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Do your thoughts feel more real when you’re depressed? I’m just feeling like I hate my boyfriend. I don’t get enough from him, like he doesn’t meet my basic needs like texting me when we’re not together, he doesn’t make plans, he is monotone so he isn’t always super kind or caring (he’s not mean just doesn’t show emotion), he doesn’t make me feel special unless we are together, and I feel like since he isnt meeting my emotional needs, and probably wouldn’t be open to showing more emotion or going out of his way to be more kind (makes him uncomfortable) it just makes me feel like we will never work unless I give up that need. But on another hand it feels like I need it more because I can’t give myself enough love. I just don’t know what a good relationship is supposed to look like and I’m really tired and I think I want to give up even though I know that doesn’t solve the problem and I don’t feel like myself right now. Idk I just feel like I’ve been forcing something and now that I feel more depressed, I’m not able to convince myself it’s working.

My ocd usually focuses on my faith. It’s either I’m not a real Christian, my faith isn’t sincere, I don’t really believe, or it’s obsessive doubt about if what I believe in is the truth. Basically fear that maybe my faith is misplaced, Christianity isn’t true, etc. Of course the second one (doubting what I believe in) only makes the first one worst (I must be a fake Christian). I’ve also been having a lot of obsessive thoughts about dying and it seems to be on my mind constantly. Like just constant hyper-awareness that I and everyone will die. (Sorry, I Know that’s a downer.) This is kinda new for me and I don’t know how to go about dealing with it. I think it’s likely related to the obsessive doubt in Christianity, because obviously that makes the thought of death scarier. I feel like other Christians will think I’m a very bad Christian for having obsessive doubt that the Bible and Christianity are true. I know people don’t really understand that it’s part of OCD, because it looks like I just don’t have any faith. My compulsions for this basically look like ruminating and researching if the Bible can be trusted or if it’s accurate. And it’s rational, because obviously I want to believe in what is true. And I’m so obsessed with making sure what I believe in is really true. So yeah, any thoughts or advice would be nice. Thanks guys

How does anyone go through erp when your thoughts feel so so real ? What do you tell yourself? How do you push through?

I really need someone to talk to… just to vent… if not.. i just need get this out and everything can ignore if they want.… I don’t know what to do… I know I’ve been severely obsessing for 2 year about if I truly love my partner or not for 2 years… I am severely saddened about how I feel right now…. Before I knew I wanted to love him and stay.. it felt genuine like I was really mentally sick… but now… my partner looks like a stranger to me, I get annoyed at him easily even if he’s just sitting still… it’s like he’s a different person to me and I hate it… I wanted so badly for me to know if I love him or not… and it’s like our time together never happened… I don’t cuddle talk or do much of anything anymore with him and it bothers me… I feel no emotional connection with him… maybe his flaws are too much for me… 😢😢 I don’t know…. I want to love him again like before but I completely feel like I’m lying to him and myself… I don’t wanna end my relationship I really don’t want to… I do t know how badly ROCD can get but… this is the worst I’ve ever had… my relationship is gonna die… 😢 I’m sitting here quietly crying while he is asleep….

Dear brothers and sisters, war is scary and should never happen. Unfortunately it's happening now in Ukraine. Some of you might have family or friends there. I want to extend my prayers to all and pray that they remain safe. I want to write this to let you know that you still matter, your problems matter, you should not stop the treatment you're in, keep going with therapy. Do not fall trap to the lies that will come with ocd saying that your problems don't matter compared to the people who suffer the violence of war. Ocd will try to convince you that you are not worth it. It's all lies. Everything ocd says is lies. Keep pushing forward against ocd with therapy, with prayer. God loves you. Want to help people in Ukraine good, there's official sites you can donate to but more importantly, pray for them! A simple prayer from the heart is enough. If prayer is something that gives you lots of anxiety right now then pray in the simplest way possible, look up to the heavens and smile, that's a prayer, a tear that rolls down your cheek that's a prayer. Talk to your Heavenly Father who loves you. War cannot and will not win. God's grace and love are sufficient and His light overcomes the darkness always. Keep working on your therapy push harder if anything. Do not be afraid. The Almighty LORD is with us, pray for mercy for those who started the war for they too are children of God. Do not despair! Let the thoughts come and go, resist compulsions and put all your trust in God your Heavenly Father, the Maker of Heaven and Earth. God bless you

