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I’m worried I don’t do compulsions and therefore don’t have ocd ? What would class as compulsions for hocd ?

Hi everyone - having a pretty bad episode currently and can’t eat/sleep. On Thursday, I went out with my boyfriends friends and got a little too drunk. I remember getting to the bar and I made it home safely, I just don’t remember the in between. (I know the consequences of alcohol and OCD - this was an accident and will be avoided!) On Friday morning, I woke up in intense distress that something happened with one of his friends at the bar - so much so false (or real??) flashes of a memory popped in my mind. I can’t tell if it’s OCD again or real this time. Cheating ocd is a common theme for me but still feels really scary and real. I’ve avoided asking the guy bc that could come off bad/crazy or remind him it actually happened if it did?? But the guy liked my IG story and a post and it’s sent me spiraling. I feel (and my friends I’ve asked feel) if something actually happened I’d be confident that I did something bad and have heard something by now but what if the information is being hidden? I’ve been running all around on Reddit, forums google etc. for answers if it’s OCD. am I just faking the OCD fear to absolve myself of doing something bad? Is it real this time? It feels really bad and scary but I haven’t heard anything? It’s getting a bit better but is my mind just hiding it from me? Any tips? Please help. Would I know for sure if this happened? Would someone tell me? Help.

Can someone tell me their false memory’s combined with hocd ?

my ocd has had one of its worse spikes yet, I feel constantly anxious no matter what I do and my brain won't shut up even for a moment, I genuinely don't know what to do, I feel like I'm stuck. how do I make this a little more bearable?

I’m dealing from depression from my ocd, aside from that I have really bad anxiety and a lot of other life problems. I thought I was doing well at work, I’ve obviously been told about a few things that I’ve done wrong but overall I felt I was doing really well, but turns out I’m not which made me very upset because I’m doing my best but it’s still not enough, it’s also not the first time it happens at a job, which means I’m the problem, but I don’t know how to fix it, I’m genuinely doing my best giving it my all, I’m not lazy at all, and it’s still not enough. I’m tired of existing honestly ocd was already a problem for me and now I’m failing at life. I honestly can’t anymore…

I feel a lot more calm than I did a week ago, and I know I am not gay or bi, but since I’m not having full blown panic attacks or crying, I’m now anxious that I was just in denial? Idk, deep down I know I only ever want to be with a man, but it’s almost like the anxiety gave me comfort that I’m straight. I still have false attraction but even then I know deep down that it’s just not true, but it makes me uncomfy. I hope this makes sense, I’m not sure how I’m supposed to feel after learning about how my brain works and calming myself. Anyone else experience this?

something i struggle a lot with is the belief that i’m a bad person deep down and i’m waiting for other people to realize it. i had a former friend who tended to confront me about things she was mad about a lot and it made me really paranoid about how she saw me and solidified the fact that i was a bad person. eventually the fear centered entirely around her and i used to look at her socials and reread our old messages to look at things i said constantly to make sure she wasn’t mad at me/that i wasn’t a bad person. is it possible for ocd to latch onto a specific person like that outside of rocf?

Please dont judge me. I'm struggling really hard. Don't even know how to continue my life. I experienced having urges and why I want to do that. I had a intrusive thought of carrying and hugging my son in a sexual way. Asking myself why I want to do that???I wanted to get rid of this feeling. And I remember I said to myself. I used to carry him and hug him before without the thought of any sexual thing or malice. And then I tried doing the thought. Then i said to myself Maybe i can do that because i dont feel any sexual thing so the thought and feeling will stop. Then i did. I hugged him very tight and carry him although not exactly the same with my intrusive thought. I swear to God. I didn't feel any sexual thing.and I believe I didn't do anything sexual because I didnt feel any arousal or what. And if i really did something sexual i should felt pleasurable and not feeling distress of getting rid of the feeling. Then the my feeling calm down.but after analysing of what I did. I feel so guilty. I feel like a bad mother. I feel like I molested my son.. I dont have any intention of harming my son. I just wanted that feeling to go away. This was happened a year now. But still I feel guilty ashamed I can't even look at my son. I just want to go back to my normal life. I dont know if what I did is also a compulsion or what? I can't forgive myself. I dont want to go jail. I didn't mean any sexual. 😭😭😭😭😭

i saw a picture of a pretty girl on instagram just now and the first intrusive thought that came to my mind was me saying i would love to *insert the most horrible sexual abusive thing* to her. i am absolutely disgusted with my brain and i want to throw up. why would i even get that thought. i’m not even sexually active and would never do ANYTHING to hurt anyone. i get the worst sexually intrusive thoughts and it makes me feel awful because that is just not me. but my ocd makes me feel like it is. i don’t want to think like this anymore. why does my ocd make me suffer in this way. i would take any other form of ocd over this. does anyone else get these intrusive thoughts or is it just me

