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Do you guys ever get false emotions? Like resentment, for example? Or blame? I feel guilty all the time, but lately I’ve been feeling resentment toward my family and it’s way worse than any guilt. It makes me feel like I’m alone and I can’t trust anyone and any comfort my family tries to give to me is tainted by these feelings.

im worried about my sister this isnt really related to my ocd but i thought it would be safe to vent here... shes taken a bunch of pills before a few years ago a sort of cry for help ... she was physically abused by our father growing up and i think he might be a narcisist because he directed all his rage at her i was definitely not treated as badly ... we all stayed a close family though but very toxic like way too involved in each others lives for a family with a history that we have and would just pretend the bad times werent that bad and go on family trips and even have really good times together (even though i know that sounds crazy) we just learned to adapt to the family we were given 🤷‍♀️ this past year we both quit our jobs and moved back home (3 years after the incident with the pills) shes been extremly depressed never leaving her room or rarely but whats worse is i think shes home seeking justice for her childhood she says she has no plan to leave even though our childhood home makes her worse and she wants to wallow in her trauma and make my parents relive it and i think she wants my dad to pay for what he did to her and take responsibility and she wants us all to accept that but the thing is she played 3 sports growing up and played basketball in college she got a phd in physical therapy her depression and anxiety and being on the spectrum a bit have made things challenging for her along with how my father treated her but shes a capable kind person who i know has had a bad hand dealt to her but she has had a lot of great things in her life as well and good friends but instead she views herself as broken and shes mad at not just my parents but our extended family for not adopting her and taking her away from our family when they shouldve and im her younger sister so im the only one she doesnt blame or hate for her life but i take on a lot of responsibility trying to make her okay and i know i cant do that but shes starting to really worry me ... my god father tried to talk with her the other night telling her she could stay with him in florida and away from my dad but instead of being happy about that shes shut down even more and was kind of having an adult temper tantrum saying we cant fix her and leave her alone let me watch tv all day... she also went cold turkey on her antidepressents and says things like i just go to therapy to appease you guys i know its not working and idk like me and my mom want to take her to an outpatient facility and pay for expensive care for her but she wont even do that shes 31 years old and im 28 and im definitely trying to leave my parents house but i dont want to leave her behind and its hard to tell what to do? like i know my father is in the wrong and our childhoods shouldve been better but she could leave and find support elsewhere and cut him off but instead shes doing this self torture by living with him again as an adult i know her depression makes it hard to function but i also know she can function better than this so like what does somebody do? being in this environment makes my ocd worse but because of my dad and my sister most of my focus goes on them would love words of wisdom and comfort from anybody right now 🙏🙏🙏🙏

My boyfriend said I love you and I said it back. I have back been in therapy for OCD, specifically a relationship theme, for about 3 weeks. I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months. I started having a lot of doubts (followed by compulsions) about a month in when we made it official. I've been very very nervous about him saying "I love you" to me, because I felt like I would want to say it back, but I don't know if I feel it like I am supposed to. I have been in love before and not had this kind of indecision. My last serious relationship was 3 years ago. It wasn't that long of a relationship, but serious enough to say "I love you." I didn't experience ROCD then. But I did kind of have a mix of ROCD/scrupulosity toward the beginning. Essentially, that person was an atheist and I'm a lapsed evangelical. I started to feel like we were unequally yoked and went back to wondering if I believed the right things blah blah blah. So I guess it had a relationship tinge to it, but it wasn't specific doubts about my feelings for him. It was more like doubts about my beliefs and if being with him was okay or "right." My point being that while I had an OCD flare during that relationship, it wasn't like this. I don't expect everything to feel the same. I just feel like maybe I'm a fraud. Anyway, the point of this post was to say that my current boyfriend told me he loved me last night. It was via text (I am quarantining right now and he was very nervous). I immediately felt panic...like what the fuck should I do?? This was what I had been worried about. It's one of the more tangible fears I had told my therapist about. I made the decision to call him and say it back. I don't know if it was the right decision. Part of me feels like a liar or a fraud. I have been trying to focus less on my feelings and more on what I want. What I want is to be with this person because they are kind and caring. He has watched me cry due to my anxiety and held my hand and hugged me tightly. He laughs at my jokes and nerds out with me when we watch Lord of the Rings. He is kind to my friends (which is very important to me) and kind to his as well. He is creative and a deep thinker. I can see myself having a child with this person, even though I haven't even been sure I ever want a child. That's something, right? I really want it to work. I have dated...a lot. It has been exhausting and a roller coaster. And I finally found a stable source of comfort. And yet I feel like I am chasing some mysterious feeling or worried it is missing. So I said it back because I want it. And maybe that is wrong. I really don't know. I don't know what to do anymore. Just needed to vent.