I have scrupulosity (religious) OCD and I always want to google if something’s a sin (im Muslim btw). I know that googling is a compulsion and I try my best to avoid it but then I feel super guilty and uncomfortable because I feel like I’m not doing my best to find out what’s a sin. (I don’t mind anyone commenting but I just stated that I’m a Muslim so if any Muslims want to give me specific advice they can but anyone is free to say something).

I am 22 almost 23 next month and I still live with my mom and my grandma (and my dad before he passed away a year ago) I’m so frustrated because every time I want to go in my room after work (I work full time retail) I get an attitude from my mom every time and I don’t get it. I don’t feel like sitting in the living room after I get off work I like to go in my room where it feels safe and I can play video games or watch Netflix basically do my own thing but she gets mad when I go to my room or catches an attitude and talks cold or gets short with me. I’m also an introvert, I don’t like being around people 24/7. I struggle with OCD which this isn’t ocd related but when I go to my room where it’s quiet and I can watch my own shows or lay down after a long day it kind of helps me feel better. I really just don’t understand why I can’t have peace. No matter where I go I’m miserable. There’s so much drama at work and then I come home and it’s like im not wanted here or whatever. I get talked to like im a piece of crap all the time and it hurts. I want to move out and I can’t because I can’t afford to right now and whenever I bring it up to my mom I get a guilt trip and made to feel guilty for wanting to go out on my own. Most parents say move out at 18, mine never gave me that push and it’s frustrating. I feel stuck in the same nightmare loop and it won’t end. I don’t know what to do

So I guess it is possible to realize you’re trans later in life? I started pride counseling and was hoping to get more answers out of it but idk I think they deal more with people that knew at a young age it’s like I look in the mirror and don’t recognize the person or something got agoraphobia and panick disorder not sure what kind of treatment to seek out

Ocd is getting better but the depression isn’t does anyone have any tips how to improve mood any supplements that work improve moods?

Went through my bf’s phone after I told him I’d never do it again. I had an urge to go on it and had the opportunity to do so and I did find something that wasn’t okay & so I asked him about this girl without mentioning I went on his phone to see if he’d lie and he did. I asked if he spoke to her recently and he said he didn’t speak to her. When I agreed to not go on his phone, he agreed to not speak to her. He eventually showed me the messages & he told her he wasn’t allowed to talk to her but that was during a scream match we had that escalated. I’m starting to feel guilt and and a huge urge to confess to him that I went on his phone. I can feel it’s more OCD related confession because I feel like my relationship isn’t real if I don’t confess this. I been looking stuff up online to make my brain relax. As a person, I don’t think he needs to know as I genuinely vow to never go on his phone again, and because I actually found something on there. I know what steps I need to take. he also fucked up, I don’t feel the need to confess, realistically but my ocd is telling me I need to confess or else it’ll bother me forever and my relationship isn’t real cuz if I confess I know he’ll leave me and I’m taking away his right to know. It’s just really bothering me. I’m so sick of wanting to confess every fucking thing. If I make any mistake that I even feel the other doesn’t neee to know, I feel the confession even stronger & I hate it. Sometimes ITS OK TO JUST KEEP THINGS HIDDEN BUT THIS FEELING IS JUST SO STRONG.

