Did I sh (sexually harass) my younger cousin?

@ughhhh The context was I said it cause it sounded funny and I wasn’t thinking..is this sexual harassment?

@ughhhh Thank you, and I know reassurance is bad but I just really wanna know if it was sexual harassment

@rosepetaltears It’s not sexual harassment at all. First I don’t think that a sexual joke can be considered as sexual harassment but more importantly you said yourself that you originally said that without thinking because you thought it was funny. We all say dumb stuff without thinking and sometimes we even say bad stuff that hurt people but we didn’t mean to. It’s like when you are arguing with someone you love and you get so angry that you say hurtful stuff that you might not even mean cause you just said that without thinking.

@Camilla.r Oh well I read that sexual harassment can be sexual jokes on Google and it’s causing me to spiral..u sure?

@rosepetaltears You didn’t have a bad intention you thought it was funny and said that without thinking. If you feel really bad about it you can maybe talk about it to your cousin and make sure they didn’t get offended and if they did then apologize and explain you didn’t mean to hurt them or anything (even tho you have to be careful cause that could be compulsion)

@Camilla.r They said that it doesn’t matter the intent and you can still do it and I’m scared

@Have Faith Well I’m 12 so I don’t wanna be a harasser. Even if I did say it, was it harassment ?

@Have Faith And does me being 12 make it worse or less worse? I didn’t realize

@Have Faith And am I a p3do?? I’m so scared

@rosepetaltears - I don't think you are. I've known people who are (trauma related) and I can promise you that these individuals didn't worry about being one. If you were one, you wouldn't be seeking assurance that you aren't one. You might be experiencing POCD and that's different from actually being one. Do not be afraid.

@Have Faith Tysm. Yes, I do deal with POCD. And just this memory that I’m not sure is true is telling me it’s proof I’m a pdf even tho I know I didn’t mean what I said and I’ve gotten told it’s not sexual harassment..it’s really hard. I know reassurance is bad, but in your opinion do you think I did sexual harassment??

@rosepetaltears - By its definition, yes. If you were to have been at a job or in school and said this to anyone, it would be considered sexual harassment. However, if you learn from this and accept that you're human and you make mistakes, then it won't be a problem. It's only when you repeat an action over and over again that it becomes who you are. If you're learning from your mistakes, then there's no problem. Don't be afraid! You are a good person and you deserve to be happy. You'll get there. Try not to seek reassurance as it's not something that is helpful. It feeds the OCD.

@Have Faith I’m gonna throw up..I did do sexual harassment??! Please i didn’t know please don’t tell me I actually did..

@Have Faith The joke was “wanna tickle my pickle” is this still not sexual harassment?? I don’t wanna be a sexual harasser..my therapist said it wasn’t..was she lying?? I’m so scared please tell me it’s not please

@Have Faith I didn’t do it at school though..is it still not ?? I’m so scared it said it had to be repetitive to be illegal

@Have Faith Please I’m about to cry I’m gonna throw up.. should I tell police and do I deserve to go to jail??

@Have Faith So if I did say this it was sexual harassment??? Omg I’m gonna cry. I’m gonna tell the police if I have to..do I turn myself in? Did I do something illegal? And I can’t accept this and this just triggered it more. It isn’t ocd is it? I just did something actually bad… are you sure it is? I’m so scared I’m so scared

@Have Faith I’m so confused..is it or is it not?? I’m about to cry

@rosepetaltears - I would believe what your therapist said. Trust the professionals that are helping you. The only opinion you should be taking into consideration is that of the mental health professionals you are seeing and yourself. Nobody knows you better than you and your therapist. Trust the process. You are not your worst thoughts.

@Have Faith I’m so scared though..bcs it said it wasn’t on the internet and now because of what you said I think it is.. it’s it still sexual harassment?? Please did you do research?? Please do research before I spiral bcs now I’m spiraling please

@Have Faith So I did sexual harassment?? Youre confusing me and I’m scared

@Have Faith I’m gonna turn myself in.

@rosepetaltears - You're fine. Trust your therapist. You have to remember that I didn't know what you said to your cousin. Now that I heard it, it doesn't sound like it. Trust your therapist! There is no need to do research on this. I know for a fact that you're not that. Again, trust your therapist. You'll be fine. Set up a time to talk to them.

