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TW/// POCD If you know a lot about fandom, fanfic, or are just willing to listen, please help me think this out. Ive been “obsessive” over fandom for a while. But fanfiction had always been my comfort. It was pretty much the main way I interacted with fandom, and some times, I didn’t even read/watch/listen to the source material. I read the fanfiction just because I loved it. I would read it a lot, starting when I was probably 12 going on until now, as a 19 year old. I generally avoided sexual or “explicit” fanfiction or would skip over the sexual parts for the majority of this time, because I have always been a fairly nonsexual person, and have only really just recently been interested in sex at all (until of course my ocd worsened & switched themes). Now that I have switched ocd themes to pocd, I have been looking over my interactions with fandom/fanfiction, past and present, greatly. What’s weighing on my mind right now is that I just remembered that in the summer after I turned 18, the movie IT p.2 and stranger things season 3 came out, and I was obsessed with them both. I read shipping fanfiction for both of them primarily focusing on the adults but for IT (where the first movie is them as kids and the second is them as adults) I read some where they were kids at first and then grew into adults. and I think they might have had nonsexual pre-relationships/ crushes while they were kids. And then for stranger things, I read fanfiction (mostly about the older sibling characters who would have been my age but I read a few that focused on the young kids because there was a storyline of one of the kids being hinted at being gay which I as a bi woman felt should’ve been addressed more. But I didn’t read a lot because I did not like the relationships between the kids. and I think maybe the only reason I got into IT was because they were adults on the second movie). So I read very few fanfiction with a couple different “crush” pairs/relationships between the kids both of which were non canon gay pairs, despite only one character being hinted at being gay). These were very PG if I remember correctly but in the one I saved I checked it tags and it had “first kiss” tagged which is disgusting and I don’t remember it at all which greatly worries me because what if there is other stuff I didn’t remember?? -Oh gosh and now I’m remembering a very very fuzzy memory of fanfiction with aged up characters in it. I don’t know what fandom it was in but they might have still been older minors or they could have been in college but I think it was sexual. I don’t know when I read this or if I even did. If I did it was probably a while before this so I was probably still a minor myself, but I have a shit memory so I can’t be certain. I could’ve been older than 18 but read it and didn’t like it so I tried to forget about it or skipped a bunch. I’m just so worried. I feel for a creep for reading this stuff, and I feel horrible not remembering what I did read or not. I read so much shit. I know I’m not attracted to kids but I still feel like a predator. Fandom and fanfic and pocd gives me so much anxiety and confusion. Is it morally wrong, creepy and pedophilic to “ship” minors? Canon vs noncanon? Gay vs. Straight? Is it morally wrong to read any fanfiction including minor as characters? What if they grow up in the fanfiction? What if the minors are only in flashbacks? What about fanfiction of nonsexual “crush” relationships between minors? Does all of this change when it’s about characters portrayed by real life actors vs. Animation? (My heart pretty clearly says it does) I hate my creepy 18 year old self, though that was only just over a year ago. I wish I had all of my reading history so I could just know exactly what I’m working with.

False memory ocd Has anyone ever gotten a repressed memory of something that you did in the past, but not quite sure if it happened? It's been bothering a lot the past couple months because sometimes it feel so real. What's scary about this that it's been effecting my mental health and I question my character. This also lead me to feel suicidal and I'm having a hard to coping with this.

Hi. I need an opinion on this. Or help? Please be careful as this post might be of mature topics. I'm 25, f. I am diagnosed with ocd and I have to ask you all a question. Please if you are less than 18 I don't think this is appropriate to you but you are warned even though this post is not explicitl I have pervert ocd if that's a thing. I'm gay and I think I'm a pervert for lusting after women (pls note that I'm only talking about myself I don't think lesbian are perverts or monsters) and I know a lot of people (gay woman) suffer from this. I am very touched starved. Never dated. I want to but I am shy and finding the right one is too hard. I never meet anyone either. I'm also ugly plus I am not interesting. I'm just sweet and thoughtful but I'm a boring person. I was about to take a nap when I started fantasizing being with a woman, a imagined one. (note. This has happened a ton of times in the past few months... And I feel embarrassed by it. I feel like I just want s-x but that's not true... I feel so ashamed that is all I think about at night. Ugh but I don't persue anyone - I'm a kind person, I hope.) I was falling asleep and idk if this was a dream or an actual fantasy, my memories are fuzzy, but I was, excuse my rudeness, "sucking" the chest area - after I woke up I felt so guilty that I have not been able to calm down. I have been having a lot of sexual fantasies where I'm the dominant one and I feel like a pervert. (me doing the touching...) I feel like a monster for wanting to kiss a woman's lips and body and touch her (ofc wit consent) Thank you for the help... I'm so sorry for the long writing. I had to create an anonymous account just because of this. I'm so sorry for being annoying?