I feel so convinced it’s not ocd and I try to remind myself it is but it’s extremely hard and I’m so exhausted trying to fight my ocd and tell it that the things it’s telling me aren’t true because they’re starting to feel so real and I hate it but I’m not anxious anymore I think I’m just tired and trying to accept these thoughts or feelings but it’s so hard I just want to feel like myself again and be in a relationship without over thinking everything (suffering with Tocd and soocd and am a girl and want to be a girl) but this is all so hard I feel like I don’t know who I am anymore and I’m trying to get used to how things are now so I can just try and live but i feel like I can’t or when I feel like my old self it feels wrong and I get anxious and now I just feel like I’ll be alone forever because I don’t want to be with girls but I feel like I can’t be with a guy anymore I don’t want to live with this anymore I’m so tired of my head and my brain I hate this so much

Exposure Went and sat next to males in the library Ok I allowed the thoughts in I liked thoughts (even though I don't) I'm scared because I don't have anxiety My mind went to how I was before I shouldn't have to be dealing with this junk My anxiety is kinda there but still like ohh f off Then think of how I was before and when will my Joy for hobbies come back I don't want to be gay I'm scared I'm not really doing reassurance therefore I have to create reassurance to make sure it's ocd Watches the trailer for broke back mountain and some scenes Felt uncomfortable And thought if I didn't have that though back feb 22 I wouldn't be in this position I'm frustrated because I want my love for hobbies to come back I can't concentrate I'm pissed off because I don't enjoy the same things I did before and feel like I'm going through the motions instead of living it Do a bit of ERP again and get pissed off there still there This is so frustrating I want to go back to how I was I just want my love for hobbies and interests to come back I'm so angry at my brother and family for making me wait around for a wedding I didn't want to go to and I wanted to go overseas You have no anxiety therefore it must be real God this is confusing Why am I not enjoying this like I use to I look at social media and just wish to go back before Feb 22 I'm pissed off I want to move on with life When I spoke to mum and she said she had a lot on her mind..... I'm pissed off because I feel like I'm using all my energy to get through the day to just do basic things. And that annoyed me more because it was her word's that caused it 30th Ok so I have to keep moving forward but Jesus Christ it's hard I'm still getting the thoughts and reacting like get stuffed, which I know is incorrect but it's tiring Get frustrated because I want to move overseas Look at work out videos like why can't I get back to that I look at dates on social media and think I wish I could go back to then It's tiring still getting them I wanna sort this out before going back to my old self Unwanted image's in my head while thinking of being with mie Doubting thoughts like you don't want this I'm pissed off because I want to get better so I can move to Denmark The stress of moving overseas flared up alongside the intrusive thoughts If I didn't have ocd I would be further along in life and it's very tiring at times I'm trying to use the emotional part of the brain to allow it but tiring Then get frustrated because I feel like my dream is slipping away It's like I've gotta figure out how to get better so the depression can lift and get back into life When I wake up the thoughts are not as bad but still thinking when will I get better and not have the thoughts Why am I not enjoying my hobbies, I have to get rid of this , I know I can't get rid of it but I'm sick of it sticking around, it's so frustrating The hocd come without anxiety, please piss off . I get fucking annoyed that the brain is still sending this same stupid message.

Has anyones ROCD been so bad that they broke up with their partner? Or they didn’t realize they had ROCD and broke up with their partner? I did and I feel alone in this aspect.

it is so weird .. like before last year i never knew what ocd or intrusive thoughts were. i never had them or was worried about them. but it took one horrifying intrusive thought that changed everything for me .. now it’s like recurring over and over .. i just wish it could go away . i wish i never had it. i miss my old self :(

I've had Pure OCD for a while. Mostly sexual or harmful stuff. But now that the summer break is over I'm back in the university, I study music. My guitar(my main instrument) is perfectly fine, also is my playing, but something always feels off, and I get anxious that I sound like crap or that my guitar might be damaged(it's a new guitar and it is expensive). Everything is fine, but in my mind something always feels wrong, there is always doubt. I hate this feeling so much, any tips on how to calm this?

