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Sex life
Has anyone’s OCD effect their sex life at all? I have SO OCD and it really have effected the intimacy with my bf because I get in my head to much. I think I need to work on that the most :(
Has anyone’s OCD effect their sex life at all? I have SO OCD and it really have effected the intimacy with my bf because I get in my head to much. I think I need to work on that the most :(
Although I don’t have SO OCD, I do have POCD and I used to not be afraid of anything when it came to sex but now I can’t look at anything that can be even the slightest bit sexual. Have you tried ERP? Maybe that’ll help you.
@niknicole I’m actually starting therapy this Wednesday so I’m excited to see how ERP will help me because I’ve only done “talking” therapy and it only took me so far. I just need some more help at this point
@Lillo2000 That’s good! I’m excited for you! I’m starting ERP next week, so I’m excited for that too
I feel your pain, it’s like there’s nothing you can do to get out of your head and before you know it the moment is gone and everyone feels some type of way.
@billdozer1250 I’ve had to finally open up to my bf and tell him what I’m going through and explain OCD to him because he thought I was losing attraction to him and it was the complete opposite of what I wanted. Now he understands and doesn’t take it personally anymore like he did :)
@Lillo2000 That’s good some people don’t have that understanding of a partner
Yes. But with ERP it is so much better! I've been withemy husband for 14 years so some of it is just less spark over the years (and kids and jobs), but I feel like my desire and enjoyment is nearly back to normal. Good luck with ERP! I hope you are feeling like yourself and living the life you want again soon!
@Midwestmother I’m really looking forward to trying it! I’ve been so afraid of it so it took me longer to reach out and try it because I was afraid of it triggering me and making my OCD worse but now since I have a somewhat control over it I feel like I can only go up from here :) thank you for your kind words it really does make a difference 🤍
Yeah, the worst thing about it is when you get rancid intrusive thoughts in the middle of sex and then you constantly worry if it’s making you more aroused or not.
@Hieronymus Yeah sometimes it does the complete opposite and I lose all libido and have to stop mid sex and I feel so terrible for my bf because it happens a lot
@Hieronymus I really wish I could help but all I can do is commiserate
@Hieronymus Honestly having people like you relate to what I’m going through helps the most because we’re not alone 🤍
hi. so one big factor of my OCD is rumination. i met a guy who i have a crush on the idea of (idea bc there are red flags). my biggest fear is not finding true love, my ex told me no one else would deal with what i have (my ocd, specifically reassurance seeking and getting overstimulated after intimacy). a few weeks ago, my friends and family all gathered and tried to give me advice that sounded like “you’re shy and you’ll never find someone.” after that, i’ve felt off. i’ve been using an unhealthy coping skill, daydreaming, and i’ve just felt unbalanced. my ocd makes everything feel different sometimes, i can’t explain it. life, myself, almost like being in a dissociated state. has anyone else experienced that? i don’t know how to remain balanced during my off times and i know pms exasperates it all. i take ashwaghanda and omega 3s in a multi vitamin daily. i take them all together in the evening but i’ve missed three days recently and also messed with my rocky sleep schedule because of fun times with friends. i hope these supplements work, because i don’t know if i’d be brave enough for medication. i had a bad reaction on prozac and often am forgetful. i just have been battling my OCD consciously for almost ten years now and unconsciously for longer. i am so tired, as my mental health extends beyond my OCD. i’m in talk therapy with some cbt aspects but i only see her twice a month. i’ve broken down so many times and promised myself id get on track or that certain things would work, but it’s like i am stuck in a circle that gets smaller when i’m able to help myself. i just want to be normal. i want to be able to mess up my sleep schedule to enjoy good times and not suffer horrible consequences or fear that i will be entirely thrown off balance. i don’t want to worry or doubt or feel so dissociative that i squint my eyes for a moment and wonder why i feel so unreal. i will never understand why god has allowed me to go through this. i cannot let it be for nothing but i don’t know how much more to bend and contort my body and brain to get somewhere stable but how lovely it would be if i could. i don’t have much of a schedule right now, i get apathetic and give in with things from time to time. one thing can trigger me and i am back to square one wether in a week or month. any advice, any and all is so helpful. your stories, your thoughts. maybe feeling less alone and knowing what has helped you is exactly what i need right now. thank you 💗
Dose anyone else experience that your OCD calms down and goes to the back of your mind during- feels almost safe and unaware of it but as soon as it's over and youve calmed down all the intrusive thoughts come rushing back 10x worse? I've had really awful panic attacks because of it the past two nights and it's exhausting I haven't been with another person in over a year because of how bad it was after and not being able to explain it properly to partners "no I'm not crying because of you" "no you didn't do anything wrong" I feel insane- like I'll never be able to have a normal functioning sexual time alone or with others do to it the compulsions that come with it are exhausting it's like the need to cleanse myself of filth like I'm disgusting and horrible until there's no traces I did anything in the first place I'm just so tired dose anyone have any tips of how to work through this- or at least be able to enjoy myself without crying afterwords? I have no idea what subtype this would even entail? I'm going to go with contamination I guess ?
+18 only!! TW for sexual content!! (This might be TMI, but I need advice) So, this is kinda embarrassing, but I haven't been able to self-pleasure without feeling shame or guilt. It's so bad that I've just stopped altogether, but I don't want to avoid it. It was something I enjoyed and was comfortable with, and now, because of OCD, it just makes me feel... gross. It's a perfectly normal and healthy thing to do, but my mind just tries to convince me that it's wrong. Had anyone else dealt with this? It's not a huge issue, but I'm tired of unnecessary shame. :(
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