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Something really stressful is happening to me and I need your advice. in fact tomorrow i will start again the sport i stopped because of the pandemic, cheerleading. in the team there is a person who is lesbian and on whom my hocd it was attached a few years ago and I really want to start again because I like her but I already know that I am going to have a bad time and I don't want that to change what I have with my boyfriend
I donāt wish this crap on any body. The constant fear, anxiousness, guilt & feeling like a terrible person ALL the time
Currently struggling pretty hard :/ I have so many different intrusive thoughts I couldnāt possibly ask for enough advice on this forum, i just hope I can start treatment soon. My fears and anxieties have left me house ridden. Iām unable to socialize and only leave to get my partner to and from work. I can barely go to the grocery store and have developed an eating disorder from my ingredient obsessions. Iāve been unemployed over a year and the idea of feeling THIS paralyzed leaving the house while also being expected to go to work and perform makes me feel ill. Iāve had dermatillomania my entire life and my ānailsā are nothing but fingers with teeny unbelievably thin slivers of nail matter left and I have a bad habit of getting lost in my nail biting or taking sharp objects to my face for hours on end. I have to ask my boyfriend are you still alive every few hours. I feel like any angle from which OCD could attack you, Iām being crippled from. Iām uninsured and I have been relying in emergencies on a bottle of beta blockers from three years ago, I have four left and Iām very scared. Iām feeling very low guys. Wishing for relief.
Does anyones OCD make you think that people think your OCD thoughts were real even though they realised how much you were suffering and helped you out of an episode? This obsession is driving me nuts. I am doing erp but think I am obsessing that this episode wont go and it is sticking around for so long this time. When I listen to the erp I dont think I am doing any compulsions but I suppose I am trying to remind myself that these people would never think this of me. I am so sick to death of this obsession now.
Can someone help please? š Iām really scared I donāt want to lose my love for guys and I donāt wanna start any thing with the opposite of guys. I want the opposite sex I donāt want girls I donāt want the parts! I canāt stop thinking but I donāt want a combination of the two things thatās for sure lol. Sorry just trying to be a little lighthearted but itās not really working. My palms are sweaty I donāt understand. I said I donāt want you and Iām scared like can I have it I donāt like girls I donāt want to add a team so to speak I want pectorals come back and I keep acting like but I donāt want torpedoes. I donāt want boobs I am scared I almost feel better thinking saying how I donāt want women and focusing on the W like but I donāt want women but I canāt stop thinking of the letter W as though I do. I donāt want women I donāt wanna feel better saying as thought when I donāt!
Iām scared you guys. I donāt want this to be a possibility and I almost said that I am but Iām not really prepared for. Can sexual orientation change? I donāt want to switch or add a team! š„ŗ Iām scared I donāt want to I know itās part of life but I donāt wanna fall out of love with my guy. Definitely donāt wanna add girls to the team I felt funny saying that but I really donāt wanna do it. I wake up arguing with myself which is unfortunately normal but what scares me right now is that I was trying to say guy/guys Iām scared I see these phrases right and thatās one of them. Iām trying to feel better saying but I donāt want women/men I donāt I donāt want women. And yet Iām afraid and I feel better I donāt want to be bisexual but if Iām straight why would I feel better saying that one I donāt wanna Iām scared I donāt want women. Iām scared I feel better saying that and I feel worse leaving them out and I donāt understand what that means! I donāt want women I want guys/men And yet I almost started to get anxious in my palm starting to sweat leaving them out I donāt trust anything and I feel confused I donāt want women! Iām scared and Iām scared Iām so tired I said so what I donāt wanna start liking women I donāt like their parts. And yet my throat closes no Iām leaving them out and Iām simply must be Iām tired and I feel like giving up at and canāt stop I donāt wanna lose my feelings for my guy and I donāt wanna have any I donāt like womenās parts I donāt have any for women theyāre not simply anything boobs are not lovely. So I donāt understand how come I feel worse excluding them and Iām afraid of how I felt including I donāt want it I donāt want to feel better saying that Iām sorry I canāt breathe. I donāt donāt want women sexually I donāt want women in any kind of way. I donāt want women! Yeah Iām scared I do I choke up when I expose them I donāt want girls I donāt want to feel it better saying it like it doesnāt I donāt know if it feels right but itās like for some reason I just have this really strong urge to say it and I said it in my head but I donāt want girls if Iām straight why would I say that in my head? Iām fine I am I donāt wanna look at girls differently I donāt want to see them in my head naked and feel different I donāt want to look at them different I donāt want to change. It almost feels wrong to say no Iām scared I am now Iām not resisting for anything Iām scared it almost why would I feel wrong if Iām straight?! And thereās no if Iām not attractive Iām not interested Iām not I canāt breathe Iām so sorry. Iām not and I donāt understand why would I feel better adding I donāt want women
Iām really struggling this morning. Iām in the last week of graduate school and I am really scared about having a month off before I start my new job. Not having a routine is really hard because I feel like my obsessions get really intense. Does anyone else feel like this? What are some of the things you do to reduce the obsessions when you donāt have routine?
The one thing I donāt know how to do is if I date, how would I let my significant other know about my POCD? I wouldnāt want to keep secrets but I donāt feel like it would be the easiest conversation. Does anyone have advice for how they did so with their significant others?
Sometimes I ask myself "Did I always have horrible thoughts like this? We're they always in my life? If so, how come I weren't so focused on it like I am now?" There are so many things I regret when I were younger but at the same time I've done good things. I always strive to be a good person. Not perfect, but good. I always worry that I'm not though. Why does this happen? Why do these thoughts always go to the worst things imaginable? It's never anything polite or positive. Most of the time it's just occupied with negative thoughts based on pretty much anything that would make me sick.
