Told my bf, scared he’s upset

I told my boyfriend last night about all the times that I thought I “cheated” (I have ROCD) on him and he said that I didn’t but he still feels uncomfortable about it and I can tell he’s not answering me and he’s being really dry and his responses. He said it was fine but now I don’t know what to do because I know it’s not fine. I didn’t cheat on him, but I felt like I did and I told him that and I think it made him really uneasy. I just don’t wanna lose him and I’m scared because I had a dream about it and he got really mad and broke up with me. I didn’t want to tell him what I was going through in the first place, but it was eating at me so badly with the guilt I had to confess. I don’t know what is wrong with me, but I cannot lose him.

Relationship OCD

Mrcino 1408

Date posted: 18w

Hey, Relax, Nothing is wrong with you, having these thoughts means actually quite opposite, that you ARE NOT CHEATER and that you even hate Cheating more than any usual person So relax, This is Classic Ocd If anything, please learn from my example and dont become me. I was also in relantioship, and also i couldn t stop compulsing Reassuring asking etc etc,.. Eventually relantioship broke, and it made me say to myself ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. never ever i am going to let this Bully of ocd to destroy anything for me ever again. So you probably didn t touch the Darkness Enough.. I know we (people with ocd) are strong by nature and resistent, thats why we need couple of good punches in the head to REALISE when enough is enough Because when we are in our comfort zone, than you are fine, and okay , which is teritory for ocd to attack you and you being in comfort zone will not RESIST so much because life didnt broke you yet When you are out of the comfort zone when something happens bad your inner self will be much more activated and angry, but i hope you dont get in this zone like this, but only imagining yourself like you are So Hold on to the Dream of yours Please. And remember the future of the dream and feeling that gave you ... And all because of what. So ocd can tell you after it all ends You stupid girl.... You know that that was ocd deep down, and you didn t listen to yourself but your ocd Litterally ocd will tell you this and it will be too late...... So for now If you have reassure yourself TRY even though you dont FEEL LIKE OR FEEL RIGHT try! Try to not reassure again. Remember that you reassure yourself remember everytime EVERYTIME, i know that this is Hard I know And i know you migjt listen to me at first but in 5 minutes be back on track for ocd slavery .... Talk to your boyfriend Let him understand you to the deepest core It will be better for your future Because if he leaves he will be wrong bevause he thought that was real you and you will be wrong for not STOPING THIS TORTURE! Let the Dream became your guide Remember ocd attacked you 1000000 times so far about cheating and you NEVER say Okay i am not gonna engage in that thought Why? Because everytime every 100000 timea you cared That you are not cheater You see! Do you see how many times have you resisted to the belief of ocd Everytime you never back down That means that you care miliom times and that you will never break Although the key pf beatinf the problem is to realise That this THOUGHT is kust a THOUGHT thats when you will realise to not engage in that fake thought But you are engaging because ypu think that thought is real Trust me you are amazing person And your boyfriend should be EXTREMELY happy that he has you Unite together and beat the problem together 💪💪. I recommend you book Break free from ocd

issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 18w

I go through something similar, I constantly feel like I am “cheating” on him and I’m confessing so often. He tells me I didn’t cheat every time, but that he doesn’t like hearing these things. They make his jealousy, his insecurities, his negative feelings flare. He has every right to feel that way, I think I’d feel the same if he was confessing the things I do. These are likely normal human things we’re confessing but bringing them to light so often, can cause confusion in our partners. It’s so hard to stop. I’m here if you want to talk about it

Anonymous

Date posted: 24w

feeling like the relationship is tainted

i’m anxious because after my boyfriend and i got in a argument i was “daydreaming” or thinking about what it would be like dating someone else who was more “right for me” and what if i was excited about that possibility like i had already moved on from my boyfriend. but when i really think about it i don’t want to be without him and don’t want to picture us breaking up. i know i love him but those other thoughts scared me and im now questioning if they mean im falling out of love with him. and if that’s the case i feel like i need to confess that. but at the same time these thoughts could be ocd because the “daydreaming” started after we had been getting in arguments a lot and then i kept seeing other couples interact online and i compare my relationship to that. but then when i think about my own relationship i have everything i want and am being treated how i want to be treated. i’m just scared that because i have had those thoughts about being with someone else that i need to break up him because our relationship is tainted now and i need to start over and do everything perfectly. i think these thoughts are triggered my us fighting and him not fully understanding my rocd and me looking at relationships where the boyfriend understands the girlfriends ocd and supports her and wanting my relationship to me more like that. which logically i know doesn’t mean we have to break up and i need to start over. i can just bring up this issue and communicate what i want and how i want to be supported. i just feel like i need to confess all these thoughts and that i “daydreamed” about being with someone else (no one in particular) and how im now focused on his flaws in comparison to couples online.

Relationship OCD

issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 23w

I messed up :(

Tmi warning I was being intimate with my bf and I kept getting the name of someone else pop up, but I didn’t feel anxious. Afterwards, as much as I tried to delay confessing, I couldn’t help it. I confessed. My bf was fine he said I probably didn’t feel anxious because I’ve gotten used to the anxiety and it’s okay, it doesn’t define me any more than it would if I was anxious. A few minutes later, he got upset and said that the confession kinda ruined a blissful moment. I’m so upset that my head feels so turbulent I didn’t even notice it was a blissful moment for him and could’ve been for me. I feel so awful. I haven’t slept in a day, I can’t stop crying. My bf is afraid that because this specific name keeps popping up, it might mean something and he feels less than sometimes because of it. I know I shouldn’t have confessed but I felt so safe that it was like a dam broke loose. I feel so awful. What’s worse is that I’m still scared it means something, I’m scared that my boyfriend’s fear is right. He’s very understanding of OCD and how it manifests in me and everything, I think I just kinda messed up a sacred moment and I feel so much guilt and confusion and just horrendous. I’m not even fully anxious. I don’t know what to do. I apologized a lot but I feel like I don’t deserve him and so selfish

Lillo2000

Date posted: 11w

Confession compulsion

I’ve been feeling the compulsion of confession again. I hate confessing things to my boyfriend I don’t want him to carry the burden. I’d rather hurt than him hurt. But I feel I did something wrong and he needs to know. Like I need to be punished or something. I may be over reacting to it but I just feel guilty and I had a panic attack when I woke up yesterday. I would never cheat on him. Just making guys laugh I feel like I am doing him wrong or flirting. And then when I notice it I just feel awful. I just want to be liked and noticed not romantically but just as a human. I don’t know why I act like this and feel the need to tell him as if I slept with someone. I think it’s attacking my biggest fear which is losing him. Does anyone have experience with this?

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