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Please… I seriously don’t think I have ROCD anymore that I truly don’t love him enough anymore.. can this happen with ROCD or do I just not love him anymore…

Is there anyone on here that practices the Christian faith seriously? My faith is my most important part of my life, and ocd seems to affect it the most. It is very hard to discern between genuine faith/ sin concerns and when my OCD goes overboard and my concern is not valid. I feel like I'm always concerned I'll sin, or that some thought is a sin and it's a very difficult cycle to break. If I could associate a compulsion, it's be confessing things. Anyone else struggle in this way and have advice? I'm currently on a wait list for a NOCD provider.

I am obsessed with cleaning, I will clean even when the house is clean. It's not that I am worried about getting sick. It just makes me feel better to have everything perfect, clean and in its place. This is effecting others in the house though because I get frustrated if someone comes in with their shoes on and brings a tiny bit of dirt in. Or if my partner doesn't leave areas clean the way i do. I also feel like it effects my child because I can't bare mess, when she gets toys out I feel like I'm tidying as she is playing. I must clean 3 times a day and sometimes I can't leave the house without doing certain chores. Or it plays on my mind all day. Its frustrating, I feel burnt out because I never stop

I am conflicted if I should treat my OCD as a part like they do in IFS therapy (no bad parts) or if it's something I need to suppress and deny until it is "killed". I don't mean to make it into a personality but it can feel that way. I feel like i am always switching between both methods and when I try to take control I feel like I'm suppressing, then i deal with backlash and relapse, when I try to accept it and understand it, it starts justifying itself and bullies other parts then i stop caring to change. It's like i have inside me both a power hungry kid and a parent with no authority skills

Really struggling to determine whether my doubts are vaild or not. I have a very blurry picture of what I envision for my future, ever since I was 18 Ive had this desire to run away and start a new life (22 now) I dont know whether its escapism or just my calling, but I dream of a nomadic life with no attachments to anything. I believe its strongly associated with OCD and the fears I have around commitment. But my partner has goals for his future, he can envision his life, and its becoming an issue that I cant envision mine. We would like to be able to line up our lives to see if we want the same things. Of course I want a life with him, but I am so controlled by fear I cant commit to anything. I cant commit to the idea of settling down, having kids, having a career. They all scare me. We’ve been together for 2 years and I still have been avoiding my thoughts out of fear that the truth is: Im not meant to be with anyone and I need to live life on my own with no ties to anything. My therapist said some really triggering stuff yesterday and now I cant stop thinking about the possibility that we may just be on different life paths, no matter how much we love eachother. Feeling defeated😣

I know we can't ask for reassurance, but I need some opinions from others who understand OCD :( When my gf and I had just gone official, I had another friend who I was close with that I think had feelings for me. When I was drunk one night I called her after she left to pick me up and go to her apartment. My friend told me it was just to keep drinking because my roommate had gone to sleep in the living room, but I was so drunk I can't fully remember and feel I was making the call to fool around. Another time a few weeks later we squeezed hands while very drunk again. I've since stopped drinking and hanging out with this person, and even told my gf what happened. However I didn't go into detail about the fact that I think I might have been trying to cheat or had slightly developed feelings, just told her I felt like I had cheated by making that call at all. She took it really well but I don't feel she understands the severity, and thinks it was mostly the other girl making advances. It scares me so much because I did kiss another girl during my previous relationship yeears ago in college (my current gf doesn't know about this), so I'm scared I'm doing bad again. I feel like I need to confess and fully explain what exactly I'm worried about, and that I think the only thing that stopped me from actually cheating is that she didn't pick me up, but at this point I'm not sure if that's a compulsion or not. How do I know? Do I just confess again? I've confessed multiple times to her and it's def put a strain on things :(

Has anyone here tried journaling to help with ocd? And track the patterns and triggers? How did you do it and did it help?

I was recently diagnosed with OCD. Probably more along the lines more of Pure O. . . Very very distressing intrusive thoughts and fears. I can see how it's likely been an issue most of my adult life but really exacerbated lately. It's exhausting. Has caused a significant disruption in my life and it Feels like a constant mental battle. Has anyone had luck with medication? I was recommended for lexapro. Tried it for 3 days and felt awful. Is the ERP therapy usually effective without medication? I'm on the wait list for a nocd therapist as they say they don't currently have any available in my state.

Did anyone break up bc they believed the wanted to? But has very bad obsessive tendencies? Please… I know somewhere I still love my partner… I said I love you to him and I meant it but being close to him is hard.. 💔

i feel like my ocd has made my relationship w God worse. ive been kind of stuck in a dark place for abt a year and distanced myself from God and religious activities in general. during that time ive realized is that i never really had/felt a loving healthy relationship w God. a lot of it had to do w some harmful teachings and most definitely my OCD. ive always felt trapped and that i constantly had to prove myself to God to be worthy of Him. even then ik that’s not how it worked, but no matter how hard i tried to “not work to earn God’s love” it never felt like i genuinely had a relationship w him. this could’ve also been ocd. but I’ve tried w everything from fasting, to giving up things, reading my Bible more, praying, joining a Christian community, etc. idk what’s wrong w me tbh..but i would always get jealous of ppl who would share their testimony’s abt how they’ve felt God’s love personally and the thing (big and little) thats He’s done for them…and tbh i still get jealous. cus i never felt that in all my years of being a Christian. I’ve always thought something was wrong w me. this is just one of things that ive struggled w my faith and it’s been weighing on me lately.

