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I have obsessive fear of a robber or murderer breaking into my house. I don’t see this theme talked about often, does it even have a name?

I think I’ve been having a sort of relapse. I’m waking very early in the morning with a feeling of anxiety. I don’t want to feel depressed again and I don’t think I want to think these things. I just have a sense of doubt. I’m sorry I really am.

I asked myself if I am in love with my partner and I said yes. I am but scared. I am lying to myself. That I don’t love him anymore. I still show love so that has to mean something right? 😢💔 am I just in denial at this point. Do I just want someone better than him… I know from watching videos that there is always gonna be someone better no matter who you’re with… But I don’t want to break up at least I don’t think so… 💔 I don’t know if I convinced myself to feel this way or not but I wanna work on our relationship that has to mean something right!?

I need some peace of mind or advice. I don’t know if it is my ocd but I feel immense guilt over everything & anything. I was friends with a girl who was pregnant and I cared about her and thought we were good friends. I haven’t know her long but she asked me to be her baby’s godmother. I ended up after a while telling her I couldn’t cuz I’m not well mentally/emotionally right now & then i tried to reach out she read & ignored my text. Then today she got in an awful car accident & her boyfriend posted the pics in our work group chat. I immediately assumed the worst and thought it was fake. It is isn’t and she lost the baby. I feel like such an awful human being for assuming something so awful. I feel such guilt cuz now the manager was wanting me to go to hospital with them & I feel like I don’t deserve to. I think it more upset me cuz the accident pics were awful and last year I lost my brother in a car accident. Please give me peace of mind I feel awful and don’t know how to get rid of the guilt of how awful I am.

Lexapro just failed for me (anxiety attacks shortly after taking a dose, insomnia, muscle tightness, and most recently derealization). Is it normal to try another SSRI or typical to try another class of drugs? Would it make sense for me to just try therapy without medication? My symptoms were at worst clinically mild up until recently, and my more severe onset has a pretty clear cause, so part of me wonders if it’s better to focus on therapy considering how rough these SSRIs have been on me. I realize this is absolutely in medical advice territory but just curious of other peoples’ experiences. I’m going in to talk to my doctor on Monday and would just like to have an idea of what options I have without going down a research rabbit hole which will almost definitely not be good for my OCD.

I feel scared writing this. Like many of you I am in the middle of "is this really OCD?" For a long time it wasn't really there beyond rOCD, but it started with some themes around being a monster in some way, and then pOCD. I think it has morphed into this fear about being attracted to teenagers and what it means about me. Like, if I find a 16 year old attractive, that means something horrible. Or what if I find an adult attractive that looks young? What if I am really more attracted to teenagers than people my own age? I don't have many intrusive thoughts but often get a surge of anxiety when seeing a high school or college aged person. When it first started out, I was concerned that it was children, but that has really stopped now. I would never do anything, but it's what it means about me (and honestly, being alone forever, which is my core fear around my relationship ocd- if it is ocd, really gets at that). I can't sit here and say that I don't feel attraction to teenagers on some level. It makes me so anxious and I can't stop thinking about it and I want it to go away. I even read an article a long time ago that finger ratios have something to do with prenatal hormones, and I have measured my hands a bunch because my hands are really weird. No matter what this is, it just feels hopeless. I don't want to be this way.

