Travel anxiety for my loved ones

I haven't been able to afford my anxiety meds for the past week and am definitely noticing it. Tbh I have abandonment issues and catastrophic fears about the people I love getting hurt and my husband told me he's planning an 8 day trip 2.5 months away from now for himself and it's not the trip itself I care about but I worry about him driving 9 hours away with fears about car accidents, irrational fears about things that could happen while he's gone and how idk if I can handle having anxiety for 9 hours straight not knowing if he is okay or not also our dog has major separation anxiety when he's away and I started asking realistic questions like would you mind moving the trip out to March so you can afford it better and I also asked him all the irrational questions like what if there's a tornado and you die etc. I can tell I agitated him but I feel like a bad person because all my husband wants to do is see his friend from his old job I know I could handle it better even if it's just slightly better if he went a couple months later not 2.5 months away l, but now he won't go at all because we are moving in March and the only time he would be able to go until summer is January. Does anyone else have arguments with their spouse like this?

Greenjellybean

Date posted: 20h

What anxiety meds are you taking? If its atarax (hydroxyzine) then go get some Benadryl from the dollar store. That will help till you can buy your meds. Atarax is a anti histamine so Benadryl will work the same. If its a benzo then call your Dr office have him call the pharmacy to give you ‘loaner meds’ just enough to get you by till you can afford to buy your entire prescription. Your deff going down your OCD rabbit hole from the way your post reads. But you got to have faith in yourself that these are just thoughts. Not really going to happen. Just thoughts and that miserable OCD monster is trying to get the best of you. Plus, your dog, feels what his owner feels. If your stressed then so is your dog. I have 3 dogs and they are my ESA animals. When Im having extreme anxiety, they can tell and jump in my lap and lick my face.nonstop to break my cycle (freak out). Is there someone you trust that can come stay with you till your husband comes back? Your husband is frustrated that he cant help you when your thinking like this. Truthfully, its exhausting for the other person and so he is taking a break. You got to stay strong, believe in yourself, that you will get through this. They are just thoughts. Its not real. Its OCD messing with your head.

Rosesrred

Date posted: 19h

I take hydroxyzine pamoate and I will let my doctor know and see if they can give me some till the end of the month. My husband is really understanding of my OCD it's just sometimes I have the same convo like three times in a row or am persistent in the obsession. He understands I think he was just overwhelmed, sometimes my OCD is frustrating to people when it's persistent, we talked about a compromise though and he said he would go visit his friend in a couple months instead of 2.5 months from now. Thank you for your advice :)

Rosesrred

Date posted: 19h

He also wasn't leaving to take a break from me, he is wanting to visit an old friend who he was in the military with at his old job

ddrew

Date posted: 23w

Some advice please

I’m experiencing anticipatory anxiety related to OCD. I have an important trip in 7 weeks and travel triggers my ocd. My feelings are just a dull ache in my belly constantly, and a jittery feeling. I’m confused about the actual obsessions. I used to have harm OCD that sprung from a travel incident years ago and ever since then, travel has been very fear inducing. I get the physical symptoms then my mind starts going hard. I ruminate about whether or not the stress will cause intrusive harm thoughts which in turn causes some intrusive harm thoughts. It’s very confusing and hard. I want to be someone who enjoys traveling and experiencing new things. I want so badly to enjoy this trip. Any advice helps. Thanks.

Doopydoowa

Date posted: 18w

Please help-relationship advice

Hey everyone. I hope you all are doing okay. I’m currently struggling in the worse way I have through the course of my relationship. We are doing long distance right now, and I am unfortunately in the worse place I have been in. The uncertainty is absolutely unbearable. He is doing a cool new, consuming job 7 hours a way. He loves it, but I fear him loving the job so much that he stops caring about me. I have definitely noticed a shift in the amount of time he texts me and the energy he can give to the relationship. The job actually started off with 2 weeks of no phone. He has it again now though. We saw each other a couple of days ago in person for the last time we would in about two months. I was okayish when we were in person though I knew I would spiral later. And spiral I did. He left and I broke down. I am worried I will lose him. I start a really intensive EMT program in a week. It will be all-consuming for me. I can’t sleep very much and I don’t feel like eating. I know it’s pathetic. I am constantly consumed by these fears. I think I know what I need to do to combat them. Accept uncertainty but it feels like the possibly of it ending feels more real than ever. And I literally can NOT stop thinking about it. My brain feels in danger!!! I just worry that bad stuff is actually happening. I think we are going through a rough patch, but I also just feel more alone than ever. Drowning in my mind. What do I believe? I have a past of ocd, so it wouldn’t be surprised if it’s getting intertwined. Most people would say: it’s okay to ask him for reassurance about the relationship!!! But I feel like that’s the trap for me. I don’t know how to move forward. I know things are tough for us right now. But I’ve been floating back and forth on a spectrum of well maybe I just have trust to maybe this literally won’t work out!!! Texting and communicating over text is really hard for me. I am constantly analyzing it: how much energy is he giving? How much energy am I giving? Well I don’t want to do all the emotional labor, and be the main texter. But I also don’t care about texting that much and get exhausted with this back and forth.

Relationship OCD

Anonymous

Date posted: 10w

Constant anxiety, advice needed

I’m not sure what to do. I have a trip to Disney in less than a week, but my anxiety is debilitating right now. Ive barely been able to sleep or eat in 5 days, and it’s not getting any better. I don’t want to not go on this trip because that’ll just prove to the anxiety that I can’t do it, but I truly can’t go while I’m feeling like this. I won’t be able to do anything. I’ve felt like this before, but I’ve never had an obligation like this during a bad spiral. I really don’t know what to do. I’m so tired of feeling like this. I’m heavily medicated, I do breathe work, I do mindfulness exercises and nothing eases the anxiety. Every time that I think I’m fine I think about Disney and freak out again. If anyone has any advice or even just encouragement I’d really appreciate it. Thank you

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