I feel like me and my best friend and ending for many reasons but when I talk to her about it she says it’s really all in my head and she doesn’t feel it at all. What is going on??
You are experiencing OCD. What really should have confirmed it for you was that your friend said, "no I don't feel our friendship is ending" and then you went "but what if she's wrong?" This is relationship OCD where the relationship is a friend.
@Anonymous Thank you. This is really helpful. I am not diagnosed with ocd but I have done so much research and I really feel like I have it but I feel like I can’t talk to professionals and get help. So thank you for helping me
Basically that’s the ocd cycle. You have a doubt. Your spend hours doing compulsions trying to figure out the real answer (including reassurance seeking from your friend for confirmation that you’re okay), and even if you temporarily feel reassured, the doubt returns and it repeats. Continuing to try to answer this with 100% certainty will only keep this cycle going and each time make you MORE uncertain ultimately. Not less. The reassurance will lose its effectiveness and you’ll need more and more. Break the cycle! Answer this doubting with “maybe it’s going to end, but maybe not. I don’t need to know with any more certainty than I already have.”
@pureolife Thank you. I have noticed that. I do everything in my power to make people give me the reassurence I want when it’s not humanly possible to completely make me feel okay about it.
@Alice_3 Yup! No ones answers, no matter how many times they repeat them, will ever stop the doubt. You have to stop the cycle.
@pureolife Okay thank you I will try to break the cycle !
How do you guys cope when your obsessions target people you’re close to? I recently had a sexual thought about a friend of mine and it started snowballing. We’ve been texting more and my brain keeps saying that it’s flirty, and if I were in a situation to kiss her I would. She’s a close friend of mine and I didn’t have sexual thoughts about her until recently. They make me feel disgusting and guilty, and the onset made me feel like my body was on fire. It’s starting to latch on to other friends, and my brain is saying I’m “tempted” by them, and if they came on to me I would give in and like it. I had SO-OCD as a child, and did engage in some play kissing with friends before my SO-OCD happened. (My OCD latches on to that a lot too as proof that I’m gay). I remember the anxiety I had about what I had done with my friend, and this feeling I have now imagining kissing my friends feel similarly. I don’t usually write on here to avoid confessing and reassurance seeking, but I’m at a loss. I have a heavy feeling in my chest and I don’t want to have the thoughts, but part of me thinks I might be liking them and maybe it’s internalized homophobia. I could handle being bi, but the thoughts about my friends and losing control feels so wrong. I’m just confused and want to know how to process when OCD starts attaching to people I’m close to.
Currently obsessing over me being the only “real” or conscious person in the world, and that everyone I love isn’t actually real. I know deep down that this is ocd, but I feel like by not ruminating I’m just ignoring the fear (which feels so real and scary). Has anyone experienced anything similar and how did you get out of this worry? Trying not to seek reassurance as it’s one of my compulsions, but I’m very distressed.
Does anyone else feel like their partner would break up with them for every gross thought they have attached to ocd, so you distance yourself and now you’re overwhelmed by everything in your relationship and feel like you made the spark go away/ don’t know what to do anymore. I’m so stressed with school too I don’t know whether to take a break in the relationship to better myself to meet their needs.
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