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im going on a date tonight i havent been on a date in 5 years i dont even really feel sexually attracted to this guy and yes one of my themes is hocd but my main one i guess is pocd or at least my most horrifying one ... ive been working on my pocd with my therapist but my sexuality themes we havent worked on and i feel like dating is a huge trigger because its like if i go on this date and it doesnt go well then im gay or im asexual and like honestly im only going on this date because hes friends with my friend and he apparently been asking for my number and she encouraged me to just go for it mostly because she knows im really insecure about still being a virgin and i think she thinks hes a nice guy hes nonthreatening maybe hes not like the most attractive but maybe a good guy to "practice" with but my mind starts to go down all these rabbit holes about how fucked up that is like he might really like me and im just doing this for practice and it makes me feel guilty and then i start thinking im a bad person and this is why i dont date because honestly these men are better off not dating me im a waste of their time and plus ive been on my own my whole life its very scary for me to idk like i have sexual desires i masterbate i have a vibrator and ive had crushes and sexual fantasies in my life but ive learned to just live in the fanatasy and escape into that when im lonely rather than actually attain anything real like i am someone who is very uncomfortable being sexualized like i mean if someone likes me i dont mind that, especially if i like them too it feels great to be liked but i feel a real disconnect with my body like if a guy is dancing with me and he wants to grind or something like ive always been jealous of my friends that could be free with their body all i think about is how weird i must look trying to copy sexy moves that i dont know how to do and frankly make me feel stupid like i dont mind romance buying flowers opening doors chivalrous things kind gestures but maybe im just an old soul or born in the wrong time but i dont find girating my body or wearing scantily clad things to be empowering and sexy it makes me feel weak and exposed and like im performing as opposed to being really comfortable and then i go well yup that means im asexual if im not comfortable being seen as a sex object and if my friends can do that then why cant i or it means im asexual or gay its just like if a man danced with me and it was a respectful slow dance i dont mind that but i just feel like modern dating and hookup culture and even dancing have these elements of moving too fast and no respect for yourself and the other person or it feels that way to me not that its the case but like im not against people who can like be free with their bodies or think im better than them i wish i could be one of those girls who like wears a mini dress and heels and like draws men in with their confidence and freedom and inhibitions but it feels so forced and fake when i do it that I just dont and this guy im going on the date with hes like the type to date girls who wear things where their thong showing according to who my friend has seen him with in the past which is like good for them but im like he doesnt seem like someone who wants to date someone like me who is more conservatively dressed and like not someone who is quick to hookup but at the same time there is this language barrier so its like we are going on a date i dont think he goes on formal dates often and this is according to my friend i think he mostly just hooksup with women and enjoys that type of easy dynamic and i just keep thinking how awkward the convos will be and im dreading if he asks me about why im single or my past relationships and im afraid of him trying to kiss me tonight and what to do when that happens and im worried after im going to have an ocd spiral really bad anyway i just wanted to vent and to be clear i have nothing against women who show their thongs or whatever or people who like hooking up quickly i just know that type of lifestyle makes me personally uncomfortable and i feel like thats become more of the norm and it makes me feel more pressure when i have gone on dates where im like well this guy is counting down the days until we have sex like if i dont kiss him on the first date and dont have sex on the third im officially difficult and a waste of time so why even go on a date at all and yeah im just in my head a lot

I don't even have that "deep inside you know you're straight" feeling anymore, i used to but now i don't even know... it sucks it makes me feel denial and homophobic and to top it all off i also have tocd (not as bad as hocd)

I have nearly dissolved my OCD thoughts, without CBT, but with a different explanation for the symptoms, different practices and finally the inside that the OCD thoughts definitely sit on top of trauma, and consequently concentrating on treating trauma. Start to look out for explanations for what you are going through and for the adapted (self-)treatment. Don‘t believe this talk „CBT is the only way to go“ too much. That‘s what I wanted to share

when i go through these crisis moments of “realizing” i’m bi it freaks me out so bad and i just cry

Hello everyone I am completely new this and I think I have been experiencing OCD...I have had anxiety for 6 years now and it has got better much better over the years and I’m so glad, Iv been getting this horrible thoughts and fears that I might be lesbian even tho I have a boyfriend who I love and adore and have been with for nearly a year and all my past relationships have been with boys...I know that I’m straight and I have never ever once questioned or said that I am lesbian or even had the fear that I am, now this thought is getting deeper and deeper in my head and I’m so scared and it makes me so stressed and low and don’t know how to get rid off it or how to make myself better, I would get therapy but obviously it’s expensive and I am scared that I might not get better or these thoughts won’t go away, I just want reassurance and to know that they are just thoughts and I’m not the only one going through it...can anyone help??? Thankyou x

i feel like because i accepted that i maybe open to sexual experimenting with a girl in the future i have to label myself as bisexual and sex with my boyfriend is feeling so off like i had a panic attack today. i haven’t experienced this in almost a year.

as hard as sitting with your thoughts is, i promise it pays off. they are starting to not scare me as much, and i’m so grateful 🙏🏼 you can do it! i believe in you.

hi guys so ive had ocd symptoms since i was around 9 yrs old and i finally got my diagnosis on monday (age 18) ! i've been perscribed prozac so im wondering if anyone thats tried it could tell me how it works for them <3

I have a question for everyone: What's one thing you would take back in your life if you could? If you could redo one thing in your life out of all the days you've been living, what would it be? For me, I think it would be my discovery of pornography. It ruined my perspective on romance, ruined the majority of my adolescence during high school days, I acted on impulses and imitated things I saw in adult content, and to this day I still hate pretty much all of what has to do with it. On the other hand, I'd really like to know what other people's answers are to this question. I'm curiosity, maybe this could be fun. It could be refreshing to talk about something that isn't out OCD worries or compulsions.

