danielle421
- Date posted
- 1y
Rumination as a choice
I understand that rumination is a choice but it feels out of my control. I cannot stop doing it and I’m driving myself crazy. What’s the best advice you’ve gotten for this?
777Q777Q
- Date posted
- 1y
Personally in the long run this I find helpful, if you focus on whatever you’re supposed to be doing the task at hand, the ruminating by just leaving it in the background will wear itself out and be just like a car alarm that you are moving further away from.
ragtimehippyragtimehippy
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
I’m struggling with this currently. What I found that works the best for me is to do something else and let the buzzing continue. As soon as I try to stop the constant stream do thoughts, I start to focus more on the one thought that bothers me. I tell myself “it’s ok to be uncomfortable” and go on doing something else. I also have ADHD so medication has also helped a lot with that.
sofagrlsofagrl
- Date posted
- 1y
my ocd’s theme keeps switching back to what it was for years (misplacing items) and relationship ocd mostly retroactive jealousy. i think i cured the itch but then one day i wake up and feel angry that my current lovely bf stayed in a 5 year relationship even tho she was awful, i feel pathetic for letting something a year in the past keep me from being truly in the present. its not fair to me nor him.
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- Date posted
- 18w
OMG how you control your mental compulsions?!?!?!
I cannot for the life of me stop ruminating or checking how I feel about thoughts or focusing on thoughts or creating more thoughts. I feel like I’m losing my mind. I want to scream. I try not to ruminate about the thoughts, but trying not to just makes me think about them more. I try not to check, but somehow, I still check. I want to let a thought sit in the background, but the more I try not to focus on it, the more I end up focusing on it. I don’t want the thought to expand because that feels like engaging with it, but I can’t just stop it from expanding. It feels impossible. People keep saying I’m in control of my compulsions, and maybe that’s true for the physical ones. But when it comes to the mental compulsions, I swear I have no control. It feels like I’m missing something that everyone else seems to have, like there’s some tool they’re using that I don’t have. Controlling mental compulsions has never felt possible for me. I’m starting to fear them. And every time someone says I’m in control and can just choose not to do them, I end up beating myself up even more when they happen. Or when I *choose* I guess. I don’t know anymore. If this is my fault, if I’m responsible for this, then what does that make me? I feel like a monster. I am at my wits’ end. How am I supposed to control mental compulsions when it feels like they control me? I freak out when they happen. They don’t bring me relief, they just make me panic. I want it to stop so bad.
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Patrick McGrath
- User type
- Therapist
- Date posted
- 13w
Advice on instrusive thoughts that won't stop?
What's a piece of advice you give when someone has constantly intrusive thoughts and ruminations that won't stop? Interested to see what you tell others.....more on this when I see some replies!!!
June123
- Date posted
- 29d
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I feel like all I do is ruminate. 😞 I can’t imagine what it would be like to NOT do that.
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