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Might be helpful for others: Hey! I think a big attributing factor to my OCD is my desire and longing for everything to be perfect ALL the time! I want my feelings to be perfect - joyful calm, content, confident. I want to be fit and healthy and active to the best. I want others around me to be kind, considerate, patient, joyful, calming towards me. I want plans to go swiftly and in line with what I'm aware of. But this isn't real life. I'm searching for something that is impossible to attain. Impossible: not able to be done or happen; absurd or unreasonable. I need to learn to sit with discomfort and the not so great parts of life. Sometimes it reminds me of that film Click if you have seen it? I kinda want to be like Adam Sandler who just clicks with his special remote through anything he doesn't want to do. I would zoom past tears, anger, sadness, illnesses, hopelessness, other people irritating me, disappointments. I would just tune in for the awesome joyful parts of life. But just like the movie shows at the end, I realised if you zoom past all these other parts, you miss out on a HUGE part of life. Suffering is part of life! I guess it's what makes joyful feelings, physical health and feelings of content that much more sweeter. I need to continue my journey with ERP sitting with distressing and uncomfortable feelings, and correcting my association to events and my thoughts. I hope to become better at accepting suffering in my life. Hopefully something is helpful here, and if anything, it's a movie recommendation 🤣😁 💜

Hello everyone ! I am making progress little by little, even if I go through some relapses sometimes. HOWEVER, I would like some tips about how to handle this kind of situation : Throughout a few days, I can feel in love, I can feel affectionne and deep care, I can feel angry and stressed-out, I can feel intimate or not at all, I can feel just friendly and I can feel neutral toward my boyfriend. How can I handle the anxiety rising when the feelings are not positive (or what I think should be feelings associated to love) ? These makes me go back to the old question of "love or affection or just needy ?" and I don't like that. Thank you for reading me, I hope you are doing fine and I know we can make it through !

Hi All, this is a lesson in reassurance I spent all night on Reddit checking and asking about my sexuality (DO NOT DO THIS, I KNEW IT WAS A BAD IDEA AND GAVE IN). It’s so funny and I can tell this is all ocd because I got two responses: 1. You sound like a lesbian, go for it! To which I responded all the reasons why I don’t think I am. 2. You’re not gay! To which I felt immense relief and happiness. Guess what though, minutes later I felt like I needed to ask again. I felt like person #1 must be right, even though I got the answer I wanted. Even though people were downvoting me because I was on a lesbian Reddit explaining how I’m attracted to men (not the most kind thing to do in their community/space, I do regret this). Even though I knew I really, desperately have no desire to be. Ocd doesn’t want a concrete answer and you’ll never get one that satisfies you as long as you fall in its traps. I should add I have posted numerous times before and 75% of people tell me I’m likely not a lesbian, but this is still not exact enough that every few months I find myself asking again.

I’m scared as shit bro. So ima girl and we have discharge right. And it looks like cum. And I’ve masterbated and my mom asked me why my underwears have white stuff over and over I said it’s discharge cause maybe my period is coming. This is literally Among Us in real life. I can’t get caught and she’s washing my underwear’s tmr, so I hope she doesn’t think anything sus. If your a guy reading this. Hey hello. If our a girl reading this. PLEASEEEEE HELPPPPPPPP the girls got me aye?

My HOCD is telling me that it’s okay to be attracted to my friends. I don’t want to be attracted to my friends. I just want to be a straight man whose attracted to women. No anxiety after 5 months. Kill me dude.

Is it possible for ERP to be too much for people? I am suffering with postpartum ocd among some harm and religious stuff... mostly always geared towards my son. I’m just wondering if there have been other modes of therapy that have been have been found effective and less anxiety inducing inducing. I’m doing ERP, but it’s very hard to just sit with my anxiety when I’m trying to take care of a baby. Thanks for any tips!

I’m really sad I’ve been going through this since July and Im Sad all the time, I feel like this will never leave. Apperently it doesn’t. Hocd kills me and rocd just fuels it. My rocd makes me think I have feelings for my ex and still want to be with other guys but then my hocd makes me think I don’t want to kiss my boyfriend and that I hate it and want to be with girls and makes my thoughts go bad. I still complus everyday but just try ignore it, it’s still always in the back of my head and I’m really upset. It’s like I don’t cry and get emotional in a situation with my boyfriend and I freak out. Or I then freak out that I’m using him for emotional support. I’m really just done with this, I feel like I have no where to go anymore. So much people on this also say ocd never leaves them. It’s just so scary because hocd is my first proper ocd theme Thats lasted this long and now rocd. I feel like I just don’t have anything left in me or to live for.

My HOCD is making me feel like I don’t want to masturbate to lesbian porn. I was doing the deed and it felt like I didn’t want to masturbate to lesbian porn. I’m scared that if I look up gay porn, that it will get me aroused and excited more than lesbian porn and it scares me. I will never look up gay porn but this HOCD is giving me temptations to check and I’m scared as hell.

