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i’m okay now my soocd is calming down and i just accept that they are thoughts i remember when i was so bad and i’m happy i can look back and say that i’m okay

I’m so scared my partner is cheating on me. I just want to give up :(

I am just so sick of the anxiety. Sick of being afraid of trying medication that could help me. Wish I could just snap my fingers and not fear side effects and just take it. I want to be myself again.

Oh guys, the worst has happened and I simply cannot wrap my head around it. My bf has depression and has been pushing me away for a few weeks (even months) and he finally broke down. He broke up with me and says he needs to focus on himself in order to get better. He says he still loves me but he is not in love with himself, life or anything anymore and can’t give himself to the relationship. I feel like I’m dying. Slowly and painfully.

HELLO! EYES HERE! IT MIGHT HELP. My previous posts here were horrible just results of me drowning with my own feelings. (I don't know if yall remember my previous posts) BTW, I'M 2 WEEKS FREE FROM MY OCD!!! ❤ I'm so so so tired and mad of my ocd & anxiety and it just happened that one night I said to myself enough is enough!! my rumination and compulsion was never a help after all, it never answered my continuous problem solving in my head it just giving me more anxiety. That's why I said to myself "okay I will accept the worst case scenario eventhough it is hard to accept it but I don't care anymore! Past is past!!! I'm not my past. I have my good values today. Today is what most important not the past. Eventhough I did terrible things in the past (that I already repent numerous times) some things maybe I don't remember that I actually did (besides I'm not supposed to remember everything) what matters are my actions today (always choose to do whats right) (and I know to myself that I'm a good person today and will forever be! Plus I don't need anyone's validation with regards to my whole being!) AND I REALIZED THAT WE ARE NOT DESIGNED TO REPENT FOREVER. So my fellow ocd strugglers, ACCEPTANCE IS REALLY THE KEY it was really hard at first but pls TRY because at the end of the day the only true friend we have is ourselves. There are still times that I feel uncomfortable but I try to sit with it and accept that "its just ocd that tries to keep knocking on my door but hell no! I will not open my door for you anymore hah! 😝". We cannot change the past guys I wish we could but no, and we have to accept that. So the present moment is all that matters and we can control the TODAY so I suggest we better make the most out of it! ❤ Believe me, we can still live our lives the way we want to live our lives! Learn to forgive yourselves guys, move on and live with uncertainty. I PROMISE THESE ARE THE BEST THINGS I REALIZED DEEP IN MY HEART 2 WEEKS AGO 🥰 Feel free to ask me questions 🤗🤍

It’s a lovely Saturday afternoon where I am, so I’m open to questions about recovering from OCD once again! 🙏🏻 Not sure how long it’s been (2 weeks?) since my last Q&A but if you don’t know me or my posts, I’ve had almost all OCD themes and I’ve recovered from all of them.

I need a bit of advice. I struggle with really vivid thoughts (mental images, sounds, sensations) that just feel horrible in and of themselves. It goes to weird, surreal, disturbing places. So I’ve been trying mindfulness sessions where I just let my mind run wherever whether it be beautiful, strange, violent, sexual, blasphemous, boring, funny, cringe, interesting, ridiculous, plausible, etc. and just describing them neutrally. It’s hard to use standard ERP messaging with these because there’s no truth claims to these thoughts, and therefore no uncertainty, except occasionally when one feels like it’s true in the real world. In addition I do use the ERP message “There is a possibility that these thoughts will make me feel bad (anxious, disgusted, ashamed, etc.).” The idea is that I don’t push the thought away or fixate on it. I am also very sensitive to images and have been doing exposures with genitalia themed memes and just today with movie gore. I feel this might have been a mistake because it affected this mindfulness session and the thoughts were more violent than usual and I had a moment where a harm theme came back. I didn’t compulse, but I feel really off. Is there anything about this that is inadvisable or should I keep doing the exposures and the mindfulness sessions?