TW: animal death mention struggling a lot with this. Not sure if I actually should break up with my boyfriend because he’s not right for me or because we’re growing in different directions, or if this is just ROCD. I’ve been pushing him away recently after my OCD got rly bad after I had to put my cat down last week. I’m thinking about all the negatives in our relationship like how we haven’t been motivating or inspiring each other much, I feel stagnant a lot of the time but that’s mostly my own fault because I’m not working on myself enough, he doesn’t really have the same type of intellectual interests as me and I think I’d want to be with someone who is more like that, and other stuff like that… instead of focusing on the positives like about how we have slowly been working on the motivation and inspiration, how he’s taught me a lot of cool stuff about music which I enjoy, and how he does try to read the book I bought him even tho it’s a tough read. It feels like I’m forcing myself to look at the positives while the negatives occupy my rumination almost constantly. Also dealing with SO-OCD. I’m bisexual (not OCD; I am genuinely attracted to women even more than men) and fantasize about being with a woman instead and think it would be better for me even though my boyfriend is the loveliest person I know and I enjoy being with him for the most part except in times like this and would never cheat on him. Even during sex I dissociate and am sometimes imagining having sex with a woman instead. Or focus too much on how I look and act during it and imagine being in my bfs position and having another girl in mine. I think about other women a lot and how I find them generally much more attractive than other men. Sometimes I find it hard to be attracted to him even though I know I am when I’m feeling better. Ive never dated a woman before and I wanted to before I met him, but since we plan to be together until it just doesn’t work out then chances are we will be each others last and I’m scared that I’m missing out on something that might be better for me. I’ve been having awful anxiety and guilt about this because I don’t want to break up with him but I’m not sure if that’s just my codependent tendencies talking or if I genuinely can’t see myself without him. His birthday is in a few days and I can’t help but avoid him at this time because I’m scared that I might realize that he’s not the one for me. I wrote him a card and felt like I had to force it because all I could think about were my doubts. I’ve been having a lot of panic attacks and crying a lot over all of this. He understands that I haven’t been feeling good and is always supportive and caring, but is also sad that I’ve been avoiding him and I feel like he is starting to think that I don’t love him anymore or don’t want to be with him because he started asking me about that. Which makes me feel even more guilty and wanting to isolate even more than I did before. I don’t know what to do and I’m scared to see him in fear of the possibility that doing so will trigger these thoughts and lead me to break up with him.

I’m convinced that I want to act on my thoughts, is this normal for harm ocd? I worry that maybe it’s not ocd and maybe I want these things to happen. I just feel like I’m the one exception where it’s not ocd and I like these thoughts. Anyone?

I’m on and off with my OCD. It feels all too real at times, and nonexistent at others. I’m heavily considering going medication as i feel it may be what I need to breakthrough this spell. What is your alls experiences with meds and what did you take? Please share all the good, bad and in-between!

Does anyone experience obsessions and compulsions around repeating to do lists? Checking calendars? Fear of forgetting something that is on the to do list?

Some memories are coming up and is so bothersome. Its been 5 almost 6 years and I have confessed back than (which I shouldn’t). Weather sometimes brings those memories back but Iam staying strong sitting with this uncomfortable feeling. Just wanted to vent a little. 💜

After almost breaking up with my boyfriend last night, I’m waking up experiencing relief. I just don’t get it. These thoughts feel so real in the moment, I literally feel crazy.

I am working with my therapist on how to love myself. For years I have beaten myself up in my head and he is trying to get the point across to me that no matter what you need to love yourself… and it is hard to put into practice? Non- OCD related but any advice?

Last night I was at a party and my friend that I like was here and I idk but I think I really do have a crush on him but I mean it’s not a problem it’s not my fault I can’t help that stuff but basically we stayed up late and we both ended up falling asleep and I slept on his shoulder…. Idk what to do I love my boyfriend sooo much but I feel like I’m « falling for someone else » but I don’t wanna leave my boyfriend like 4 days ago I felt really really in love with me I was picturing myself with his baby but when I see my friend I feel attracted I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend is everything for me i don’t wanna risk it all for someone else idk what to do when I see my friend I wanna kiss him but I don’t do it obviously because I’m in a relationship that makes me happy and again I love my boyfriend. I think my ocd probably makes it a bigger deal then it is but maybe it’s not ocd this time idk

My mother killed herself this week. I've been struggling a lot. But my boyfriend keeps asking me questions about our relationship that create arguments. I'm a peaceful person. I love people with all my heart. But he keeps creating arguments for whatever thing I do. He even wanted to break up with me because I confused him with another guy in a picture where everybody was wearing the same clothes, hair and mask. Right now, he texted me saying that he had to tell me something. Again. He always has something to tell me. And I always try to fix everything. I don't know what he's going to tell me. What else I've done badly. What else I've made to hurt him. On the same day my mother died, I sent him a voice message, because we are a distance relationship, saying that I'm sorry for hurting him for the misunderstanding about the picture, for everything he has complained about me. That I never wanted to hurt him. That it has never been my intention. I don't know what he will tell me now, I'm waiting for his message. Today it's my mother's funeral. Such a great for complaining about me again, isn't it?

