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Emotional regulation
How do I not shut down and go quiet and cry when my partner is trying to have an uncomfortable conversation with me is anyone else dealing or dealt with this ?
How do I not shut down and go quiet and cry when my partner is trying to have an uncomfortable conversation with me is anyone else dealing or dealt with this ?
I’ve dealt with this and the things that have helped me most are practice and space. At first when I would get emotional during these conversations with a partner, I was ask to pause the conversation and do something relaxing until I felt better. Then we could come back to the conversation later. After doing this for a few different conversations, I noticed that my anxiety and shutting down was getting less intense. So basically, don’t be too hard on yourself! Give yourself time and remember you’ll only get better with practice.
@madelynt1129 Thank you so much this was very helpful!
Im dealing with this 💔
@Feraro You’re not alone💞
i totally get how tough it can be to stay present during those hard convos with your partner, especially when all you wanna do is shut down. it's super common to feel overwhelmed and just want to escape the discomfort. you're definitely not alone in feeling this way, and it's okay to have moments where things feel too much. 💔 by the way, have you heard about this new ai-powered ocd therapy tool called 'unstuck?' when i was dealing with similar feelings, my nocd therapist recommended this free ai ocd therapy tool called 'unstuck' (unstuckmyocd.com/try), and it was a game-changer. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it provides personalized, step-by-step support for managing those overwhelming emotions and thoughts during tough times, just like an ocd therapist would. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have qs or just want to talk more! <3
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