I don’t see a point to treatment anymore. I am making out wi try my girlfriend and constantly analyzing and checking whether I like the kissing or whether I don’t like it and am therefore gay. I don’t see how ERP can help with HOCD.

my intrusive thoughts aren’t like fully formed phrases or a voice saying “you’re in denial” it’s more just like a persistent feeling that i am. i’m worried because everyone else’s are like a voice or full sentences or words

Has anyone ever got cheated on and had ruminating thoughts that I don't love this person and they're ugly you don't want to further the relationship but you do want the future with this person but OCD gets the best of you. I'm sorry if this didn't make sense.

An Update (it does get better) : About a 140 days ago, I checked myself into a psych unit and a hospital around my house. I had been on NOCD for a bit of time, and my previous posts showed my spiral into a deep and dark depression stemming from my OCD theme. I didn’t feel like I was myself. I was engaging in risky behaviors (specifically surrounding the medication I was on), and suicidal thoughts I hadn’t had since the age of 13 returned. It had been days since I bathed or had taken care of myself. I started gaining food aversions because of my intrusive thoughts, and I was afraid to sleep alone. I can say that those 5 days in the unit completely changed me for the better. I got the medical help I needed and I got the psych treatment I deserved. I had a therapist before going to the unit, but having a psychologist who can come up with a complete treatment strategy was what was needed. I could eat again, sleep alone again, and remember who I was before OCD took its control. After the unit, I continued therapy with my current therapist. She isn’t an OCD specialist but she does her research and is completely understanding to OCD and wants to work with me to increase her knowledge is treating OCD patients (wonderful lady and one of my truest rocks). I also confided in my mom and she has been the person holding my hand throughout this whole thing. I’m currently on medication, though I am looking at other medical options. Some things I am looking at are dTMS, therapeutic ketamine, and therapeutic psilocybin. I know those things sound scary, but the research behind them is insanely promising. CBT has also been a great source for me. I’m still working up the nerve to do ERP because my OCD theme scares the hell out of me and I’m afraid ERP will be deeply triggering (however don’t let this disuade you from ERP is works!) This post isn’t made to talk about how good a psych unit can be. It was meant to show that even when OCD drags you to your lowest and most difficult point in life, it can get better. Don’t give up on yourself. Find someone you trust who won’t judge you whether it be a parent, friend, therapist, etc. Talk to them and explain the grief that comes with OCD. Having people to talk to is godly. Explore medications and therapies, but also know that standard SSRI’s and CBT aren’t your only options (I’m not trying to push alternative methods by all means, but consider looking into the new studies for new options especially if you feel like you’re treatment resist to standard methods). And lastly, you deserve to feel good. You deserve to feel loved and accepted. You deserve to feel like who you were before this bully in your head decided to take over. Yes you’re currently still “you” but there will be a day where you have a moment of peace from OCD. I wish you all the best.