Maybe it’s the fact that we labeled it as a “bad”thing is the main reason it becomes intrusive and bothers us so much? 🤔

I’d like to take this time and opportunity to thank NOCD for reaching out to be apart of their Alumni Program. On top of all the other opportunities NOCD has reached and and both requested and allowed me too be apart of! I humbly and honorably will be accepting this request! I truly believe in manifesting things into your life and I without a hesitation of a doubt; have put into the universe that if I could be an advocate in any way, shape or form; I would truly, love to be able to do so because I know what it feels like to have been alone at the beginning stages of my onset episodes with OCD. Eventually, leading to my mental break and self-admission into a psychiatric unit at a local hospital in their in-patient program for two weeks. That said and for example; just because I have reached a place in my recovery where I can be referred to as an “Alumni,” “Advocate,” etc. Doesn’t mean that I no longer deal with OCD because that couldn’t be further from the truth! Always remember, “Recovery,” doesn’t mean that we’re entirely “Recovered” because unfortunately; at this point in time, there’s no 100% cure for OCD and “Recovery,” itself is linear rather than a destination. For example, this evening; I was innocently looking into my backyard as the sun was nearly entirely set and noticed a home/window with the light on in my neighborhood that I hadn’t ever noticed before. At first, I was fine, but then shortly after; dark intrusive thoughts started to creep into my mind. Of course and as always; my anxiety spiked because I then wound up questioning why I had these thoughts, what does that say/mean about me, etc. However, being that I am in the place that I am currently at within recovery; I can thankfully acknowledge the thoughts and overall situation at hand for what it is and isn’t. Again, that doesn’t mean that the thoughts don’t get ‘Sticky,’ or become ‘Stuck’ because here I am mentioning what transpired to those of you currently reading this. Regardless, my point is that despite what stages we’re currently at within our recovery; intrusive thoughts, feelings, urges, etc. inevitably can and will try to gain our attention based upon our triggers, etc. and it’s not that they’re happening that is the issue, but rather how we interact with them or better yet; learning to not give into them and they attention that they’re so desperately seeking from us! Can anyone else reading this in any way, shape or form? If yes, please feel free to comment below and we can all help each other by sharing our thoughts, experiences, etc. Sending love, compassion and support to all those suffering from the monster and battling the beast that is OCD 💌

I wanna hear when & where you noticed your ocd really starting? when did it develop for you.. i know it’s not important & i know getting treated is more important but i’m interested lol

Hi! I’m 27 weeks pregnant and deal with ocd obviously since getting pregnant a lot of my obsessive thoughts have changed and are toward pregnancy and parenthood but I have one I can not get over and it’s dying during labor… I have been scared of that since I was a little girl I remember my sister and me watching a video about something happening to someone during labor and them passing and ever since then I have been scared and sick that’s gonna happen to me. It’s so bad I want to set up a what if it happens so everyone knows my wishes but I also don’t want to because that triggers me so hard. I’m too the point now with this thought it’s effecting my everyday life I get physically sick anytime I think about going into labor. I feel so alone because I never hear anything about this.

I know that you guys don’t know me, my background, and that none of you are my therapist. I’m just posting this thought before another difficult day ensues. I’m just venting, However I am welcoming any encouraging comments. Not looking for a fix because none of those exist with OCD anyways. Post: I have been in an anxious rut for about one week now, and it has progressively gotten worse every day. Believing that this low point will not last much longer - and that I will start to curve upward back to “normalcy.” When the OCD and anxiety hits me it kills my confidence and puts me in my head. This is a concern because it makes it harder to focus (not get distracted) it makes it harder to be fully in the present moment. I have had OCD since I was a child and didn’t start treatment with a therapist until I was 25. I have made immense progress with cognitive behavioral therapy and exposure response therapy. I stopped seeing her because I was to a point to where I thought I didn’t need her anymore. I still see her once every few months when I have anxious times, but I am doing better. I recently found this app because I noticed that I still need to take more steps with exposure response, as I reach new levels of functioning I notice new areas that are still holding me back. I have my first appointment with an NOCD therapist next week and I am excited. I realize that this is just a post on an NOCD app and then I have already said A lot for people to read but just keep me in your thoughts. I work at security job, not gonna say where, and at this low point of the past week the obsessive thought has been that I’m going to miss something or someone - being that I’m going to mess up at my job and get fired). I know when I am in my head it is harder to focus on my job and I almost had a mess up yesterday. Sometimes I get stuck in rumination and it kills my confidence to the point to where I just get easily distracted and make mental errors which you can’t do at a security job. I think that is all I will say for now I hope you guys continue your treatment and doing well. Again, this post is not me looking for any quick fixes or advice really I’m just looking for encouragement because I know I am on my way upward just doesn’t always feel like it. Thanks.

