Sharing intrusive thoughts/urges with partners

I get a lot of intrusive thoughts I hate them soo much that I get so scared I know the feeling

I struggle with this type of harm ocd. It’s been really tough so I feel for you. I’ve been very transparent with my partner about harm OCD. I feel that it has been a good thing to open up about and my partner has been supportive.

Hey man hope you’re feeling a little better, I personally have shared some of my intrusive thoughts to my girlfriend and she even helped me with exposures and called me out on compulsions when I was really struggling (which pushed me more to stop). To my surprise she said she had the exact same thoughts and they freaked her out but she was able to let go of them bc she doesn’t have OCD (lucky😂) everyone has them man. I’ve also popped my head in a support group run on here and the lead of it says she doesn’t share them with her husband. So it really depends if you’re really comfortable and know they won’t judge and you educated them on the disorder then go for it but I completely understand if you don’t. Get some therapy if you haven’t already, I’m not completely where I want to be yet but I’m way better than I was. So keep going it’s gonna be so hard but you got it. Sorry this was so long completely understand if you don’t read it all😂

I do share details with my partner about harm OCD at times. Not always, but when it feels appropriate. It can be hard to know the difference between healthily asking for support from your partner, and when it can be a compulsion that might not be helpful. I've actually been talking about this with my NOCD therapist a bit recently as I've come to notice that I've involved my husband in my compulsions more than I initially realized! One big thing I'm noticing is that if it ever feels "urgent" to tell him something, that probably means it's OCD and not healthy sharing. I'm learning to figure out the difference :)

I use to have bad intrusive thoughts and urges I know the feeling

Please try ERP therapy and go visit this YT channel name OCD and Anxiety his name Nathan Peterson , he is an verified specialist in All types of OCD and Anxiety. It helped me a lot You are not alone 😊

I am fortunate to have a very close friend that I can share my thoughts with, no matter how scary they are to me. My friend doesn’t have OCD, so I’ve found ways to ask for help that doesn’t compromise my work against compulsions or reassurance. For example: I had a very taboo thought about a family member. I told her I was scared to express it, that I was struggling a lot. I told her I wanted to talk about it, but I didn’t want her to reassure me or answer my fears (I was worried I was a weird person, or that my thoughts showed something was horribly wrong with me). I’ve found that telling your support system how they can support you, directly, is the best option. You can tell them what you want reassurance on, so that they don’t offer it. You can tell them you want to be open without judgement. Brainstorming what support would best help you, and asking for it, can help too. I hope this helps!