Hey so Ive been smoking weed for about a year now. however, I have developed CHS from smoking so much and have just started to stop smoking. (CHS causes me to throw up non stop until I get dehydrated and have to go to the ER) ever since I stopped smoking I have been having really bad intrusive thoughts about harming myself, animals, and my girlfriend. I think I subconsciously was smoking so much to block all of these thoughts out and ever since I stopped they have been really bad. My thoughts get worse at night and often are really scary because I know I would never do these things and that I’m a good person at heart. Any advice or help? I really hate these thoughts and often struggle with getting them out of my head. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

I can NEVER fucking shop. I always think I’m going to get the wrong thing. So I keep looking for the BEST OPTION because that way I get my money’s worth. I feel like I have such bad luck that even if I get the best quality, that should last for years, it will only last for 6 months. So I keep checking the reviews and keep looking for better products. Sometimes things stay in my cart for fucking months. Friend also noted that I’ve mentioned buy a thing years ago, but I never got it cause my OCD said it was right or good enough. Urghhhh. I just want to buy a fucking weighted blanket without obsessing about which brand is best or right!!! CAUSE THERE IS NO RIGHT!

I really need some help/guidance with this struggle. I really want to and need to start working but my pure O makes it very hard because I do a lot of mental rituals and it’s so hard to break out of it and get myself to focus which is currently why I’m not working. The anxiety gets so bad and then I fear messing up so I constantly wanna perfect stuff in my head so I can focus but it’s time consuming and exhausting and plain out not okay for me to do. I just want to work and be able to focus and not fall into rituals mentally because I can’t do that at a job. I see an ERP therapist but this is a topic that’s hard to get advice on.

Hello everyone! I just wanna give a heads up that this post might not be for everyone and you should all do research before you even think about trying what I did, but I just wanted to write about and remove some stigma around magic mushrooms. I just had a psylocibin trip and it has already changed my perspective on life. I don’t know if I’ll feel this way for a long time but as of right now I feel happiness and self love, something I haven’t felt in months. I was diagnosed with GAD, OCD and depression and I am also battling addiction (I’m about 3 months sober now) I felt extreme guilt and shame for years but as of 2020 I felt myself going down a bigger spiral. I completely isolated my self from family, friends and even my fiancé. I’ve had 4 therapists in the past months and I’ve been going CBT and I just started ERP but I felt so overwhelmed with everything that I was having a really hard time forgiving myself. I found myself calling the suicide hotline often and I started googling on what would be the most pain free way to do it. I knew I needed help. I saw studies that psylocibin was tested to be helpful with depression and I came across videos on how it might benefit OCD as well and I decided to do it. My theme is ROCD. I fear that I am not good enough for my fiancé and I have intrusive thoughts that make me believe that I may have flirted or maybe even cheated on her in the past even though I have no recollection of doing so. I made it a goal to go into my trip with the mindset to heal from this. I ate the dose and I turned off the lights in my room, threw on some healing music on YouTube and closed my eyes. I don’t know how to describe it but I visualized my ROCD as a giant octopus whose tentacles had wrapped around my fiancé’s body and was strangling her. The more I fought the intrusive thoughts about not loving her, the stronger it squeezed her. It was really intense but eventually (maybe 2 hours into this) I realized that by not letting go of the thought I was hurting my fiancé more than if the thought was true. I realized that I’ve been putting her through so much by feeding into my compulsions and confessing to her and asking her for reassurance. Once that hit me I decided to not fight the thoughts and just observe them and I even started to agree with them. As soon as I did that the octopus let her go but her body was dead. I guess that is the way the mushrooms showed me that if I kept going in this direction I was really going to lose her. I cried so much and this was honestly a terrifying experience but I feel like it was just what I needed to realize that I can’t keep going like this. It was so hard for me not to do my compulsions of ruminating, confessing and seeking reassurance but now I understand that it is only making it worse. It’s like it all clicked once I surrendered to the thought. I have a new mindset now. If my worst case scenario comes true and I really did do those horrible things then I will deal with them when they present themselves. Even if we get a divorce and she never wants to speak to me again, I know that everything will be okay. I’ll always love her and I’ll always treasure every moment we shared together. I chose to live in the present and enjoy every second we have together. I hope this helps someone that’s in a similar situation that I was. I love you all and wish you all healing.

