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I suffer from TOCD and ı have a question.What does it mean to feel like a girl? I'm a girl but I feel neither like a boy nor a girl.Does that mean I'm not a cisgender female?

I've been realizing that to keep going and act on values in the face if uncertain feelings is a huge commitment. It's like accepting yeah I may be "wrong" but this is what I'm gonna do cause I need to strengthen my self trust. It's so effing hard. My heart goes out to others dealing with SOOCD within a committed relationship like I am. On top of it all I am bisexual so this feels like an eternal mindfuck but somewhere within my values I know the beginning of this relationship was so good that I didnt care ir obsess over what gender my partner is not did I obsess over what exact sexuality I am. I have hope in that, but at the same time, sometimes a day with ocd is a hopeless day. My heart goes out to all who can relate. <3

I got prescribed zoloft and so scared to take it. I was up reading all these horror stories and now I'm so scared to take it.

Lately in therapy, I’ve learned how OCD doesn’t come unless there is general anxiety first. It helps me to think about what I’m actually anxious about when i start thinking irrationally with OCD. My goal right now is to feel anxious without it flipping into OCD. OCD only makes me feel some what in control when i feel helplessly anxious. It’s all a lie!

Someone please help! I feel like crying. I had an argument with my sister regarding something. I play this online game called yo world on fb and I met someone on there who also lives near me. We are close friends and she’s a girl and I’m thinking about meeting her. My ex was really toxic which traumatised me really badly and made me want to end my life. she was a girl. However I was on soo many pills because off my intrusive thoughts and anxiety that i wasn't aware of my own actions( whether i really liked her) or just wanted someone to be with me to not feel alone. i told my sister i am planning to meet up with this girl however were just good friends. i guess my sister is right about bringing someone over just to chill after meeting them once however i got really upset when my sister said that as i started to believe that she was stopping me from meeting someone and make friends. my mum got involved after i argued with my sister and said why i was getting so upset and thought i was meeting this girl ( for something else) however after my last relationship it left me questioning about my sexuality it was my first one. i don't know whether I'm bisexual or not cause whenever i watch programmes with good-looking guys i get attracted and happy. i have liked guys before. my mum is like so your bisexual means u want to be with a guy and a girl in a relationship at the same time? now i cant stop thinking about what if i want to be with two people at the same time? i'm getting scared. this thought happened after my mum said that. i don't even know if I'm bisexual or not. i feel really embarrassed having this thought. i searched on the internet. 'confused about my sexuality and lgtb came up. i saw the wore trans gender and starting thinking what if im transgender . i don't want these thoughts. i just want to be free. i can't stop thinking about my sexuality. i feel that i never liked guys when i did??? why is my brain making me feel like this. : (

Hi, I understand the legal and judicial paperwork, financial stuff and so on. But I speak English as close to native as one can, and there are many people who have basic understanding of it to be able to access people who can understand ocd, which, when you look at it many people can't. I live in eastern Europe, and I understajd the anglophone basis of this app, but why not also offer paid services to people suffering in areas outside the US, UK and the commonwealth? If anything they're much much well off than the place I live in.

My therapist is saying that if I have a thought that I've thrown away something valuable (my watch, wallet, credit cards, money, etc.), that the exposure would actually be throwing away my valuables. I'm just confused because I thought the goal of ERP was to sit with the thought & not do the compulsion (check). Not to actually make our thoughts become real...

is anybody else tired of this? the overthinking and the constant NEED to do compulsions. im really over it [ also ive been posting a lot bc i’ve been home and bored all day ]

TW I just learned a few minutes ago that searching the phrase “child pornography” on google can get you arrested because it can go into your browsers cache and then it’s considered possession of child pornography. Now I’m terrified because I’ve searched that a lot recently on a ocd compulsion binge especially since my ocd has turned to sexual taboo stuff. I never searched it to actually see anything. I think child pornography is awful. I just felt like that was the only way to get rid of the feeling of anxiety.

Just did an exposure and my anxiety is high. It feels so real :(

This could trigger schizo ocd, so please be mindful of this post. Just now I read a post talking about the fear of being schizophrenic, and for these past week I've been obsessing that I'd be arrested for a mistake and my life would be ruined. After reading the post, I was like: was this a delusion? Delusions and paranoia are symptoms of this terrible mental illness (schizophrenia), and I got so scared of losing my touch with reality and being dependent of someone's care for the rest of my life.. what if I start hallucinating about bringing harm to people? What if my family gives up on me? And then it hit me, could this be another delusion? I started crying and wondering if I could have it, and what it'd mean for my future self. I feel like both have something to do with my life being ruined, as I'm still very young and just now am orientating myself towards my adulthood. It just got too much, and I asked my mom to set an appointment with a psychologist. The professional I have in mind isn't an ocd specialist, though, so I'm so scared about being misdiagnosed.. anyone got any advice?

Can ocd be cured permanently?or symptoms are just minimised by medication and therapy sessions

I finally got prescribed zoloft. I also nervous taken it because I've heard so many bad stories even from people know. Can I hear everyone's stories from zoloft. Weather good or bad?

