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Anyone else get a song/s stuck in their head that they dont like i have 4 and it causes me distress has tbis happened to you guys and is it ocd?

I had a terrible day yesterday, basically had a breakdown after an extremely hard exposure. After my freak out episode I was talking to my fiancé about ways to help me and he basically said he doesn’t think erp is working and is questioning whether it’s even ocd I’m experiencing. A little background on us, I’ve had many ocd themes in my life but currently struggle with postpartum ocd and constantly worry about my sons development. My partner doesn’t see anything I see and has 0 concerns and he basically thinks I’m delusional and have postpartum psychosis. Which I 100% do not agree with, I don’t have hallucinations and though my reality can be somewhat distorted by anxiety I am very much present to my surroundings. Anyway the conversation was upsetting, I feel like he wasn’t validating my experience and does not understand me. The whole thing makes me want to withdrawal from everyone. Not sure where to go from here…

Something that really trips people up is understanding what intrusive thoughts are. What I see suggested a lot is that intrusive thoughts are just unwanted, unpleasant thoughts. This however isn't really enough criteria to separate the thoughts of someone who suffers from OCD and someone who doesn't as everyone gets unwanted thoughts. Intrusive, obsessive thoughts can be defined by how disruptive they are to your daily life. It's not that people without OCD live without taking precautions, but the amount of time someone with OCD spends compulsing over the thought is very disruptive to their everyday routine. For example: a person without OCD will acknowledge the danger the sun possesses and they will probably put on sunblock to protect themselves. They can do it well enough is a short amount of time to go in with their day and don't really think much about it afterwards. However, someone with OCD may spend hours obsessing over making sure every part of them which can be burned is protected. They may even check to make sure they're not burning as the day goes on. Compulsive behaviors (checking, testing, researching, asking for opinions/reassurance) will take up the majority of their time where someone without OCD will have more "free time" to go about their day. There is no relief for the OCD sufferer in knowing they did good enough. They need to make 100% sure they won't burn in this very specific example. I hope this makes sense for those of you who ask this question frequently as I believe it is very important to understand. Many people deny to themselves that they have this disorder because they can't define these thoughts properly and they get stuck on whether or not their thoughts constitute as being intrusive. Remember: just because you feel you are in distress doesn't mean there's actually any danger.

It’s this real even and constantly thinking about past memories, mistakes and things I’ve done that won’t stop repeating and repeating in my head and no amount of reassurance from myself or others is ever gonna stop this constant pain! I can’t stop reliving a horrible event that I went through and that I put on myself, one that is the most horrific thing I’ve ever done and I still to this day can’t believe I did. It went against all my morals and everything I believe in. The only think I keep doing is apologising and trying to forgive myself but I just can’t. I apologise to those involved I took responsibility for my actions yet it’ll never be good enough to forgive myself. Me and my friend were talking about it and she said it’s in the past you’ve learnt and grown, but I can’t help but feel like I need to tell the guy I’m seeing that I did it, it was before I even really knew him and he changed me for the better, so the thing is dk I have to tell him? I’ve told him briefly there are things that have happened in my life that I’d rather not talk about and I’m afraid if you know you’ll hate me, but he’s always said that he’s here for my present and future not my past, that people do stupid things all the time and you’ve gotta grow from them. But I’m afraid if he ever does know, that he’ll hate me forever. But I’m deeply in love with the boy, I can’t see me being anywhere else but with him. And I’ve explained several times that I hate myself for what I did but he’s never once pushed me to tell him, said he’s done things he ain’t proud of as well, that at the end of the day life is life we’ve gotta move forward. But my brain won’t let me and idk what to do. I don’t wanna think this way anymore. One day I’ll tell him, and he knows that. But for now I wanna enjoy my life. But I keep thinking I have to tell everyone every single thing I ever think, or do, even if they weren’t involved and it was ages ago, I feel like I have to otherwise I’m lying when I’m not. It’s painful

still anxious still anxious still anxious still anxious

Anyone else feel like if there weren’t any truth to their thoughts the obsession wouldn’t be this intense? Like I’ve had intrusive thoughts about a lot of things but the ones that stick are the ones where I’m not as sure that I don’t want to do it/there’s a part of me that I feel like would and that makes my ocd go crazy

