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Letting go (til I won’t)
Trying to just allow the thoughts to just happen. Idk what else to do.
Trying to just allow the thoughts to just happen. Idk what else to do.
It's about taking a leap of faith even when your mind says "No...I have to solve this" and allow the anxiety of not solving it to just be there.....trust me it does get easier no matter what OCD tells you.... remember a solution from ruminating doesn't last long.....treat it as o d even when you mind says, it could be real.... don't fall for OCD tricks.
its is good to combine this acceptance with commitment to your values - so accept and then refocus on doing aomethibg valuable
@drak4 I like that. Can you tell me some?
@Jay222 everybody has some values...i recommend some books on ACT from Hayes or Harris...there are also ACT therapy for OCD
Yeah I agree totally, allow the thoughts to be there and get on with your day despite them. Allowing them to happen without trying to figure them out or prove them wrong is hard at first but will get easier.
Ocd is awful and at it’s worse makes me feel like I won’t to die asap but as hard as it is the best thing to do is carry on living as you normally would and try not to argue with the thoughts eventually they will start to feel less scary and less real. Be kind to yourself I wouldn’t wish this on anyone while don’t understand how awful it can be.
Yeah it's hard for sure but it does get easier with time. But once you start to feel less stressed, don't be tempted to go back and check.....one last time....if you do don't beat yourself up just start again. It's hard but quickly it becomes easier than the exhaustion from problem solving and the frustration and pain that comes with it.
Hey yall, having a tough time. I’ve been struggling with intrusive thoughts while I self pleasure and it GENUIENLY feels like I enjoy them for whatever reason. And then now about half an hour later it’s like okay it’s a sexual thought but I might not actually like it. Idk I just really hate myself, because I basically genuinely liked it in the moment
I understand trying to find comfort in your thoughts but what can i do if i can’t keep these thoughts to myself sometimes?
Here is what I say to people: I wish I could make it stop. I really do. I also wish I could stop tinnitus. What is tinnitus, you may ask? Well, have you ever gone to a loud concert and after it had a ringing in your ears. Or, in movies when a loud explosion hears, first it is often muffled, and then there is a very loud ringing sound. Well, I have hear that sound for over 30 years. Turns out the medications I took as a kid for allergies and all the antibiotics I was on for Strep had a side effect for some people - tinnitus - that sound that I have heard every decade, year, month, day, hour, and second, for the past 30 years. I have learned to live with it. As I type this, it is REALLY loud, because I am paying attention to it. But, in a few minutes it will fade into the background, and, while I will hear it, I will not pay much attention to it, and therefore I will go on with my night. I will listen to music, practice my story for the MOTH radio hour, and work out. I will clean up the kitchen and load the dishwasher, and I will eventually get ready for bed. I will go to bed hearing that sound, and fall asleep for a few hours until tomorrow morning when I start the day all over again. I cannot make the sound stop. There is nothing to do for it - no surgery or medication. Just learning to live with it, and that is what I have done. It is the thing that I hate the most in my life, and, if granted three wishes, it would be the first thing to change. For now, as I have for 30 years, I will live with it, and I will ask you to live with your noises in your head - the thoughts, the images, and the urges, and we will practice together accepting that things are not always as we want them, but we can handle that. We got this.
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