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Hello
Are there any demisexuals on here that struggle with SO-OCD (I'm a straight woman, or so I think I am). It's a struggle to know what's OCD and what isn't
Are there any demisexuals on here that struggle with SO-OCD (I'm a straight woman, or so I think I am). It's a struggle to know what's OCD and what isn't
Hi! Im not demisexual but iam greysexual and gay woman. I struggle with so-ocd with thinking that iam reallt straight and not really gay. (So the opposite of you funny enoughš) i struggle with the same things.
I get it! Similar to above, gay and essentially demisexual with SO-OCD, in my case the fear of being straight or bisexual.
Me šāāļø. At least I have never been boy crazy, I have always developed feelings for men after getting to know the me (my husband included). It totally fed my SO-OCD because I went deep into questioning whether I forced myself to like men. Of course prior to this, I never questioned my attraction and just assumed as an intellectual and accomplished woman, I just wanted those same qualities in a partner. Hope that helps!
Ok so Iām a 17 year old female, and Iāve always thought I was straight. But I just really want to know how you would know the difference between so-ocd and actually questioning your sexuality. I have nothing against the LGBTQ community (in fact I am very much a token straight friend, lol) but I saw a video about comp-het recently and it sort of felt like what I was experiencing. I donāt want to be gay, I want to be with men, I want to like men, Iāve always liked men, but now Iām questioning whether or not thatās real? Because people can be gay but not want to be right? Iām single and I always have been. I think women are gorgeous, but when I try to imagine actually having any sort of romantic or sexual relationship with a woman it feels wrong, at least most of the time it does? Sometimes Iām less sure, and Iāve never been particularly boy crazy. Iāve liked maybe 2 or 3 people in my life, (not to say Iāve never found other guys attractive, but it doesnāt seem to be as often as most people) I have no particular reason to be afraid of being gay, very supportive family, safe area ect, but I donāt want to be, does that mean this is ocd, I donāt know whatās going on every time I say Iām straight I feel like Iām lying, but that might just be because I think about it so much. The idea of being with a woman doesnāt feel like something I would want, but is that just because I donāt want to want it? People online say things with so much sureness, if you feel like this it means this. Ect.
Does anyone else with SO-OCD struggle with imagining a future partner and checking feelings? Thatās been my biggest compulsion, and now I feel like I donāt want to end up with a man someday, or that if I do Iāll feel sad or lonely. Iām also sitting here imagining being with women and I canāt tell if I like the sexual thoughts or not anymore, or if my negative reactions mean anything. My face scrunches and I feel anxious and my temperature rises. Iāve been off this app for a couple weeks but still feeling anxiety pretty steadily. I keep imagining the future and getting this feeling and voice that Iām gay and I need to come out to everyone. Itās distressing and I donāt feel like myself anymore
im having a unusually hard flare up for two months. ive never had it this bad before (ive had this on and off for many years - thank god not constantly.) lately, i keep having these images in my head and scenarios in my head of me "coming out" in the future and ending my relationship with my amazing fiance who i love dearly. he knows everything but i still feel like i am constantly lying to him, my family, and friends. i need to know that this is something the SO-OCD can do to you? the weird thing is, is that i have never been attracted to woman. i do admire their beauty and wish to LOOK like them or have a specific feature they have, but i dont have any urges to like be with them yet i am dealing with this really bad flare up. My brain keeps telling me that since i have never tried it, i would never know, and i am just getting really distressed from it. i just want to be happy again and it seems impossible. I am convinced i am only person that is using SO-OCD as an excuse. Any guidance or advice, or anything really, will help. i just feel alone and scared and sad all the time.
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