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Plz help. I’m NOT going to kill myself. But I could really use some coping strategy ideas bc I wake up and go to bed everyday wanting to die?

What causes HOCD? I have never been attracted to men but over the last year the fear of becoming gay is debalitating. I have these intrusive thoughts and I can’t get the knot out of my stomach. I have an anxiety disorder really badly. Has anyone been cured by this and what can I do to better myself

It's feel so real...hocd now feel real... I'm really uncomfortable when a man is sitting next to me...and i feel so nervous...but groinal responses..damn...it will never stop...also when I'm with ny girlfriend I have pretty much anxiety....what should i do? please help me

Is there anyone else on here that gave into one of their obsessions? I feel disgusting. I feel like if this app would have been a thing years ago I wouldn’t have. But I’m always with the what if or this would have/could have happened. It makes me question if I even have ocd and maybe I’m just a sociopath (although my previous therapist had told me I definitely do have ocd) being on this app sometimes makes me feel worse like I was such a weak person I let it eat me away until I was going to commit suicide and then decided no maybe I’m just a sociopath let me see. I’m struggling with suicidal thoughts because of it and have been for years. NOTE: please don’t flag this, I am not going to commit suicide. Suicidal thoughts don’t necessarily mean you are premeditating and in my case, I am not. Also I am TERRIBLY sorry if this makes anyones ocd reading this worse and you start to think “maybe I will do something” you most likely WON’T. I’m writing this because I have NEVER seen this side (where you gave in) of OCD written on here by anyone!

Should I date someone even though I have OCD? Should I allow myself to like someone? I have a huge crush on someone right now and I don’t know if I have normal crush symptoms or if I’m obsessed with them. Should I even pursue a relationship with someone especially in my mental state? I used to want to stay a celibate for life but now I want a relationship.

I’m pretty sure I just spent 20 or 30 minutes scrubbing my bar of soap... and then the loofa. And now the soap is resting in a salicylic acid (acne wash) bath. This is fine. Totally fine??

The thoughts are oh so bad again. I even can get turned on by the thought of being sexual with a girl but I really don’t want it. ( I’m a girl ). At least I don’t think I do. I looked up questioning sexuality and it said THIS MAY TRIGGER YOU— it said that if you fear it, it may be because you want it because “sexual attraction can be scary”. I don’t want to be with a girl but I feel like lately that’s all I can think about. I can’t even get turned on or get off ( sorry TMI maybe ) to the opposite sex but I can so easily with the same sex even though I don’t really want to. This is so scary I’m not sure what to do.

( HELP ) kind of a long post...but I’m scared. I’m really freaking out guys. So lately I think I’m having some kind of existential depression/OCD going on. And I’ve been thinking about it ever since. About how we only have ourselves to worry about and that we exist for no reason. That part I think depresses me a little bit. But I don’t want to die. But my mind is in this loop of trying to make sure I’m not going to hurt myself or anything. And like I woke up panicking about my existence last night and I’ve been having horribly vivid dreams for the past couple of days. I’m not taking medication. And don’t have a therapist. But I feel like I’m going psycho .... what should I do?

How do you guys decide when you should increase your meds? I’ve been on Zoloft 50 mg/day for about 3 months now. I’m doing better, I have good and bad days but more good days than bad days. My obsessions are a little bit better. I still haven’t seen much of a reduction in compulsions, but it’s only been 3 months at a fairly low dose. When should I start thinking about increasing my dose? Or should I give it more time? My psych nurse practitioner is really good and she informs me about all of my options and lets me make my own choices, and every time I see her she asks if I want to up my dose, but I can’t decide because this is the first time I’ve been on meds for OCD.

Can someone explain to me the difference between HOCD and questioning your sexuality? I see several posts regarding fears about having romantic feelings towards the same sex and I wonder if that really means someone is gay and afraid to admit it to themselves? I’m not asking to be offensive, I really just don’t understand that form of OCD.

