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Emotional regulation
How do I not shut down and go quiet and cry when my partner is trying to have an uncomfortable conversation with me is anyone else dealing or dealt with this ?
How do I not shut down and go quiet and cry when my partner is trying to have an uncomfortable conversation with me is anyone else dealing or dealt with this ?
I’ve dealt with this and the things that have helped me most are practice and space. At first when I would get emotional during these conversations with a partner, I was ask to pause the conversation and do something relaxing until I felt better. Then we could come back to the conversation later. After doing this for a few different conversations, I noticed that my anxiety and shutting down was getting less intense. So basically, don’t be too hard on yourself! Give yourself time and remember you’ll only get better with practice.
@madelynt1129 Thank you so much this was very helpful!
Im dealing with this 💔
@Feraro You’re not alone💞
i totally get how tough it can be to stay present during those hard convos with your partner, especially when all you wanna do is shut down. it's super common to feel overwhelmed and just want to escape the discomfort. you're definitely not alone in feeling this way, and it's okay to have moments where things feel too much. 💔 by the way, have you heard about this new ai-powered ocd therapy tool called 'unstuck?' when i was dealing with similar feelings, my nocd therapist recommended this free ai ocd therapy tool called 'unstuck' (unstuckmyocd.com/try), and it was a game-changer. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it provides personalized, step-by-step support for managing those overwhelming emotions and thoughts during tough times, just like an ocd therapist would. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have qs or just want to talk more! <3
Sometimes I get really upset with my boyfriend and I can’t tell if I’m not having my needs met or if it’s my ROCD questioning things. I can’t express that I’m upset because he rlly doesn’t understand what is going on in my head and most times I bring it up it’s turned into an argument. It is really frustrating does anyone have any tips on deciphering this stuff or dealing with the upset feeling/ bad thoughts (IE: “He’s cheating on me and that’s why he’s not texting.”) (IE: “He’s talking like this because he just doesn’t love me, and he’s not attracted to me. He clearly wants to leave me but doesn’t have the heart to do it yet”)
Specifically how can my fiance best support me without offering reassurance? I'm trying to encourage myself to grow and keep trying ERP, but I'm not sure how I can include my partner in a healthy way. I plan on talking to my therapist about it soon, but I wanted to hear thoughts from people who have been dealing with it themselves.
Hi I don’t know but I’ve being having so much stress in my relationship with my boyfriend and I feel like I’m upset at him with small things and taking it out on him like when he looks at other girls or when he repost things with girls it upsets me and changes my mood and people tell me to talk about it with him but I don’t know how to talk to him about it because I don’t necessarily know how I feel I feel mad and upset and I feel like crying but I also just can’t express how I feel and I don’t know what to even say to him to communicate how I feel I found this app by googling”how to feel more stable in my relationship” I feel like I’m not in a relationship sometimes and I just want everything to work out with him but I don’t know what to do I wanna feel like all those relationships you see and feel loved and want to have a future but I don’t know how to get there
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