I'd like to hear people's recovery stories with harm ocd. I need some encouragement.
Tell me the story what triggered your OCD the first time? Mine was when I had pneumonia when I was 13 and it was really scary experience so I was afraid that I was going to die.
There are no OCD specialists near me and my insurance doesnāt cover NOCD teletherapy. Would I be better off trying to find a regular therapist, or performing ERP by myself at home? My OCD is not severe at this point in time, I donāt know if that makes a difference
Pls help.:: Soooo my bf and I took a break 2 weeks ago cuz I kept accusing him and being crazy. And he needed me to stop. He cried and everything to me. I took that break (it was a week) to focus on me and feel good alone in case he decided to leave me for good. So he didn't & we got back together. It's been 2 weeks and it's been good and I been good. Tonight tho we had a small minor occurrence, he unfollowed this girl next to me and then I noticed he re followed her and so I asked him if he was sure he did it and he got mad at me. I didn't tell him I saw it cuz that woulda caused more stuff. This was on me for going back to that toxic behavior. Clearly I didn't learn too much. It turned into a hugeeee thing and he practically said the same thing that he is afraid to leave me because he doesn't feel like I'm stable and that I'd lose my job and apartment and all of that. He thought of leaving me but didn't cuz he loves me and all these things. In the end he just said I don't even wanna talk about it I'm just gonna have to deal with this, I'm a sucker and u just walk all over me. And that my ocd was ruining our relationship & he should've left me a long time ago. Some background for the last 2 1/2 years we were on&off exclusive but not OFFICIAL and he was fucking up constantly talking to girls and hooking up with them! (We been dating officially seriously committed for a year and he hasn't messed up once) but my point is I didn't give up on him cuz I knew he had some issues and he got better and I gave him that chance. He hasn't fully given me a chance and now knowing he just expects the worst from me and is afraid to leave me makes me more worried now. Like what if I get better and he still leaves or he just will end up being with me even tho he just feels scared to leave? Like wth. I'm so confused and upset and he's asleep so I can't even figure it out. We are such an amazing couple but these issues have arouse a lot and it has to do with me not behaving this way. When I say he changed, mean he CHANGED SO MUCH. He is such a different man and amazing to me and I never wanna lose him but I also don't want him with me for the wrong reasons, being he's just scared I won't be ok.
Soooo my bf and I took a break 2 weeks ago cuz I kept accusing him and being crazy. And he needed me to stop. He cried and everything to me. I took that break (it was a week) to focus on me and feel good alone in case he decided to leave me for good. So he didnāt & we got back together. Itās been 2 weeks and itās been good and I been good. Tonight tho we had a small minor occurrence, he unfollowed this girl next to me and then I noticed he re followed her and so I asked him if he was sure he did it and he got mad at me. I didnāt tell him I saw it cuz that woulda caused more stuff. This was on me for going back to that toxic behavior. Clearly I didnāt learn too much. It turned into a hugeeee thing and he practically said the same thing that he is afraid to leave me because he doesnāt feel like Iām stable and that Iād lose my job and apartment and all of that. He thought of leaving me but didnāt cuz he loves me and all these things. In the end he just said I donāt even wanna talk about it Iām just gonna have to deal with this, Iām a sucker and u just walk all over me. And that my ocd was ruining our relationship & he shouldāve left me a long time ago. Some background for the last 2 1/2 years we were on&off exclusive but not OFFICIAL and he was fucking up constantly talking to girls and hooking up with them! (We been dating officially seriously committed for a year and he hasnāt messed up once) but my point is I didnāt give up on him cuz I knew he had some issues and he got better and I gave him that chance. He hasnāt fully given me a chance and now knowing he just expects the worst from me and is afraid to leave me makes me more worried now. Like what if I get better and he still leaves or he just will end up being with me even tho he just feels scared to leave? Like wth. Iām so confused and upset and heās asleep so I canāt even figure it out. We are such an amazing couple but these issues have arouse a lot and it has to do with me not behaving this way. When I say he changed, I mean he CHANGED SO MUCH. He is such a different man and amazing to me and I never wanna lose him but I also donāt want him with me for the wrong reasons, being heās just scared I wonāt be ok.
Is anyone else having a really difficult time with their Real Event and False Memories? Iām having a horrible night right now. Iām terrified, terrified of āwhat ifā. This is horrible, I donāt know what else to do.
How do you set good habits without them turning compulsive?
I think Iām afraid to get better but I donāt know why because I hate ocd
Iām not sure if itās insomnia but I havenāt been sleeping very good lately. Iāve been going to sleep around 3-5 in the morning because I just canāt seem to go to sleep at a decent time and the next day Iām really tired (unless I have coffee) but isnāt insomnia where you donāt sleep for multiple days at a time? But one of the side affects of my medication is insomnia so I wonder if thatās whatās causing it or stress. I do know that so much is bothering me right now. Itās my first Christmas without my dad he passed in February of this year and I wish he was here. Also just OCD itself is too much right now for me to handle with some mistakes from my past bothering me, intrusive thoughts sometimes that bother me although Iām starting to handle them better itās mostly the real life stuff thatās bringing me down. People keep asking what I want for Christmas and I keep telling them nothing but they donāt understand that I feel like I donāt deserve anything and that I would feel guilty if they got me anything. I feel like Iām living a complete nightmare. I just want to be free.
Hi. As a partner of someone with rocd, how can I help him?? How can I make his life easier? What should I do when he has a "down" moment? He has ups and downs with apathy and feelings, and sometimes I took it personal and I feel used because of it... he has an avoidant attachment stile I think, and he tends to rationalise everything!
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