Does anyone have any suggestions or experiences dealing with fears of having done something unforgivable in the past? I had an ex who had emotionally abusive behaviors and took advantage of me sexually, and my fears are that I could’ve done something to him and forgotten or just not realized it was wrong in the moment? Any suggestions or help would be wonderful :)

Any uplifting success stories here? I’m in need of a pick me up. Some inspiration would be nice.

Today I had an OCD though/ false memory of something really bad and for a while it seemed real but I didn’t really care. I know it didn’t happen and usually when I have little anxiety it doesn’t seem real at all but this time I had little anxiety while it seemed real. Has anyone else had an experience like this?

I have a question.. I think my friend has ocd.. but obviously I don't want to diagnose or like make her uncomfortable but she does ask me for ALOT of reassurance i noticed of whether she is a good person and /or whether the thing she did will make her sick.. and her hand washing has reached a point where her skin is cracking... What is the right thing to do here? I am happy to reasure her if that's what is good for her but I do clearly from the outside see that she's in a loop... So am i enabling her? .. I obv don't know if even she actually has it.. cause she's never been diagnosed or even thought about it.. But I don't want to cause more harm.. idk.. I'm just getting concerned.. shes been living at her parents who are not the best people.. and has not gone outside even in her yard for fear of the neighbours breath coming in her yard.. and i feel like she's getting worse... Idk what to do.. feels like it's none of my business except that she always gets her reassurance from me.. o.o Thoughts?

.......... There was a tiktok on my for you page specifically in calling out the viewer for being gay and struggling with identifying it and being born in the 90s and being fragile.. and I swear to god it's like it was MADE to trigger me into thinking I'm in denial what the HELL. My skin like went cold.. I made myself finish watching it but I feel a bit sick. I deleted that and marked it as "not interested" Really trying to avoid trying to place meaning on it.

Apparently no one on here has had the experience I am having.

Does anyone else’s OCD attack your relationship with your family? There are things about my family that I find upsetting, but normally I’m just able to accept that these things make me mad, but I know they’re still good people and I love them all. Lately, it’s like my brain is dedicated to ruining the relationship with my family. So, then I go through a cycle of feelings with almost no relief. The biggest feeling is terror, because I am afraid I’m going to let these things ruin my relationship with them and I’m never going to see them again. Then I feel guilt. It’s never ending guilt. First, the guilt is because I’m causing my family a lot of distress and I’m so convinced my fears are real that I feel guilty like “they don’t realize these things are really going to happen and they’re going to lose me”. Then I feel guilty when I get so tired of fighting the obsession that I start thinking “what if I’ll be okay if I never talk to them again? what if I’ll be able to move on?”. Then I feel guilty cause I refuse to allow the obsession to be real and the only way out I see is killing myself, but that would hurt my family too. Then I feel guilty for trying to be happy, because then I’m betraying somebody else (it’s a complicated thing I will explain if someone reads this and wants to know). Then I start blaming my family for these feelings, cause I do genuinely feel that they’re wrong about this one thing. Or not wrong, because they don’t have any bad intentions, but...again it’s complicated. THEN I feel guilty for blaming my family for these feelings, because they’re doing their best and they just don’t see certain things in the same way. And throughout it all I feel an overwhelming sadness. Just so SO sad.

How do your “thoughts” come to you? Mine are so random and just pop out of nowhere. I think the feeling I get is the most disturbing part to me. I get chills, my stomach aches and I feel like I’m going to vomit. I get shaky. The fear is so intense and just instantly out of nowhere. What I struggle with the most is the guilt and fear “feeling” and because I’m feeling this I most be guilty or the thoughts are true because no innocent person would feel this. Does this happen to you guys as well?

So before this POCD spike I read a lot of erotic fanfiction (none about minors or children) and listened to nsfw audios (again, none involving children or minors). It never disrupted my day to day and I also looked up non sexual cute things, but with how much I read/listened to them, does that mean I was developing a sex addiction? And also I remember starting to look up lesbian porn again even though I swore years ago never to do that. I never thought about having another woman do those things to me or wanting her to (as far as I know), and now this makes me nervous for the future, especially in regards to remembering that I looked up the shota hentai.