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I’m scared I have been attracted to feminine gay men before ocd

i’ve been taking to this girl for a week and she just now told me that shes actually 17 and not 18, but she turns 18 may 3rd. i just turned 19 in october, for context. im in a weird situation now bc i have feelings for her but i feel like a creep or a predator if i act on them. the age of consent where i live is 17 but i feel like a pedophile and i hate it but i really fucking like her and idk what to do.

Hi guys. I haven't been diagnosed with anything and I saw a psychologist for a while and she thought I was fine but I'm still here cause I think I might have ocd cause of the power some of my thoughts have over me. I wanted to ask if some of you have ever experienced this...pressure? Like just a feeling in your vagina but you weren't aroused or anything. I remember the first time I felt it I started getting anxious thinking it means I'm a sex addict or that I did something wrong to my vagina and now I'll live like this forever. It caused me some distress but the distress faded after a day I think though I still have that sensation. I just wanted to ask if this was a symptom of some sort or if it something else I need to get checked.

Hi my name is Ryan I suffer from ocd I have had it for 3 years now and at the moment it’s a bit bad

My partner says I’ve been buying too stuff for him... I can’t help it I love buying him stuff. I feel so off... is it possible to convince yourself with ROCD by obsessing about the same thing over and over and over again for 8 freaking months!!... 😞😞

Is eating your dinner seperately a sign of ocd ? Appreciate some feed back cheers 👍

annyone ever feel like they can’t ever think straight and ALL ur thoughts are intrusive?? and u just feel like ur loosing ur mind?

Having Pedo themed OCD is so draining. It's like the thought of hurting a child is so terrifying to me to the point I'd rather end myself than ever have it happen, but I can never convince myself I wouldn't do it. Sometimes I'm able to some ERP kind of exercises and it makes it quite better but a lot of times i just can't handle the anxiety it takes to go through with them. And its hard because there aren't many people other than my thearpist I can explain this to. Makes me scared to pursue relationships or anything like that because I feel like they wouldn't understand and just see me as a monster which sucks because there's actually a girl I'm starting to like and she has a adorable little girl I couldn't imagine ever harming but I get the most explicit intrusive thoughts about her and I'll even get gronial responses and its just to the point I just want to break down and cry, I have panic attacks at least once a day. There's times I think about self harming to deal with it because I used to be a cutter in my teenage years but thankfully so far I've been able to avoid giving into it. But to say this causes me intense emotional distress is a understatement. I'm getting better where I can stop the panic attack quicker but its still so draining to deal with it almost every single day. Its frustrating because I keep telling myself I don't want these thoughts and then my mind is like "You're lying to yourself! You want this, you're just tricking yourself." Even though I know its illogical because I don't want that, my mind just seems to spend most of the time trying to break me down into believing it that I just spend a lot of time stoned so the thoughts are too jumbled to focus on. Which I know isn't the healthiest coping mechanism but just have a break is so refreshing.

My HOCD is making me image me kissing my mother guys this is awful its screwed up.

Husband emptied the dishwasher that I washed twice because I thought there was some chemicals from work on them. I don’t remember what dishes were in there soooo ☹️

Does anyone else get anxiety when kissing their SO even though they really wish they could enjoy it?

wooo love being terrified that a yt video i saw counted as something super bad and illegal and that im an offending pedophile now

Can someone please give me an example on how to use ERP for ROCD?

I've currently been struggling with something that is going to make me sound like a piece of shit, even I recognize how messed up it's going to sound. Over the past couple months, I have been worrying about the proper way to interact with POC without coming across as racist. I know, this is already awful. I consider myself to be an ally who supports POC & civil rights movements. I'm ashamed of white people honestly, we've oppressed POC from the beginning of time. I'm personally ashamed of my white ethnicity. I've been even more so in the past year. I feel like my OCD has recently attached to this though. At least, I think it has, or maybe it's guilt knowing I'm white and part of systemic racism problem as a whole. When I pass a POC on the street, or in a place of business, I'll immediately start to get thoughts like "Am I coming across as rude? Am I being nice enough? Am I being too nice? Am I smiling too much? Am I smiling enough? Do I look uncomfortable? This isn't about me, so why am I anxious? Stop being so self centered. Are you appearing racist? What if this POC thinks I'm racist? That's awful to assume what they think. Stop making this about you!" And basically the entire time I'm trying to interact with someone of color, I have all this anxious dialogue in my head and I probably physically appear to be anxious, which in turn I'm sure the other person thinks "Why are they acting so tense/afraid?" It's not that I'm afraid, or dislike POC, I'm way too overly cautious, I recognize that, and it's actually coming across as racist. And I don't want to make this about me, because it's not, I can only imagine the racism POC have to endure on a daily basis. It's like my own OCD/anxiety is getting in the way. I hate it. I want to get over it. I don't know why it's coming up, but I want to get past this. .

Does anyone know a Pastor or Priest that has gone through the struggles of OCD and dealt with spiritually fears? I have a family member who could really use some encouragement right now. Even if it's just through zoom.

