !

i felt like i said something wrong but couldn’t recall the memory so i asked my friend & she reassured me but my brain said “she probably didn’t hear u” then i asked the universe (some may think i’m crazy) to show me 222 if i didn’t and i saw 222 immediately after. but my brain is saying the universe is lying. ugh ocd😖

Anyone have fear of that brain eating amoebas? I have some fear. I was in a pool in Arizona and worried if it was in there. Any help?

My apologies for this quick rant. The last id say 7 months have been really eye opening. I had a situationship for the longest time I probably needed to get out of sooner than later. Through that stressful time my OCD flared up to the point I finally seeked medical help & I was for the first time ever in my life diagnosed with OCD. I kinda have always known I behaved differently compared to others but could never put my finger as to why I did what I know now as compulsions. I’ve always been “the anxious one” constantly seeking reassurance than made me feel better in the short run. Well it all came to a scary halt when my subtype changed & I truly think it has a lot to do with my situationship that I had with my life long best friend as well as finally living alone stress. Well it’s been almost a month since I’ve broken things off with my best friend and wow guys it’s been probably the hardest thing I’ve ever been through in my 28 years of existing. Last night I decided to finally text her and tell her that I think me and her should meet up and talk about the situation and I also have some stuff of hers I need to give back (I’m moving back home with my mom) I want to close this chapter of my life but am so petrified of my OCD flaring up because this is a very anxious thing to confront also, due to the fact that my subtype attacked this person I love so much, it was really scary when the intrusive thoughts first came up. I want to give myself closure but I’m even scared to just even meet up. I don’t watch violent things anymore, so many things just trigger me and I’ve suffered a great amount of pain from OCD and just heartbreak. I used to want to get married and be in a happy relationship and now I just feel like distancing myself from that whole aspect of life. I look at my past and I’ve always been this kind sweet person, everyone always admired my optimism and wisdom & nowadays I just feel like idk who I am anymore, deep deep deep down I know who I am but it’s just been a journey. What would you guys do?

I've got a horrific false memory of me doing something to my little brother while sleeping with mental images and everything. Surely I would have felt guilty about this happening after it happened not months/years after. I seem him he's all happy and enjoying life meanwhile I'm depressed as hell because of something I would never do. How am I suppose to go on my vacation with this on my mind and severe anxiety

Normal people worry too, i always say all my worry that its ocd and i feel like its not fair to say that. People say "just say its ocd i dont buy it" but at first i dont know if this is ocd or its really my conciousness telling me i said or did something bad. Its always when i say something funny, or i trying to be funny, my mind says what i said its not how a christian should talk, or im happy about myself, see someone who struggling and i think for some reason that "look at him struggling,but i feel good, how pathetic is he, im soo good" and then imediatelly i think im a bad person, which if you think about it i am cause saying this about someone else while he is struggling its a bad thing. But idk why i think this and i feel so guity. Another is when i try to do something my mind tells me i do it for others approval or so they love me, and i think about alot of things that feels like im a bad person, like a narcisisst, but i care so much about this. And being kind person is something that everyone should be, so i cant say "i dont care about this"(cause this is how you deal with ocd) i care too much if i did said something that isnt what a christian should say, or if im being a prick, comparing myself with others or im being a narcisstic bad person? How do you know if your worry is your conciousness telling you that what you did isnt how you should behave or its ocd?

Can a NOCD therapist write a letter for an ESA animal ?

I had Tocd and now it has turned into HOCD. But this HOCD is…complicated? I’m Asexual Panromantic, so i love everyone. However, OCD has been telling me i’m actually a lesbian and that my attraction to men/anyone who identifies as a man is false and i’d be happier with a woman. The thing is, I always leaned on men. Like i prefered men. But i didn’t mind women. But i was more of a men type of pansexual. I was always certain on my sexuality, but now it keeps telling me i’m a lesbian and that i should stop loving men but i know i’m not a lesbian…? Idk this just feels like denial but i know it’s OCD up to it’s tricks. It’s just annoying.

Has anyone else lost the desire for a partner because of years of not being able to start a relationship? I’ve been single for almost twenty years and I’ve given up on every potential relationship before it even began because I just knew it wouldn’t work out or I’d get hurt or some reason or other. I’ve stopped looking now and would probably turn someone down even if they asked.