PLEASE HELP OR TELL ME IF THIS IS AN EXPERIENCE YOU’VE HAD! essentially, my OCD has been worsening and I’m starting to go crazy. I am developing intrusive thoughts about saying curse words in public (any curse word—you name it, horrible words I normally wouldn’t use or slurs just words that are atrocious) Anyway, to try to prove to myself I didn’t say those words (depending on what the word is) I will start making sounds usually similar sounds over and over and under my breath or clicking my tongue or clearing my throat and sometimes it feels like I’m not even in control of my mouth. But it’s like a compulsion. Or I keep doing it trying to make myself feel better or prove I didn’t say it, or even “keep myself from saying it” (as my OCD brain tells me) by making noises, and like feel like I AM saying it in the process. The issue is—sometimes i’m making these in public and I’ll think I DID say the slur/curse word or I potentially did make two sounds when checking or having this compulsion that sound exactly like it. But to me—THATS basically the same as saying it and I COMPLETELY panic. Especially when other people are around who, depending on what the word is I’m randomly focusing on, could be highly offended. Although considering it’s like every curse word mostly anyone would be offended. I was just wondering if this was something other people experienced or if I am just like some shit person who should accept that I was saying curses or slurs under my breath even if it was unintentional and just random sounds or noises that sounded like it. And I am NOT a homophobic, racist, or misogynistic person. I know this about myself. These words are not in my vocabulary that I would ACTUALLY use. That’s why I’m so frightened.

Bro what the hell So I was starting to get over my hocd when my mom just told me my younger brother is bisexual and is in a relationship with a guy. When she said that my anxiety went through the roof because I'd never thought he'd go that way. He said he was having the same thoughts but acted upon it and it's scaring me. I've been thinking like yo I had thoughts but I didn't want to have them nor did I enjoy them. There nasty and upsetting. I finally met this one girl and I think we have a connection that's great and I want to be with her. But it's like I can't because I don't want to hurt her or make her believe I'm thinking about doing those things when in reality I don't want to do those things. I just can't physically get an erection from a dude unless there's a girl first and even when the thought switchs I get turned off really quick. Last night this gay guy who I knew in 9th grade asked he could suck my d*** and I denied the hell outta him and my anxiety went through the roof on that. I'm so freaking confused man like bruh how could he think things that I had it makes no sense. How the hell is this possible man 😱🤕

I think I’m done. Dude I don’t care anymore I’m not going to do erp anymore or look at a guy or girl anymore I’m just done. I don’t have the right insurance for a higher level of care I don’t have the money for it either I feel like every fuckin therapist doesn’t want to help me with what I need help with so I’m fuckin done I don’t want help anymore.

Anyone her have reliogious ocd

I know this might be a dumb question but blcan OCD be self diagnosed? Like if symptoms make sense and you are struggling with the same things someone with ocd is dealing with too could you self diagnose yourself until you get help?

I've overthought my relationship since September questioned it so much to the point where I'm still like this today. It's never gotten better or any glimmer of hope. I'm so scared and worried its bad timing and his flaws or he's not right and yet I just want us to somehow grow thru this before I one day just don't care and move on. Is there hope for me? :( I feel like the only one. I don't get good days and bad days. This is CONSTANT. I'm really in a low place. A really low place today. Sorry all. We are long distance too.

So yesterday I had an unintended exposure which left me pretty uncomfortable. But today, I feel really happy. I've been smiling a lot more and I don't exactly know why. But, I'm glad I can be able to share this happiness with my family and friends. Maybe it's because my friend told me she could finally get the therapy she needed. Maybe it's because my best friend is there for me and will always support me. Maybe it's because of the journaling I've been doing, like right now. I'm sorry to anyone that might be annoyed by me talking about myself a lot in this post, but sometimes, I just like to journal here, you know? It helps me. My current problems are my OCD latches onto something that happened in 2018 when I was 16/17 and of course my addiction to adult content for about 8 years. It all started when I was 11. I'm working on stopping it right now and so far I'm 13 whole days clean. I haven't peeked at anything, and I haven't even gone on Instagram. I'm better off not being on any platforms that are triggering for my mental health in these conditions. I'm grateful that I at least know where I want to be at the end of all this: I'd like to be worry free, have my brain be 100% rewired, and pretty much get the old me back. True happiness from doing the simplest of things. True confidence and feelings of strength in order to get through the day. Strong natural and not forced attractions of the opposite gender, and pretty much an overall enjoyment of life. I don't want these past events to get to me and I don't think I should. Maybe I'm beating myself up over it, and I can give myself breathing room. I've tried this, and I seem to be much happier than usual. I'm going to take small steps to enjoy my day. I always tell myself: One day at a time. Day by day goals can help me get through things long term. I hope everyone else is well. I hope everyone is getting the help they deserve. I hope everyone has courage and the willpower to get through their days. I wish everyone a good day, a good week. Heck, a good month. :)

I'm convinced. Loss of attraction will be the death of me. I let in too essily.

I am going to carry a pocket knife with me. at this point I don't know I am a pedo or a pocd but I am not going to trust me anymore. I am going to carry a pocket knife so by any chance If I ever had any uncontrollable urge (which I never had), and there was a chance of me harming a child, I would just cut my hand or injure myself so that the urge would be take over by the Pain of the injury

Every single waking moment is filled with sexually intrusive images. I almost had an orgasm out of pure fear. Idk what to do anymore...

I'm not diagnosed with anything. People who have a fear of developing schizophrenia how do you deal with it?