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ocd and sex
how do u deal with guilt caused by intrusive thoughts during sexual activities?
how do u deal with guilt caused by intrusive thoughts during sexual activities?
i get this, and i already have a lowered sex drive with my meds that i take. so accessing attraction and physical sensations is something that i really struggle with, i definitely understand how isolating this can get and how guilty we feel about it for ourselves and partner!! i would say that the first thing to do is identify the thoughts and label them, don’t try to avoid them or worry about IF you will think them, because you will. but you can begin to turn your focus to the activity at hand (and what a great one ;) this is called relabeling and refocusing. relabeling the thought as a SYMPTOM of a chronic medical condition can put space in between these thoughts. i would also say that opening up to your partner and connecting over this topic with them might be helpful and create intimacy. i have definitely had to redefine what it means to be intimate and sexually/physically attracted after getting my rocd diagnosis, but there isn’t any shame in that. i used to be so so hypersexual and now that i have my meds it’s different and something im working to improve with my psychiatrist. people have different interpretations of all experiences and emotions and sex is way more than what our brains are telling us. sex is energy, sex is connecting; ocd wants to take that away from you. it doesn’t mean anything if the intrusive thought comes during sex more than it does any other time. you won’t let it get to you tho, because you are here and so able! message me if you want to share more!
I wouldn’t suggest drinking but just be patient with your self give your self grace with your response prevention messages don’t put pressure on yourself just enjoy and try to stay as mindful as possible not every thought needs attention this sounds easier then what it is but I practice by using my RPM in every activity I get intrusive thoughts in
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Hang in there. I had the same situation today Sorry for TMI Sucks having intrusive thoughts during sexual activity. It makes me feel guilty and associates the act to the thoughts. As part of ERP i have to face it. Sometimes i have to stop and pause as a compulsion but still engage and ocd makes me feel guilty if i dont stop. I did stop and said mentally its ocd stop but my hand was still in a sexual position making contact with body. I know my intention was to avoid the thought and its unwanted.ocd makes me feel guilty because of my hand positioning touching a specific body part regarding the activity even though the thought distressed me and i mentally said stop its ocd if i recall properly. I have a hard time with sexual activiry because of intrusive thoughts. Sorry for TMI. Thanks for letting me share in a safe space for other adults sharing the struggle. I know my intentions were to imagine my wife and be intimate with myself. I know i stopped to recollect myself and than continue activity. Ocd makes me feel guilty because i kept connected to the body in a sexual way but it shouldnt matter if my hand was places on a body part its no different than if i continued activity without stopping what matters is my intention and its ocd and i was trying to recollect. Im sure You can relate. Hang in there. Its certainly ocd in both our cases. Hope my experience helps and sorry for seeiking reassurance or making it about me. Take care. Best of wishes
Hi everyone, I wanted to reach out to see if anyone else has experienced something similar with OCD and intrusive thoughts. I’ve been struggling during moments of intimacy because intrusive thoughts, particularly ones related to POCD, feel so ‘sticky’—like they’re all I can picture. Even though I really want the thoughts to go away, they persist, and I’ve been trying not to avoid intimacy because of them. However, that makes me feel like I’m somehow ‘enjoying’ the thoughts or images, which I really dislike. It’s like my brain is playing this awful trick, and it’s leaving me feeling confused and gross. I guess I’m supposed to not let the thoughts bother me and continue as if nothing’s wrong, but I’m scared that by doing so, I’m almost training myself to get off to them or something. This fear makes it so hard to trust myself in those moments, and it’s been overwhelming. If anyone else has been through this, how do you handle it?
Dose anyone else experience that your OCD calms down and goes to the back of your mind during- feels almost safe and unaware of it but as soon as it's over and youve calmed down all the intrusive thoughts come rushing back 10x worse? I've had really awful panic attacks because of it the past two nights and it's exhausting I haven't been with another person in over a year because of how bad it was after and not being able to explain it properly to partners "no I'm not crying because of you" "no you didn't do anything wrong" I feel insane- like I'll never be able to have a normal functioning sexual time alone or with others do to it the compulsions that come with it are exhausting it's like the need to cleanse myself of filth like I'm disgusting and horrible until there's no traces I did anything in the first place I'm just so tired dose anyone have any tips of how to work through this- or at least be able to enjoy myself without crying afterwords? I have no idea what subtype this would even entail? I'm going to go with contamination I guess ?
I’m really struggling with something related to me ocd, and I would appreciate kind and supportive advice. If you can’t relate or don’t think anything you have to say would be helpful, I kindly ask pls refrain from commenting this is a really sensitive topic for me. Recently, I’ve noticed a pattern that feels something extremely new and distressing. The first time it happened I remember telling myself before self pleasuring that I am in control no matter what thought comes into my mind because I wanted to prove to myself that these thoughts are just from OCD and I know who I am and an intrusive that came out of no where, and i suddenly felt an intense fear that I was acting on it. In the moment I genuinely felt like I did. And afterword, I panicked and started questioning myself. This SAME FEELING has happened three times in a row each time, the intrusive thought was unwanted and random, and completely against my morals most recently it involved pocd and it feels even worse because it generally felt like I acted on it the thought in the moment while I was self pleasuring the panic doesn’t hit until afterwards when I stop :/ I start thinking that maybe I generally made a mistake and I’m now just realizing that it’s wrong because it generally feels like that :( but when I actually think about it again goes against my morals and values doesn’t make sense it feels incredibly real, and I can’t seem to shake this feeling off that I may have acted on it I’m terrified because I never wanted these thoughts in the first place. And I definitely didn’t choose them. If I had known, I would’ve had these intrusive thoughts I wouldn’t have self pleasured in the first place but it’s extremely hard to convince myself that this may be OCD because I feel like I have no other reason to believe that I didn’t act on it :/
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