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On a scale of 1-10, how real does ocd feel? I’m in this state where I feel like I’m in denial. I feel like everything I say in my head are lies. Idk what to do…I need some support

I will try not to drag on forever but basically I was diagnosed with OCD in 2019 and have been medicated since. Am I better? Most definitely, but of course I still have flare ups. I lost my mom in October after a long painful battle with cancer in which I was her primary caregiver. I started an extremely stressful job as a home health scheduler that same month (just kinda happened that way) and have been trying to balance a relationship on the mend, my dad and I’s grief and health, and hobbies. I have been off work for vacation for a week and have called in the last two days because of anxiety and OCD. I know this looks so bad since I was just off, and now I’m even more anxious to go back….I have been filling out new job applications because that’s been giving me relief. Has anyone else had severe OCD around working? I want something much less social that time consuming so that I can try to balance all these other things 😞 Sorry for rambling, was just wondering if someone who has gone through a similar succession of events had any advice

Anyone had a positive experience with medication? I want to try it but I am very scared about the potential of not feeling like myself or the sexual dysfunction side effect making my ROCD/SOOCD worse :/

Hi y'all! It's been a month or so since I have been on here and I have been doing much better with my Harm OCD. Unfortunately, as my hormones fluctuate and I have more free time on my hands, my mind gets the best of me. Over the last couple of days, my harm thoughts have come back strong and I was broken down in tears earlier. Then, in that moment it was like my OCD was trying to convince me that the only way to make it go away is to harm my family and myself. It made me question myself even more. I have been terrified for months now that I would harm my family. Now that I am feeling stronger, the OCD has me convinced that the only way out is to do the exact thing that I do NOT want to do. Has anyone else struggled with this? OCD is the worst.

does anybody feel like god is causing them to feel this way? like ocd and everything that’s going wrong? or that you’ve upset god that’s why this is happening. I wasn’t a religious person but i am a bit now, but it scares me, i know you’re not “supposed” to be terrified of god, but i feel like i am? I don’t want to be though and at the same time i don’t want to lean more into religion but what if god is mad at me for not being completely religious? what if it’s not ocd? what if i’m holding myself back? what is happening to me :(

So tired of ruminating 24/7 to try and figure out if I’m in denial or if I just have ocd

There are a few that makes me feel like actually happened.

I just have this overwhelming feeling at the moment that ‘this isn’t right’ and ‘you don’t really love him’ etc. It’s not even a million intrusive thoughts, just a feeling. I have broken up with majority of my ex’s in the past, so I fear that this feeling is the same one I have had before ending things with someone. I stupidly went back over messages to a friend when I knew I was going to end a previous relationship and in those messages I was saying ‘it just doesn’t feel right I need to end it’. And I did and I felt relieved after. But I don’t want to end it, I love my partner deeply. He is my best friend and we have a great relationship. Any help out there would be great right now if anyone can relate.

does weed help with ocd at all? i need to know.

My wife and I have been married for 5 years. We have 2 beautiful kids. She has autism and adhd but we are thinking she might have OCD as well. She has a history of abuse and is seeing a neurodivergent affirming therapist who has been doing parts therapy with her. I have ROCD. But thankfully through NOCD, I have been doing ERP and it’s really helped my ROCD. One of my fears that I’ve been working on is my wife being in love with her ex and leaving me. Well… guess what came up in her parts therapy… she learned some more abuse that had happened in her childhood and she realized she is still in love with her ex. To the point that she believed he and her were communicating through Spotify without sending each other music. Like she believes that he is adding specific songs to his playlists and thinking she will listen to it. She says it doesn’t make sense which she says is her autism. There are other delusions she’s believing too. She also was thinking of suicide so she is currently at an inpatient hospital. But we are wondering if that’s OCD. Like maybe that’s her ROCD and it’s to the point of her believing delusions. Or is that a trauma response? I’ve heard of trauma bonding relationships and I know they did bond over there trauma when they were together. I’m wondering if that’s coming up now since she is working on her trauma. As you can imagine, this is super hard for me. I love her so much. It’s so hard to be helping support her and her be unsure of being married to me. Any advice you have, please send it my way.

I have severe ocd around toilets, I just went downstairs expecting a clean toilet only to find one of my family members left poo in it. I had to clean it because I needed to use it, I used a lot of antibacterial cleaner and used tissue to wipe the seat. I feel HEAVILY contaminated but there’s nothing I can do, I already washed my hands with soap and very hot water repeatedly. I’m so upset. Stuff like this absolutely ruins my day. I like to feel clean. I can never feel clean when things like this happen. How can I deal with this. It’s the middle of the night otherwise I would have made who ever made a mess to go clean it, but bc it’s late I had to do it myself. Help me I feel like I won’t be able to sleep.

