- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Fear of death
I have a big fear of dying and death. Is there anyone out there that isn’t afraid of this? If so, can you please give me your perspective on it?
I have a big fear of dying and death. Is there anyone out there that isn’t afraid of this? If so, can you please give me your perspective on it?
Sharing my experience here since I've had the same fear when I was younger, I was petrified of idea of death but what I noticed is that fear slowly started to fade with time as I grew older and my perspectives about life started changing and I realized that death isn't as bad as people think, it's apart of life and there's no way around it, sooner or later we gonna hit that stop and get out of the bus which is life.
Yea, I can relate! I’m not a super religious or spiritual person which makes me more fearful of death. I’m actually struggling with an episode right now of harm OCD which a big part of it for me is being scared of dying so much that it causes a lot of panic and anxiety. I’ve tried to become more religious to become more familiar with the concept of death, which has helped a little. Overall, it’s definitely scary, so I do try to live day by day and think about what I can control in the present rather than worry so much about the future. The truth is we don’t know when we are going to die, but I rather keep living and be in the present than have this fear consuming my life. Still working on taking my own advice tho lol.
@Anonymous I’m the same way. I would love to believe that something is out there, but I’m not necessarily religious. I wish I was because i probably wouldn’t fear it as much! But I’m glad you can relate with me. 🤞
If u need any kind of advice to dismantle this fear I'm here, you'll be alright.
@Moha🍃 Thank you I really appreciate it. I noticed it kind of comes and goes. But everything related to my OCD is related to death or losing someone. So in a way, I’ve been indirectly thinking about death my whole life. I hate it though, I hope my perspective can change
@Anonymous Oh it will, but it won't be overnight, it'll take longer than we'd like and you gonna have to sit with discomfort now and then but it's doable!!
@Moha🍃 Thank you 💕
I’ve definitely struggled with this, sometimes I still get random waves of realization that holy crap, death is completely inevitable and I have no clue what’s waiting on the other side, or if there even is one. I think I just started to realize that it’s normal to fear the unknown, and the things we can’t control, but if there’s absolutely nothing I can do about it, is stressing really going to change anything? If I spend my life worrying about death, I’ll still die, and if I don’t worry about it, I’ll still die but at least I didn’t spend my life worrying about it. I know it’s all cliche to say, but if we can’t fix the outcome of our lives, we might as well just focus on all the things we can do now, right? I also found reading up on different cultures/religions perspectives on death a helpful thing, even if I don’t completely believe in any specific religion, I found it fun to learn about instead of only viewing death through a negative lens!
@Uphamia Thank you! This helps change my perspective a little bit! It’s definitely still really hard but I do want to try to stay in the moment. Thank you :)
This is my first post and I wanted to post because my ocd feels like something that will always control my life and nobody truly understands because no one in my life experiences this. I’m hoping to maybe find a community who can relate. I’ve always had an intense fear of death. The fear is of my own death and my loved ones. I’ve had 2 debilitating episodes of this and the most recent episode being a month ago. The first one lasted about 3 months of constant intrusive thoughts about death and the meaning of life. I also feel as if I’m not real and the world around me isn’t real. It’s almost like I’m completely gone and I can think of nothing else. I would sleep to escape it. Nothing has purpose or meaning. I even question happiness of others. I question why anyone would be happy if they’re gonna die eventually and why aren’t they thinking about it?? I know it’s ridiculous when I come out of it. But to be honest the thoughts never fully go away. They pop up every once in awhile when I’m in a good state with my ocd, and almost everyday when I’m in a bad state. The severe episodes I’ve noticed have happened when I’m in a period of high stress in life. For example I’m moving in with my boyfriend next week. All that my therapist has told me is to work on my grounding techniques but it’s hard to explain to anyone who’s not experienced it that grounding doesn’t help when I’m in that headspace. It seems like when I get there I just have to wait it out and eventually it’ll pass but not fully. Does anyone have anything that’s helped them?
Hello, I am a young girl struggling with OCD, specifically existential related OCD. I feel constantly like my life is pointless, like my goals aren’t significant, because, I’m just going to be forgotten and die. What is the point? I don’t want to get old and not be able to do what I love. Sometimes I wonder if not existing would be easier, but I don’t want to die yet. It’s really confusing, and I’d love some tips I could get for motivation. I really want to be spiritual, but I struggle in believing in stuff so…?
Really bad theme right now is death, I keep thinking about how one day or at any moment my heart will stop my brain will stop & my memories & everything I know will all fade away. It is giving me so much anxiety I’m only 18, but I realize it all happens to us it is bound, we are born to die. I know it’s a silly thing to be scared because it’s not helping the quality of my life worrying about it and even when I do die, I won’t care , if you don’t have a working brain then how can you care 🤷♀️. It is tainting my everyday life currently & honestly making me terribly depressed & it is giving me derealization & making me feel nihilistic, I’ll remind myself it’s okay but then with my ocd i don’t stop thinking and thinking about it and it’s seriously so hard to stay present in the moment because this thought just feels like I can’t scrub it away it’s miserable I struggle with religion, but I do pray to anything that’s out there possibly listening, because it is comforting, it just feels like this whole experience Is pointless & I am afraid of the unknown and what is to possibly happen but I’m subjected to it anyways so why should it matter
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