Exposures for fear of going crazy and sound Hello! I’m new to this forum. I have been working with a therapist for over a year and am not progressing as I had hoped, so I am trying NOCD. I’m excited to connect with others that struggle like me. I’m 51 and was a late bloomer to ocd. I was an anxious child, but no real ocd symptoms until around 23. At that time I developed harm intrusive thoughts. I sought the help of a therapist and was put on Paxil and buspar. Overall, the next 25 years were great! Ocd was really non existent. Fast forward to 48, menopause, getting rheumatoid arthritis, empty nest etc and my anxiety disorder is worse than in my 20’s. Anyway, over the last couple years I’ve tried several different SSRI meds and finally decided enough is enough and started therapy as well. I’ve been on on luvox for about 5 months now. it has helped tremendously with my harm intrusive thoughts, but I still struggle so much with fear of getting schizophrenia. I cannot shake it no matter how often I am told that I don’t have it. Around the time I started luvox, I noticed a sensitivity to sound and tinnitus symptoms. Like I hear everything - white noise type sounds. This is where the fear took root. I woke up one day and the fan was on. I swore it sounded like chatter or a radio. Welcome new obsession! So now, I find myself listening intently to everything I hear. I joke that hearing is now my super power. But, what is most distressing is that I find myself checking, listening and judging sound. Like a heater or fan will kick in or a fan and I’ll notice it and be like - “is that a radio?” Or I hear the motor on my laptop and insert my own scary narrative of what it “sounds” like - is that chatter? Full on panic attack. Then, I’ll have instances when I swear I hear a radio - most of the time it’s explained away (passing traffic, outside noise, appliances) and other times I freak out because I can’t find the source and it’s “proof” of my impending doom of “going crazy”! Logically, I can look at this as normal - we all mishear things from time to time. But mostly my ocd/anxiety takes over and convinces me this is NOT normal and I should be scared and afraid! This is totally reassurance seeking, but has anyone else become hyper aware or noise? I suppose this would be considered health ocd? And what exposures have worked for fear of going crazy/schizo? TIA! 😊

Guys with HOCD tryna chat?

My daughter has HOCD and she told me today she does compulsions in her head to prove she is straight and not gay . Is this normal With HOCD

Intrusive thoughts about my sexuality disappeared in 2015 and returned during lockdown in July 2020. I have no idea why they went away for so long, but what I take from that is that it is possible to live life without them. I didn't realise in 2015 that I was experiencing intrusive thoughts or potentially SOOCD. I thought I was the only person on the planet experiencing this. In those 5 years completely free from those thoughts, I use to look back on it and laugh about it. I'd even confidently tell others about it and how silly it would make me feel looking back on it. It may seem dire right now and you're full of dread, but as long as there is possibility, you can get through this.

Is there anyone else who deals with false attractions, that actually feel real?

i see a lot of people here who have sexuality ocd and have intrusive thoughts that they are gay. can it happen to gay people? is anyone here worried that they are actually straight? i’m not sure if its soocd or internalised homophobia

TW i had a self harm relapse and i just really don’t feel good. i’ve had enough

Can I talk to an advocate who has gone through POCD and SOOCD

why does cheating ocd make me feel like such a liar. i told my boyfriend that i had asked a guy to hangout once when we first began dating and i asked the guy to come hangout as a friend but my rocd is saying i lying to my bf and i wanted to hangout with that guy as more than friends 😞. even though i really didn’t. i hate this so much, this is so hard. someone tell me i’m not alone.

I am 23F who is living with my boyfriend of many years. We just got married and it should be a happy time for us, but I’m under a considerable amount of stress because of what I will describe below. I have always been turned by erotic images of women, erotica of men using women, and pictures/large breasts. This is only women in erotic photos. Not girls at school or anything like that. Never people I know in person. This is basically what I enjoy in bed (men touching me there, etc). However, I’m nervous because I don’t get these same reactions to erotic images of men. But I’m pretty sure I like men? I feel very aroused and have a racing heart around men I’m attracted to before we kiss. I feel that pull, excitement, and heat when you’re with a guy you’re attracted to. I also fantasize about men I am attracted to in situations where we date/hug/have sex. This doesn’t happen for women. I have always had crushes on men (not like the master doc, like forceful crushes). And have always wanted to kiss a man, have a man touch me, have sex with a man. I’m worried because sex with my boyfriend has always been meh. I’m really nervous because I’m afraid it means I’m not attracted to him and he isn’t very good at knowing what to do to me. I’m also nervous because I’m not turned on if he gets in the shower with me or starts making out with me out of nowhere. Sometimes I am, but not always. Is this all in my head! Am I fighting a losing battle? Tonight has been my worst night in weeks. I just spoke with a woman who said I could be bi. I just want help Anyone who read this much, thanks. I get this was a dumb read but I have no one else