I'm seeing this girl and when I have sex with her or have foreplay with I get this little voice in my head saying this is disgusting or eww. And i don't know if I'm enjoying it. Please help !

i felt like i said something wrong but couldn’t recall the memory so i asked my friend & she reassured me but my brain said “she probably didn’t hear u” then i asked the universe (some may think i’m crazy) to show me 222 if i didn’t and i saw 222 immediately after. but my brain is saying the universe is lying. ugh ocd😖

Anyone have fear of that brain eating amoebas? I have some fear. I was in a pool in Arizona and worried if it was in there. Any help?

My apologies for this quick rant. The last id say 7 months have been really eye opening. I had a situationship for the longest time I probably needed to get out of sooner than later. Through that stressful time my OCD flared up to the point I finally seeked medical help & I was for the first time ever in my life diagnosed with OCD. I kinda have always known I behaved differently compared to others but could never put my finger as to why I did what I know now as compulsions. I’ve always been “the anxious one” constantly seeking reassurance than made me feel better in the short run. Well it all came to a scary halt when my subtype changed & I truly think it has a lot to do with my situationship that I had with my life long best friend as well as finally living alone stress. Well it’s been almost a month since I’ve broken things off with my best friend and wow guys it’s been probably the hardest thing I’ve ever been through in my 28 years of existing. Last night I decided to finally text her and tell her that I think me and her should meet up and talk about the situation and I also have some stuff of hers I need to give back (I’m moving back home with my mom) I want to close this chapter of my life but am so petrified of my OCD flaring up because this is a very anxious thing to confront also, due to the fact that my subtype attacked this person I love so much, it was really scary when the intrusive thoughts first came up. I want to give myself closure but I’m even scared to just even meet up. I don’t watch violent things anymore, so many things just trigger me and I’ve suffered a great amount of pain from OCD and just heartbreak. I used to want to get married and be in a happy relationship and now I just feel like distancing myself from that whole aspect of life. I look at my past and I’ve always been this kind sweet person, everyone always admired my optimism and wisdom & nowadays I just feel like idk who I am anymore, deep deep deep down I know who I am but it’s just been a journey. What would you guys do?

I've got a horrific false memory of me doing something to my little brother while sleeping with mental images and everything. Surely I would have felt guilty about this happening after it happened not months/years after. I seem him he's all happy and enjoying life meanwhile I'm depressed as hell because of something I would never do. How am I suppose to go on my vacation with this on my mind and severe anxiety

Normal people worry too, i always say all my worry that its ocd and i feel like its not fair to say that. People say "just say its ocd i dont buy it" but at first i dont know if this is ocd or its really my conciousness telling me i said or did something bad. Its always when i say something funny, or i trying to be funny, my mind says what i said its not how a christian should talk, or im happy about myself, see someone who struggling and i think for some reason that "look at him struggling,but i feel good, how pathetic is he, im soo good" and then imediatelly i think im a bad person, which if you think about it i am cause saying this about someone else while he is struggling its a bad thing. But idk why i think this and i feel so guity. Another is when i try to do something my mind tells me i do it for others approval or so they love me, and i think about alot of things that feels like im a bad person, like a narcisisst, but i care so much about this. And being kind person is something that everyone should be, so i cant say "i dont care about this"(cause this is how you deal with ocd) i care too much if i did said something that isnt what a christian should say, or if im being a prick, comparing myself with others or im being a narcisstic bad person? How do you know if your worry is your conciousness telling you that what you did isnt how you should behave or its ocd?

Can a NOCD therapist write a letter for an ESA animal ?

I had Tocd and now it has turned into HOCD. But this HOCD is…complicated? I’m Asexual Panromantic, so i love everyone. However, OCD has been telling me i’m actually a lesbian and that my attraction to men/anyone who identifies as a man is false and i’d be happier with a woman. The thing is, I always leaned on men. Like i prefered men. But i didn’t mind women. But i was more of a men type of pansexual. I was always certain on my sexuality, but now it keeps telling me i’m a lesbian and that i should stop loving men but i know i’m not a lesbian…? Idk this just feels like denial but i know it’s OCD up to it’s tricks. It’s just annoying.

Has anyone else lost the desire for a partner because of years of not being able to start a relationship? I’ve been single for almost twenty years and I’ve given up on every potential relationship before it even began because I just knew it wouldn’t work out or I’d get hurt or some reason or other. I’ve stopped looking now and would probably turn someone down even if they asked.