Micro cheating

For awhile now I have struggled with the idea that I cheated on my boyfriend. I’m finally trying to accept that I did in fact cheat even if it was unintentional.I believe my insecurities and need for attention got to best of me but I just don’t know how to handle it . I had a guy friend that I’ve met way before my boyfriend that I’ve always trusted, confided in and had deep conversations with. We would talk about sexual things but only because I was curious. But I craved the attention and validation from him and other guys. I would send pictures of my shoulders where you could see nothing was on. Not anything else but shoulders. I met a young g photographer one time and he was cute, he asked for pictures of outfits and I would send really cute pictures of me in the outfits I’d be photographed in to get them approved and I enjoyed the attention. I liked when they flirted with me. I’ve confided in my boyfriend and he’s over it- I just don’t know how to get through any of this. I love him so much. My boyfriend thinks I’m overreacting because I didn’t flirt, send nudes, or have physical contact with anyone. That it was a boundary I pushed and now know is wrong. You guys don’t even know. I feel that I have hurt myself by doing this. I did not realize what I was doing when I was doing it but now that I realize.. it’s crushing me. Please help

Relationship OCD

Username: aglaesiaaglaesia

Date posted: 42w ago

I dont know if you're a woman or not but unfortunately most of us are raised this way, to believe that male attention and flirting brings us validation, and what you did and feel is completely normal! I also enjoy it, we are raised to. I have similar fears (even though im not in a relationship, but fears that its something that would be an issue in the future), and I also enjoy it. I also have the fear that Im leading men on and im a bad person for it even when im just casually being playful. Trust me you're not bot alone, and you're not a cheater. These are normal feelings and fears for us. We're here to support each other

Username: rea_rea_

Date posted: 42w ago

@aglaesia Thank you so much

Username: pureolifepureolife

Date posted: 42w ago

So you made a mistake, confessed, got forgiveness, and rather than moving on, you’re obsessing about how to erase it. Unfortunately you can’t! But you’ve already taken all of the right steps towards moving forward. You learned an important lesson and now you’re committed to being better. The last step is just forgiving yourself.

Username: freiafreia

Date posted: 42w ago

From my point of view, it feels like you might need to forgive yourself and not hurt youself anymore woth the remorse. If you think, the behaviour you showed was something that you don't want to show when you are in a relationship or is against your values, set yourself the goal, not to do it anymore for you and your partner. But if this things you did are in general fine for you and fine for your partner, than just go on with your life. Qe all make mistakes and do things that might hurt others or feel like a mistake afterwards. Don't beat yourself up over it. Try to learn from it, to get to know yourself.

Username: rea_rea_

Date posted: 42w ago

@freia I just don’t know how to forgive myself

Username: stxrmads

Date posted: 24w ago

I need to talk about something

content warning: talks of explicit acts and fear of cheating or attraction to another person I had a dream yesterday about breaking up with my boyfriend and now I had a dream I cheated on him. They scared me but I've realized that they don't really mean anything. I only am freaking out again because while I was self pleasuring earlier, I was thinking of my partner and watching him until I had an intrusive thought someone I just saw in a tik tok and that got me there. im so scared because I didn't mean to let my mind slip and I really feel like I need to talk to my partner about this because i feel so guilty and I know something like this would hurt me if the situation was flipped so I don't know what to do. why did I like the thought so much to that point??? how do I convince myself I don't need to tell my partner even though the guilt is setting in and it feels so wrong? I feel ashamed and unfaithful and terrible I hate that this happened how I do know what to do what if it wasn't an intrusive thought and I enjoyed it even though I tried to change my thoughts?

Username: Pinkprincess23

Date posted: 24w ago

Feeling horrible

Is it normal to be flattered when the opposite gender gives you attention and to like to feel pretty? I have a loving boyfriend and I would never cheat on him. I feel like I emotionally cheated because I was dancing at a wedding reception and was enjoying that this MUCH older, popular, “attractive” guy was noticing me. I tried to move my butt or dance “better” when he was looking?? My boyfriend was not at this reception and I was drinking. When the older guy left, I was sad because I wasn’t going to get the attention that I was getting. But we didn’t have a conversation other than him saying a few words to me. I did not say anything back to him. But I did enjoy his attention because I felt pretty. I never ever wanted to cheat on my boyfriend. I just wanted to look good. I don’t know why. This sounds awful. This incident was almost two years ago and I still feel horrible about it. My dad has told me this is human nature and I’m just overthinking it. I’ve already told my boyfriend and he was hurt but he said it would be like him wanting to look good on the beach in front of people.

Username: King silly

Date posted: 16w ago

Please help me (don’t read if you’re younger)

❌❌❌DO NOT READ IF YOURE YOUNGER ❌❌❌ —- — - I feel like a really bad person right now, I remember my past and I remember when I was 14, I sent actual inappro//priate pictures of myself to my partner and I regret it so much, i genuinely do, I thought it was okay because I was around adults that were inappropriate to me, and it was so normalized, I don’t know why, I feel like I’m gonna go to jail, this happened 2 years ago but I still feel afraid that I will be in jail for what I’ve done, I can’t stop worrying about this event and I just need help, please someone help, am I a bad person?

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