I need ocd inpatient care 1 doctor in 15 years has told me that I had never been told anything bout my ocd by doctors and therapist everytime I took the meds and did the therapy I always felt like I wasn’t getting better that this wasn’t helping but thought it was suppose to so I kept trying I’d always be wiery of getting help cause I’d be like I’m not sure wat they can do to help me stop fearing bug sprays and thinking things are dirty but in a chemical way not a dirt and germs way and help me stop doing hours of complex rituals and hand washing and many more cause I had been to therpay it was just always tlk therpay like tlk bout feelings there wasn’t anything I related to to my ocd that could help cause I was obviously being treated wit the rong therpay I needed an ocd therapist and exposure and response therpay I just was unaware that existed back then I always assumed regular mental health places and hospitals and therapists is wat everyone does for help but recently learned ocd is different but in Tennessee there’s no inpatient ocd places there’s not alot of help for ocd and there’s nowere that takes my insurance and nowere close but my main complaint is there’s not an inpatient ocd hospital is Tennessee and I have tenncare which can only be used in my state but I’d have to go out of state for inpatient care but can’t cause I can’t use my insurance other than my state so for the past 2 months I did so much research calling and emailing ppl trying to get any ocd help I’ve contacted nocd been on the international ocd website and the psychology websites of lists of professionals in your are I’ve done everything for 2 months and nothing so I decided out of desperation to go to a local place I’d been to in the past to atleast get something to help me feel less depressed until I could find the proper care so I went for evaluation told them I had ocd anxiety and depression when I tlk to my doctor I told her I have already been refered by a doctor in a mental hospital that I needed inpatient care rite now but that there’s none in Tennessee so I can’t get the rite care rite now that I’m aware I need more help but it’s been 2 months looking for an inpatient ocd place to accept my insurance out of state I’m desperate and need some relief till then I explained alot of things to this doctor that I have Bee to similiar mental health places as this one and had also been to this place years prior and that they’ve all given me an antidepressant and tlk therapy but that I no learned that tlk therapy can make ocd worse and isn’t the therapy ppl wit ocd need and that antidepressants alone mite not do the job for this huge anxiety disorder called ocd and the many types of ocd and wat comes wit ocd raceing thoughts late nites agoraphobia guilt shame uncertainty worry intrusive thoughts fear and phobias that ocd isn’t a big enough term for all of that and an antidepressant alone doesn’t seem to help majority of sufferers and tlk therapy shouldn’t be recommended that exposure and response therapy should be recommended that these places should learn this so they don’t hurt ppl wit ocd even more than they already are but obviously places like this don’t have the resources to get ocd help and hire ocd ppl so they just continue the same bullshit regiment wit little to no success in ocd patients that they have the ocd doctors and ocd therapist and ocd inpatient mental hospitals for a reason cause regular mental hospitals just don’t and won’t understand ocd there’s to many ppl on here suffering wit the same story there has to be something we can do as group the ppl who can’t afford help and whose insurance won’t help and ppl who live in states witout ocd help there’s gotta be something this just doesn’t feel rite.

I don’t even know what sexual attraction is anymore. I get turned on when my partner touches me ? I’m actually just responding to sexual stimulus. I want him to want me? I just want his validation. I find his body attractive during intercourse? I’m only thinking it objectively not because I actually it I am turned on during phone stuff? It’s just another reaction to stimulus. I like picturing scenarios with him where he’s written the things he wants to do? I’m just enjoying being wanted since the scenarios were written I like feeling his warmth? I’d like it more with a woman. He smells bad sometimes or his hair itches me a little? That MUST mean I don’t like men. I don’t get instantly aroused seeing him naked?Yup, definitely hate all men. I notice his flaws constantly, and it feels like I’m repulsed by him but I love him with all my being and I want us to have that sexual attraction so much. I cry sometimes because I don’t want to not have that. Also since the beginning of our relationship I have been prone to notice his physical flaws and it makes me so anxious when I do so. I don’t know if it’s ocd or not because 3 months into when we started dating I would cry and obsess because he would send me selfies and I didn’t know if I felt something or not like I expected myself to feel insanely in line when he’d send a simple selfie. And when he’d send body selfies or stuff I didn’t feel anything and I’d obsess but in reality I just struggle to get aroused on visuals alone but I love his body immensely and I’m so happy he sends me those pictures. Then I’d obsess over whether or not I was in love with him and I’d cry and write myself letters about how much I wanted to love him but I couldn’t because of my intrusive thoughts. there are some parts of him I don’t find attractive and he may not be “objectively” attractive but when I’m not feeling scared none of those things matter to me at all and when things are really good I know 100% that I love all of him and his flaws make him even more amazing. It really sucks having this

How’s everyone feeling today?

