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I deal with this bad. Anytime something is mentioned about my partners past I get so anxious. It’s like I don’t want her to have had a past before me. But it’s so unfair bc I’ve had more relationships in the past than her. Need an ERP for this
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@Anonymous Me as well. Ur not alone.
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I didn't know this was a thing. I have the opposite problem. postactive jealousy? is that a thing? I'm fine with someone's past — it's in the past for a reason. it's the thought of them being with someone else in the future when we eventually break up (and that mindset is a whole other issue I gotta deal with) which will prove my (precieved) inadequacies.
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Yeah it’s the opposite for a lot of people compulsions make you want to ask questions and details and hurt your self more it’s pretty sucky
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Yeah it’s horrible dates and years even story’s when she was a kid trigger me its so crazy how your mind can do this
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But we are not wrong for feeling this we just have to realize life happened and we must go on and keep working at it
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