I’m in my car crying so much just crying for help. Everything feels so scary and full of doom. I can’t do this anymore 💔

I’m going to Show this to my psychiatrist with the hope of getting an ocd diagnosis. I’ve left out some uncomfortable details. Does this seem enough to be diagnosed? My brain tried convincing me that I forced her into the situation (this was not the case at all but my brain still tried convincing me that I did and this included intrusive thoughts and images which caused me great distress) I then believed that the police were out to get me and this meant I found it hard leaving the house. To stop the thoughts I reached out to police, counsellors, therapists, family and friends just for some reassurance that I wasn’t a rapist and that the police weren’t out to get me. The reassurance would work for a little while and then the thoughts would continue (I still get thoughts of this to this day) At the age of 9+ I became obsessed with my appearance and the fact I was overweight. I then developed an obsession with not allowing myself to eat more than exactly 600 calories a day. If I did then I wouldn’t allow myself to eat food the next day. I would constantly weigh myself to make sure I haven’t gained weight and seeing that I haven’t was great reassurance for me. Age 15+ I still believed the police were out to get me. And was still having extreme intrusive thoughts about the event. I then started having intrusive thoughts about being gay and the thoughts were extremely distressing for me. I would constantly ask friends and family if they thought I was gay, I would constantly take online quizzes to provide short term reassurance and relief. The thoughts got in the way of my everyday life. I couldn’t look at females without panicking, I felt I had to delete all social media and my brain was always looking for ‘proof I was gay’ and it latched onto the event from earlier. I then had even more intrusive thoughts and felt that that event ‘turnt’ me gay Age 15 I got into a relationship with a male and I fell in love and the intrusive thoughts about being gay stopped, however my brain latched onto the fear of being a bad/controlling girlfriend. I asked my partner for constant reassurance that I wasn’t a bad person and that he still loved me. If I didn’t have the reassurance I would spiral with anxiety. The asking for reassurance became too much for him and we broke up. During the breakup I obsessed even more over the fact of being a bad girlfriend/person. I had intrusive thoughts of things that happened in the relationship which may mean I was a bad girlfriend. I turned to a discord server to provide me with reassurance and it temporarily relieved and then the thoughts kept going. 4 months prior to the breakup (currently) the obsessive intrusive thoughts of being gay have returned and they cause me so much distress. It’s hard to get through the day. I’m constantly asking for reassurance that I’m not gay. It’s getting in the way of my everyday life and it feels like my brain never stops.

Hey everyone, this is my first post here and I just have to get stuff off my chest. It started so randomly and so recently. I (21 m) came to accept my morality and my death at a fairly young age following watching 'UP' and my grandfather passed away. But a youtube video talking about a character struggle with their death as part of a character arc, that one line made my mind fall into a rabbit hole on death, what is death, what's after death, what's life, it's meaning, is there a God, what am I doing with my life, what do I want to do? And is it worthwhile? I felt like I like was slowly disconnecting from reality and that nothing was worth it. My interest like guitar, combat sports, pro wrestling and video games didn't bring me comfort. I've even have trouble eating, just two bites of a chicken sandwich felt like 30 bites. I've just keep thinking about my life and my inevitable death and I couldn't focus on anything else. I think it's because I feel like I'm at a war with my mind, people say life is to short and at the same time to not rush it. I am a Christian and I do believe in an after life of peace but I question what's real and what's not and I don't ever feel happy. Is anyone else going through what I'm feel I really need help.

Has any one else dealt with hair pulling and/or skin picking?? I have really bad and quite damaging habits around both and I’m just wondering if anyone has any solutions or general advice?

this disorder is so frustrating. sometimes i even doubt i have ocd because of the nature of the disease, but i’m just so tired. i’m in college right now and tbh everything is great, im hanging out with my friends, my classes are cool, the weather is getting colder again, i have a great family back at home. i feel happy but it’s like i have this giant weight im constantly carrying around because of the harm ocd. it follows me everywhere i go. i can’t look at a cat (my beloved favorite animal) without thinking “what if i want to hurt it” or thinking of something else terrible. i cant stop thinking what if i wanted to hurt everyone i love, what if i am truly an evil person. i just want to be happy, i don’t want to deal with this anymore. i’m so scared, so tired. i feel like i’m losing myself. i have been such a kind sensitive person but this disorder makes me feel evil. i don’t feel safe in my own mind. does anyone else relate :/

I try so hard to just let it be and move on with my life because there is nothing I can do to change even though I was an idiot as a teenager I’m so scared every day and I don’t know if it’s because of the ocd I don’t know anymore but I feel like I’m going crazy because it just stays in the back of my mind haunting me and the guilt, shame, whatever really hurts. I wish I could go back knowing what I know now. How could I have been so dumb