little rant about some comments I’ve seen lately

tw might be distressing I just need advice saw something on TikTok I was on TikTok, and there’s drama going about two famous TikTokers. One expressing that they were scared to be around someone’s kid due to having sxul intrusive thoughts abt kids. Which is pocd and she said she had pocd but I haven’t read into the whole story. Basically people are saying, POCD, is “maps” I guess someone who has these thoughts but knows it’s wrong and doesn’t act on it but is still a pdf… This has given me anxiety, as a lot of people are agreeing and saying similar things. A lot of people are saying that the thoughts are not focused on being scared of harming a kid present moment.???? And also saying sensations don’t happen? Like groinal response A lot of ppl are saying this im just scared

TW// mention of pdf, Reddit Long post Feeling gross and icky. In the past I made an in detailed Reddit post about my pocd and trauma and sxual theme ocd including mas/turbaton as a compulsion. Anyways I had a full blown IN DETAIL convo with someone who progressively was being weirder but I ignored red flags because people with ocd sometimes talk as if they are criminal and like what ocd throws at them, I’ve seen it on here on NOCD with people who vent . Anyways I was relating to them from an ocd standpoint, they immediately mentioned they do not want to do these things etc. also mentioned rocd and asked if they had a partner and had normal feelings and still was able to have sx with them normally but still had pocd and it make things weird. and eventually as convo went on once they said something that I couldn’t ignore and was actually in my face that they were a pdf I stopped responding …. I think I blocked them but then they deleted their account as a whole. Everytime I re read , I can understand what im saying from an ocd standpoint, but a PDF reading my msgs would think I agree with them, and I think that’s what he thought, and was sortve maneuvering around what I was saying until he saw that I actually was weirded out cause after he said something weird about controlling himself I said wym? He explained that’s when I stopped responding. That’s when he disabled. There’s so many msgs im reading where I shouldve just STOPPEDDDDD RESPONDINGGG. I was just trying to talk about ocd and my own experiences and didn’t just want to assume he was a pdf bc I’ve heard it all on here NOCD and still thought the person had ocd and wasn’t a pdf I just feel terrible. Like a P enabler. I guess all I can say is maybe maybe not. I stopped responding bc I felt uncomfortable and that he was an actual p. If me continuing in convo for longer than I should’ve bc now im uncomfortable looking back on it, then I can just take that as don’t continue a convo that ur trying to dismiss as being uncomfortable… Don’t try to excuse weird things people are saying because you want to be open minded and not judge.

Lately I’ve seen way too many comments under posts about OCD, especially the harm, POCD, and relationship themes that are incredibly misinformed and honestly harmful. People saying things like “these thoughts are unnatural,”or “you need to go get real help” and encouraging confession ***compulsions*** when they clearly have no understanding of how OCD actually works. Let me be clear: OCD involves distressing and unwanted thoughts, images, or urges. That doesn’t make someone dangerous. It makes them someone with a mental illness who is terrified of their own brain. Saying these people are “unnatural” or implying they’re broken only reinforces shame, and shame is the opposite of what helps anyone heal. If you’re commenting under OCD-related posts on an OCD ***app*** without understanding what intrusive thoughts are, or what compulsions can look like, or **how OCD can attach itself to the things we fear most** then please, stop. You are not helping. You’re reinforcing stigma and pushing people further into silence. OCD is already isolating. We don’t need more people moralizing or projecting trauma theory onto something they haven’t experienced or don’t understand. If you really care, go learn. Read about intrusive thoughts. Learn about ERP therapy. Or maybe just listen. Because some of us are barely hanging on, and comments like those don’t just miss the point, they can do real damage. I’m sorry if I come off too angry, it just really upsets me to see people speak on something they clearly don’t understand. End of rant. Thank you for reading 🤍