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My boyfriend and I just broke up. Anybody out there have successful relationships with OCD?

Whats the most stupid thing you ever heard from QUORA about Hocd? I know one

Hi! I need advise ASAP please. I have been making someone uncomfortable with my staring ocd. I want to have a chat with her today to explain my anxiety but also don’t want to go into ocd or staring ocd. I just want to explain that I’ve been struggling with my anxiety lately and I’m finding it really difficult to look at people in the face. Any advise on the best way to do this? I just want it to be short and sweet.

Kinda big spike tonight 😐 I was feeling pretty good today not gonna lie, had therapy this morning that went great, hung out with my family and my thoughts were at bay for the most part. Then this evening I wasn’t feeling so great I think it was something I ate. One of those things where your stomach is hurting in waves and sending you to the bathroom. Plus I was worried about my cat not feeling well either and thinking about a potential trip my family was talking about where I was peak OCD suffering so I guess I was vaguely reminded of that. So anyways I’m in the restroom not feeling great and I got an intrusive thought about my usual theme (suicidal OCD) and it scared me because I was like “what if that was a real thought “ etc. And I’ve been in therapy for months now I know I shouldn’t have reacted like that but I did. So I went to lay down and took a nap. When I woke up I was like whoa I’m feeling super panicky and anxious. It literally felt like how it was in the beginning of my OCD onset. I went to shower and I was terrified. However, I started implementing the skills I learned in therapy and have slowly started to calm down. But omg why did it all come and hit me so bad. Like it literally left like day 1 fear pre-therapy. Welp 🤷‍♀️

Is Break-Up OCD a thing? I was with my ex-girlfriend/fiancée for eight years, though we knew each other for ten. She was my first and only *real* relationship, and I thought she was my soulmate. This woman wrote me legit love letters. She admired me so much that she once said that she’d “ride into Heaven on my coattails.” She said she couldn’t wait to have me beside her when she gave birth one day. We even had a little running gag of proposing to each other at special spots...I used to joke that we held the record for how many proposals were accepted in a row. But after a few years, she faded out of the relationship. It’s hard to be 100% certain, because in the last few years she stopped sharing her inner world with me, but I’m pretty sure she suffers from pathological workaholism (like, a legit addiction to working on which she hinges her sense of self-worth, not just a lot of overtime) and PTSD (her mother was abusive, her father neglectful, she Saw Some Shit while in the foster care system, and she admitted once to being sexually abused, though she never gave details) that she either never had a true handle on, or that she lost her handle on. We had always been long distance to some degree, and in the last couple years of the relationship she would stonewall me when I tried to arrange visits (not respond to my attempts to make plans), not pick up my calls, take anywhere from three days to two weeks to answer texts, decline sex...everything that basically says she’s just not that into me. But when I finally forced myself to call it quits, she told me that she loved me and always would. Though in the intervening time, she hasn’t changed her communication (well. really, her lack thereof) at all. The last time I saw her in person was 2016, and the last time she communicated with me at all was Christmas 2019 (I’ve reached out to her since, to either plead for her to talk to me, or to arrange for me to send her some of her things that I have in my possession, but she never responds). I used to get heavy OCD episodes in regards to my behavior during the relationship, fearing that I had unwittingly sexually abused her. Since going on Prozac and getting a better handle on my thoughts, I’ve come to terms with the behaviors I feared were abusive (namely that if I DID in fact ever hurt her, it was due to my inexperience, inability to mind-read, and neurodivergent cognition, and that punishing myself for honest mistakes was an inappropriate response). I’ve gotten a better handle on ALL of my OCD, actually..the POCD, the Contamination OCD, the Real Event OCD, the Responsibility OCD. I’m still working on it all, but I haven’t lost myself in obsessions or experienced the soul-crushing agony I used to live with 24/7 in a long time. Which is why the fact that, after all this time, I still shed tears over her and pray that she’ll be like she was when we first met and come back to me, is so troubling to me. Is this inability to let her go a manifestation of OCD? If so, why am I recovering from literally every other manifestation, and not this one? And if it’s not OCD, what IS wrong with me, that we haven’t even been in the same time zone for four years, but I still want to cry when a song she put on a mixtape for me once comes on the radio at work? Is this enduring grief, yearning for closure, and feeling of sickness when I consider dating someone else normal or pathological? Is Break-Up OCD even a thing? Should I be applying ERP?