I am having a really hard time.. So this guy and i were in a situationship or whatever the past year cause i was scared and never did a relationship and now we barely talk cause i dont why and how we seem to be just idk i have been very emotional just knowing that this may have ended for good and i am just hurting cause i want it to work but it cant be just me ig and i come across videos and things that make me think He just cant be that good thing in my life in the future and this was just supposed to be this? And even me? Cause we never added to eachother and relationships are about that? We just were fooling around so we cant correct it and has to be someone else who we grow with cause we cant with one another? Cant try because of already how we were? Go back to old ways ? Never come out of that shall? Be done with what we had and never more than that? Anything? Didn’t happen so cant happen ? Not even once can we try? And with where we stand today and barely talk all the more reasons it wont and it will be with other people cause we could never in the past we still never will be able to and we never looked beyond it ir stopped ourselves and thought we may cross boundaries and that we can never do it again even if one chance? If i know all this and all this makes sense then why do i want it to happen or hope it can be otherwise or want another chance to make it work from god? It just may never with all the past stuff all that has happened and all that is happening whats the point? But still not even one chance to see if we could make it work? Ever? A lot of people have had such situations i am no special and mine is nothing major so why make such a big deal in my head about it? We Never were that emotional support to eachother cause i was scared to fall and i did and now we are here so cant be that or expect and he wasnt too so maybe i also shouldn’t or wanting the wrong cause has to be two sided cant be one and somethings get over before we are ready to part ways with them maybe this is that and i need to be okay and accept that and was meant to be like this and me hoping for something more will just hurt me everything i read and saw on situationships and even where i stand which is no where seems to be this exact thing only that they dont work and one person hurts and that they cant have that second chance ever cause if it was meant to work it would have and if he wanted to he would have and if he didnt means he doesn’t and logically all that is true with where i stand and emotionally thinking isnt going to get me anywhere when this is the reality clearly so why do i even hurt and hope but ig anyone would in a situation like this i can ask if its ocd but this can be completely normal and just because I don’t want to accept it i put it under the ocd carpet or formulate those sentences like that. Also yes i may think a lot and it may not be that big of deal but then the reality is he could have communicated and he chose not to and he could have talked and not been so distant and that the barely talking or communicating is something that everyone sees as bad in whatever relationship and if we have that then it means its done and over for good and i can keep feeding myself whatever bull shit it is that oh we may work but this is the reality and i cant make excuses for this someone else in my place would have also not and any relationship coach if heard this would say yes he doesn’t care and you will hurt yourself even hoping so leave which is true right? And maybe it’s supposed to be like this and end like this and god sent me him to teach me some lesson no matter how hard id want it the other way maybe it just cant not now not in the future cause in past it didn’t and we messed it up and cant be given a chance or somethings just dont deserve it? Not even once? Maybe i was just another rebound for him and i need to accept that and even if i wasnt that not i may never was or will be that imp enough to be someone to hold onto and i know there can be others who treat you differently and yes somewhere i will not understand that because i feel like this in this moment but seriously can we never even once work? Are we that doomed? Maybe we are? Maybe his past relationships were way more stronger truly than we ever could be or someone else he meets will be better of course and yes that is very true and possible but clearly we couldn’t right? If someone is going through something similar can you pls help..even if not ocd i could just use some advice ig.. pls

My thoughts are getting way intense and feel real. Idk what to do

i don’t even know if this is OCD because it’s not even over an obsession. every second im reminded of anxiety and it causes me to get anxiety and my brain makes me panic. everything i do im reminded that i can just panic right now over everything and anything. nothing is helping at all. ive like lost control of my thoughts completely. idk if i have a panic disorder or what. i’m reminded i have a brain and it scares me. i just want my brain turned off i feel horrible. just feel like there’s something seriously wrong with me and i’ll never get out of this. does anyone else experience this🥺

As parents, we are very distressed. Our daughter is studying law. She puts in 100% and is one of the star students with very high marks throughout he degree. But she has OCD with perfection. This started a few years back but it is getting worse. She knows all the work in great detail but cannot put her knowledge and thoughts onto paper for her assignments. This causes such stress that she feels her life is ruined and she is useless. She sobs everyday saying she cannot believe this is happening to her. She has delayed various courses to help alleviate the stress but it is not helping. Have any of your therapists encountered this before and can you urgently help. She must finish her qualification for her own benefit. Thanks in advance.

So I'm going through an Academic Crisis & i have no idea when this will end, this is ongoing for a long time & the Main Culprit is my Brain. I have Executive Dysfunction so i can't start task, can't complete task, can't be productive no matter what. My every task is incomplete or i couldn't even start the task. Upon that Intrusive Thoughts Eat My Mind & then My brain hurts and it gets messed up & i can't study..... Final Exam in 5 days & i don't know anything anymore I don't know where i will end up at last because of this Crisis...

Does anyone have experience with ADHD and OCD? I find that my medication helps with my ADHD and makes me feel calm, but it seems as if the underlying fears, thoughts and feelings that come with OCD are still there. Or maybe I’m just looking for them instead of letting them disappear because I’m feeling relaxed? Has anyone experienced something similar?

TW: SA Sorry for the long post I’ve tried to narrow it down as much as I could while still saying everything I feel is important. This morning I was talking to my dad about my ROCD stuff and he was just trying to be helpful but he told me I don’t have to stay in my relationship and it’s okay to break up and stuff which made me cry. My therapist doesn’t even really believe I have OCD he thinks it’s just relationship anxiety even though I feel like the definition of ROCD fits me perfectly and I’ve been struggling with various ROCD themes since at least last September. P.S. this is my first relationship and sexual partner. After that I started obsessing about the stuff I have been obsessing about the most for the last couple months, which is worrying what if my boyfriend is toxic because I have a hard time letting go of all the times he has made dark jokes (that I see as morally wrong) or the times that he has hurt me (never intentionally). The thing is our political views and morals overall align and he’s so sweet and loving to me. Also, he apologizes about these things and makes the effort to change his behavior whenever I bring them up. Then later in the day (skip this part if you don’t want tmi about sexual stuff) I was watching a YouTube video that describes an SA and I started obsessing even more because sometimes I get abdominal cramps during sex and I ask him to go more gently and he does for a little bit but then goes back to what he was doing before I asked and says he tries but he “can’t help it” (Ik it sounds bad) and also I have mentioned to him before that I want us to ask for consent and idk if he forgot because he has forgotten things I’ve asked him to change a couple times before but it hasn’t changed so I think I should bring it up again. Anyways now I’m freaking out about the possibility that he’s SA’d me because of these things. I know I’m reassurance seeking but I’m so scared because this could potentially be a serious issue. I love him so much and I don’t want to have to break up with him. At the same time I feel bad for even thinking such horrible things about him. 😕

I just keep thinking that I am and that I always revisit bad things I've done to myself or others people in the past. Maybe it's too late to redeem myself and maybe the good things don't matter as much as the other ones. Maybe I just can't move on from these things because they're true. I'm tired. I want a way out