My boyfriend just dumped me because he lost feelings and thinks we’re too hard and it’s because of my anxiety and ROCD:(( I’m a mess rn guys. I love him and I lost the best part of me. Does anyone have any advice for breakups

Does anyone ever feel that OCD is not taken as seriously as bipolar, depression, schizophrenia, PTSD, and other commonly talked about illnesses? I mean, mental illness in general still needs a lot of awareness and understanding, but I feel like when friends, coworkers, social media friends, etc. do talk about the seriousness of mental illness and what they have been through, or when movies or shows try to include mental illness to spread awareness, OCD isn’t mentioned a whole lot. They do mention “anxiety disorders” as a general term, but that’s usually it. One day my coworkers were discussing some mental illnesses they’ve had or family members have had, and the main ones were depression, anorexia or other eating disorders, schizophrenia, and PTSD. When I said I suffered from OCD all through my childhood but was better now, some coworkers looked surprised, one actually seemed offended that I was comparing my experience with OCD to that of the other disorders, and some even told me, “oh, OCD isn’t as bad as this” or “Oh I have it too, I’m a really clean person.” I’m glad mental illness is being talked about, but sometimes I feel like OCD isn’t seen as a big deal. Maybe it’s because it’s commonly used as an adjective, or it’s been thrown around so much as just being “organised and clean” that it’s not acknowledged by most as an actual disorder that is hard to cope and live with. My friends and family with depression and suicidal thoughts say I had an easier illness to deal with, which is totally not true. Many movies and shows that want to show illnesses and such (the ones that actually do a good job at it, anyway) don’t mention OCD at all. Posts on social media about mental illnesses rarely include OCD. I guess my main question is this- does anyone else feel that their struggle with OCD and the strength and courage it takes to seek treatment and help is severely undermined, unacknowledged, not cared about, overshadowed? Or is it only in my life and what I’ve been observing? Curious to know, and also wanting to get this frustration off my chest so I feel less lonely.

Hello, anyone. I fear being schizophrenic. I read about 10 symptoms of schizophrenia that teens show: • seclusion I agree. I ended the friendship with my best friend, and lost interests. I became more depressed. • lack of emotions Agreed. I‘m a porn addict and used porn to shut off my emotions and obsessions. I feel now more emotions but I don’t feel many things. I‘m always on porn sites to get sleep. • lack of sleep Agreed. Since middle school I was always on my smartphone and looked Series in the deep nights. I‘m that stressed that I can’t calm down. • misunderstood hostility True. I had many bad experience with friends. Many were abusive and treated me bad. As well, i‘m an underachiever and experienced many bad experience with teachers. I think about all possible Szenarios. (I think what would I do, if I would die in 24 hours and other things). As well, I was diagnosed with Aspergers-syndrome and had problems understanding sarcasm or jokes. • lack of hygiene Not really. I’m very hygienic and suffer that my nails aren’t perfect. I have less motivation doing anything, but I’m hygienic. I was more unhygienic, when I was younger. • lack of relationships Agreed. I was never a friend of relationships, cause the relationship of my parents is terrible. I don’t want that a child suffers that way, cause my relationship sucks. I have always someone I’m friends but HOCD makes it worse being friends with male. • light and noise sensitivity I’m autistic and the psychologist told me, that it’s normal in aspergers. • self destructive behavior I have self-loathing issues and I’m always bored, so I do nearly everything to change it (adrenaline-addict). As well, I don’t really care about my health • Escapism I have aspergers and the psychologist told me, aspergers play roles and are in there mind. As well, I have adhd, so I never like being at the same place. • afraid of ppl Cause of the porn-addiction I became more scared of ppl, but always feared ppl. There was a time in school a boy bullied me and I began to fear him. I thought that he was everywhere (never really saw him). I became really paranoid, thought that he could follow me at home. Well, wasn’t a good time. Is that paranoid path of schizophrenia? Some more traits: • delusional and hallucinations No, seriously I don’t know. I love listening to music and try to hear behind the sound (background singers) and sometimes I take off my headphones, but I hear nothing. Or I believe someone is talking about my OCD themes and I try to hear, but there is nothing. Like a nurse that said: “I’m proud that I don’t hear noises”. I know that she liked me and we had our jokes. When I was 15 yo. my mother (that is possible schizophrenic and very religious) said me demons and ghosts exists. I always thought about was that possible a ghost that went through me, or thought I saw a shadow, or that someone is talking. At the time I was pretty gullible and have a huge fantasy. Same time I have an absolute hearing. Sometimes when I don’t read something clearly I see what I think and it happened as well that I thought that I saw the number, that wasn’t there. I‘m dyslexic/dyscalculic and I can’t see good without glasses. Never happened when I had glasses. I use pathological lying, cause without it I can’t lie. At the same time I used visual pictures to believe it myself and I worked too well. I became as well believing my imaginations and I don’t lie anymore with that strategy. When I was stoned I had some hallucinations, but just two days. Then it never happened again. I fear that I could made me schizophrenic. As well, I have a strong period with harm OCD and it’s horrible. I think about if I did things that never happened and about the possible consequences. I see everywhere the police and think if I would have problems. I’m not that kind of person. I feel guilty when I enter to starkbucks without paying a drink. Doesn’t that sound schizophrenic? I feel bad if a child cries or a dog doesn’t feel fine. I have some problems with empathy, but it became really strong (I don’t know why). I can’t empathize cognitive, but learned understanding nonverbal behavior, there I am a real genius. I love the daughter of my Cousine, she’s such a sweetheart, but I don’t know how to react correctly. Last time we painted :) I have cognitive helping syndrome. In my eyes they are just riddles, that are a challenge that I want to solve. The problem is the girls fall in love with me and I don’t like body contact (I must be a time, that I could feel comfortable). As well, I don’t want a relationship, cause I don’t want that she needs to suffer cause of my OCD and anxiety attack’s. Same time, I don’t experience love or deep for others. I‘m very paranoid. Like I said I think of everything. But, I don’t believe in aliens, ghosts, demons, illogical illusions. I have the brain of a scientist and philosopher, that makes it hard. I like acting eccentric and I was an amazing actor in middle school. The people always thought that I am the person I’m acting, that’s my talent. OCD drives me crazy and makes me really nervous. I bought the false ticket for the train station and just realized it, when the ticket controller came and asked about my ticked. That moment I felt as well, delusional and I really fear it! What is if I’ll pens forget my own name or just see others things that doesn’t exists. I went to several therapists cause of OCD and no one diagnosed me as delusional or schizophrenic, just anxiety related thoughts. But, someone that suspected that in me, cause I show the profile of ppl he works with.

