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question for hocd sufferers - did any of you ever have fantasies about the lesbian/gay porn you were watching and climax and did any of you ever have a fantasy about a friend ? i did due to how much i watched porn and its really messing me up. i never saw her that way and still don’t but it just won’t leave my mind, sometimes i don’t even think it ever happened but it feels so real so i’m not even sure. i feel alone, can anyone relate? and if you have advice it would be nice 🤍

Seeing a psychiatrist for the first time on the 30th and now that it's getting closer to the day the more nervous I am. I 100% want help. I need help. I feel like my mind has pulled me back from so much in my life whether it's being around my family, friends and just getting the motivation to do anything I love to do because I feel like I don't deserve love or happiness. My parents know everything that's going on with me thanks to the constant reassurance I need to get by which now turned into regret because I hate that I brought them into this when they don't even believe I could possibly have OCD. I would much rather it be all in my head rather than mean something about me or be real. I don't want it to be real. I'm afraid all the time of my thoughts and feelings I feel like I'm going to take it out on myself because I really do hate myself so much. And it's funny because if it was anyone else in the world I would do whatever it took for them to know how much they matter and that it's not their fault but I can't help but feel like it's all my fault. That I did this to myself. I've struggled with depression and anxiety for a long time I just want my life back. I want to be properly diagnosed but I'm probably going to hold back some details until I know for sure the psychiatrist is understanding of ocd and the symptoms of every version of it. My heart goes out to any struggling this time of year or even this year at all. Let's go into 2021 with much positivity and love. Let's get through this together 🙏🏻

i don’t feel like me. i feel like i’ve changed. i guess i feel hollow. I don’t like the thoughts i get but i feel like maybe i do. The meds have pretty much stopped the anxiety and helped the false attraction and the frequency of the thoughts but i still get quite a few and they are repetitive and definitely distressing. i don’t like who i am at the moment. i miss that feeling of having a crush on this boy. and i haven’t had a day ‘free’ of this for ages. it makes me feel like “maybe it’s because your gay”. NO. i don’t want to be. I used to want to have children say nice i was a young girl. and now i feel dead. that’s how i feel DEAD

I felt love yesterday but today I don’t.... what is wrong with me.... how can you tell if u really don’t love someone?... 😞 I don’t wanna tell him that bc I know I do love him a lot but I just feel like I am faking it.... I hate ocd

I just feel so trapped and alone with my thoughts I don’t know how to handle this or what to do anymore

after ERP can you handle your thoughts without ruminating? because I dont think it will ever go away and that makes me sad cuz I cant have this forever cuz it will.kill me

When people on here say they are having an ocd attack i feel like im in constant attack my brain just doesnt stop thinking if im gay or not. I just want my life back

Anyone else really bored and feeling Lonely in the world when you still have a good support system but you still feel out of place ?

Have panic attacks. I struggle with major anxiety and am struggling taking care of myself with food and exercise and my social needs are pretty neglected cause the pandemic. I’m starting to feel depressed. Anyways it’s bed time and my heart’s beating slow but feels like it’s racing I’m taking deep breaths. Not motivated to take care of myself though bc of financial stuff for food and I live in an apartment in winter so exercise is hard

Asking for a friend, I have gone through therapy on the NOCD app and it has helped tremendously. I guess I just want to rant a little and see if anyone feels the same. I was just wondering if anyone that experiences ROCD can relate to this. I find myself constantly comparing my relationship to others and of course questioning if it is a good one at all. My boyfriend supports me through all my endeavors, especially with supporting me through my OCD and I love him dearly. That is why I guess these thoughts cause so much distress.. it is hard to trust myself because I was in a very toxic and abusive relationship before this one and I thought it was perfectly normal. I have dreams where I’ll date other guys and wake up mad at my boyfriend for either not doing little things like buy me flowers (which is dumb compared to the love he has for me) or I’ll wake up and be spiral into thinking about if I love him why would I be having these dreams. It’s like my OCD loves to keep me in the loop.

