Need advice

I have a friend that I have now realized has feelings for me. And is being extremely possessive over me to the point that he's minorly stalking me and getting pissed off at my other friend's for spending time with me. I'm worried about his mental health because I know he's showing signs of like psychosis. He has like hallucinations that he talks to and names and gives like personalities and stuff, and I just don't know how to mellow out the friendship, because i've just been ghosting him. I've had multiple people that go to college with me reach out to me and ask how I'm doing. Because he is so possessive that he's making other people uncomfortable. We reached out to my college's r. A about the fact that he has hallucinations, but they can't do anything about it because he's an adult, and he can choose if he wants to go to therapy or not. I just don't know what to do. Because i'm worried that he might escalate, he has my schedule, he made me change my schedule from it just being blocked with college to all of my classes during that time period so he knows what classes I go to. And it makes me worried that he might try and have a conversation with me. In person, instead of online like he has been. It's been making my anxiety spike and my ocd get worse due to the stress from it just not sure what to do.

tarantula ke...

Date posted: 21h

You need to end that friendship yesterday. Let them know why, but under no circumstances do you resume that friendship. My dad was a cop and this behavior can very quickly lead to domestic violence. Nip it now

aralways

Date posted: Yesterday

That’s worrying, I’m sorry you’re in this situation :( Has he exhibited any signs that you might be in tangible danger? What did he do to make you switch your classes? Do you feel safe putting up more space between you guys or asserting that you don’t want to be friends? This sounds like a scary and delicate situation. I hope you’re ok

Alec_Arrowguy

Date posted: Yesterday

I don't think he'd physically do anything. At least I would hope not. As for the schedule thing, a bunch of the people I go to college with have an app. We use to track schedules so that we know when we can hang out with each other. And I had my stuff blocked off with like college and work during the time periods and he made me change the section that said college to whatever class I was in for each individual thing. So he knew what class I was in during those periods instead of me, just being at college. A bunch of my friends ghosted him, and i've kind of done the same. I have like, essentially an entire page written trying to explain why I feel uncomfortable. But I don't know if I should leave it at that or change. S***, or if I should just feel like, hey man, you're being weird? And I don't wanna hang out with you. Because I didn't message him for several days because he was making me uncomfortable. And he reached out and messaged me the other day saying, i'm sorry for being creepy.

Alec_Arrowguy

Date posted: Yesterday

@Alec_Arrowguy I'm using talk to text so that I can get this out faster than me. Rewriting and fixing things over and over again. So hopefully, this is coherent. I promise my grammars better than this i'm just using talk two text, so it looks a little janky.

aralways

Date posted: Yesterday

@Alec_Arrowguy I get you. I think maybe if your shoes id hit him with a “hey im not mad at you but yea you have made me a bit uncomfortable and i think some distance would be good. Thanks for understanding” and see how that goes. But I’m hesitant to give advice in situations like these because truly you’re the only one who knows the nuances of his behavior and personality and it is absolutely a situation where this person is being controlling and creepy and I wouldn’t want to accidentally push you to react in a way that isn’t best for this particular person and situation. But I definitely wanna validate - if I were in your shoes I’d be uncomfortable too, I’d have an anxiety/OCD flare up, I’d not know how to handle it. It’s hard to navigate people behaving like this. Again, I’m sorry it’s happening :( I wish there was some sort of tangible support I could offer, and I hope you’re not alone in dealing with it and have some people around u physically who can make you feel supported and more comfortable

Typewriterblood

Date posted: 22h

As awful as it is, he may need to be put on an involuntary psychiatric hold of some kind. That behavior can become dangerous quickly and it sounds like he may not be able to decide for himself what is best for him. I would honestly file a police report regarding the stalking and see if a restraining order is possible.

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