With OCD I feel like I’m more scared of myself. I will sometimes try to ignore watching something with a kid in it because I’m scared I’ll feel some sort of attraction. And I get really uncomfortable with myself if that kid is really young or isn’t in clothing. So I tend to try to distract myself. And once I feel like I’m having a groinal response I start to panic and feel like you know what, it’s probably not OCD and I’m just a bad person so I should just end my life. I don’t know what to believe anymore. I feel like I’m so different from everyone else with POCD because they know they won’t act on them, they just get intrusive thoughts. And I feel like I could possibly act on them. And I would hate myself for coming to that point in my life. I can’t even look at a guy I like because I start questioning why I like them? Is it because they have childlike features? Is it because they’re goofy and it reminds me of a child? I feel so gross and I’ve grown such a hatred for myself. I’ve come so close to suicide many times since this has started. I just want to know how can you just move past this? Because I feel like it would be selfish of me to not take this seriously. I feel like I should report myself or something. I’ll question myself if I want to hurt a kid. And I honestly don’t know anymore. I’ve lost so much confidence in myself. I don’t know who I am. And I fear I’ve become the person I’ve always feared and hated.

Hi, one of my current issues is feeling guilty.. but would OCD be the issue that I kept looking? So.. I'm 36, a few months ago I would have been 35 and while a girl got off the bus I was driving I noticed her legs and thought nice legs! It progressed to looking at her and thinking she's attractive?! Then other thoughts because she's around 15 I thought she'll be fine when she's say 18/19? Cos I felt bad because of her age! Then I thought but by then she might not be exactly like she is now etc, maybe a little more weight etc, and my mind was saying I like her as she is now! She was quite well made anyway as such. Anyway.. then another girl, similar age, same thing I noticed her legs, then her face etc, thought she's nice too! Would have a glance most days!? Fast forward to a different day, different school run and there's a blonde girl, 15 too, last year of high school and I thought nice legs! (Now I had already been feeling a bit guilty about this with the other ones, and even when pick up time came my mind thought it about others who were maybe 14 etc! Again...guilt! Anyway this blonde went on for weeks, some days I would say I'm not looking at her today etc cos I felt guilty, but I did and sometimes just a glance for a few seconds! One day she got on with tight leggings etc, I ended up feeling aroused altho I tried to halt it straight away! Altho when she was walking away after getting off her legs/butt etc were showing obv in the leggings I thought how could any male not find that attractive? Then another day I had a sexual intrusive thought! Again ogjt arousal which I tried to suppress straight away! So I have OCD and even guilt from this which is making me do compulsions and I'm trying to stop them too as it's hard, but what I'm asking is does this all sound like obsessive behaviour which has caused me alot of guilt and lead to some sort of contamination (incase I've touched something she has etc) I need to clean. I get OCD and I know plenty about intrusive thoughts which I've also had on other people etc so my OCD has been on a high for months now, I just need some other opinions as to wether this all seems out of proportion and OCD like? Is it normal even as a man to think 'ah she's nice or got nice legs' wether it's a 30 year old or 15, (Not a 5 year old!) She was 15 and tall enough etc, then that's that or has it gotten more obsessive probably be ause of OCD and guilt etc. Any help would be appreciated.

We just talked about Jeffrey Dauhmer in my sociology class and all the crazy things he did. Now my mind keeps thinking/picturing everything and it’s making me sick. Then my harm ocd gets triggered and says I’m like him and tries to imagine me doing worse things..anyone else? Any tips? I start erp in two weeks.

Does anyone see someone recover and get scared there never gonna recover

ocd has been so bad lately; rearing it’s ugly head and making things so hard. why can’t i do everyday tasks without a compulsion?? can’t it not for one day….is that so hard for it??? like pls let me live in peace