@Have Faith That means a normal human would say I did sexual harassment..and my parents aren’t professionals! I’m a terrible person who should go to jail. Do I go to jail? I’m scared

@Have Faith I’m gonna talk to them on Wednesday .. I guess I should’ve put details of what I said..but yes that’s what I said. It isn’t a big sexual joke but I just wanna know if that changes anything

@Have Faith Does it depend on the sexual joke?

@rosepetaltears - No. You're a child that did nothing wrong. You don't deserve to go to jail.

@Have Faith I’m sorry for my spirals. I just get so stressed out easily and I apologize for my spiraling.

@Have Faith Sorry for the reassurance seeking, it was wrong of me. The OCD really makes me say things and do the what ifs a lot. I’m so sorry

@rosepetaltears - You did nothing wrong. The only time that it becomes a problem is when words become actions. You'll be fine.

@Have Faith Should I tell my therapist the specifics and do you think she would judge or tell anybody ?

@rosepetaltears - you're okay. I get it. We all do. We all suffer from some form of OCD and it's understandable. I'm not perfect and neither are you. This leaves room for growth and that's exactly what you are doing when you go to therapy. Keep going! Your thoughts will eventually get better.

@rosepetaltears - I'm not sure. This is a choice only you can make. Remember that your therapist is there to assist you and get you through this. Trust the process and do what makes you feel comfortable when talking to your therapist. Share as much or as little as you feel you need to.

@Have Faith Thanks. I really appreciate it. OCD is at its worse when I have free time

@rosepetaltears - I know what you mean. It gets better, it just takes time. You'll get over this someday and wonder how you ever had these thoughts to begin with. GOOD LUCK! I'm praying for you and everyone that suffers from OCD.

@Have Faith Same! You’re in my prayers. Also, just a quick question. What if I made a sexual joke towards my friends my age (or even older) btws and nobody felt uncomfortable and saw it as a joke. I wanna know if this was sexual harassment. I don’t mind if it was cause I already apologized and they said they knew it was a joke, but I just wanna know. (We’re cool btw )

@rosepetaltears Nah, that’s fine. Again, words are only words until they are turned into action. Joking with friends is okay if no one is hurt. What are friends for if not to joke around. :)

@Have Faith Ohh okay! And they also made a sexual joke back and I found it funny and didn’t see it as harassment. They’re all boys and I just see them all as brothers because they are really nice and funny! And because I really don’t have any crush and they know that I don’t have any attraction towards boys that much nor girls so there girlfriends are fine with me talking to them.

@Have Faith Thanks, lol. This was my first event I ruminated about. Now, I just realize it wasn’t as bad! It was just making my fears seem like it happened . I don’t worry about it anymore because it isn’t worth it, but I just wanted to make sure. 👍

@rosepetaltears That’s great! I hope you can have a great rest of your day.

@Have Faith You too! God bless

@Have Faith Hi I am getting scared again cause now it’s saying that sexual innuendos are sexual harassment?? I’m scared and I’m about to cry. I didn’t mean it in that way and I wasn’t thinking I’m so scared please help me if it is sexual harassment or not…if it is I’m literally gonna go to jail

@rosepetaltears - My reccomendation to you would be to stop searching things up online. This has been a habit that I've been training myself to break from. It doesn't help to look things up online consistently. I promise you, if you were to do this specific thing, your anxiety about these particular thoughts would diminish drastically.

@Have Faith Alright thanks..but like I get anxiety but I also don’t get it bad bcs there’s a chance I didn’t

@Have Faith But is if still not sexual harassment

@rosepetaltears - It's not. I wouldn't worry about it. I know that's easier said than done but it's possible. You didn't mean anything by it and it's okay. I think that you are a good person and you shouldn't beat yourself up about something that no one was hurt by.

@Have Faith Thank you. I’m seeing my cousin soon so I just don’t wanna have a panic attack and I just need some advice ? What should I do when I do see her

@rosepetaltears Especially with the uncertainty of its true or not

@rosepetaltears - Personally, I would stick to having fun. Don't worry about the past interaction with her and enjoy spending time with someone you like. You guys are kids and deserve to be happy playing with one another. I'm sure that the comment you made isn't even on her radar. Do things that you guys both like to do. Enjoy spending time with people you love. :)

@Have Faith Ty..😊

@Have Faith I’ll try, I really will have to work thru the guilt

@rosepetaltears - You can do it!