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I just got diagnosed with OCD and anxiety today and prescribed Prozac. I’m feeling happy I’m finally getting help but a little cautious about moving forward with medications but I think it’s very necessary for me.

My Harm OCD is out of control. I’m trying so hard to keep living my life, but it’s scaring me even more. It’s starting to feel more real. It’s feeling like I’m right on the edge of acting on my thoughts and that I actually want to do it. It feels like this is never going to go away and I’m now this person who is going to harm someone. I’m at work because I’m supposed to keep living my life and not do compulsions. But not doing them is terrifying me. I feel like a complete monster and I don’t know what to do.

Me and my partner are in an ldr relationship for 4 months now, and I’m the type who has trust issues. My partner is adamant that one of his most important foundation in our relationship is trust. I am trying, yet I keep recalling back to when we were still friends and he told me this story about how he got entangled with a hook up, specifically he slept with a girl casually and then the next day- he was arriving at the same girl’s friend’s house. Not knowing they were friends, so when she asked where he was- he says at a friend’s (referring to his guy’s). The reason she knew he was lying cause she checked his Snapmap. I did a compulsion a few days earlier as well, looking how to know if my partner is loyal. One of those quora posts mentioned “if your partner hasn’t given you any reason to not trust him, then he’s loyal” I keep rethinking back to my partner’s story. I keep pondering if hes out there rn with another girl, and unlike before- he has been more busy than the usual. Which I tend to nitpick more now. We have done a lot of arguments and disagreements cause of my trust issues, I’m still on edge whenever he goes out with friends and family and we won’t chat for a lot of hours.

I don’t have body odor (genitalia), but I had an incident when I was 19 and was on my period. I waited too long to change my napkin and I got a whiff of my scent. It gave me the OCD I have today. I’m 54 and 10yrs over with periods, and just goes to show how the brain can be your worst enemy. You see, I know I don’t smell, and I don’t spend much time showering or laundering, but when I’m public, I think people think, that I think that I can smell myself. Pretty much am fearful that I give off the vibe that I smell. It is Sooooo twisted. I bet most people can’t even understand this. I think “they” are looking at me and judging me and can tell that I am not comfortable with my nether regions. It’s crazy even typing this out. I don’t like crouching, sitting cross legged and other various positions that send me into BIG Time ANXIETY. I can’t think, I sweat, my heart races, I feel like the world is saying “You are so weird. What’s wrong with you. Ewwww!” I did some ERP for a few months, but then I’m fine for a while and then BOOM it comes back. I’m uncomfortable with my body I suppose. And my brain keeps looping on that day when I was 19. Just had to tell my embarrassing story in case someone else feels embarrassed as well. I’m trying to sit with it, haha, sit with it really. But if anyone has something similar to my type of OCD, I’d appreciate your opinions or experience or just acknowledgement. No need for detail if you don’t want to share. Thanks everyone. ❤️

The only friend I had left who was supportive and there for me. He always talked to me and listened to my anxieties about my ex. My relationship ended 1.5 ago and I can’t stop the obsessions and anxiety. My friend didn’t understand ROCD or OCD- I never tried to explain because i just didn’t think he would understand. Maybe I should have tried because he was the only one who would still talk to me about it. Until tonight…I was really upset about a particular anxiety about my ex and I told him about it. He kind of snapped and lost patience. He told me I was obsessed with my ex and that I was stuck and that I was going to stay stuck forever while he moves on. He told me basically everything that I was terrified was true and would have panic attacks about. Then he said he was “done trying to help me” and needed space. That was it. I can’t imagine our friendship can ever get back to a healthy place after this. And the thing is, I know without knowing about how OCD can affect you, from the outside looking in, I DO seem obsessed with him. I am obsessed- just not in the ways it looks like 😅 I was so careful not to talk too much to anyone about it and yet still it ruined another friendship And of course, now I’m sick with anxiety that everything he said was true. I lost a friend because of my obsessions with my ex. And that makes me even more anxious that my ex was all wrong for me. I think I’m spiraling. I’m just really upset. I lost my best friend over a stupid fight because of my STUPID ANXIETY. Fuck this.

Ive given into my anxiety and triggers so many times today.. I feel so weak, ashamed, and like I’ll never get better

Hey guys, im new to the community my name is haidar. So i been attracted to this boy in my class for the past month. My minds been so stressed out because im not 100% certain about my sexuality. Sometimes i kind of like girls but im mostly towards men. I fear that im gonna lead this boy on and im not even 100% of my sexuality. Does anybody else relate?