I feel really panicked about school Monday . I did two facials and the whole time I had unwanted urges and thoughts toward choking my client . I'm freaking out that I won't be able to do this career and if I actually act on the thought . I'm panicking any advice?

Is it not incorrect for someone to write, “I prefer to work on Friday’s.” ? Or, “Friendly dog’s wanted!” ?? I always see people add ‘s to days of the week or when discussing multiples and it seriously makes me🤬👹👿 I suppose it’s because those rules were taught in school when we were very young, and I hate to break rules. It infuriates me when I see adults or bosses/managers do it. Like, aren’t you supposed to be smart? At least smarter than me? How does one earn a master’s degree and still not get this? I know how absolutely annoying and ridiculous this sounds, but trust me, I keep it to myself. I know I make mistakes too. Especially adding commas where I should just end the sentence, that’s my favorite. Seriously, I never embarrass or correct someone unless they ask for help. I’m just here to vent in case anyone feels this too.

Peace be upon all of you, guys there's an assignment which has to be done in two days and the professor said we should write the assignment in our own handwriting and hand it in to him, after I finished writing the draft on my laptop, I started transferring and writing it on paper in my own handwriting but since last night I was only able to write one paragraph out of hundreds because of my obsessive compulsive disorder OCD, the handwriting was supposed to look PERFECT in my eyes but it didn't I've even re-written dozens of times !!! So today i thought about telling my professor to allow me to submit the assignment electronically, but at the same time I STRONGLY FEEL THAT I AM LYING TO HIM because I didn't try enough even though I tried, I don't want to tell him that i have obsessive compulsive disorder OCD because deep down i know he won't truly and completely understand and I don't want to lie to him on another pretext, i don't know what i should do!!!! Should i tell him ? What if he said no? Please HELP ME!

Ive posted on this app a few times this week, and I don’t like being a negative person, I just feel like I need to vent to people who get it. I’ve had ocd since I was a child, and I’ve been doing ERP for like 6 months and I’m still STRUGGLING. The spirals are horrible and I just worry I don’t have the strength to recover like a lot of other people have. Has anyone else felt like this and gotten through it? One of my motivations is to come out the other side and being able to post my success story here to hopefully inspire others. Curious to hear your success stories if you’re comfortable sharing.

I’m writing this to let you guys know that there is hope. I literally cannot believe that I’ve overcome OCD. I feel like I’m 90% better, and I see myself becoming 100% better than I was even before OCD very soon. This isn’t a boasting update, but simply to let you guys know that there is hope. I literally last year was on the verge of dropping myself over a bridge (multiple times) because OCD convinced me that I was the worst person in the world and 24/7 constant pain & torture - I thought I was a pedophile, a different sexuality, an incestual freak, and absolutely obsessed with everything & being perfect. If you asked me a year ago If I would have ever imagined myself getting to this point, I would’ve said no, and I possibly wouldn’t even still be here. But I persevered and I did a little bit of therapy, lots of YouTube watching, book reading, and I taught myself how to get better. The most difficult thing I’ve ever done, but 10000000% worth it. So there is hope, and feel free to ask me any questions below

Comphet is literally killing me. I can’t stop thinking about it and can’t stop reading it. I’m freaking out I’m suffering from comphet and that I’m not really straight or suffering with HOCD. Anyone else get this fear

So my OCD has been horrible lately...I constantly feel like I'm a bad person...I got bullied a lot...and I had abusive ex's and friends...who I would get bullied and treated like absolute crap..all the manipulation and gaslighting has really got me questioning everything...I also have PTSD...I have constant flashbacks...does anyone have any advice? Much appreciated..