Need advise 😢

I struggle with real event/false memory ocd, I take Zoloft which isn’t helping also I did years of therapy and recently stopped due to insurance issues. I constantly obsess over my mistakes as a teenager especially one specific mistake where when I was dating my now husband I ended up hanging out with another guy having drinks but nothing happened really, I’ve already confessed this to him through out the past 11 years of being married over and over to the point where he is so exhausted of hearing it and it just opens old wounds and creates problems , he has told me to stop bringing it up and leave it in the past. But anytime I remember another tiny memory of that night I have an urge to confess or I feel so much guilt and shame like I’m keeping a huge secret, this detail is small but it still makes me feel horrible 😢 it’s been weeks and I’ve not confessed but when will this feeling go away? It’s day and night all I think about. I’m also 8 months pregnant and have two other kiddos and it’s so hard to continue to be a mom and wife and feel so much guilt and shame 😥

Real Events OCD

Username: V17V17

Date posted: 33w ago

I can completely understand this. I feel like if I don’t give every single little detail that I’m lying or I’m a bad person. I think it could help if instead of talking to him about this, confide in a close friend or family member and explain your thoughts and walk them through the night. And if this isn’t an option, I would write in a journal

Username: Cjmarie23Cjmarie23

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 33w ago

I really empathize with this. I used to spend hours reliving a memory when I was pregnant just to make the uncomfortable feelings go away. Only to gain momentary relief. Postpartum has been harder due to lack of sleep and the responsibility of caring For an infant. I end up ruminating over small tiny details for weeks. Just here to say, you are not alone and I empathize. However, learning more about what OCD is has helped me. I hope you find relief too.

Username: JustmesadlyJustmesadly

Date posted: 33w ago

I messed up a lot as a little kid. And I confessed in my first serious relationship. Unfortunately I would do the same thing, after I confessed I would want to go back and add too it. Or try and clarify. Really the best thing to do is to not confess like the others have said. OCD will never be satisfied

Username: User17annon User17annon

Date posted: 33w ago

@Justmesadly Thank you for the reply, and you are so right I tend to clarify over and over and after confessing it’s only a matter of time something else pops up 💔I haven’t confessed this small detail it’s been weeks, I’m just having a hard time continue to live with it.. how much longer will I think of it and feel guilt untill it goes away?

Username: JustmesadlyJustmesadly

Date posted: 33w ago

@Anonymous I am struggling with the same thing so I can’t answer that for you! But we got this

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 23w ago

respond pls!! :)

hey guys, this is going to be long but i’m trying to heal and i really really would love advice. i’m looking for help with confession ocd in romantic relationships. my question is, how do i stop myself when i have the feeling “wow this is something i REALLY need to confess. no it’s actually important this time” even though the logical part of my brain is saying all it will do is probably cause an argument and isn’t important. how do you get past that feeling of “i HAVE to say this thing because they NEED to know?” that feeling of it being so important. another question is if you do confess and you struggle with false memory, i feel like a lot of the time i say “i might have” it “i think i…”. this feels unfair to my bf because he never knows what’s real and what isn’t and NEITHER DO I!!! most of the stuff i confess is from around 2 years ago, so small details i don’t remeber. false memories can also make literally anything feel real. so when i months later after confession remever the REAL answer (i DID do this when i said i MIGHT have) how to stop from RE confessing?? sorry this was so long but i’m really trying to heal and i REALLY need advice. thank you guys!!

Username: mar322

Date posted: 22w ago

Pregnancy and worsening (cheating rocd)ocd

I have noticed that my ocd symptoms has went sooooo downhill after my second trimester. I am terrified that this will get only worse during pregnancy. I recently finished my therapy and i dont have any medication currently. I have been getting instrutive false memories from past event. I feel that i’m losing my mind with it, and been crying all these 3 days in a row. I feel like i need to confess these hurtful false memories and instrutive thoughts to my man and i can see him getting upset by them. So, this one tv show triggered my cheating ocd, where this one girl kissed another guy than his spouse. And my situation basicaly was a taxi ride home with my male friend (i promised him to go for his avec to one wedding before knowing my man so i went. We never had anything romantic between us just old colleagues), and i was tipsy and telling him how glad i am to have him as one of my good friends. I kissed him on his cheek and the chat was that. Then we went home where my fiance and other friend was. This happened 3 yrs ago. So i think the cheek kiss triggered my cheating ocd also bc of that tv show. I have told my partner about this millions of times and he is okay with everything. There didnt happen anything else. (Even my ocd is reallllyyyy making it hellish for me to say this) Still i am ruminating so much. And i am doubting that do i remember right, did i kiss him properly, is there smtng i havent registered bc of alcohol etcetc. Or the worst have i told him not to tell me if i ask him? Its so ridiculous. I am SO dissapointed to myself as i was doing so well couple of months ago and now literally i have been asking reassurance from this person who was at the event with me already 2 years ago and now again. Im just embarrasing myself so bad right now😭 I feel so helpless with these kind of situations

Username: JesusSaves424

Date posted: 18w ago

Does anyone relate?

⚠️ TW sexual themes ⚠️ I have OCD regarding sexual themes. I struggle with real event/false memory OCD, and I used to struggle with different sexual sins before me and my boyfriend were together. My OCD tells me that if we get married, and we consummate our marriage, that it’ll be sex under false pretenses if I don’t confess everything I’ve ever thought/done in regards to my past. It makes me feel like when we do end up exploring the sexual aspect of our relationship, that it’ll be SA unless he knows everything. OCD is ridiculous. Can anyone relate to this? The thought of hurting him in that way actually makes me sick to my stomach and makes me shake.

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