I am struggling bad tonight. My partner focused ROCD is flaring up so bad. I get very triggered when my husband shaves his beard (and he has to because he’s in the military ) because he has a bit of a double chin, not because he’s overweight but because he has a bit of an overbite/ overjet, which predisposes him to make it look like he has a double chin. I am hyper fixating on it so much and it’s making me so sad and bitter. I hate this. I’ve been looking at old pictures (partly to remind myself of when he had a beard, which is my preferred look). It gives me both relief (because I know he can always grow out his beard when he gets out of the military) and partly it gives me stress (because that’s not how he looks right now). This hyperfixation is making me feel like I’m not attracted to him and I’m getting so depressed over it. What do I do? It’s not like I can will myself to be more attracted to him in this moment. I know he’s a very attractive man and a lot of women would kill to be with him, but I can’t get this out of my head. 🥺

i completed my 15 minute free call and got scheduled with a therapist next week. i’m so afraid i won’t be able to hold out until then, that my thoughts will continue eating away at me and something bad will occur. i don’t know how long i can take it without having someone to talk to or give me a diagnosis. i’m afraid to tell my parents or close cousin about this topic, so i really have no one right now. thoughts?

Hello. So for the past month and a half i’d say, i have been feeling really depressed and anxious especially about my relationship. Before this started me and my boyfriend were fighting a lot but i still looked at him like the world stopped spinning. One night after an argument, me and him were kinda just sitting around and i got this feeling of “do i have feelings for him anymore” ever since that night i haven’t been able to completely shake this feeling. I still enjoy his company and love when he texts me and i love cuddling and all that stuff. I have realized more things/toxic traits i had to work on with this feeling of anxiety which is a good outcome. I have thought about breaks or breaking up but deep down i felt like that wouldn’t solve anything. I could be having a great time and think only positive thoughts about life and my relationship and then all of the sudden think “do i like him” “is this real or fake love” “is being single better” but in reality i want to be with him and see myself with him even though lately i feel like it’s hard to see the future ever since that night. I keep trying to get a therapist but the wait lists are extremely long. I just really need some advice or someone tell me how to fix this and how to become me again because it’s really starting to take over my life and i feel like a totally different person.

At some point withouth anxiety did you "came out" as your fear sexual orientation did any of you felt some sort of peace? Like it was true and you were ok with it, and not just for a second, like it lastes some minutes at least. I fear being gay but once I came out as bi and now that memory it's comming back to me (I don't wanna be bi either)

My ex & I have slowly become more serious and had a talk about how we can handle conflicts better. My guilt is starting to come up again about things from the past. I mean we didn’t officially date til end of 2020-2021 and then broke up in the beginning of 2022 due to my ocd bringing up every single thing I have lied about in our past and he got mad b/c I lied so he left me for being dishonest. Well, I remember small things I did when we were not together AT ALL and he once told me if there was anything else he should know I should tell him and I can’t tell what he needs to know and doesn’t need to know? I already confessed TOO MUCH. I mean so damn much. And all of the confessions were when we didn’t even date officially & he had done a lot of stuff too. It’s the details that my ocd is latching onto and feeling the need to tell him. Like for example, the time I attempted to make an onlyfans and gave up after an hour cuz I didn’t wanna risk it (and thank god I didn’t do it I would have regretted it badly) or the time I broke into a pool with a couple of guys we know and my friend and went “skinny dipping” I just was in my underwear and bra. It’s like do I need to tell him all this info? PROBABLY NOT. His whole thing with me too is he won’t tell me stuff b/c he knows it’ll hurt me so it’s best to just know yeah stuff has happened but we don’t do that anymore so let’s let it go. YES. That’s what I want! A normal brain would think that & that’s what I would think. But my ocd is itching to tell him every damn thing so that way he can fully determine if I’m worthy enough. ITS FUCKING MAKING ME SAD. I hate it. I just want to keep things for myself and I just ducking can’t. And I have not mastered this confessing compulsion at all. I’ve resisted with my bestfriend who I used to literally steal clothes from when we were like 13 but I can’t help but confess every other thing. It makes me so anxious to the point that I can’t function unless I spill my guts. And then I lose everything by doing so. Ugh idk what to do.

I get intrusive thoughts about harming my daughter. I’ll get an intrusive thought and then I’m my head I’ll say to myself “I don’t want to hurt her” repeating until I feel better. Well “what if I want to hurt her “ popped into my head and now I’m second guessing myself. I have doubt. I know if it came down to it I’d never hurt my baby but the fact that I doubted it is like replaying in my head. I’m scared. I want to cry. I feel like I want to turn to god and ask for help but I’m scared to cause that could mean I’m being delusional. I’ve never been super religious but grew up with a religious family so now that I want to turn to god I’m like am I being delusional? Is this my OCD? I know I’m not supposed to ask for reassurance but I need to know if I’m going crazy or something. My heart hurts. My brain is tired. And I’m scared.

