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My SO-OCD is morphing into another sexual theme now, love that 😍😍

I suffer with harm and intrusive thoughts about my children. Sometimes I'm good sometimes I feel like a crazed woman. I was trying to put my 2 year old to bed last night and I was so scared something was going to happen but I fought through and my son was being wild as always lol and jumping on my belly and I had my hand on his chest for support and then he moved and I scratched him right below his neck on accident but when I woke up this morning I felt like I did something bad. This constant worry is driving me mad. I know deep down it was an accident but my OCD brain wants me to think it was intentional. Can ANYONE RELATE/? I FEEL SO ALONE

I'm a girl interested in men and I've had a close female friend for about 10 years now When we were younger, we used to like exactly the same things and bond over them. I'm older than her, so I kinda took the role of the "older sister" - listening to her vent, help her find a school and so on Now she's sort of drifting away and having her own interests and stuff, while I feel like I'm stuck in place and with nowhere to go About a month ago my SOOCD started and I immidetaly started to think about her because we are/were besties. The thought that triggered it was "Jesus I'm acting with her like we're platonic lovers or something" Through this period I isolated myself from her and I'm morbidly scared that I've ruined a great friendship My OCD makes me think over and over about whether this is some kind of platonic/QPR type of relationship that I wasn't aware of my whole life or just a friendship I couldn't keep myself from googling and I think it may be closer to something platonic. The thing is that I don't want any platonic relationship with her or any girl. It affects my thinking about boys, because when I see a attractive guy my thoughts immidetaly jump to "what if you love your bestie and would ruin your boyfriend's life" I'm trying not to break my friendship so I write messages to her from time to time (before the SOOCD I used to do it literally 24/7) and I'm super anxious about the future. I can't write to her normally without any weird feelings now, and when I don't talk to her I'm afraid that I'm gonna lose her. I feel jealous when she goes out with other friends, everything reminds me of her somehow and I can't move on with my day I feel like I should end this because of all these thoughts. Or at least limit my contact with her to just make her one of my many friends. But I'm just so afraid of whatever may happen and what if I ruin a beautiful friendship? I'm writing this to vent, but also I wanna know if anybody had a similar experience and how it affected your life. Thank you in advance

Hi there! I’ve just recently received my OCD diagnosis and found out that I’ve just been raw-dogging OCD since I was a young child. Im considering taking medication to help me and my therapist suggested Zoloft. Has anyone taken Zoloft for OCD/anxiety? Any side effects that I would want to be aware of from personal experience? Thanks !!

Hello guys quick question, I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend now for 8 months coming up to 9. Last night and nights before I had dreams with like girls who aren’t her is that bad and does that mean anything I feel like if I didn’t have ocd I wouldn’t think twice about it. Like am i unfaithful and I can’t tell her and I just feel guilty.

I am so upset. I really always knew somewhere deep down i wasn’t a terrible human being but over the past 2 weeks something changed, i stopped having anxiety drastically and now have much more difficulty not believing thoughts. it feels like they are real. and i just don’t understand how i could be so repulsed by something the day before this happened and now feel nothing, i’m terrified. i’m 17. i feel like it’s all over. i’ve had periods where i lost clarity before but they came back but for the past weeks i’ve just been stuck and i can’t cope and i can’t explain it and i’m not sure what to do. i feel like these past 2 ish years of dealing with it are all a lies. but it just doesn’t make sense, i want to feel disgust not clarity? and now i feel no hope. i was supposed to get a diagnosis soon but it just feels like everything changed so quickly. how is this possible? im so upset and i can’t breathe or think and im terrified all at the same time as feeling nothing. it doesn’t feel like back door spike it just feels real. im a lost cause, i can’t do this anymore… i wanted to be good and now i feel like im what i feared. please help? i don’t know if this is ocd?

Im scared to take my OCD medicine even though I know it can offer me a way out of OCD. Every day my distress levels are so high so idk how I will be able add something else onto it. Can anyone offer a success story or something positive that happened since they started meds ?

My boyfriend and I are together for 5 months now. He has a lot of girl friends. In his group of friends but outside of it as well. I do know some of them because I’ve been to his friend group before. Now does he chat with some girls, I looked them up and there girls from school a couple of years ago, he’s working now. When I ask him about it he tells me the story and stuff and says I can ask him anything. But I have this feeling when he’s on his phone around me and is texting he doesn’t show me. He isn’t on his phone much when he’s around me, from the beginning he’s not. He’s really sweet for me and a lot of girl friends like him and are good friends with him. He’s introvert and doesn’t speak as much. When we first got together he also texted with a lot of girls, he said those were friends. What can I think about it? It makes me worry sometimes, my ex boyfriend cheated that’s why. (He does know that).

It’s super bad in my house right now. As I’m sure many of you have read, I’ve had some yucky marriage problems. Long story short, my husband feels disrespected by me for still wanting to do Botox when he doesn’t support it (we agreed once a year before marriage, and I asked for that compromise specifically because it is something I want to continue doing). Now that we’re married, he says okay well now it’s a NO. I haven’t even done it since November so idk why this is coming up. Maybe I am selfish and self centered for fighting for this rather than submitting to him. Anyway, now it’s turned into him saying that we’re only roommates, he doesn’t want me to feed him anymore, clean his laundry, buy his groceries. Told me I should’ve stayed single and I should start acting like a wife and a decent human being, should’ve kept the rings when he broke up with me the first time and just left me, etc. I feel pretty stuck and I’ve honestly felt stuck so many times since we’ve gotten married. I love him and he’s my bestest friend, but I feel relief when separation is discussed. I just don’t really know where to go from here. Counseling has already been discussed, he wants to go to the church instead. I’m nervous because I feel like I’ll hear again that I’m not submitting and I’m being a bad wife. Maybe it’s true.

