My partner and I have not been having much s*x lately, and when it seems like something is about to happen I start to feel uncomfortable and nervous instead of excited. Is this normal?
When your mind is constantly ruminating it’s very hard to get in touch to intimacy feelings, I’ve been through this and it does get better ! Try to force yourself to feel in the moment even just for a few seconds, it’ll make you feel better in the end
@ocdsufferer101 Thank you for the advice ❤️❤️ I’ll try this next time
I tend to get intrusive thoughts during intimacy I just let them pass even though I do feel bad but I know deep down inside they mean nothing and not true.
@Rissa94 Thank you for the advice. I’m sorry to hear you deal with this too ❤️
this has been happening to me too. i’m scared to do anything because what if i have an intrusive thought when it happens? and i also deal with confession ocd so then i will have to tell him and then it would just ruin the whole moment. i don’t want to damage our relationship by always avoiding it but it’s also a terrible feeling to feel nervous now with someone i’ve been with for so so long just because of my OCD thoughts.
@Anonymous I feel the same exact way! It feels like rocd is completely ruining my relationship. You arent alone. I hope things get better ❤️
So for a while i have been suffering of HOCD combined with a little of ROCD and had massive episodes of anxiety and panic attacks, because of that I lost my attraction and my libido while also being in a relationship and that stresses me bad. Also since the start of the severe anxiety I started to lose it gradually over time and at the moment I do not feel any anxiety anymore while having these thoughts which makes me think that I want this to happen because they don’t disgust me anymore. Any advices on how to hold on and get over my OCD? Also is the disappearing of disgust a sign of recovery or denial?
no clue if this is compulsive, but I’m interested to hear any obsessions others have that aren’t the “common” ones you see online about what ROCD is? a few for me: - thoughts about their partner being with someone else instead (sometimes a specific person) and then trying to analyze your reaction to it? e.g. does it *feel* more right than us, do I actually feel happy for them, etc. - trying to imagine your partner in your current situation or maybe a specific future situation (when they’re not around) and trying to decide if they “fit” in it? - being super scared of losing them, then suddenly feeling like you don’t care much for them at all, and just constantly cycling? - I almost never fully enjoyed sex because I was constantly obsessing about whether or not I was turned on, turned on “enough,” if I was just having groinal responses and wasn’t actually turned on, looking at his face just to decide if I find him attractive enough, comparing my experience with how I feel watching content alone, etc.
I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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