I know groinal responses usually happen with intrusive thoughts and everything. But I’ve gotten them to things that I hear and they weren’t sexual at all and that makes me worry that I am what I fear :/

I just got in a very heated argument with my controlling grandmother, and I’ll admit I acted like an absolute @ssh0le. I’ve been struggling with obsessive thoughts way heavier than usual the past few days and after the argument, I went upstairs feeling some guilt when suddenly I started obsessing over God taking something from me because of it. I then got a random thought I guess I’ve confused as my own… I thought “God take my abilities” and that’s literally the LAST thing I’d ever want. That was where my ocd started getting bad was back when I started thinking he would take from me. Now I fear that because I acted like that with my grandmother, and then came upstairs and thought “You can take my abilities” that He will. I don’t see a way out of this one, atleast not tonight

This case has convinced me because of my ocd, I am unworthy of motherhood. I have harm ocd so how bad would my PP ocd be? It’s honestly my biggest fear to ever hurt someone it makes me sick to think about. I have been a wreck all night and just want to cry. My fiancé wants a child. So do I. But how do I tell him I don’t think I can do it now. My advice is not to get on Tik tok if this story triggers you bc it’s flooded with videos. I feel hopeless about this and it’s even triggered my harm ocd in general about anyone and anything right now. Ugh!!! Hugs to anyone else who is struggling. & to moms with OCD, I want you to know that you are warriors and my BIGGEST hope and inspiration. Maybe OCD will take motherhood from me, but maybe it won’t. I don’t know. I’m a mess and I feel like no one understands 🥹

So I’ve been stressing for days about this age gap between me and this boy I met. I’m 21 fm and he’s an 18 m and we’ve just been casually speaking for weeks now. He had a job didn’t go to uni so took a gap year. He’s so sweet and honestly nicer than half the guys older than me I’ve spoken to even 20 they’re just rude as fuck. But I started googling it to find out if it was weird or not and I came across this TikTok that said it’s fucked up and everyone in the comments easy saying how it’s disgusting and now I feel really weird and bad about it. We’re meant to be going on a date tomorrow and now I feel all weird about it. Is the age gap weird? It’s not paedophilic, but apparently it’s like a sup type or something for someone older to go for someone younger and I’m like wtf does that mean? Like I don’t purposely go for younger guys, it just so happens I vibe well with him and he’s really sweet. But now I feel super fucking werid about it, even though we’re both adults like I would never go for someone younger and I’m only growing older so again I wouldn’t go for anyone way younger than me at this age. Technically it’s only a 2 year age gap so idk what to do

Since I was in high school, I’ve always had the same thought being in a classroom setting, sometimes even in big public places such as the mall and movies theatre as well. That thought is the thought of a shooter coming in and killing me or everyone around me. I sometimes ever worry about this in the privacy of my own room at night and it has caused intense insomnia, even to the point where as I am catching my self falling asleep I jolt up and gasp for air. I am now at college and whenever I’m in my class room I’m constantly looking out the doors and out the windows. When I get off the elevator in my building I have this image of someone pointing a gun in my face as a get off and killing me. This fear used to only mostly be in big public spaces, but even when Im at home or in my dorm at college I am convinced something tragic and horrible is going to happen to me. I watch way too much news, and youtube, and tik tok and I feel like all of the morbid and horrible things I see online just triggers my OCD and anxiety more. Im not sure how to combat this exactly, especially since I have only seriously been obsessing over it for a few weeks.

Hey guys please comment if you can give me some advice. Not really OCD related just a life problem. I’m 19 and a content creator. I do this for a living however, recently I keep comparing my views and everything to other creators. I do the same thing they do and it doesn’t seem to work for me. I am super jealous of them and feel not worthy. Not sure why it’s not working for me. Don’t know what to do /: I’ve switched up my content so much and everything about my content gets me angry! I don’t know what to do🥲

Two years ago, I had a nervous breakdown. My OCD was worse than ever, and I was admitted to an OCD and Trauma unit. The therapists told me to stay away from my fiancé at the time. Fast forward, he still reaches out from time to time, altho he is engaged to the lady he cheated on me with to always to put me down, and brag about himself. He just texted his life is so much better with his new fiancé and she is the love of his life. Now my anxiety is thru the roof. Can someone really contribute to exacerbated symptoms? He also said my new cat is so much cuter and sweeter than yours. Wt?