My question is can Ocd gives you feelings of the horrible inteusive thought that you have are things you want like the harm thought you have, you have a feeling of "i want to do this cause i feel like it, i will enjoy it" Yesterday i got really angry cause i did something bad,then i wanted to focus on something else but a deep feeling of "no i want to feel this pain" came that really made me scared, and i had to let myself feel that everything is bad, im alone, nobody will help, i wanted to shift my attention but the feeling of no this is an authentic feeling just pushed me back,then all of this created a thought and a feeling of i should die, nothing will be better... since then im terrified that im actually suicidal or not, cause when i want to feel better,i get this feeling of i dont want to feel good,.i want to feel bad cause everything is bad, and i feel terribble and hopeless about this. Can this be ocd? Another one,the harm thoughts, whenever i have one i have a feeling to and thoughts that says i would enjoy that. Im really asking this cause i had enough...

I have obsession about my certain bodyparts due to ocd. I have hocd and tocd. I am a girl and I have an adams apple. And I know its normal but I can't accept it. I am scared that it grows even more, what if it means something, it has to mean something. I take pictures about it all the time and also look all the time to mirror so I can watch it. Why I get so obsessed with my body. First I had the finger thing, I know that somebody knows about it here, but I dont like to talk about it because I know that it can be a huge trigger for someone. I was so obsessed with my fingers. Then the lovely adams apple decided to join the triggerclub and now this obsession is so bad. All these body obssesions are because of my hocd and tocd thoughts. I feel like that I accept The fact that I got extra testosterone in my mothers womb before my birth. But still I CAN'T stop thinking about it and these thoughts just are annoying me. I still feel like okay I have to live gay, be gay and be trans. If I dont do those things, I lie to myself. What can I do? Are here any soulmates or similar experinces?

Rant about anything! I’ve had more than half the subtypes you could think of so chances are I can relate, and maybe share how I got better…

Good morning everyone! For the last month I’ve been going to sleep and waking up almost every day with nauseous or nerves towards my relationship. I’m in a long distance relationship about 3 hours apart. We have been together on and off for almost four years now. (We met in college). We come from two different religious households. I’m Catholic and he is non denominational Christian. My family likes him but his family doesn’t approve of our relationship. Our relationship is overall really good. We make each other laugh, we listen to each other, and we have learned to communicate really well towards each other. The only issue I have in our relationship is his view on LGBTQ+ due to his religious back ground. Because of this it has created me to go through motions extremely similar to relationship ocd. He doesn’t actually do anything, he has met my gay friends and he doesn’t give me an issue for hanging with them at all. I am just overall so fearful of our future and it all stems from intrusive thoughts that cripple my day. I don’t want to end things but apart of me does out of extreme fear of the future. I feel like I have no control and it bothers me a lot

Hello everyone..... I'm honesty so over this. I Haye the fact that my OCD theme is back and the anxiety hits super strong back to back to back and keeps going. I have been trying to stay off the internet and to not feed my ocd any more ideas, but it seems like evey where I trun, OCD uses evey chance it gets to make my anxiety spike more and more on after the other in a row. It was so bad I was crying my eyes out because these thoughts feel real and I hate them and I cried and cried until I couldn't anymore. I hate waking up now because I know what I'm getting myself into. I hate having to deal with my brain when I'm active. The only escape I have is sleep (95.5% of the time). I feel like im losing myself and I feel like im fighting to keep my identity safe from OCD. I'm tired, tearful, anxious, and stressed. Is so stressed to the point where I have physical pains in my back and develop headache. I want my life back and my sense of sanity back. I don't go on forums that much (reddit, quora, and google) Sometimes when I get numb from it all, I feel safer because u can't feel, and if I can't feel; I don't need to worry. Sleep is the only thing I look forward to because I can't even express my creativity( visual artists) without 4 or 5 intrusive thoughts following up.on each other along with intrusive feelings. I try and keep myself sane by playing bile games to re-directing my focus, but it works 50% of the time, which isn't bad, but from wverything I've stated above, it's not enough. I really Hate doing this because I know problems aren't as important, and people don't have time to stop and hear my thoughts and feelings, so I prefer to keep them to myself,; just so thay I don't burden or bother people with my issues when others have more issues than me. But I really feel broken and I feel.like my entire being is suffering because of it. TL;DR: my life is a living he'll I sleep Throught to cope, and I want to get rid of forums and ither things that feed my OCD to make it wores and throw things back in my face. Thank you to whoever had the patients to read this💙 Thank you so much... 💧🌧😞🌧💧