I read that there is a support group for people who are pedophiles but don't act on it and it immediately freaked me out. I was checking to see if it is even possible to be a pedophile without acting on it because that has been freaking me out for the past few days and im concerned that that is what I am. Whenever a thought comes into my head I have an issue with checking to see if other people have the thought or searching certain questions for answers and i know im not supposed to do that because now im scared again. I think thats my biggest compulsion is checking things and i need to try and stop doing that and live with the uncertainty but its scary.

Anyone else get OCD/responses ab taboo/wrong sexual thoughts? I cannot figure out how to stop them.

I recently found out about comphet and what's the difference between hocd or being in denial or having comphet. I'm really anxious about all this and I just don't know anymore.

So my most current theme has been ROCD. It’s been nagging at me for the last 4 years. OCD makes me INCREDIBLY self critical and I often turn that internal voice on to my partner and can be incredibly critical of him. In essence, I’m almost subconsciously sabotaging my relationship which is the OPPOSITE of what I want. I’m looking for people who experience this same response and patterned behaviour. Share tips, in-the-moment awareness suggestions. Words of encouragement (not reassurance). OCD is such a trip lol

Knowing ocd is chronic is heart wrenching. It’s like a domino effect, ocd will affect my grades negatively, leading to me not getting into a good college, which could lead to me not being able to live out my dream of playing in the MLB. How could god do this to me. I’m sick of suffering

How’s everyone doing today!! Feel free to tell me your worries! I’m not a doctor and I’m not reassuring you. I just have experience in dealing with intrusive thought ocd.

I wake up feeling so anxious. Sometimes accompanied by thoughts, sometimes not. Pit in my stomach feeling. Every. Single. Morning. My wedding is 4 and a half weeks away. 😭😳

Anyone's OCD convincing them that they're missing out by not doing the things OCD tells you to?

lately all i can do is think about how i wish my most recent suicide attempt hadn’t failed. it was a long time ago but things have gotten so much worse since then. now i don’t even try to commit cause i know it won’t work anyway. i used to be hopeful about finding new people and trying but it’s been so long and the very few people i’ve met have let me down so horribly. i really believe most people are bad. i used to feel like i had so much love to give but no one to give it to but now i feel like i don’t have anything at all to give. i just spend everyday genuinely hating life and i know a lot of people say they have no one but i really dont. i live alone, i stopped talking to my parents, no siblings. i have one friend who lives in another state but we don’t discuss “real” subject matters. i just truly feel like there’s no future for me. no career, no S.O., no friends. every day i feel myself becoming less of a person so sad that i can physically feel it. on top of that i’ve been sick with the virus in quarantine so it’s obviously made everything worse. there was a point i truly thought i was going to die and i felt excited but now that i’m getting better i feel mentally even worse. i have just never felt this hopeless and numb

Can somebody with ROCD please talk to me?

I feel like my OCD is trying to switch to another harm theme, and I really don’t think I can handle it. 😫 why when we get a grip on one does it want to change

For those who have sought out a psychiatrist, how was your experience? I’m wanting to see one just to talk about potential medication options since I already have a separate therapist, but honestly I’m scared about opening up to someone who isn’t necessarily an OCD specialist. My main themes are suicidal OCD and existential OCD so I’m afraid the mention of these topics to a psychiatrist who might not be aware that these are possible OCD themes would not only diagnose me with severe depression (which I’m not depressed at all) but would forcefully send me to a psychiatric hospital. I’ve also heard some professionals don’t even believe in “Pure O” OCD and many sites only mention that compulsions are physical. I feel like I’m taking a huge risk to potentially be misunderstood with who knows what consequences following. I don’t know if I should share the exact nature of how OCD affects me, but at the same time I’d like to feel comfortable and safe enough to share my story and be understood. Anyone have any insight or experiences?

I’m new to this community. My daughter is 14 and is suffering from what I believe is contamination ocd. She was just fine this evening and out of no where was crying uncontrollably. I’m so lost as a parent because I don’t know how to help her. I can’t even give a hug. I feel so bad just letting her cry.

I want to eat over my thoughts but the thoughts have opened so many questions and I'm scared I've forgotten how to think and feel normally

fighting off the urge to research comp het right now 😭😭