This is two questions (sort of), which I hope neither are a compulsion. I ask you please read both: 1) Does your ocd ever try to convince of a lie, as in a thought that you have actually done something (for example, a rude insult or baseless assertion), which you know you never would comment or say? Like, do the thoughts ever make you feel as if you are becoming delusional? 2) Sometimes I feel like I suck as a sibling, as a son, and as a friend because of my ocd. I feel like I don’t measure up to who I once was. I hate myself sometimes, since I am not as happy or carefree—always laughing—as I once was before. I live in constant doubt. The anxiety is manageable sometimes, other times, however it is unbearable. All I ever aspired in life was to make a positive impact on others lives, to inspire them and be a role model, a person anyone can turn to in a time of need. I have an amazing family, but I can see the disappointment I bring now. They are patient, mostly. But none of them understand the torment I go through with my battles against ocd. I just feel alone and tired. Anybody have some good advance to hold on and be strong, better myself? How did you overcome your battles with ocd? Thank you for reading, and much love.

Can someone tell me grave differences between HOCD and internalized homophobia ?

HELP! Anyone with HOCD be out in a restaurant in public or something and look at every single same sex individual (I mean like stare) and constantly and look back and forth at them to see if they’re “attractive” or not? Why do I do this? How do I stop this???? PLEASE HELP!!! PLEASE

Hey guys, just looking for life advice from those who are religious, I struggle with being gay because I am religious, any advice?

What is everyone's diet here? Plant based ? Keto? High sugar diet? Anyone here also have digestive issues... i have internall hemorrhoids and also IBS which im working on a diet to heal my gut. Curious to hear anyone elses thoughts on this other than damn ocd.

Ok so now I’m thinking I should really get better cuz I’m honestly seeing more potential at the gym and I’d rather be ok and be able to act on my positive thoughts when I see an attractive women. I guess I’m just depressed cuz and don’t feel like being better cuz I think I’ll never meet someone but now I’m like in the chance that I do I want to be out of my head so that I can ask a girl out and see where it goes and be ready for anything thrown my way in life. I don’t need to have a job but it would be nice to have one. I don’t need friends but it would be cool to have some. I don’t need to have conversations with strangers but it would be cool to feel normal when I do have conversations. It would actually be really fucking awesome if I had my own car again and to have my own place just to bring a women back where it be for one night or for multiple nights if it turns out that way. I want to be able to think straight than to be nervous all the time and think I might mess up something and revert back to my ocd. One step at a time now. Need to figure out a plan to handle my soocd better and the thoughts that stop me from having an erection when I see a pretty girl. Let’s go.

If you’re going through cheating ocd I want you to read this! Idk if this will help anyone but I once was a real cheater about two years ago as in I was having an emotional affair with someone as well as sending dirty texts to someone in my past relationship. I want you all to know that when I was doing such act I did not feel guilty I did it about three times the only time I ever felt guilty was when my ex would spoil me or show me love. Never once did I feel guilty I only felt guilty when he would show me affection but I felt guilty because I was like damn I’m a cheater and him being nice to me is making me even feel worse about myself. I recall cheating because he would ignore me, send disgusting nude pics of woman in group chats with his buddies, and he didn’t respect me, and I wasn’t all that into him he disgusted me and had terrible hygiene, only seemed to care about his guy friends than me. Eventually though I felt bad but I felt bad because I didn’t want to be a cheater, it was not because of hurting my ex. I felt guilty and bad for myself not for my ex. I remember at one point I felt so bad and guilty that I was a cheater that I told him the truth but I sugar coated it and twisted the truth and I would try to convince myself I didn’t do anything wrong when I knew exactly what I did especially because the proof and truth was there within my memory. What I’m trying to say is if you’re undergoing cheating ocd and you feel guilt about hurting your partner then obviously you’re not a cheater. A real cheater doesn’t worry about hurting their partner a real cheater only feels guilty because they’re afraid of being judged for cheating and feel guilty because the affection their partner shows them makes them feel worse about being cheaters. Never once do real cheaters care about hurting their partner also real cheaters don’t go back to ruminate about whether or not they did something wrong. Also if you fear you cheated and your ocd is telling you what if you forgot and just don’t remember! Trust me if you actually cheated or put yourself in that position you’d remember. Also real cheaters don’t blame themselves for being cheaters they blame their partner for making them cheat.