I was out with my girlfriend last night and got talking to a group of Dutch people. They were nice and bought drinks and we had fun I got too drunk and had to leave and as my girlfriend was leaving she hugged people goodbye and one guy grabbed her ass i don’t know if he meant it in a sexual way or what but I passed out so didn’t hear this until this morning My OCD brain now has this anger and anxiety swirling around in my head all day, I wish I could punch that guy because all my head is saying that I’m an idiot for being around them and that I look so stupid to my girlfriend! My heart has been Racing all day and the thoughts swirling. Am I overreacting in my head I’m never sure because of OCD tbh? Sorry for the rant just needed to get this out don’t want to say to my girlfriend incase it sounds psycho

Those of you that don’t have kids I envy you. But I hope that this illness doesn’t keep you from having ones of your own. Even now as I start to go into another ocd flare, I love my son so much and he brings me so much joy. I guess that’s why ocd latches onto this particular theme. I just hope things eventually get better.

Picked up my medication that was prescribed by my doctor for my anxiety. This is the second time this month I’ve picked up meds. First time was Prozac and hydroxyzine but after talking to my Dr she though lexapro would be better for my symptoms. I’ve tried NONE of them. Fear of side effects, fear of increased anxiety? Has kept me from even starting. But I’m noticing that even on days that I don’t have any anxiety or panic, it’s still kind of lurking under the surface waiting to poke it’s head out, or I am anticipating it. Or maybe I’ll wake up with “nervousness” that lingers throughout the day. That’s no way to live. I want to get past my fear and take the medication but just don’t know how. I was prescribed 5mg lexapro and Dr told me I could cut it in half and start there. I thought maybe I could even cut that in half and really begin super slowly just to get my system accustomed to it and maybe prevent or minimize side effects. Has anyone had any luck doing the same with the same dosage? I always feel like I’m looking over my shoulder for the anxiety. I get nervous of something happening because I’m alone (which adds to my fear).

Intrusive thoughts of looking up guys doing explicit things and it’s making me feel like I’m going to do it when I dont want to... 😞😞😞

My OCD causes me to be very slow. Slow to make decisions, slow to act, I often stutter and mess my words up because my brain just feels slow. I’ve been threatened to be fired at more than one job because I’m slow or I seem lazy(when I’m reality I’m just terrified a lot and have a hard time making decisions therefore doing things) I’m feeling really down on myself because of this lately. I’m sure others deal with this. Any advice? Thanks

Last few weeks have been pretty shit and has been making me nervous af. I live in Canada so yk Y. I want to get back to my old life before covid. I graduated highschool without being able to go to prom and I had to wait 7 months for my diploma. I didn't get a grad either. All of that was robbed by covid and the ridiculous things in place by our government. Covid also showed me that I wasn't your regular Dude. I realized that something was wrong up top, and that no one I knew thought the things I thought or even understood what I was talking about. I had to talk to psychiatrist and here I am. Besides all of that, like I said the last 2 weeks have been bad and I haven't been able to leave my house. I just haven't had the energy nor time. None of my friends have been calling me to see what's up. It's like none of them give a shit.

I am at the worst situation. My Rocd is back worse than ever. I had a period I fwlt slightly better and now it is like a monster back. I have benn having serious Rocd episodes all week long, I cry, yell, scream and live the thoughts like they are all true. Every thought leads to compulsions over and over again. I am waiting my period and spend time alone at home with baby so I feel.extra worried and lonely. I feel really negative insider me, like something has to be happening against me, like I am really lied betrayed. Any support would be helpful as I feel helpless, tortured and like the most miserable person. My husband tries to understand but he gets irritated for acusing him and yelling so he can just be there for me. Pleasee heeelp!!!!

Help- please reply I never post but I’ve had one of the worst triggers today. I suffer from POCD and have done so for years (15 years+) - varying degrees but especially bad in the last 2 years. I started therapy with NOCD a few months ago. My issue is I worry about micro-actions that aren’t easy for anyone to spot - for example I might be standing and then a c runs or walks past me and I have thoughts and urges and commands to move towards them- then I see or feel my body move slightly in the direction of what my mind has said or for a second it moves until I move it back and it makes me feel like my life is over because what I’m worried about has happened. Today I pushed the button for the lift and out of nowhere a c came past me and I got the thought to bend over towards them but I did slightly bend over and then froze in fear but I think the “freezing” happened after they passed me and Im worried by bending over slightly that they did touch me when they passed me - I felt certain in that moment and the anxiety and the doom and despair is too much to handle. It’s only later once the anxiety starts to settle that I can think “maybe this doesn’t matter” or “maybe nothing happened” as in the moment I feel a huge amount of distress and certainty. Then the distress, certainty, anxiety in those moment(s) are also evidence that it did happen. Does anyone relate to this? I feel so alone and so helpless and never seem to see these types of worries so if this sounds like you too please let me know.