I’ve been struggling with ROCD and POCD over the last month, they seem to be separate issues but sometimes interact with each other. Me and my girlfriend have only been dating for 3 months but it feels like 3 years. We are extremely comfortable with each other, talk about plans in the distant future, we are alike in so many ways, and after all the relationships i’ve had, she feels like “the one”. I’ve even told her about all my struggles and she is extremely supportive, even bought me a book on ocd, however now i’m doubting the relationship and having other struggles. It first started when I was watching a movie, the main characters girlfriend had a cute best friend, and my girlfriend has a cute best friend, this triggered me to wonder “what if i leave my girlfriend for her best friend since i find her attractive, how tragic would that be?” and I started worrying and ruminating about this for a week until something else caught my attention. A few days later I saw a video of a woman saying “pedophiles shouldn’t be punished because they can’t help that they are attracted to younger kids.” This got me very scared, i have loved little kids my whole life, my mom runs a daycare too, so i’m always helping out with them, they are all so adorable, and i’ve never had an intrusive thought about kids in the past. But then my brain went “you think your gf is cute and adorable, just like you think little kids are adorable, does that mean you are attracted to them?” and then that has been an on and off worry ever since. My main worry is usually about my relationship now, i’m constantly wondering if i have fallen out of love or not for my girlfriend, and constantly finding myself watching videos, or looking at pictures of her to verify my attraction, and i almost feel guilty texting her, and almost want to avoid hanging out. Last night we were laying in my bed watching a movie, and i’m thinking “why don’t I want to be intimate right now? Does that mean i’m not into her anymore?” And i looked at her, and she looked so cute, then we starting kissing, and my brain puts the thought in my head “what if this was a little girl, or what if this was a child” “you think your girlfriend is so cute and are kissing her, would you do that to a child?” and instantly i wanted to stop making out, it just disgusts me that i’m having these thoughts and makes me want to avoid everything. Thank you for reading this essay of a post if you did, if anyone has any tips or has ever experienced anything similar, please let me know 🙏❤️

Sometimes it's hard to differentiate between PTSD and OCD. I am very specific about rules and I was taught my whole life to always abide by rules. I feel like sometimes my sense of what is "right" can overpower my loyalty and it can hurt my relationships. My partner seems to have a very privileged life, where his parents ALWAYS back him up and always support his side of everything. My parents would straight up tell me if I was wrong in any given situation, and I feel like this helped me learn lessons. Examples: Last night, my partner downloaded a soft aim bot in a competitive FPS game. He claimed everyone else uses cheats, so that should excuse his use of cheats. Being a gamer myself, the existence of cheaters doesn't bother me too much because I have some sense of karma, and I know I am gaining more from any experience in which I am honest. His account got banned and he was really upset last night about it. I kind of had an attitude that he got what he deserved. I hope every cheater in every situation is caught because rules are important to me and without them, life would be even more chaotic then it already is. He was upset that I didn't have any sympathy and made me feel like I was doing something wrong for not agreeing with him. I told him if he appeared to have learned a lesson (don't cheat) and if he showed that he was sorry for his actions and felt bad, I probably would feel sorry. The vibes I got from him were that he was more upset that he was caught. My OCD brain constantly wonders where his sense of entitlement comes from. I wonder if he just has that entitlement from being a white male, if his parents just always back him up, if he is a sociopath, if it's normal and I am just traumatized, if it's normal and I'm a sociopath for not empathizing, and a hundred other possibilities. His sense of entitlement mixed with my strong sense of justice and equality ends up with me putting my morals before him in situations like these. Any insight?

My boyfriend was texting with another girl he knew from school. He texted with her a couple of months now and not very often. But last night she got mad because she found out he had an relationship with me. He told me about it and said that he felt bad and that he knew he was wrong. He let me see all the messages. The girl had also taken screenshots. They talked about meeting up, but that was not serious he said. And that they were joking. I was mad and I said not again, my ex really cheated on me and he knew that I was scared it would happen again. We talked a lot and I said very clear and mad: if you ever do that sort of thing again we are done. I give him another chance because he’s really sweet for me and does a lot for me. But I said my trust is gone and we need to work on that. Today he’s really showing me everything on his phone and deleted the girl. Is this right or wrong that I go on? I really love him and he’s even gonna tell his mom.