Nighttime is the worst with a broken heart. I still can’t believe he dumped me.. I don’t know what to do with myself. I feel so lonely and worthless.

Is doing the smallest compulsion harmful to recovery in the long run? Just wondering? Like not exactly doing the same compulsion but just a different approach to get reassurance. Is it possible to cheat on our ocd and cheat on our own brain?

So I had my induction/first day at work today and I felt so anxious I’ve cried ever since coming home. I feel like I was just told a load of information that I HAVE to remember and now I’m left on my own devices. Everyone else looks so confident in what they’re doing and knows their way around and knows each other and I’m just literally alone and know nothing.

I'm worried I won't sleep tonight because I promised my friends I'd go clubbing tomorrow night because it's one of their birthdays and I have to get the bus alone, what would you do to stop worrying if you knew there was no way you could cancel?

I need help! Can anyone tell me if this sounds like Existential OCD? For the past year or so always think “what is the point” about so many things . This started because I realized me and my husband don’t have any friends, so every time I try to exercise or look nice I start thinking “what is the point, why do I care to impress random people” I don’t know .. it’s so fkd I hate this shit I need help or I’m gonna end up killing my self

What’s the youngest you remember having obsessions? The youngest I can remember was when I was 3 and I threw a hissy fit every morning because I needed my shoes tied so tight that it hurt and my mom never tied them tight enough (in my ocd opinion) because she didn’t want to hurt me but yeah literally every morning before preschool I stomped my feet and cried because my shoes didn’t feel tight enough. That has always been a big part of my ocd, is things not feeling right but specifically not being tight enough. I used to wear my jeans so tight with a belt that it left permanent scarring on my stomach area and honestly probably damaged my insides in one way or another. Anyone relate?

Harm OCD help please! There’s been two news stories recently (one where I went to uni) where the boyfriend in a couple has killed the girl, possibly following a fight. Both cases are uni students, really similar lifestyles to me and it’s like, what if I do that? It’s really triggered my harm OCD like I’m desperate to know what happened, why it happened and how people can kill each other just like that because I’m so scared I’m going to do that one day. Does anyone else do that? The first case we know it was a ‘jealous rage’ that led him to kill her, but everyone gets jealous right? So how can that lead someone to kill another person? Thanks in advance :(