I'm trying to understand why a therapist would recommend dropping my wallet and debit card/cash if my intrusive thought was "What if I've lost my wallet?" I thought you exposed yourself to the thought itself, not the content. I'm very anxious, confused & scared, because ERP really confuses me. I know it's the primary treatment for OCD. But I thought it was about embracing your intrusive thoughts & not doing the compulsions.

Thought suppression is detrimental to recovering from ocd correct? Like say if my brain tells me to think of something, and I don’t want to, so I try to prevent the thoughts from entering. But then it does anyways, I end up feeling terrible. Or, even worse- if I just allow it, I feel guilty for allowing it, like I brought it on or didn’t do enough to stop it.

Ever since I had reached the age of 13, I felt like my childhood had left me just like that and I felt lost. I felt confused on what to do next the second junior high was all over. It felt like no one was holding my hand anymore, no one was guiding me and it definitely felt lonely. I had my friends here and there, but I wasn't aware of the emotional struggles I had felt. Throughout my highschool years, peer pressure happened to be one of the main causes for my depression, insomnia, loneliness, and trouble with keeping up with school. It felt confusing not having a shoulder to lean on or someone to love me back. It felt like for a while if I wanted something bad enough I could have it but that something never came and still hasn't come. Everytime I look back at my teen years, I can't find any real good thoughts to overpower the negative ones. The transition of leaving being a child to become an adult is one of the most difficult things people can go through. I had the real event OCD I have for things I did in my stupid teen years. Everyone including myself was at a part where hormones were going crazy. Everyone engaged in some sort of sexual activity whether it meant talking about it, reenacting sexual acts, or being in relationships which to this day is something I've never got to experience. I thought running away to the internet to make friends and explore my emotions would help but that honestly made everything so much worse. Why do I keep ruminating over the same things that happens 3 of more years ago over and over and over again? I keep fearing that the stupid mistakes I've done will destroy what I have now. I can barely focus on my present because my past takes up so much of my time and I don't want it to. I feel that I have changed and I don't do any of the things I used to anymore and I CRINGE at the fact that I've even done things like that in the first place. I just want to forget about it all and move on.

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guys i'm scared this wounds rude but yesterday my mom told me she supports p*dophilia and i'm scared that ill have tr@ma now although that isn't tr@ma i'm very scared tho :(

My boyfriend and I went through a rough patch a while back ago, we’ve patched it up and things are better than ever. But I over think if I feel the same after what’s happened, if I want a future with him especially after everything that’s went down, I fear the future, our future,I wanna say I love him, I know I love him, but what if I’m in denial about it all and I should just break up with him because deep down I know it isn’t going to work. I go back and forth and try to check if this is rocd or not and I’m scared if it’s not.

Can i higher dosage of medication make a difference im on 40mg of prozac thinking of going up to 60mg because im still struggling. Anyone else have any input?

I fucking hate when someone says some stupid shit that has nothing to do with me but my mind automatically tries to associate it to me. I fucking hate OCD!!!

Has anyone else experienced a decreased attraction to the opposite sex? I have and it fucking sucks. I’m pretty sure my social anxiety has something to do with that too, but I feel like the HOCD is playing a part as well...

Honestly I’m lost for words. All people can tell me is I’m doing it wrong and yet no one not even my previous therapist’s can tell me what to do. So what’s the point of waking up and doing anything at all? If I stop it gets worse if do something I still don’t get better. Smh. I want to get better I want to feel normal again. Do I know how no. Did my therapist know how obviously not cuz I’m not right still after 2 years. Like my goal is to get better. I want to get better. I try to take steps in getting better but yet I’m not seeing the results I should be seeing. I’m unsure how to get better anymore. I mean I meditate but yet still find myself searching for answers. I find myself still feeling empty. Like I’m doing my best and yet it’s still not enough anymore. I mean honestly I guess just laying in my bed meditating a couple times a day and not doing anything is my best bet right now. I already know people are going to tell me that I’ll get better and I can’t give up but the only way to get better is by doing the right steps and stop fucking up but my previous therapist did none of that she purposely let me fuck up and now I’m paying for it with no answer on how to get better now. I honestly can’t feel anything right now. If I’m not feeling anything isn’t this where I need help? Like what is therapy for if it isn’t to get me better but to let me fuck up to see if it’ll get me anxiety. Fucking she broke my back and now it’s cricket it ain’t put back together I know when I don’t feel anxiety and when I do but who cares right? She still gets to do therapy and I’m left with a cricket back so to speak smfh.

Hey! Any Christians out there? This is part of my OCD homework: What ways can we connect with God? One of my biggest compulsions is prayer. My therapist is giving me homework to see any other types of ways we can connect with God in a way that is beneficial. Please let me know, thank you so much 💜

Sometimes I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle. I've been doing better with ERP and things were improving. But it never seems to last. All the thoughts are so persistent and I never feel any different. I still feel like I have arousal towards women and I feel nothing and disgust towards men. I feel like that is not normal HOCD. My therapist is encouraging me to just continue treating it as OCD. I find myself staring at people's body parts and not feeling anything towards guys. It makes me feel so ashamed and like I'm a liar.