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Anyone else rather have any other ocd than HOCD

i read that if u feel happy from ur thoughts, it’s not ocd and it’s most likely being in denial. so i get happy sometimes from my thoughts and it terrifies me, now it’s terrifying me even more.

Is someone experiencing any Exsctcental OCD right now. I need someone who can somewhat relate a little. I’m having some trouble with my obsessive thoughts and fears of the universe and my existence and alternate universes ex and my purpose in life.

Is it possible to act on a thought but not have its intention? Like when I changed my baby girl, the thoughts kept telling me to wipe her in a specific area over and over again, I even had thoughts that were agreeing with the others like “yeah I do but I can’t” “yeah I like it” yadda yadda. I wiped her again over and over as the thoughts said but does that mean I had that intention? Or did my thoughts make me believe I did when I had a mental breakdown over it after and even now. Uncertainty is the worst because I feel like I committed an evil thing but I can’t remember my intentions because I’m an idiot and when I panicked while I grabbed her clean diaper to put back on her I forcibly made myself forget it. So I’m just wondering if that’s even possible. To wipe again out of impulse of thinking it not because of the thoughts’ intention. I’m not like that this I know because I can bathe and change them just fine today. However I’m more mindful now to hurry when change or bathe them so I don’t get in my head again. I’m just wondering here. Because I still havent let the event go and it was months ago. I had a brief period where I let it go and felt fine but it always comes back. I’m a good man with a good heart and big one at that. Especially for my baby girls. So let me know if this is even possible. I’m losing my sanity.

My suicidal OCD is making me avoid stuff i want to do, I want to make youtube videos but I am scared bacause of youtubers who have comitted suicide in the past, and agh its so scary, I get so scared that somehow I will just snap into a suicidal way and kill myself even tho I really dont want to, im just scared ill randomly suddenly become suicidal and never get better even tho i have never been suicjdal in my life and I have never ever agreed with it being the right thing to do

Oh my god... I really feel like I wanna break up with my partner... I am not panicking i know I love him a lot.. oh god... 😞😞

Are you gay if you find men attractive ?

Hey there’s one thing I’m unsure about about treating OCD. I’ve heard exposure therapy works and you’re supposed to just agree with the thought but then what about those CBT worksheets that challenge the thought ? Doesn’t that clash with having to agree with the thought. Sorry if I don’t make any sense I just want to know the best method so I can heal.

tw: moral scrupulosity; cancel culture I’m interested to hear about your opinions with cancel culture. During my early teens, I got pretty radicalised over the internet which really determined my political compass. I was obsessed with cancel culture, making sure I wasn’t following someone that was problematic in some sort. I thought by following cancel culture, it would help us as a society move to be more accountable and progressive. I realised how toxic cancel culture was later on, and even though I’m a minority and a leftist, and have spread awareness, signed petitions, donated, gone to protests, studied politics - I obsess over my actions as a child that may have been problematic. My therapist asked me a question, on how are we as a society, have evolved to think in this morally-inclined way? I told him, “maybe we’re more progressive as a society now?” He said no, so I replied with, “maybe we’ve evolved to have an increased response to flight-or-fight responses?” And he agreed. Which is technically true, especially living with OCD, we are so hyper vigilant. I always found it difficult, especially as being gen z, on how to distinguish rights and wrongs in the eyes of cancel culture, despite being a changed and much more educated person. I am totally against bigotry and not trying to normalise it, but I have seen some instances in cancel culture where I have no idea how it came to be an issue in the first place (for example, I remember a couple of months ago, a plus-sized celebrity was shamed for being fatphobic cause she had a smoothie), and that people should divert their energies into much more urgent situations. How is everyone else trying to navigate morals and cancel culture? What is your opinions of it?

I'm ashamed of this, I fear that it'll never go away I'm dealing with O.L.D

What’s a good OCD book?

What’s up guys? How is everyone tonight?

@ Tales???!!!

DON’T GOOGLE! It will just give your OCD ideas. People survived before Google. All their worst fears didn’t come true just because they didn’t Google it. Even if you found that bit of reassurance, it will never be enough.

So my mom finally listen to me about the whole having-OCD-thing. I tried insinuating I have it by telling her my symptoms in the simplest way possible until she realized it was probably OCD. I lied to her about the kind of thoughts I had because I was so ashamed of them and was on the verge of crying. Then she told me I shouldn't try getting medication for this because she said she didn't "want this to go on my record" and she doesn't want me to go back to the mental hospital even though it could probably really help me, and I enjoyed the stay I had last time. This just kinda frustrates me to be honest, I just want to get help.