I can't get medication or therepy and I can't take this anymore. I've been a straight man my entire life, always wanted a wife and this says otherwise. The thing worse than the thoughts and disgusting images is the groinal response. I can't take this anymore. Six months of this shit and a garbage year in general. Covid, my girlfriend cheating and leaving, laid off at work despite working hard, total isolation, then this. I had ocd during childhood and youth now it's back. This has said many things over the years but the things it's said past six months are, -Ive always been trans but never knew -Im want to be trans -Im a pédo -Im a râpist - I'm a traitor to my country -Id rather fight for the axis than the allies -Our veterans are scumbags -I want to beat women -I want to load a shotgun and shoot my family -I like incest -I want to fuck animals -im going to hell - I don't believe in my Catholic faith - The one that's been the worst, I'm gay I don't want to be or do those things. I don't. I've thought of myself as a decent man and I loved who I was before this. I don't want to live anymore. I've looked for reasons to keep going yet I find nothing. The whole "You have so much to live for!" has only given me little hope and strength in the early stages of this. It does nothing for me anymore. With the groinal response it's like I've turned gay. HOCD It's attacked friends, people I look up to, family. So many people. I just want to curl up and die. I just want to fucking die

anyone else laugh at how silly their thoughts are and then get hit in the face with them and get anxiety the day after ? 🙄🙄

is confessing to lessen the guilt a compulsion?

hey, my hocd has been terrible the past few days im a ‘straight’ female, with a wonderful boyfriend of a year and a bit and he’s my everything. about a year ago my friends told me they were bi, that made me question if i wanted to be bi too, i thought about it and got worried for an hour maybe and then realised, don’t be silly you haven’t been aroused by a woman before or have felt the want to be with a woman or anything like that, and that’s true i had not. maybe the odd ‘celeb crush’ like omggg that girls so hot, but never to the extent of wanting to sido anything sexual with them or date them, in fact the thought of touching vaginas ect made me uncomfortable because it’s just not something i was interested in. ever since then i sat comfy being straight but still trying to fit in with my friends so i would say to them things like ‘i don’t like labels’ even though i knew god damn well i was straight. that passed and i was honest with them and just said you know what i think i am straight i just wanted to fit in with you guys, as you seemed so happy about it. i moved on being a comfortable straight for a long time. one day in early november i got a thought that i liked one of my male friend, that kick started my rocd, i had that for a while back and forth ‘do i love my bf’ ‘do i like other guys’. a week or so after that i was on my phone and saw the word ‘lesbian’ this triggered my intrusive thoughts to tell me i was bi or lesbian or wanted to be with a girl. and for ages i felt so uncomfortable and scared and panicked and nauseous about the idea of liking girl because i hadn’t thought about it in such depth before, the thoughts don’t give me pleasure i don’t think, they make me feel terrified and sick. but right know they have come back so severe i really nice questioning myself, and i don’t want to like girls i really really really don’t. it isn’t something that i want but it’s something that i feel like i have to do, my brain is telling me i am in denial because of my past day of questioning to try and fit in, i really don’t want to like girls. but i can’t help but ask myself over and over if i really would. i want to be with my boyfriend and be straight, i like the label of being straight, that’s what makes me comfortable. but now i’m terrified i like women, i feel so suicidal over it. i would do anything for the thoughts and pain to go away and never come back. any advice ??

How can I cope? During suffering endlessly with my Ocd having to tolerate this family. My mother always triggers me because she always wants to be close. I don't and never have and I've suffered way too long pretending. Years. I'm grown ffs but the responsibility I feel. Can someone pls help and talk with me!? How do I cope when fighting my Ocd and craving space and to be on my own. Its so so so debilitating. I don't want to be close to her and I never have I don't like feeling forced cos society thinks we 'should' be close. But this is extra hard whilst I'm dealing with my Ocd I can't cope anymore. Pls help.

So my psychiatrist doesn’t think I have OCD. Should I still keep this app in my phone?

So my hocd makes me think of men all day and night thoughts telling me thats what i want. But in my dream last night i was dreaming about girls and it felt so good and right what is happening here ? 😞

Can I please talk with a NOCD advocate right now? I am in a terrible place.

Why are some themes more "sticky" than others? I've struggled with HOCD for months now, but for about two weeks it shifted to TOCD. For me, I think TOCD was the most debilitating but HOCD sticks to my brain the most. I'm able to talk about my TOCD theme & my experience and can almost laugh at it now because it's so far from anything I would ever believe about myself. But now I'm even doubting if I ever felt anxiety from my HOCD because it wasn't as intense as my panic attacks from TOCD. Has anyone experienced this?

please someone help me, i’m so close to the edge. i’m in a happy relationship, a straight relationship. and i’m so scared of being mainly lesbian or bi, i don’t want to be but my thoughts are questioning if i am. i don’t want to be with a woman. but what if i do? i’m terrified i don’t want to do this anymore