A lot has been on my mind lately. I just can't seem to stop these intrusive thoughts... my mind's been racing since the time I woke up.. I'm tired, really tired.. I just want these thoughts to go away...

so i’ve suffered with rocd and pocd the most. rocd has always been centred around me feeling like i’ve cheated or scared about it and always feeling guilt since for 7 years. so i had a wedding over the weekend. it was over two days. so the first day i was avoiding walking near kids bc of the pocd but i was also trying to avoid walking next men too bc i didn’t want to for obvious reasons. but there was an incident the next day at the wedding where i saw someone standing a bit of a distance away from where i was walking but i had to walk past them. i think i was unsteady anyway bc i was wearing heels. but i am always so careful around the opposite sex and always avoid talking to them / being around them when i can. like leaning against them or brushing past them is my biggest ocd fear. but when i was walking past i think my heels may have made me unsteady i’m not sure but i walked towards the person (not right near them) and i was getting thoughts like idc you want to do this you want to brush past them and straight after i got to where i needed to go i felt so much anxiety it’s unreal. like i accepted those thoughts true ay the time, did i walk towards the person on purpose? i never wanna cheat on my bf. i hate the idea of it. i literally avoid social media apps bc i’m scared of what if i message someone etc. i screen record everything i do as proof i haven’t messaged anyone. i don’t even speak to guys as friends. i’ve cut so many people off too. did i do something wrong? can ocd make you feel like you want to do something? i feel so much guilt it’s unreal like why did i take a step towards the person?? i must be a cheater.

hi uhhh i just got this app because as a teen for awhile now ive been thinking i have some form of OCD and i also found the website after searching up “how to stop picking your skin” lol. anddd i guess this is just a safe space where you can just dump some stuff so i have no idea how this started, but it mustve started in 5th grade and just got worse later on in the next few years. It started from jumping onto specific patterns on the carpet to really strict “rituals” that i must follow or else something bad will happen. during quarantine which was like in 6th grade, i developed this weird thing i do where i have to say “done” 3 or 5 times in my head whenever an intrusive thought or just something i dont like thinking about comes up. then it kinda slowly grew to be a habit everyday. then it just didnt feel like enough, so then i had to start saying done 5 times vocally, i couldnt do it inside my head or else it wouldnt be enough, its really strange and funny when saying this but it does get embarrassing when youre doing it in public. common phrase is “done x5 nothing bad ever happens to you or anyone ok ok its ok ok” and ive been saying that for a year now. sometimes people would hear me and i would have to try my best to excuse it theres also this thing thats also embarrassing to do in public like, sometimes one foot would feel right and i have to stomp the floor to get rid of that feeling, but then i feel like i stomped too hard so i have to cancel it out by stomping with the other foot instead IDK maybe its like a sensory issue? sometimes i even have to do a little hop so it can even eachother out lol. theres also this one phrase i have to say before i use the bathroom but i wont say what it is oh god i also have this weird fear of certain numbers, 2 is a big number i hate for some reason. like a lot of things associated with 2 i dunno why. just an unlucky number. it becomes a problem for a lot of things. i cant come up with an example on the spot but a common one is that sometimes ill mess up 2 times, so ill have to mess something up a 3rd time or else something bad will happen. i also hate the number 4 sometimes because 4 divided by 2 is 2 (2 even appeared 2 times in that sentence, thats a lot of 2). 6 is a nice number i guess but its still divisible by 2 a really bad one though thats been affecting me lately is the feeling that some sort of upper higher being is watching me and making things happening to me or something. im not religious, but for the last year and this year everytime im happy something bad happens right after, and when im sad either something good happens or nothing happens at all. maybe it really is just some giant coincidence but everytime i get excited, happy, hopeful and like any of the positive emotions, something ruins it. usually when i get excited or happy later on something makes me cry, have a panic attack, or just make me feel bad in general. its like i cant even be happy for a few days. another one is certain clothing. i have always wanted to wear dresses and skirts and just embrace being feminine in general, but the times where i did wear a skirt or dress or just rlly nice clothing in general, it always had something bad happen. Wore a nice skirt for the 2nd to last day of school? i got covid on that day and missed the last day of school, never got to say goodbye to my friends, cried for 3 hours straight and it took awhile to get over it. Wore a nice outfit for that family christmas party? I knew nobody there and i had to sit in the livingroom where nobody was there so i could have a panic attack in peace (my brother also went to his friends house and left me alone with my dying phone ty brother, i mean i got to pet the dogs after i calmed down so thats nice). And the time where i wore a skirt for the last day of school because “oh its just a coincidence nothing bad actually happens when i wear a skirt” i spent majority of the day alone and my phone got broken beforehand so all i could do was wait in line for food and shaved ice, eat, watch the other people have fun, and miserably attempt to fix my phone or play on the chromebook. this was also the time where i lost pretty much all my irl friends. (this was an outside party btw) ok yea maybe i wont ever wear dresses or skirts ever again. dont think this is a serious thing but im still salty about it lol im not actually diagnosed, i just feel like after researching symptoms of ocd this is what i resonate with most, if it isnt ocd then it just has to be something atleast, i couldnt fit in at all with other people so i know damn well i have something and im pretty mad i dont know what it is in summary hi i am random kid struggling with weird things that i could never mention to other people