I am struggling with obsessions about spirituality and religion and having pure o about this topic. I have been very spiritual for years but recently ocd flared up and I have become obsessed with having a crisis of faith and wondering if there is no God, no spiritual energy and no life after death. I obsessively watch videos about the topic and ruminate a lot. I feel like I can’t even think about the topic without obsessing about it. Is this a common ocd thing? How can I do exposures about this without it ruining my connection to God?

Has anyone gotten to the point where you don’t have a lot of thoughts? I am nervous I use to love kissing my partner now I feel like I don’t... I know I am deeply depressed since I’ve been crying randomly... I wanna make love to him to but I feel like I don’t... did I really convince myself? 😞

Hello I have a question for all my fellow ocd folks. If you could I would like the most replies as possible bc all of your opinions mean a lot to me seeing as we all collectively are going thru this. I am thinking abt writing a short film abt the true nature of intrusive thoughts that ocd brings. I don’t feel like media depicts it the way I would like but also bc i imagine it must be careful in the way it handles the subject. What I want to include in this script is a monologue that basically brings light to some of our worst thoughts imaginable. I want to write this character representative of me that is talking to her bf and begins by asking questions to herself and speaking philosophically abt uncertainty and the way she never knows if she might one day do the things she thinks abt. The topics I would include would be heavy with words such as “fucking a child” or giving details of how she could kill her bf. This is all very triggering and I’m afraid it may cross the line as to what I can expose but I feel like to a point it is ok to make others uncomfortable to really give them insight on what this torment is like. Of course there would be a trigger warning if I’m ever able to film it. I feel it would be cathartic for me to be able to make this if even just for me bc by the end the audience would learn that she doesn’t actually intend on doing any of the things she’s thinking abt by telling her bf that tahts how bad it can get sometimes and at the worst times, it’s simply debilitating. I would do my best to actually shine light on how horrifying the experience can be but again I understand some ppl may not be comfortable watching it play out and experiencing it again. I believe it would be just as challenging for me to make but there’s this frustration that ppl will never understand us and ocd really even if we should have to show the ugliest parts abt it, I feel that in a sense it would also serve as a kind of exposure therapy for us to see. Pls let me know what you guys think and if there might be a better way of going abt this. All advice is appreciated.

Hey everyone, I’ve been suffering with HOCD for about two months and it’s something that I’ve been struggling with very much since it started. I was wondering if there was anyone that is also suffering from the same type of OCD and would like to talk about it, just need someone to relate to so that I don’t feel like I’m going insane.

TW, unwanted/impulsive/obsessive thoughts (and seeing/feeling them), anxiety attacks, fear of bad stuff happening, etc. hi friends.. i have undiagnosed odc, put i am pretty sure i have it. i’ve always knew i probably had it but i thought if i ignored it it would go away but it made it worse. a couple of days ago, me and my friends went through a situation and we agreed that to prevent something like this from happening again, we need to be more open with each other and communicate. me and one of my friends were talking and my (possibly) ocd popped up in the conversation (not on purpose.) i was explaining to my friend how my mind works and she explained to me (in the nicest way, i have the sweetest friends,) how that’s not alway really normal. it opened up the (again, possible, i don’t want to self diagnose if this isn’t correct,) ocd topic i had been trying to push away for forever. since then, i’ve noticed how every little thing i do leads back to ocd being a possibility and my mind nott working properly. then, last night i was talking to someone who makes me really anxious, and they were talking about how we’re not close anymore, etc. background stuff, i used to be very extroverted and talkative but recently i’ve become EXTREMELY introverted. talking to them and what we were talking about made me realllly anxious and it carried into today. these topics we were talking about made me realize how badly and not correctly my mind is working, liek it had been before, just worse now. my anxiety and (possibly, again i don’t know what it is) ocd work together to make life living heck. because of last night, i was thinking a lot and it bothered me that it could stop, therefore making it worse. by the end of 3 period, it was starting to get bad. then came the unwanted/impulsive/obsessive (i’m not sure how to exactly describe them) thoughts, including my friends being hurt if i don’t go do something right now (this actually happens a lot and it really bothers me.) because of this i went into panic, had an anxiety attack, and couldn’t stop seeing/imagining/feeling them being hurt. i went to the bathroom during beginning for 4th period and tried to calm down, but i didn’t fully calm down until the beginning of 5th. we had a test in fourth so i tried counting and naming colors so i could get my test done calmly, but it only would work for about 5 minutes before they came back. can someone please tell me what this is because i and sooo done with not knowing what’s going on. is this ocd?? other not so bothersome examples are closing out of all tabs before i sleep or my friend will not sleep at night. or getting carried away in thought, realizing your carried away in thought, then having to go back and recall everything that led you to think of that or else something might happen. everything has to look nice and even or else somethings gonna happen. someone please tell me if you feel the same so i am not alone, or let me know what is going on. i’m sorry if you’re going through this, you don’t deserve any of what’s happening to you. remember you are loved and please stay strong for me, i know it gets hard. sending love to anyone who’s in need. someone please help me.