will1977
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Pure O (Should I tell my new girlfriend?)
I told my last girlfriend of 16 months I suffer from Pure OCD sexually intrusive thoughts, and she ended our relationship.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Sorry that happened. Take any advice on here with a grain of salt. It's up to you -- what do you think? I'd personally want to be with someone who's going to support my mental health. But I might or might not tell them at the start of the relationship or later, depending on the circumstances. But really, it comes down to, what do you think is personally right for you?
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- 1y ago
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JoyasJoyas
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@bekind94 I think that he did the right thing, personally i just decide to tell my bf about my Ocd next week, if he accepts that’s going to be great ! If not i know i’ll be sad but i’ll accept that, don’t have the choice ! if he loves me he should accept all my problems ! If not it’s okay, it’s life we learn.
JoyasJoyas
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@bekind94 Yes not everyone will understand our ocd, but if our loved ones don’t who will ?
SadUnicorn3 🦄SadUnicorn3 🦄
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Look it’s up to you. I have confessed way too many intrusive thoughts to my bf (tho he’s been amazing through it all, it has caused a lot of problems in our relationship because it took a toll on his own mental health) I think that it is okay to let your partner know what you’re going through, you don’t have to tell them details because I believe that can fall into confession. But I believe that if someone is willing to be with you and accept you have a mental illness, that shows they really care. If you don’t feel comfortable with knowing how to word it, maybe look up some articles of “people with sexual ocd, what their partner should know” or something, and show your partner an article on your mental illness, that might be able to better explain it in a way she would understand. Once again, your choice, but I think it’s important for people to know you suffer with a mental illness like ocd even if you don’t disclose details to them of it
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- Date posted
- 17w ago
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- Date posted
- 11w ago
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