Hey guys my names Jessica and I’m 17 years old with severe ocd and last year I figured out I have been struggling with severe OCD all my life without knowing it , when I was younger I always felt like there was something extremely wrong or that I just had “really bad anxiety “ and I wasn’t able to pinpoint the exact issue, it was like this huge feeling of clarity when I realized that it’s been ocd all along! Now I’m currently in therapy with NOCD , trying to learn how to live with uncertainty and ocd! It’s been extremely hard , but I’m hopeful . My family doesn’t really understand what it feels like to live with ocd and I don’t have any friends who have ocd it’s been extremely lonely feeling like there’s no one who really understands me. so I was wondering if there’s any one 16-18 who’s also struggling with ocd aswell and looking for support or a friend aswell. and we can be in touch possibly through Instagram, or something! To whom Evers reading this if your not comfortable with that that’s completely okay I just thought I would share this and I really would love to make some new friends who understand how it feels like to live with ocd! (:

Having more good days than bad ones. But still currently feel guilty i get these thoughts of my ex, and i feel like im lying to my partner. I already cause him a lot of pain with all this. Sometimes i just want to be normal again, and enjoy things. go out with him without having these random thoughts that make me so anxious.

does anyone else feel the need to share unnecessary thoughts with their boyfriend because they feel guilty for their thoughts?

Hi all, what is the best medication for OCD I’m currently taking lexapro 20mg. It does the job for the most part but not fully. Not looking for a miracle potion but just thought I’d ask what everyone else’s experience’s were and if any in particular work better for this shitty condition. Thanks !

I know that a lot of people have been enduring their OCD for years and years, and I can’t imagine bearing the mental anguish and physical toll of this disorder for years to come. For me, it literally came out of the blue in April when all my life I lead a normal, mostly free OCD life. I would say I did have some very mild signs of it but nowhere near now. Contamination OCD has been consuming my life and I know it’s only been 3 months, and while I’ve been doing ERP and it has helped, this is so difficult. Like I’ll overcome one compulsion and bam my mind will automatically give me another, it’s never ending, as if I can’t catch a break. I was wondering if anyone had a similar experience?

I don’t know who I am or what I want anymore. I’ve been going to therapy for OCD for 6 months and I haven’t gotten much better. The only thing that feels better is that I know I have OCD. I feel like I am in a trance or something where I just cannot help myself. Im in some type of loop where I feel like I have no motivation to better myself and improve. I don’t know if I like hanging out with my friends anymore and I don’t know what im supposed to like. This is a living nightmare and the brain fog only makes it worse. I am only getting agitated and angrier and I am just so tired of this sickness.

I have made up this lie and know my friend is hit by it, I want to tell them the truth but I am so scared of everyone leaving me I want to tell the truth but I don't want to loose them badly

Anyone suffering from real event/false memories OCD or both have the habit to think hard about the past to check if you did nothing wrong but it’s all foggy and it leaves you very uncertain? I am currently struggling with this because I was accidentally exposed to adult content at such a young age and I am so afraid that I might have shown it to my lil sis. Like, I am so afraid to be a bad sister to her. I confess to her and she told me that it’s okay since she doesn’t remember anything and that I haven’t shown her anything inappropriate. She tells me that I have been a very good sister but I can’t shake off the feeling. Can any of you give me tips on how to forgive and/or move on from my past?