This theme hurts me the most because it’s something that is completely out of my control. It’s about the human mind, people’s feelings and personalities, and the world itself. I feel like I’m constantly reaching in my mind for something more, something that makes sense, etc. The conclusions I come up with make me anxious and depressed..like everything is just so predictable and I’ve figured out the world and everyone else is just in la la land and things seem pointless? Another thing is what if my brain is just broken and forever confused. This is a theme that I can’t seem to make sense of or reason with. I’ve suffered from harm OCD before but I was easily able to conquer that because I KNEW I could never harm anyone, would never have the desire to or anything. This current theme I truly don’t know about because it just doesn’t make sense. And it kills me.

I get very anxious when I forget someone’s name or a memory that I can’t remember. I spend a lot of time searching until I find the name and memory. I purchased a 360 pages notebook to write down names and memories so I won’t forget; it temporarily relieves my anxiety. I have always had the urge to remember names and memories but I didn’t have anxiety until now. My first panic attack happened 4 weeks ago due to forgetting a person’s face and name. I hope someone can relate to this or help me understand what’s going on. I booked the 15 minutes free consultation. I’m feeling sad, scared and exhausted!

I have the absolute worse accidental pregnancy ocd. My mind will convince me I could be pregnant even when I have not yet engaged in sexual intercourse. I am constantly terrified in any situation that there could be pre cum or sperm that it will make me pregnant even when I have not ever had sex. It disrupts my entire month that I will take pregnancy tests daily until I get my period or I know I am not pregnant for sure until an event spikes it again the next month. I’m not sure what to do. It’s the absolute worst fear and I feel will wreck my relationship. It sometimes makes me wish I never was in a relationship so I know I just know I am safe. Has anyone else experienced this or done anything to help them get over this?

To the ones who have been working with their OCD for awhile now and feel somewhat experienced in handling symptoms, I have a question… If you could go back in time and tell your younger self (pre awareness of your condition) one thing, what would you tell yourself to help with your condition? I have no means to treat my OCD, and only have just joined this app and acknowledged my condition and my, now, desperate need for help. Anything will help and I honestly am needing some sense of community to feel less alone. Thank you for everything!

I do this thing where I clean my bedroom every night and I physically can not clean it until t that time. I cant pick up clothes or make my bed until right before I go to bed. Does anyone experience this as well? How do I get myself to clean whenever I want?

Has anyone felt it affect their vision? Like things seem farther away or closer? Very frightening. Any advice? Anxiety has been so high as of late idk why.

I just found out this was a compulsion 😵‍💫 I’ve been doing that this whole time ……. Lol does anyone struggle with this/what helps?? I was listening to a podcast and it said trying to rationalize with logic was a compulsion and that I need to sit in the uncertainty and discomfort. (Logic doesn’t work for ocd anyway) Any advice? Anyone out there do something similar?

I’m so fearful that I’m having a heart attack and was given meds for acid reflux. I’ve had 2 ECG that were normal and a chest x ray. I’ve been dealing with these symptoms since November. Not sure if I’m just hyper aware to the point that my mind is imagining all of the symptoms of heart attack. When I don’t think I’m having a heart attack, I notice improvements. It’s so hard. It’s an achy feeling at my left breast bone that switched to the center of my chest where the sternum is located. I’ve also felt it on the right side with these sensations running through my arms. When I get worked up, I gasp for breath, get dizzy, and experience heart palpitations. I guess coming to the current moment has been my savior when I think about it. It’s the future thought of what if I have a heart attack that is scary and that lies in the future.

Does anyone else have intrusive thoughts about wanting children? Recently it's gone through cycles of "do I even definitely want kids" then "but what if I have a kid and regret it", "what if I can't cope because I don't have much energy as it is and it might drain me", "what if my partner isn't who I should have kids with", and finally "what if I have a kid and they have a really difficult disability that means my life becomes only about looking after their needs". I feel really awful about some of the thoughts and especially the last one. It's frustrating because I know if I got to say 50s and didn't have children I would be sad, but I feel so far away from being ready for them (currently 28) and these thoughts are only making that worse.

Today I went to church for the very first time in about 4 years since it was the 1 year anniversary of my grandmothers death. During the service I was thinking and I guess I am not religious anymore because I guess I don’t understand why God would allow so much suffering in the world and allow people to have things like mental illness especially ocd which is what we deal with specifically in this community. I feel like deep down if I were to believe in god or a higher power I feel like I have resentment towards him/her/them for letting me suffer with such horrible thoughts since I was a little boy. Idk was wondering what your guys opinion on this is.

I feel so bad I was thinking and than the intrusive thought came in my head but at the moment that thought came I was moving my head in the positon that I agreed with something and now it is telling me that I agreed with my thought and it's terrible I don't know why I moved my head maybe ocd is right I am so bad this is the worst ever please help me please