I don't think I will ever progress as a human being. I haven't even turned 15 yet and I've wasted the last 2 years of my life in constant dismay Even if i overcome my agony, I still have to look back at wasting lockdown, my journey into adolescence/high school, finishing grade 7 and everything else as me just being worrried. Is it ever going to get better?

How do you tell your boyfriend/so about sexual orientation ocd? I told him about ocd but I have yet to tell him my theme I’m worried as of how he’s gonna react

What do you do to help you when your depression gets really bad and you don’t feel like you belong in this world? I don’t want to hurt myself I’m just in lots of pain.

I’m curious, what is the internal dialogue others with HOCD/SOCD have within their mind? I’m curious if others think putting out their thoughts in writing might help them realize their not alone Mine: “Did I just check that guy out” “Am I attracted to him” “Yeah, he’s a good looking guy, does that mean I’m gay” “You’re gay and just not admitting it” “When are you going to tell people your gay” “Do you feel attracted to them” “Is this anxiety or feeling of desire”.

I’m really debating to go to a residential ocd treatment facility this summer or buying a car. If I buy a car I won’t be able to go cuz I’d have to keep working to pay for it. Seeing ocd specialist for an hr apparently doesn’t cut it or they aren’t willing to work with me cuz they think I need a higher level of care smh. I guess hearing that and writing it down makes me think to myself should I even continue to work if it’s apparently so bad?? Why am I even working then or am able to work and just now go to Starbucks to get me some ice coffee but apparently my ocd to is to bad to where a therapist thinks I need a higher level of care. Like I get weird thoughts that pop up when I see a girl. I get hocd thoughts when I see a dude. I have an arousal feeling that doesn’t leave me cuz of the weird thoughts that pop up when I see a girl if it wasn’t for that I would be having a happy after. I work with gay dudes and have been on antidepressants while working with gay people no interest at all in them. I don’t see why an outpatient therapist doesn’t want to work with me on this. It blows my mind. Just right before I turned 22 I purposely thought of a dude in a sexual way to to see if I could become gay but I didn’t feel anything so I don’t see why a therapist doesn’t want to help me anymore to live a better life already smfh.

Here's some hope for my fellow OCD and depression sufferers. This is my personal story (spoiler alert: it has hope and a happy ending). Without going into every single detail, I'll make this as short as possible. My entire family is plagued with some type of mental illness. I am not excluded from that. The majority of them turned to drugs and alcohol, disability or unemployment because they couldn't hold a job for very long. A fair share of them have attempted the big "S." Anyways, I personally chose not to follow their particular route in life. I've had my several struggles with major setbacks. I have had some of the worst days possible, mentally. Back in early 2020, I was FINALLY diagnosed with OCD. But still, it didn't make complete sense. I just didn't believe it and I felt otherwise. Based on what I personally experienced while spending several years stuck deep inside my head, I was convinced I was crazy. Literally crazy. I felt severe doubt, nothing made sense and I became paranoid. I was also severely depressed which in turn fueled my OCD. There were days that I wasn't sure how I could go on another day. I started losing all hope. Thankfully, for the sake of my kids and my own determination, I somehow knew I'd get the help I need. I saw several therapists, doctors and consulted my friends and family. Mind you, OCD was very unknown within my family so they weren't of any help or support. I felt alone and disconnected. Finally, my FIFTH therapist, from this very app helped me navigate my OCD and helped me understand it a lot better. With that said, I would still continue to relapse and become angry with the lack of results but I kept on trying. I ended up combining therapy with my own research on this disorder to the point I finally understood it better. Ironically, what helped me the most was learning what OCD was and how it worked but also learning to not understand how it worked. Confused? I know I was. I learned that OCD is hyper awareness of meaningless thoughts that we all have. These thoughts scare us, therefore, we obsess about them as if they mattered. At the same time, understanding the above paragraph allowed me to realize I need to stop trying to understand those random terrifying thoughts and leave them be. I understood that I needed to stop understanding everything that entered my mind and just let it be. That's mindfulness. Fast forward to today, I am happy, content and I can allow my silly thoughts to pass thru my mind, no matter how terrifying they seem. I've learned that by doing NOTHING about them, I've trained my mind to disregard them. I struggled for years while trying to correct the thoughts without result. So why was I still trying? That's what I learned. Let them go. You aren't a bad person. You aren't sick. You aren't crazy. I've experienced virtually every theme. Yet, I'm still here and happier than ever! I have a great job, stability, two new cars, mortgage on a nice house and a great family. I chose to not succumb and suffer indefinitely. I triumphed over OCD and depression. When I have paranoid or depressive thoughts, I let them pass because compulsion don't work! If I'm having a bad day, instead of fighting it, I accept it as is and it goes away MUCH MUCH MUCH faster than it ever did before. I live the life that was dealt to me and honestly, I have no regrets and I live it and love it now! You can do this.

😭😭😭 I just told my partner I love him less! 😭😭😭I feel myself slipping further and further away from him 😭😭😭 how can I choose to love him if I constantly feel like I don’t love him… I want this to be ROCD!