How do you deal w the constant thought or doubt that this is all made up? Like what if my therapist is wrong? What if she’s telling me that I am my true when I am present and mindful, but she’s just saying that? For example, I just started feeling better. I think I feel more like myself. What if this isn’t myself though? What if I’m just another version of my ocd self? What if I’m lying to myself?! Does that make sense? Do I just deal w the uncertainty? Does anyone have a good exposure they do? Or a good statement, maybe something a little more specific than “maybe, maybe not”

Well I'm afraid to make this post, I've been suffering from what I hope is HOCD for six months now (I'm diagnosed). I've never liked the thoughts or wanted them. I've never been attracted to men or desired to do acts with a man. I've never wanted to be with one romantically or sexually but one thing from my childhood is haunting me. I don't know how to word this or say it. I once experimented by myself with anal play. I didn't like it and thought it felt weird and painful. I never did it again. Even when I did it I wasn't attracted to men or considering if maybe was. Since I never did again it it's safe to say I don't like it now and never have but should I be worried?

The fear causes the thoughts to stick together how do you unstick them?

I'm having severe doubts about my sexual orientation again. Or are they really doubts? Earlier today I wrote "I am gay and in denial and just need to accept it" on a piece of paper. It seemed to make sense at the time, so I am willing to accept the possibility that I am a closet homosexual who has OCD related doubts about being straight. This in spite of the fact that I have adopted the identity of pansexual and bisexual as an attempt to come to terms with a more fluid sexual orientation than heterosexual. Currently have a sexual partner who is a woman, and I usually feel very attracted to her emotionally and physically. I have communicated to her at least once that I may be pan or bisexual, but then the thought that I could just be gay, in denial and projecting onto her comes back and I am disturbed by the possibility that I could be misleading her and just having sex with her as a form of reassurance that I'm not gay. I have sought reassurance from several ex-girlfriends by telling them I think I might be gay. Was I really seeking assurance or am I even now perpetuating this lie that I have Sexual Orientation OCD when I'm really just gay? I am generally not as "dominant" and assertive in a relationship and in sexual intercourse as I would like to be. I started to think last night maybe she wanted me to be more assertive with her and that I hadn't been recognizing the cues or deliberately or unconsciously misrecognizing cues for fear of having a more assertive or "dominant" kind of way of speaking with her and communicating sexual desires. I felt very turned on when I felt I had accurately recognized this, and I started to think about the possibility that some degree of traumas I have experienced during my upbringing has made it very difficult to feel comfortable exploring sexual communication. During intercourse, I am basically nearly always silent, and I feel this is strange and offputting. There was a brief span of time last night where I started to just communicate however I felt she was asking without directly asking for me to communicate with her, and during this time I felt much more confident and sexually aroused. I was also too intoxicated to actually have sex, but the feeling seemed to be more than just due to being intoxicated and seemed to signify a real desire of wanting to be more "dominant," for the lack of a better way of knowing how to describe it right now. I have never really had good relationships with women or friendships with men where I am not burdened by intrusive homosexual thoughts but have not really come to terms with what I feel like is reasonable to classify as trauma until recently. I feel like maybe I should tell my partner that I might be gay, but she already knows I said this to an ex-girlfriend. It seems paradoxically after ACCEPTING that I AM GAY, I feel less distress at the thought of being gay, and yet also less sure of the identity of being gay and the orientation of homosexuality as really being applicable to me. At other times, I have had doubts about my gender identity. I considered adopting "they/them" pronouns and even broadcasted this on social media. I have never been exactly heteronormative, but I am not sure them pronouns would make a real difference for me or that they are necessary. I don't have a desire to change my sex organs, though there was about a month where I was panicking about this possibility and was unable to function and had abruptly resigned from my employment. Yet I had the same sense of "aha, this must be it.. The moment of clarity," feeling when I had "admitted" to myself that I must be transgender and in denial as when I "admitted" I am homosexual. I am at least feeling better that I am accepting these as possibilities, but again I don't know if I am just abstracting these thoughts into the cluster of OCD symptoms to avoid confronting their reality.

I’m not ok I need to stop putting on a fake smile 😢