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- dee012
- Date posted
- 38w ago
pocd
im still worried that a two year age gap 16 and 18 is bad and that is a warning sign im a “p” or im grooming the person
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 38w ago
I had worries like that when I was your age too, i was interested in someone with the same age gap and I felt weird. I think it made me nervous because being 18 I felt like I was an adult now and so it felt like a bigger deal than it is.
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- dee012dee012
- Date posted
- 38w ago
@Anonymous is it bad? I don’t want to be a p and If that’s a sign then I would want to know:(
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 38w ago
@co140 I don’t think you should worry about it, your both older teens and I don’t think that it’s weird I think your brain is just trying to make you feel like it’s a bigger deal than it is. I think that if it’s making you feel uncomfortable so much that you wouldn’t be able to enjoy the relationship then it may not be good for you but only because you may not be able to let yourself be happy not because I think it would be unacceptable
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- Forever977Forever977
- Date posted
- 38w ago
The age gap isn’t necessarily the issue in general, the issue is that 16 is still legally underage and 18 is technically an adult. I think it would be best to avoid dating anyone under 18 no matter the actually number difference for theirs and your safety.
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- dee012dee012
- Date posted
- 38w ago
@Forever977 I understand, there’s a Romeo and Juliet law in my state which makes it ok up to 4 years (which I think is too much ) but yea
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 38w ago
@Forever977 I disagree I don’t think she should be afraid she’s doing something wrong and her safety is some sort of concern
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- Forever977Forever977
- Date posted
- 38w ago
@Anonymous Speaking to the legality of it, yes it is about both of their safety. Obviously if their state allows it that’s a different story :). I don’t think there is a huge difference in mentality if a 16-18 yr olds. Doesn’t mean it’s wrong, and definitely doesn’t make them a “p”, they are not grooming, so they shouldn’t feel afraid that this means they are at all. Just looking out for both of you.
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- dee012dee012
- Date posted
- 38w ago
@Forever977 i understand both of ur points thank u both for commenting it helped a lot
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- Forever977Forever977
- Date posted
- 38w ago
@co140 The fact that you think even 4 is too much shows that you aren’t a “p” and you do care about doing what’s right and you are a good person. True grooming is about a major power difference between someone very young and someone much older and experienced. A two year age difference in late teens can’t include that, so you are fine.
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 38w ago
@Forever977 I agree with the legal aspect I just didn’t want her to be afraid that the cops would come for her I think we are on the same page now :)
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