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- llalala
- Date posted
- 28d ago
Engaging with thoughts
Have you ever engaged in a thought and only left you more confused?
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- SolroseSolrose
- Date posted
- 28d ago
Of course. This is rumination. You can’t analyze OCD or use logic against it. It will always find something new to throw at you. Even when you think you have the answer, it creates something else. Try your best to not engage and just give neutral responses, and live in the moment.
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- llalalallalala
- Date posted
- 28d ago
Thank you!! ❤️🩹I'm having intrusive thoughts like: I want this. And then I think maybe I want this if... And I freak out
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- SolroseSolrose
- Date posted
- 28d ago
@llalala Yes, I deal with the same thoughts and feelings - that I want this, I like this, I will act on this, etc. I completely understand. It doesn’t matter how it’s phrased though, still just thoughts. Still just feelings. I like to say to myself “no amount of analysis will be enough.”
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- issphra 🫶🏻issphra 🫶🏻
- Date posted
- 28d ago
Yep, it leaves me feeling worse. Sometimes I’ll think maybe deep down I like this and I’m just scared of judgement. Sometimes I’ll think maybe it’s okay to think or want this. Sometimes I’ll think it’s not as bad as it seems (to a particularly vile thought). It leaves us feeling confused because it a form of checking + rumination. As if subconsciously you want to make sure you still have morals after you’ve justified something that you know goes against your beliefs (but in that moment you doubt it) Is similar to what you experience?
- Username
- llalalallalala
- Date posted
- 28d ago
@isshpra 🫶🏻 Yes!! Exactly. Sometimes I think "is this really wrong?" or "someone did this, are they wrong?". It's scary. It's good to know I'm not alone.
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- issphra 🫶🏻issphra 🫶🏻
- Date posted
- 28d ago
@llalala I’ve found myself almost feeling bad for terrible people on the news. It makes me feel so ashamed but I know it’s not real. It’s just all another form of checking and ruminating. It’s you trying to deal with really big emotions that come from dealing with this disorder. None of it is real no matter how real it feels.
- Username
- llalalallalala
- Date posted
- 28d ago
@isshpra 🫶🏻 Yes!!! this happens to me too🥹
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- I’m BatmanI’m Batman
- Date posted
- 28d ago
Oh yeah. I’ve yelled at it before “wtf do you want from me” and just get crickets… You can’t logic it , argue with it or reason with it. There is always that next “what if”. The key is to acknowledge it’s there but don’t engage. Engaging is rumination which can become a compulsion. Compulsion feeds it. OCD grows and demands more food and now it consumes your day. You can’t push the thought away, you will just think of it more. Think of it like breathing. You breathe automatically until just now when I made you aware that you are breathing and now you might be doing it manually lol. Same thing with thoughts … they are automatic and just happen. We choose to engage with them. Then they become manual. Choose not to engage. Acknowledge it’s there and let it be. It’s tuff when you start but typically becomes more easy as you practice it.
- Username
- llalalallalala
- Date posted
- 27d ago
@I’m Batman Thank you!! This is a really good explanation. I was having doubts the other day about thoughts being automatic, because people always say that intrusive thoughts are “the ones you don’t want”, but sometimes my thoughts are so confusing and so many that they seem “normal”.
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 28d ago
Yessss
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- NicaNica
- Date posted
- 28d ago
Yes, it’s rumination and it is a compulsion that just makes OCD worse.
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 27d ago
Yes my problem is I would be stuck in a loop with those thoughts. It only made things worse for me.
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- llalalallalala
- Date posted
- 27d ago
@Anonymous Yes!! The comments here helped me a lot❤️🩹
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- LiaExe28LiaExe28
- Date posted
- 27d ago
Yes all the time ;-;
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- hopefulxmess
- Date posted
- 23w ago
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- viluamorim
- Date posted
- 23w ago
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- PRIV8
- Date posted
- 22w ago
How accepting thoughts/emotions help?
I read many articles about this, cause i dont know how to accept thoughts, and i hear "just let it come in, let it make you feel bad, let it make you feel anxious or depressed. So in my entire life, everytime i will have a negative thought, intrusive thought or disturbing thought, i let it make me feel how it wants. Im in a depressive season right now, i have many disturbing thoughts, i have to accept all of them to come in my mind and im acknowledging every thought and letting them make me feel how they want? Poeple are angry here that i ask this many times but i dont see any progression there...I tried to do that and gave me a huge depressive feeling and i started to panic. Now im overthinking if that depression means something deeply about me or not... and also if i find some thought patterns, should i change them? Or just dont engage in them? Also not engaging for me sounds like avoidance,.cause i avoid to engage in it. This "sit with it, accept them, work through them" doesnt make sense to me. When should i say this is an ocd thought in dont have to figure it out or this is something that i have to think about?
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