- Username
- Lillo2000
- Date posted
- 19w ago
Sex life
Has anyone’s OCD effect their sex life at all? I have SO OCD and it really have effected the intimacy with my bf because I get in my head to much. I think I need to work on that the most :(
- Username
- niknicoleniknicole
- Date posted
- 19w ago
Although I don’t have SO OCD, I do have POCD and I used to not be afraid of anything when it came to sex but now I can’t look at anything that can be even the slightest bit sexual. Have you tried ERP? Maybe that’ll help you.
- Username
- Lillo2000Lillo2000
- Date posted
- 19w ago
@niknicole I’m actually starting therapy this Wednesday so I’m excited to see how ERP will help me because I’ve only done “talking” therapy and it only took me so far. I just need some more help at this point
- Username
- niknicoleniknicole
- Date posted
- 19w ago
@Lillo2000 That’s good! I’m excited for you! I’m starting ERP next week, so I’m excited for that too
- Username
- billdozer1250billdozer1250
- Date posted
- 19w ago
I feel your pain, it’s like there’s nothing you can do to get out of your head and before you know it the moment is gone and everyone feels some type of way.
- Username
- Lillo2000Lillo2000
- Date posted
- 19w ago
@billdozer1250 I’ve had to finally open up to my bf and tell him what I’m going through and explain OCD to him because he thought I was losing attraction to him and it was the complete opposite of what I wanted. Now he understands and doesn’t take it personally anymore like he did :)
- Username
- billdozer1250billdozer1250
- Date posted
- 19w ago
@Lillo2000 That’s good some people don’t have that understanding of a partner
- Username
- MidwestmotherMidwestmother
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 19w ago
Yes. But with ERP it is so much better! I've been withemy husband for 14 years so some of it is just less spark over the years (and kids and jobs), but I feel like my desire and enjoyment is nearly back to normal. Good luck with ERP! I hope you are feeling like yourself and living the life you want again soon!
- Username
- Lillo2000Lillo2000
- Date posted
- 19w ago
@Midwestmother I’m really looking forward to trying it! I’ve been so afraid of it so it took me longer to reach out and try it because I was afraid of it triggering me and making my OCD worse but now since I have a somewhat control over it I feel like I can only go up from here :) thank you for your kind words it really does make a difference 🤍
- Username
- Hieronymus Hieronymus
- Date posted
- 19w ago
Yeah, the worst thing about it is when you get rancid intrusive thoughts in the middle of sex and then you constantly worry if it’s making you more aroused or not.
- Username
- Lillo2000Lillo2000
- Date posted
- 19w ago
@Hieronymus Yeah sometimes it does the complete opposite and I lose all libido and have to stop mid sex and I feel so terrible for my bf because it happens a lot
- Username
- Hieronymus Hieronymus
- Date posted
- 19w ago
@Hieronymus I really wish I could help but all I can do is commiserate
- Username
- Lillo2000Lillo2000
- Date posted
- 19w ago
@Hieronymus Honestly having people like you relate to what I’m going through helps the most because we’re not alone 🤍
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- Date posted
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- Username
- JesusSaves424
- Date posted
- 18w ago
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