Parents who struggle with pocd and/or harm-comment on this post. I’m feeling really isolated lately 😞

Nice meme! *Warning* Negative vent incoming! I'm very confused with my ERP at times. We get unwanted thoughts that our therapists say aren't real, yet we need to agree with them as if they're real to build up tolerance to the anxiety, since OCD is chronic and therefore these unwanted thoughts never end. So I agree with the thoughts, my anxiety spikes, and I resist the compulsions as the anxiety taunts me like a schoolyard bully, then lingers, and eventually diminishes. So I now feel somewhat relieved and accomplished, focus back on my daily tasks, and BOOM - another unwanted thought pops in. The cycle starts all over. Around and around and around it goes, when it stops, I'll never know. It's very discouraging and obviously I'm doing something wrong, just not sure exactly what. When my obsessions pull me into an uncomfortable trance, does agreeing with it mean staying in that trance until it fades, or do I resist it? Is resistance a form of reassurance which is counterproductive for therapy? When the bad thoughts strike like an arrow in my gut and my heart aches as my eyes fill with tears, am I supposed to agree with this pain and uncertainty until it passes, or am I supposed to focus on my day like non-OCD people do and dismiss the sadness? Am I supposed to allow real emotion that comes from a fake thought? My therapist's main teachings focus on surrendering to OCD, and strict devotion to daily homework. I'm committed to both, yet it feels like I'm treading water. Maybe a part of me doesn't want to accept the fact that it's a chronic condition. Part of me is resentful because the unwanted thoughts aren't finite. They will never run out. So every time I seem to gain a step towards recovery, a bad thought pops my balloon and my hopes deflate. I guess there's a delusional side of my personality that keeps hoping the part of my brain that causes this torture will lose all power and vanish. It's like my own brain is a stranger that I can't control. A separate entity, if you will. Joker to my Batman. Newman to my Seinfeld. Lex Luther to my Superman. Nothing about this disorder or it's treatment makes any sense. In order to get better, you have to give up and let the bad guy win. I thought I was doing that, but recovery implies the disease is gone. Not so for us. It's always there. Lurking and waiting to strike. And the more frustrated I get, the stronger it gets. So what am I doing wrong? On one hand, I'm supposed to seek out the anxiety until it doesn't bother me anymore, but on the other hand, we must keep in mind the thoughts aren't real so we shouldn't give in to their power? It's like when you know you're having a bad dream but it still feels real. We have to learn to control some thoughts while allowing others. Sometimes I can't tell which is real and which is OCD. I'm so mentality drained, I can't think anymore. Hope this didn't bum you guys out, but I'm definitely lost at sea.

I've been diagnoised with General anxiety disorder. I also have OCD. And my my neurologist that gives me medicine says i have mild depression. My life is pretty hard and i struggle for doing normal things. Even getting up takes a lot of energy. Everyday i try so hard to keep living my life and go through anxiety most of the times. But today my mom said you are lazy and it made me really upset. It's so hard to feel people around you don't understand your condition and expect you to just stop being like this and reprimand you and preaching about why you shouldn't be anxious and..... I feel like my parents see me as a failure 😔

What should you do if you find a suicide note in your teens’ room. She has severe OCD, anxiety, and depression. I check her sketchbook occasionally to make sure she is ok. She would never tell me otherwise and she goes to school and comes home to her room and shares very little. If she found out I touched her sketchbook she would absolutely lose it because I contaminated it. So…..how do I approach this without letting on that I touched her things. Apparently kids at school are telling her to “kys” which I just found out means kill yourself. Should I contact the school? I really don’t know what to do!!!!

Yesterday I felt really happy and a lot like myself but still couldn’t feel in love with my boyfriend and still thought he wasn’t attractive enough. It was like I was seeing him through clear eyes with no anxiety which in turn made me feel anxious. Everything feels a lot more real… I’m not ruminating as much and I’m not getting as many strong intrusive thoughts. It feels more like my head is heavy constantly and I feel down because I’ve accepted it was all true and I was just lying to myself. I can’t enjoy my time with him anymore like I could at the beginning of the relationship, even though I experienced anxiety then too. So it feels like the infatuation and the excitement of a new relationship has worn off and I’m sat feeling no love or attraction. It’s so confusing because last Sunday I felt the love and attraction, now I feel nothing at all.